I asked a very simple gift for Mother's Day, should have saved my breath
Posted By: All but forgotten on 2009-05-17
In Reply to: Mother's Day - Late late late.
I was going to visit my aunt out of town this weekend and my daughter wanted to go with me. The only thing I asked for Mother's Day was that my daughter behave (she is in her 30s understand) but what I meant was getting along, if I should say anything she might not like to smile and say yes. I just wanted a little peace and quiet but I wasted my breath. She said she felt like she always had to walk on eggshells around me. I told her she does not know me at all, never has and I don’t think she cares about me at all. I have been asked loads of time if she is an only child. She is not but that should tell you what others think, just a me type person. I paid for everything, the gas, the motel, the food, everything and thought I could ask for something that she would not have to spend money on. I am thinking seriously about throwing in the towel on her, just giving up. I am too old to fool with her me type stuff any longer, I really have been thinking about doing just that. A simple request, not 1 that I could not pull off if my mother had asked me to do. The last thing before we got home, I wanted to stop at 1 of my favorite pizza places, get a pizza, we could have called before getting home, could have been ready (left out earlier coming home) and she just wanted to grab something quick, so we got a hamburger. I really do not like her and I am sad because I would like to. It has been impossible for me to really love her like I should.
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I had problems with mine. If my mother had asked
questions, we may have been able to find the problem before it got out of hand. I had severely heavy bleeding, even when I first started at the age of 10. I had no idea that it was abnormal. If my mother and I had talked about it, or if she had paid attention to the amount of pads I had to keep buying, we may have figured out there was a problem sooner. I think it's good to keep the communication going. If monitoring a little enables these mothers to talk about any issues, then good for them.
Your mother gave you the best gift of all
and that was life.
Looking for ideas for Mother's Day gift for a wonderful friend - sm
She is not my mother (she is old enough to be), but she is such a wonderful friend I wanted to let her know how special she is. Is it even appropriate to give her a gift on Mother's Day if she is not my mother?? She is a very young and vibrant 65. I know someone can help point me in the right direction! Thank you so much! 
Saved by the grace of God.
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I saved this in my Favorites.
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It's not hard if you have pictures saved
on your computer. There are many sites that make it harder to post than this one because here you just click the line that says "Click here to Upload Image" and then search on your computer, usually under Pictures, and choose the thumbnail you want to post and click on it.
You probably saved someone's life in the future.
A couple months ago there was a terrible head-on train crash near Los Angeles, and the cause of it was the engineer of the passenger train blew through a red light because he was texting some teenagers. It's a shame he was killed, because he should have lived to see the carnage he caused.
anyway, they saved a life; that's what we'll focus on
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Hope she saved lots of the tips for you for therapy...
just kidding ;)
If it can't be saved by a rebuilt engine, consider a scrap yard. sm
If you have a husband, SO, or brother, etc that is handy with tools, put an ad in your local paper and part it out. Or you can take it to your local scrap yard. They would take it off your hands. If it is a 2003, the engine block would most likely be aluminum, the catalytic converter has platinum in it, the rims are probably metal of some sort. You would be amazed what your local scrap yard takes. Plus you get money for it too. If you call, they can give you the price per ton for aluminum, steel, etc. We did that to our truck and made approx $1,500 when all was said and done. The only catch is that if they have to take it apart, you will not get as much for everything than if you take it apart. But that is something to consider. Good luck.
We silicone a key under the wiper blade base. Can't see it at all! Saved our butts
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What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
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Thank you for the breath of fresh air
and the very nice comment to both of us. We really have hurt no one and have found someone who mutually shares the love of animals, as I am sure so many of you do. I spoke just last week to a lovely MT who has a little Pekinese named Sophie. We had a great conversation about that. With an elderly very ill parent this board has given me something to focus on and relieve some fear and tension. Thanks again. You comments are truly appreciated.
me too! breath of fresh air.
except for maybe the typo-gestapo. but even that has faded.
BREATH OF FRESH AIR
I think MTStars is Breath of Fresh Air after change in administration. This thread is staying on board is proof of it. MTStars was personal forum rather public board beofre.
I was sick of HER, deleting every other thread and banning those who expressed their opinions that wasn't acceptable for her.
First, take a deep breath - sm
Yes, the school should have called you, but they did not and you cannot control the actions of others, just your own. You also cannot control whether the other mom calls you to apologize. Should she have? Sure, but again, what you do is NOT necessarily what someone else would do. Set a good example for your son and let him see this for what it is - a small incident in the big scheme of things. He will likely not even remember this in a few months unless you harp on it endlessly. I would definitely let the school know about my displeasure at the events of today, but after that just let it go. These things happen. You cannot protect your son from life.
I get it but you are wasting your breath on them...
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Yep. Normal. Just take a deep breath and
They'll probably make peace in a few short years (when you're old and grey-headed and senile, lol)!
:)
Oh yes, so nice this morning to breath
in that crisp cool air. Glad that awful HUMIDITY is gone, and hopefully won't be back until next year. I enjoy this time of year too. Have to get my McIntosh apple candles a burning. Getting ready to decorate my front porch for the fall this weekend with mums. What part of the Northeast are you from? NJ here.
Talk about having the breath knocked out of you,
to have your child tell you something like this is devistating. I never let her sleep around, tried talking, telling her about things going on with a disease you could not get rid of. A parent can only do so much. I had started typing on this disease before it had a name, before anyone knew what was going on- early 80s and the reports were horrible, bleeding from every orifice, Kaposis, the Pneumocystis carinii pneumonia, everything and then your child tells you that? Almost more than a parent can hear. That was in 1992. She has since married and so far, so good, thrived but the least little anything sends me more into a tizzy than it does her because like I said, I used to type 1 after another report day after day. She is in her 30s now and I try not to hover but she is still my daughter. When first diagnosed I could not even talk about it without crying. Bought loads of sweeets and fattened her up as well as myself - heard about failure to thrive and not really thinking, that was what I was doing. I tried talking, I really tried- I do not blame myself nor do I have guilt feelings because I could not have talked more.
Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm
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Well, dont hold your breath.
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Have hope, just dont hold your breath while you
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Are you ready to be brave? Take a deep breath...
Then do it and close your eyes real tight and be glad the minute you have done it (calling to have him picked up for psych eval) Then once you have him out of the house you can keep him out with a court order. Your life will improve. Are you Ready???? Be BRAVE! I was!!!
Any side effects? Odors? Bad breath? Diarrhea? etc. nm
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It's not that simple
Trying to leave an abusive situation on your own can be very dangerous. Some husbands get so angry that their wife DARED to leave them that they track them down and kill them, or forcibly take them back.
I don't know if Tina's situation is that serious, or how her husband would react to her leaving. Tina may not even know for sure. That's why I advised her above to talk to her local battered women's shelter before she does anything. They have experience with these situations, they can help her and her children with a place to stay and help protect them from her husband if necessary.
Yes, she needs to leave. But she needs to be SMART about it. Just picking up and leaving without a plan or without any help is NOT smart.
Not quite that simple
Having your family's name carried out is important to most people. If you posters all think a name doesn't matter, you are sadly mistaken. Names are extremely important in shaping a person's entire life.
Having a niece with the stepfather's name is not nearly as traumatic to a family as having a nephew, the only remaining male relative, take another last name.
As I said in my post, Heartbroken can name her child whatever she wants - I mean that. But, she also needs to accept the fallout for that and accept that her child will be affected by the consequences of her action.
I simply don't understand why people on this board insist on mis-reading and misinterpreting posts to suit their own attitudes. IMO, Heartbroken is an extremely self-centered person who did not consider her family's feelings at all, made a choice and then wondered why they aren't patting her on the back. It's her right to make that choice, but it's the family's right not to agree.
Sure...very simple (sm)
We had shredded sharp cheddar cheese and precooked fajita-style chicken and he broke the chicken into smaller peices and mixed in some buffalo wing sauce, put it all together on tortillas and cooked them on the George Foreman grill for about 5 minutes. You can mix in peppers and onions if you like and eat them with sour cream and salsa :-) Definitely tastes better if your child makes it for you :-)
Right. She's just that simple.
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Keep it simple.
I used to find myself into the same situation. Run around doing the cleaning, cooking, etc., and would work myself up into a frenzy to the point I did not really enjoy or remember the day after everyone left on Thanksgiving day. Decided not a single person expected me to do all this and certainly family wanted me to enjoy this day too. The truly gracious have no high expectations other than the coming together and honoring the day. I started to keep it simple. No new recipes from Martha, no chasing that last piece of dust, did make the lists of things to do, asked everyone to contribute to the menu and bring a dish (this creates the best variety too) and now I find I do really enjoy the day and even get excited and look forward to hosting again.
I only wish it was something as simple as that
We don't travel and everyone knows our address. They don't call to talk maybe once a year (and DH's family doesn't even send him a b-day card). I learned to live with that a long time ago even though we always sent them card. Not getting b-day cards from them is one thing, but when my mom died it just hurt a little more. In fact we used to live in Vegas and said numerous numerous times for them to come out and they could stay with us and in the 6 years we were there they never came. It would have been a 5 hour drive for them). We found out after we moved out of vegas to a different state (about a month or two later) all DHs siblings took a trip to Vegas because their cousins daughter (who they never got together with to begin with except once a year around Thanksgiving) graduated high school and the parents were throwing a party for her. So is just a little dissapointing, but have learned to live with it. This year for Xmas I went out and bought cards for them all (hard to change old habits), but I never did send them.
It is very simple and you can do it either way (sm)
You can put the chicken in a dish with teriyaki sauce and cover and bake for probably 45 minutes or so, or you can do it on the stovetop and just add a little water now and then because the sauce will cook out, even covered. Either way, it is just important to make sure it is covered while cooking, that's what makes it good...but it is very simple :)
I think a card or something simple would be
appropriate. It is the thought that counts. I'm not talking a diamond ring or something! He just doesn't make much of any holidays. Yes, my kids are very young so they cannot do much themselves. One time he did take the kids for part of the day and let me relax.
Simple solution
But of course, this what I would do - may not seem acceptable to you.
IF YOU STILL LOVE THIS MAN, you move as close by as possible into another type of home that you can afford to build/buy.
WHO SAYS you have to live under the same roof to be happily married? think outside the box!!
IF YOU FORCE him to move he will be as unhappy as you.
Use that equity you have to save your marriage - I'll bet he'd agree to this.
Then you can be together in TWO houses.
This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more,
X
Sounds simple enough - thanks everybody!
Simple advise...(sm)
Review all available material to you and go by what makes sense. I like to read and have recently started a study that will compare religions as well as athieism. As well, I think the huge contributor to all religions and non-religions is the state of being at the times of change. For example, when the Bible was put together, there seemingly were several books left out. Of particular interest to me is the book of Mary. My question there is why was it left out. At that time women did not have the ability to speak their minds as they do now. Is that why it was left out? If so, was there something important in there that all christians should know? If so, where does that leave christians now? Yep...there are tons and tons of questions, and I don't believe you will get all your answers out of just one source.
There are also questions about athieism, like where and how did everything begin? You can find a ton of sources about how things evolved, but not so much on where it began.
Read, look deeper than just the words, and trust your instincts.
Well, I have a simple solution
My husband and I have been married 8 years now and guess what, never celebrated the first anniversary yet! No kids from this marriage and if we had, could have had 2, 3 or 4 years prior and years later they still would not know.
Have you tried this simple solution? sm
What about a DrinkWell fountain for pets? I have had them for, well, perhaps 15 years now. My cats (two of whom are Maine Coons and LOVE any kind of water source) all love it! It is not just a source of drinking water because they all play in it with their paws, so it has become a source of fun too, which is great because they are wanting to drink at the same time. There is something about the moving water that has always fascinated my cats. Give it a try!
Changeover is just as simple
Cable companies would like us all to believe that antenna TV will no longer work, but it will. You need a decent antenna and the digital conversion box and, voila, free TV.
Testing is simple
Very complicated subject, but if you are working midnights, sleeping days, or even evenings, you probably are not getting enough sun. The only real way to know is to undergo a 25-hydroxy vitamin D test. If you have insurance and your doctor will order the test, then it probably won't cost anything. If you want to know, have no insurance, and can use a lancet to poke your finger you can get an at-home test from the Vitamin D Council or GrassRoots Health and pay about $30 for the test. The provide the test, two lancets, postage and the test is very accurate. The first time I tested I ordered through my doctor's office and because I had no insurance it cost me $300 but I was severely deficient, a 7 on a range of normal from 32 to 100. Now after supplementation, I am 98. Start reading about deficiencies with the Vitamin D Council and go from there.
It was way more than 24 songs, but to keep it simple (sm)
that is all they decided to use in the case. I believe she was downloading the songs to a website where people pay to be a member and then can download songs. I don't think she was just downloading them to listen to at home, but think she was actually conducting a criminal activity, knowingly.
I saw that on Oprah...so simple yet powerful!...
Especially when that married couple were at a stand still and then watched The Secret. Now, they have passion again for each other and are so happy. Something as simple as being grateful for what you have, then better things will come. I want to check that movie out.
plain and simple, lack of God.
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then just a simple cleaning lady?
OK, I gotcha! I'm thinking about doing this myself...my hubby just got a hefty raise, so hopefully I can afford to pay someone to clean my house now!
I've BTDT and know it's not simple
Even the best DV organization/ shelter can't protect you when you leave them. It is very dangerous.
I just saw trying to leave while he was awake not really trying to leave. I apologize to the OP for not being compassionate.
YES!! Simple! People have to just get on with their life! Unless sm
you are living their life you have NO right to judge them. Amen, sister!! loved your post!!
it's simple Truth. Not complicated at all.
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I know this is much to simple, but he sounds bored (sm)
I agree with testing for autism, etc.
But bored children, no matter the age, upbringing, or intelligence will act out and 'find' something to do if they're bored.
My daughter was the 'perfect baby' until she turned about 18 months. She started misbehaving, not as bad as yours, but nothing like previously. None of the usual things really occupied her physically or mentally. So I started shopping for day care. Happy girl, believe it or not. The first day I picked her up around 3 p.m. and she told me I came too soon...
She needed the social stimulation, even at that young age. BTW, she is 21 now and still the same. Very outgoing and social, but smart and still a sponge for knowledge. She's in college and when she had winter, spring, and summer breaks, she is so relieved... for about 1 or 2 days. Then she starts counting the day until school starts again.
Anyyow, I digress, but sometimes you just have to listen to your kids and do what's best for them even if it tears you up inside.
In any case, you need some help. You are carrying way too much, but I admire you for your persistence in wanting to do what's best for your kids. Wish you the best :-)
Anyone have a SIMPLE recipe for hamburger BBQ. nm
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Just Answer The Simple Questions --
1. What treatment did your daughter receive?
2. Will/did she require plastic surgery?
3. You say you filed a police report, what was the police's resolution?
These are very simple questions. Yet, when asked in the posts below, you choose to ignore them. It's what makes people suspect that you are just in it for the money and that no real harm was done.
You first claimed that you just wanted them to pay your daughter's medical bills, that they shouldn't benefit from your insurance that you pay for. Yet, later, you state that the $800 would be for pain and suffering for your daughter (as your insurance has already paid it). Lastly, you state that $87 would be reimbursement for your medical bills and the rest would be pain and suffering for your daughter. Pain and suffering is not something one generally reimburses another for without a court to determine the extent one is due.
The only one suffering here is your conscience! Again, I say, answer the 3 questions above, or are you afraid of what it might reveal?
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