I am the wife up above. How in the world do you suppose one sm
Posted By: wife on 2007-10-28
In Reply to: After a while it is a waste of time... - kitkat
like me survive with 3 children on 18,000 a year transcribing? Do you know how much it is to rent nowadays? Even though we own? He makes almost 5 times as much as me and yes, the paychecks are great, but I am living proof that money can't buy happiness in a marriage.
But I wouldn't even be able to put food on my kids' plate on my income.
All of you women who say to leave how do you expect us to live if we leave? I don't get it. I don't understand? I have NO family that can help me. None. I don't see it being possible.
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LOL. I suppose I should have
But, thanks for the information. Much appreciated
No, but I suppose
they'll bring them in on Z-visas or whichever they are using these days to bring in workers from overseas!
I suppose anything is possible,
but shouldn't you have your thyroid checked just in case?
well, i suppose
to be an attempt to "compare".... I would just like to be able to tell my husband... be happy with what ya got! It could be a whole lot worse. He's the one complaining. lol. I agree it is not the quantity but the quality.
and I suppose she thinks she is...
*the moral compass*??? Whatever...they're both a joke!
And I also heard a while back that Trump probably doesn't have any more *disposable cash* as the rest of us...his personal bank balance is average, just like ours! All his money is in property, real estate, *young wives* etc...
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
How about *she was suppose to*, when it should be supposed to : )
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Oh, I would suppose they would not be concerned but
if they had a touch of this (if this is what is going on with me) the pain is almost unbearable. I did take 1000 mg of ibuprofen yesterday along with Hydrocodone, nothing helped, in agony really. I am thinking possibly my fibromyalgia has converted over to this now. I could not get in to see my physician today- know if this is what is going on not life threatening- only can cause so much horrific pain hard to make it through a day. I hear sitting exacerbates- great for a transcriptionist, huh?
I can't say that's what dogs are suppose to do......
but they do tend to pack up when rambling around. We awoke about dawn one morning with a horrible sound and realized it was several dogs on a cat. We could tell the cat had a tail and our cats are bobtails, with the exception of our very old guy. We panicked and ran outside, thinking he may have gotten out the night before, even though he seldom ever goes out anymore. The dogs took off running and that poor cat was lucky to be alive. He was so disoriented and was in shock. I realized it was the neighbor's cat and called them. Unbelievably, the vet said he seemed okay and he is back out sitting in the driveway again. But people who let their dogs out at night to ramble so animal control can't get to them really ticks me off. Dogs, even nice ones, can get very mean when running in a pack.
under rock I suppose...
sorry, just never heard that one before...pardon moi!
Do you suppose the problem could
be your detergent and/or fabric softener? You might think if it were the detergent, he would have a rash all over, but that's not necessariliy so. For example, I am allergic to tocopheryl acetate (vitamin E) on my left hand only, where I will get a red, itchy rash. Isn't that crazy? It took me years to figure it out. I can only use Curel original formula hand lotion. Another thing you might think about is the body soap he is using. Again, he could be having a reaction in only one area. Good luck.
I suppose there are extremes..... sm
in anything. I have seen gays marching for gay rights, gays influencing young children through "who they are" and other behaviors that I consider pushing "who they are" on others.
I'm not saying that Christians don't march for Christian beliefs, etc., but it just seems strange to me that when Christians ask that they be allowed to express their rights, all of a sudden we are shoving our religion down someone else's throat.
If a group of Christians wanted to open a public school system funded with taxpayers' money to segregate their children from others who make fun of them for being Christians, you can bet that there would be an outcry like never heard before. Yet, the gay community seems to think they have this right. Where is the equality in that?
BTW... Christians' homes AND churches are burned, we are sometimes assaulted for our beliefs, our children are threatened and legislation does discriminate against us, just the same as anyone else.
Suppose most of our families came from there
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It is a MEDICAL procedure. I suppose
spaying is mutilation to you too, right? I don't know if vets tell people....but they remove their ovaries for that. The horror!
If you don't want it done to your cat, don't do it, but leave others alone that need/want to have this done!
Do you suppose your body ever becomes immune
to raw eggs? LOL. My brother and I constantly did this as children and lickily never got side. I now have to fight my children now from doing this becuase now I know better but they sometimes still sneak and get by with it. Once again no one has ever gotten sick but I know there is always a first time for everything. Just so hard to walk away from cake beaters.
Joanie, you seriously need help. You are as cruel as it gets. I suppose sm
you weren't shown much love growing up because you obviously don't know how to give it. Why would you say something so horrible to this poor mom? You just shouldn't even post period. I WAS in a good mood until I read your post. Thanks for putting me in a bad mood. Do you do that to everyone you know??
Do you suppose the cat is dead and stuffed? nm
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You've got to be kidding. I suppose you think
Adam's great though... He's a one hit wonder if I ever saw one because every song sounds exactly alike. Yawn.
parents are suppose to be there for their kids, but he needs to get his s**t together
What kind of man lives on mommy? I am sure you don't want your son on this path.... I feel bad for you too! People go into the reserves so they can also have another job or go to college.... this sounds like a case for Dr. Phil... in fact I have seen this on there and he told the mothers to give them an ultimatum of either help out or GET OUT!!!
I suppose you home school your children?
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I suppose she is talking about a talk show she
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I suppose I related to the rate of capital punishments
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My son met his wife somehow
on the internet. They've been married 4 years..Very nice girl... Also know 2 other couples who met online and happy together. susan
Does he have a wife?
Maybe you can talk more calmly with her about it. I would be furious too! But if confronting him you don't know what you may do or say and your daughter doesn't need to lose a friend right now. Dyslexia is not the worst thing that can happen, although right now to her and you it may seem that way.
Have you looked into the disability act laws and getting her some support or into programs for this?
Share the below with your daugher, if you haven't already, it is a list of famous people that had dyslexia; Albert Einstein. Tom Cruise. Thomas Edison. Many others.
http://www.dyslexiamentor.com/famousdyslexics.php
All the best to both of you.
To wife sm
Try some on-line help anonymously for awhile. Just Google recovery or AAonline and you should find some help there. Give him credit and help him. Remove all alcohol from the house, support him and realize it IS a disease, not a flaw in his personality, he inherited this in the gene pool but although there is no cure, it can be turned around with the right support. I know someone who will not admit it and he has lost everything.He thinks beer is not alcohol. So be grateful for the awareness and pay no attention from those who judge. Good luck, it takes a lot of work, it didn't come on overnight but with your help and his higher power, he can do it if he is ready.There is Al-Anon, AA, Adult Children of Alcoholics but beware, some go to these meetings and tell all they hear there. You can decide later if you want the whole community to know. Usually those who judge point the finger, having three pointing back at themselves. It's not always anonymous. Get some professional advice and get rid of all the temptations. You may have to change playmates and playgrounds. You will figure this out as you go along. Only listen to the positive, ignore all who judge, they know not of what they speak, it's a disease. Just treat it as taking the sugar away from the diabetic, same scenario, help but do not enable!
My son and his wife - sm
have been married eleven years and over time developed a pattern for Thanksgiving, at least - they trade off years, one year coming to our house for dinner and her parents' house for dessert, and vice-versa. Of course, she's not a cook and has never been interested in hosting their own holiday dinner. They've always slept over Christmas Eve at our house as we have two more children still in school (had actually, one's not in school anymore but living at home) and shared Christmas morning with us, then go to her parents' house for Christmas dinner. I don't know if that's going to change now that the last of the kids are basically grown now. Unfortunately they aren't able to have kids, but if they did I would encourage them to stay home and we would come to them.
Yes. My son's second wife never
cooked. It was always McD's, Taco Bell, Pizza, etc. She never cleaned either. All she knew how to do was spend the bill money. (She didn't work, BTW).
Now my grandson is on a diet at 15 yo, 195 pounds.Thank heavens, my son woke up and got rid of her.
My mom worked every day and when she came home, made supper and it was always on the table by 5-5:30. If my father was on the 2nd shift, she'd make him a hot meal, put it in a square metal container and I would bicycle it to his work. When I was old enough to use the stove, I would make supper once or twice a night. In the summer, I would clean the house so she would have less to do.
I worked 2 jobs most of my life, but always had time to take my boys to their baseball practice, wrestling practice, and when old enough, to their PT job and pick them up at 10-11:00 when they would get off, went to open house every year to see how they were doing, etc. I also made sure their homework was done (not that boys really bring homework home in those days LOL), had a meal on the table for them every night, never had snacks like chips or pretzels in the house. The only thing they had to drink was water or milk. No soda. BTW, my husband during this time was away from home all week, so it was all left to me.
The parents today are too pressured, as are the kids. Kids are not allowed to be kids anymore. They are 7 going on 70. I think it's time they get back to being normal kids. They need breathing room. I don't know who ever decided that the kids had to be in every sport, every club, every volunteer activity the school has, but it's crazy. Not all kids fit that mold and they shouldn't have to. Plus their grades are expected to be A's and B's, nothing less. Perfection is the norm and no one is perfect.
What's wrong with this picture?
I'll jump down from my soapbox now.
Talking to the ex-wife
Your boyfriend/husband talks to his ex-wife because he is mature. She means nothing to him. He would be with her, not you, if that was his choice. Don't you have ex-boyfriends? Do you speak when you meet them in the street? Please don't go down this road or you will experience a LOT of pain. You cannot ever "make" someone be faithful to you. Either they are or they are not. Dogs need to be tossed aside because life is too short. Work on your self-esteem. Choking someone to death with your insecurity and jealousy is the quickest way to make your boyfriend/husband say, "Bye-bye." My grown children stay with my husband's ex-wife when they are in her city visiting. We have had her over for Thanksgiving dinner. Was it 100% comfortable? No, but we did it for the children. Everyone has a past when they are over 18. Accept it, don't make it bigger than it is, and enjoy your relationship. That is very good advice.
Your knowing the wife well would be
much more important than you hubby talking to his buddy now and then. She's the one stuck with cleaning, getting a guest room set up and worrying about meals. Some women enjoy that, but many are just too busy to drop everything.
I agree that he should always put his wife first
but my brother was pretty much the same way...family was always an after thought if he thought of them at all and I assure you he is not gay.
To confused wife...
It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT. The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS. It probably will not matter what you change about you to him. If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.
Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't. Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.
And your child is being hurt by these outbursts. She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time. In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.
You all need help, even the child. Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help. Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right. Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate. Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...
confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
I agree about the wife, but...
she knows what side her bread is buttered on! Play the stand by your man, humiliated wife in public means for a much heftier settlement when the divorce proceedings start...not that she doesn't deserve it but come on, if your hubs was going to hookers for almost 10 years you'd be dumb as a post to not suspect it or at least get a hint of it from someone... Then again, they may just have that type of relationship where it is okay with her as long as she has the prestige, power and money that he brings. His daddy is worth 500 million dollars.
At least it is not a bombshell to the wife.
They both admitted their relationships..had counseling and moved on. you know it has been said for years now that good people are afraid to run for office for fear of a skeleton rattling around somewhere. You know an investigative reporter will dig it out.
my hubby did that with his first wife!!
I didn't believe him when he told me that he had only known her for two weeks when he married her! I said to him, "what were you thinking and no, I will not marry you right now"!
The wife will be gone at night
I am still thinking they are going to lock you in the basement for 10 years!
Dear Ms K9's wife
Try as you might, you cannot tell me your husband can approach any and all pitbulls and put them back on their chain- I was not born yesterday and don’t believe that for 1 minute. Tell someone else who does not know better, ok? You have named (except for the doberman) all dogs the police department close to me do not allow to be rescued because of their known aggressive behavior, chows, rotweilers and the pits. Better luck next time, sweetie.
He should consider his wife FIRST, not his stylist.....
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As his wife contacted you, you must have had some
contact details. Her son was in jail and instead of helping her, you took their inheritance share, PRETENDING that you do not know their whereabouts?
WOW!
I hope you are not one of those religious freaks, that would really be too much of a hypocrisy!
What the wife says and does is irrelevant
since the agreement was only with the husband. The wife has nothing to do with it.
most of the time it is the wife divorcing the man...sm
not always, but most of the time. I am just expressing caution, and to have eyes wide open. Love or the thought of love, tends to blind people to the true facts. JMO.
wife beaters and rapists.
From what I heard his wife did release
the tape and against court orders. This child was supposed to, from what I heard, going with him somewhere. The mother got into trouble 1 time before for going against court orders. True he did wrong by the ranting but I would be willing to bet you Ms. Kim involved in not following through with court orders. This is probably the case of a child being put in the middle by these 2 who cannot stand 1 another now. Sure it happens all the time but we are not Kim and Alec, right?
yes I believe his present wife was seated next to him
and next to her was Laila's mom. They seemed friendly with each other and both were very supportive of Laila.
A military man shot his wife
This man was our son's recruiter when our son signed with the military three years ago. We had several meetings with him. He was a "fun" guy to be around, always smiling, always happy. But now, this and I can't get over the sick feeling in my stomach. He is on the run, of course. He left behind his little boy, with no mother and now no father. Temporary insanity?????
That wife you wrote about sounds like me! LOL! SM
I was married to a man who cheated for years. I was in total denial. After close to 30 years, I up and left. Best thing I ever did.
Just want to acknowledge point that men don't leave. If they are in a long marriage, and have been getting away with cheating for a long time, AND there is a lot of money involved, what with houses, pensions, savings, etc., THEY DON'T LEAVE.
I admire both your honesty. Good luck.
If he were to leave his wife for you, then at some time in the
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Military wife with a suggestion
Beef jerky is a great gift and Jolly Ranchers. My husband is very popular at mail call time.
And then some husbands have their wife spoiled
and give them any and every thing their little heart desires and I am one of those lucky ones. By the way, I don’t even have to cook- he does all that. I am spoiled rotten and loving it.
Looking back, I wanted to ask son's wife
if he were back on meth..That changes a person tremendously. I found out he was doing that when his son was very small- my son arrested- I went to pay his bond and thought for marijuana. When I heard the bondsman say meth I could not believe what I heard. He could have spent some time in jail- even though married I paid for a lawyer (he and his wife did not have the money)- so as I think back just wonder if that is what happened with his change. He had to go through drug rehab and his wife told me not to let her family know (meaning her father/mother, aunts and so). I have seen and talked with his father- never called him a deadbeat- others words, not mine- he could not even take care of himself so how could he take care of others? I think might have been the drugs as far as the dysfunctioning goes?
Have considered it before - would they listen to me, his wife? (sm)
Would I have to show proof?
Did the dopey wife show up for this one?
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