I appreciate feedback from all of you! - sm

Posted By: New York MT on 2008-07-08
In Reply to: Personally, I have an 18-year-old daughter - see message

None of you have said anything I haven't said to myself. The arrangement is only two weeks old, and we're still reevaluating to see if it is going to work. Except for this one girl spending the night it wouldn't impact my daughter's social life. But, like you said, who's more important? He is like a second, "virtual" son, and having him live with us seemed like a reasonable option. He didn't want to leave his job when his folks moved (in two separate directions). He just graduated high school and is working part-time, wants to save up and eventually get an apartment with our son and another of their friends. He's really a good kid, but I know teenage hormones, too. I remember what I did next door to my parents' bedroom when I was a teen. That's not going to happen here.

We're going to let it settle, and see how it works. Next year, and she and her friends graduate, we may be renting out space to one of her friends, you never know!

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Need to know if we're doing the right thing - sm - New York MT
- Do her parents share your concerns?-nm - Karen
- Personally, I have an 18-year-old daughter - see message
  - I appreciate feedback from all of you! - sm - New York MT
- Am I only the one who sees it differently? - s/m
  - If the daughter's friend spends the night she SM - Me, too
  - according to the original post - mtmomof2
    - best friend is not family - he may only be his - s/m
      - I promise I am not trying to start an argument - mtmomof2
        I think that the OP needs to do what she - sm
        Family does last forever and it's not - s/m
- What do you think? - sm
- your house, your rules - sm - lilly
- I think it's your house and you make the - sm

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Thanks for all of the feedback.
Great suggestions. I have been checking with vets in the area but to no avail. I will research foster families for pets. I just hate not being able to take the dogs for her. If I did not have two, I would have no problem. Again, thanks! And, yes, she is a real trooper. The first time she was deployed, she was in Texas and my husband and I were out at dinner and she called just as she was getting on the plane. It was heartbreaking but she came back to us. I did a lot of praying.

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Thanks for the info, guys. Sounds like it might be more of a headache than a help. Guess I'll look into some other options :)

LOL! Thanks! I'm an MT who loves QA feedback.NM

I did and his feedback score was around 98-99%.
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I was just sharing a story.

Thanks for the feedback folks....sm
The 15-year-old now doesn't like ya'll but they'll get over it! I only posted it because they thought it wasn't fair to not give them the same amount of money. "Too bad" is what I said - we live on a budget and buy what is necessary not just what is wanted around here because we're paying off some bills.

Gee thanks for the positive feedback
I beg your pardon but I am certainly NOT spoiled. I have been in a marriage with someone who likes to point out all my flaws and correct me constantly, someone who told me I am just average looking and someone who has not touched me in over a year. I am staying for my children and have been staying for the last 6 years I've been miserable. Don't you dare judge me. Have you ever had your self-esteem taken away, your self-worth. A husband should tell his wife and think that she is beautiful, not average my dear.....I feel worthless and hopeless and ugly and hurt so please refrain from calling me selfish and putting me down - have enough of that already. Words of encouragement are needed.

Did you read this person's feedback?
If not go and read it - it may give you an indication if they have had these problems before. If they have positive feedback, I'd return it and hope for the best. Post the outcome on his feedback. One time I ordered expensive cream and I got samples sent in an envelope and was charged a lot of postage. I went back and looked at the add and it did say samples, but I missed the fine print. I did complain about postage charge in the feedback. There were many other complaints on this person, but I didn't read it before I purchased.

Thanks for all the great feedback. One more question...
Isn't it the underwriter that actually decides what other documentation/paperwork we need? This particular loan boy hasn't even sent our application to the underwriter yet, so I'm not sure if this documentation is really even necessary. I would really love to be able to just find another mortgage company, but this one has already ran our credit and I don't want a bunch of inquiries on there lowering our score. In case you can't tell, this is our firs homebuying experience and hasn't been too pleasant thus far.

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Do not engage - do not give feedback of any sort.
Give no feedback whatsoever. Any feedback will be misinterpreted by them but none at all will give them less to think about and eventually they will slowly drift away.

I had a four month relationship with a guy who did this. I did not answer phone calls or return e-mails. I just totally ignored him. It took about two months and then he just stopped.

This is my theory. Do, though, keep a record of his attempts to communicate and keep a close friend well informed. Have a friend/relative contact you daily to make sure you are alright in the event he turns out to be a whacko with a vengence that could lead to hard.

Yes, I have stopped being friendly because of him. Very sad but emotional problems are not as rare as one would like to think, even in adults.