I am the opposite. My son met a woman--sm
Posted By: DeeAnn on 2008-12-05
In Reply to: Step-grandchildren advice anyone? - happycamper
with a 15-month old who I fell in love with the first time I saw her. She climed up in my lap all dirty, tangled hair down to her butt, smelling of old urine and for the past 17 years has not left my side. She has had a horrible life but I have chased the mother over three counties to get her-and then a year later my son's daughter-every weekend. They have spent every birthday, holiday, and summer with me for 17 years. The oldest turns 18 in Jan and is planning on leaving her mother to live with me. She has spent so many hours trying to find similarites between us, we both had blud eyes, both are left-handed, love to read and quilt that she has convinced herself she is my granddaughter. People often think we are mother/daughter and she never wants me to correct them. She has had to be the mother to her sister and has had to grow up fast, but she is the most wonderful child.
Open you heart--the step granddaughter will benefit but not as much as you will. Sounds like she needs all the love she can get.
We were talking last weekend as we were putting up the tree that neither girl can remember having any fun times with their mother and how all the birthday and holiday pictures are at my house and any memories they have are here. Rhiannon is always telling me how lucky she is to have me as her grandmother, little does she know I am the lucky one.
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I don't know, this post down below has me thinking. What are your thoughts, woman to woman. sm
If your spouse came to you and said he was having an affair, would you be more upset if it was with a male or female? For me, definitely a female! If it were male then I would think that it had absolutely nothing to do with me and everything to do with him. I would be devastated if he were with another woman. Another poster below said she would be more upset if he were found with a male. What about you?
woman to woman talk sm
This has nothing to do with being a christian, it has more to do with group dynamics. I have to deal with it all the time with 6 women in an in-law situation. They are narrow-minded Bible-thumping bigots.I happen to be of another "denomination" and I do attend every function of theirs, weddings, funerals, all of it, receive their communion. I have had my parents die, lost my younger sister and many things happen where they could have reciprocated, yet they will not "step foot" in my church. So where is all their faith, they certainly are not practicing the do unto others. I can relate, it is a horrible way to live. Thank God, I had psychology courses and know about group dynamics, I am in the middle of a herd mentality. I could go on forever, they even have "interventions" when someone in their family wants to marry or date someone not from their denomination. They are awful. I know your pain! It's not your imagination, they hide behind their cohesive "numbers game," one speaks and all the others agree in unison. No one has a chance against this mob. It's tough to be your own person, lots of tears. And guys think it's all in our heads - NOT! Hang in, perhaps you'll have a Divine Intervention somehow.
Kangaroo. cat woman or wonder woman?
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My GYN is the opposite....sm
I asked them about this and they're giving it to anyone asking for it but not pushing it yet because they're concerned that it hasn't been out there long enough to know for sure if it really works. I'm with the other posters concerned that with the way the FDA approves drugs then oftentimes goes back and pulls them that they don't have enough data to prove for sure this prevents cancer and that it's not just a money maker without long-term results that it's really safe.
My mom just the opposite
Funny, its the other way around for me. My mom is completely not interested in spending time with me or my child. She would visit her DIL in my town and forget to visit me and my baby. I moved to her town - she'd visit me twice a year if I was lucky. She would babysit her other grandkids free - I had to pay her to get her to spend time with mine. She would run to my other sibling's houses for any little thing they needed - and told them she never came to see me because "I never need anything". I moved far away - she visited me for 2 hours once in 4 years, while on the way to spend 2 weeks with her sister (who she visits at least 2ce a year for a month at a time). She has time for everyone but me, or my kid. Luckily my child has many other relatives on the other side that spend time with him. But I only have one mom. I have begged her to visit me at my new home, which is a couple hours drive from a place she likes to vacation - but I am not holding my breath. She'll just wait till she gets back from her vacation and tell me all about it, to rub it in that she was that close and didn't tell me or even offer to let me meet her there. I suppose I should give up and stop asking her. I visit her once a year and I guess that's all she needs to see me.
Well for me its the opposite
For me I'm the one who is not into having sex so much. The reason is not because I'm unattracted, just that I'm so tired all the time and have a low libido. I'm in my late 40s and husband can't keep his hands off me. I'm not attractive or thin (almost 190 pounds and never considered myself to be pretty - so its not like I'm a young hottie), but he's always got to be touching (private areas). He wants sex all the time. A few years back I heard of some vitamins to improve the libido. Never did take them, just forced myself to want to do it more so we wouldn't be arguing. I'd research into low libido for men because maybe that is what it is. I think my hubby bought some pills through GNC (whatever that health place is) that increases sex drive. So, I'd check out the libido thing or come out and ask why he's not interested so much.
I too get the opposite
Lots of people call me or ask me for medical advice. I don't like it because, although I am familiar with most medicines, disease, etc., I am by far a doctor and hate to diagnose someone's illness. I do however like to make an educated guess as to that I think it is, but that's as far as it goes...
Actually just the opposite with this one:
This one affects mostly young healthy adults worst, they guess because their immune systems try to fight it harder:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/04/24/AR2009042404075.html
They also say it's not really the 'swine flu' because it's a mix of avian, swine, and another one, all mutated and jumping human to human without animals involved:
http://in.reuters.com/article/domesticNews/idINLR47878620090427
I have the opposite problem
It's a regular twin mattress, and actually padded which would make it a little higher I would think, but there is way too much sheet. It bunches on the sides and I have to actually tuck it in.
Go figure...
Dealing with it on the opposite end...sm
My middle daughter is dealing with weight issues on the skinny end of this issue. Kids are just as cruel when the child is extremely small and skinny. My daughter is going to be 10 in September and weighs in at 45 lbs. She is also very short for her age. She was a premie baby and has just never caught up with her age group. We are trying to add weight to her without stuffing her full of junk. I suggest talking to your pediatrician. They should be able to help you with guidelines and safe ways to encourage healthy eating and weight loss. It just seems kids find anything to pick on...but weight is a big issue even at 10. My daughters best friend is overweight, so the two of them together make quite a pair! They are able to relate to the same hurt they feel when being made fun of, even though one is skinny and one is overweight.
Oh heavens no, just the opposite
My hubs spoils me rotten and gives me more attention than I would have ever anticipated. If I bring up his name in talking, he wants to get the subject to anything except him. He is a love and a keeper.
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Have the opposite problem!
DD went off to college this year 250 miles away from boyfriend of a year. I was hoping she would forget about him, but no such luck. He has already visited after only 3 weeks. They will probably both come home for long Columbus weekend, and they are already planning a weekend visit in November. Do I want to see her heart broken? No. But if it meant she was rid of this guy, definitely!
no my dear...just the opposite...
suppresses appetite and because of this you can lose weight until your body gets used to it...but NO you do NOT gain weight...I lost weight. I can gain weight just sniffing bakery goods...so Adderall was great for the first few months with weight loss.
opposite thought -
the tougher the cut of meat the more time you marinate.
A New York strip or T-bone is a good (and more expensive) piece of meat so you would marinate it much less time. i usually keep it very simple and just do a splash of redwine vinegar, garlic, salt and pepper for these.
A flank steak, skirt steak, sirloin like for kabobs or fajitas (usually less expensive) need more marinating time to soak in the flavor and tenderize the meat (which is usually the main reason for a marinade). i have done kabobs in 30 minutes but they are better if you have a couple hours. sometimes the meat will not be as red after marinating for a long time but that is because any vinegar, lemon juice, or acid is beginning to break the meat down and make it more tender. a good marinade to try some time is regular italian salad dressing right out of the bottle. it gets a little sweeat when it hits the grill. i only go about an hour for this with all the acid though.
Actually I have the opposite experience. Everyone
I know seems to think I am a doctor and can answer all their questions concerning their medical symptoms and those of their family. I have had people call me asking me about meds and what I think they should do.
Need help with opposite problem sm
I have chestnut brown hair with blonde highlights which is getting too expensive to keep up. Stylist was charging over $100 and I told her thanks but I would have to start going to Super Cuts or someplace cheaper although I did appreciate her beautiful work. Well, she came down, then went back up again to $85 and that's too much. I have never ever colored myself and she said she had to start coloring my whole head with the brown, used to just highlight with both colors. I hate to lose the highlights as they make me look and feel better than just the drab brown. I see products that say highlight but if I have a brown base, how do you get both colors to come out??? Kinda lacking in knowledge of hair, perhaps someone else does this. TIA
opposite problem
For the last 20 years we have been "forced" to participate in the gift exchange regardless of our circumstances. This year, all of a sudden, we must all abide by a new "budget," but now we have money! I think it is just a power play and nothing more.
We had the opposite problem
That's why we have a real tree. My cat was slowly eating all the fake needles (I didn't know she was doing it)and they finally got so imbedded that she had to have emergency surgery and she had so many pine needles in her stomach that when they took them out it was a huge packed glob of them actually in the shape of her stomach. So ever since then we've had a real tree.
I had the opposite problem sm
I am a gifted dressmaker and did this professionally for many years. I mean, I can make anything from jeans, to triple lined parkas, to mens' suits from the fabric up. I am good and we can leave it there.
So, I marry this man who thinks that if it isn't very expensive from a nice STORE it is pretty well $ _ _ _ and he would never wear it or use it! I divorced him and part of it was his extremely prolific high spending habits.
I had purchased a piece of fabric to make him a suit, from Italian wool. The fabric and findings for that suit set me back $400 (in about 1990). When my younger son graduated high school, I offered to take him shopping for something to wear. He nearly cried and said NO MOM I want you to MAKE me a suit. I have waited my WHOLE LIFE to graduate and have you make ME a special suit. So, I did and that expensive stuff when to someone deserving.
It is all in how they were raised. My dad was raised to believe that all women should sew. He and his mom insisted I learn and I topped even her excellent skills. I have learned you can't change their opinions of this, no matter what side of the equation they may fall on. I would suggest you learn to do some sewing, OR learn to tolerate him taking his little projects elsewhere. Even if all you do is crafting and some quilting stuff, that is probably enough to impress him favorably.
That said, he has NO RIGHT to give away your sewing machine, it is YOURS.
Just the opposite in my family.
I'm Italian and grew up living next to and with my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmother. My grandparents were "right off the boat" and everyone yelled. We yelled when we were happy, sad, mad, when the food was ready... you name it! It was loud and fun. My husband's family is not that way. I don't think my MIL would yell if she dropped something on her foot!
Anyone really satisfied with their PCP or just the opposite?
I went to get a mammogram done this morning and got a lot of questioning about my last Pap, last breast exam by a physician, etc., etc. I over the years have really gone thru a lot with different physicians both for me and my daughter. I told the tech this morning could not remember the last time a physician had asked about my having a mammogram and I visited the PCP about 3 times in the past year. I also am under the care of a nephrologist, have seen a rheumatologist and the like. I just wondered if anyone else felt like they have the best of care and if some feel like the care they get is somehow lacking.
It is not saying we are more accomodating - it's the opposite (sm)
It means women over 40 aren't going to put up with the BS that many of us put up with when we were younger. It is a rebuttal to the old "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" cliche.
I feel exactly the opposite of you.
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I wish that was the case, but I'm the opposite.
Even after 6 years I have a very hard time with ESLs (and my largest account the doctor is from Peru). I hate when someone from another country tries to ask me something, I can never understand them and I feel like a total dope. One time I told a lady I didn't know where the item she was looking for was, when actually I couldn't figure out WHAT she was looking for!
Just the opposite here, hubby is into
what he terms as good food rather than fat food (fast food to us) restaurants. I wish I could eat out more but usually when I ask him, nah just fix something here. He is the cook so don’t argue with his cooking and to tell you the truth, most of his food better than what you get out, well Carruba's is high on my list.
It is completely opposite in my house
My son (16) is incredibly responsible. He gets up every morning and makes his own breakfast, I would gladly do it but he says no. My daughter (14) and hubby do not eat breakfast. My daughter doesn't have time becuase she stays in bed until the very last second that she can. My son does his own laundry and my daughter just found the washing machine this past summer. lol
It has been the opposite here in Maine this summer!
TONS of out of state cars all over the place, especially on the coast. I just got back from Massachusetts last week myself and did see quite a few out of state cars.
Just the opposite in this case, the authorities
waiting longer than say for me or someone else I guess because of them being physicians maybe. Having said that, when young children are killed more times than not it is parents, hard to believe but the authorities held back on this case.
I have the exact opposite of anorexic
I am overweight, 5Ɗ and weigh 218 as of this morning. The problem I have is when I look in the mirrow I do not really see me as being grossly overweight, in fact I think oh for your age you look alright. Is there anyone else that looks in the mirror and does not see what you actually are- oh no remarks about getting a new mirror, this is from several I have in the house. I have actually seen surprised before when seeing a picture of myself and basically thinking do I look like that? Thanks!
I have the opposite problem and am trying to get uninvolved
with some things outside of the house. I ended up involved in things that interested me. If I were you, that's where I'd start. Are you looking for volunteer situations or things to do just for you? If the town where you lives has a website, you will likely find a listing of clubs, volunteer opportunities and the like on the site.
Neither am I - quite the opposite - I guess if you have never been in this position you don't kno
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My current husband is just the opposite...
In the 8 years we have been married he has paid over $97,000 in child support for his 2 children. His youngest daughter is getting married (and will be giving up the rest of her child support) and the child support will finally end. There are dads and moms out there who do pay their support. I hope you all get the back money owed to you. My ex owes my 2 daughters between 20-25 thousand. I never counted on it in the first place and when it sporadically came in I was happy, kind of like a bonus every now and then.
lmao my hubs is the opposite
He will bring home ANYTHING with Vin or Pierce Brosnan in it, knowing that I like them. lol I think he has actually bought every one of their movies since 2000.
Babylon AD...I'll have to ask hubs about it. lol
A twist off topic, but that's the opposite of my MIL
She wouldn't return anything, and expects no one else to, EVER. She cuts all the tags off and then claims to have forgotten where she bought things. She has even gone so far as to cut the size tags out of gifts. She once whispered to my husband, "I had to buy her an extra large, so I cut the tag out. I didn't want to embarrass her." That was for a robe she bought me when I was pregnant. Believe me, I knew what size I was! I hate to have her spend money that goes to waste on things that just don't fit, for example. Those could be simple returns, but she won't give gift receipts or even say which store she bought the gift at. I've given up. I appreciate the thought of the gift, but if something doesn't fit, I just donate it to the next clothing drive that passes by. Someone will use it.
Just the opposite for me - 13 is my lucky number,
Same goes for odd-numbered years. Those almost always go well for me, and without fail, even-numbered ones are the pits.
I have the opposite problem - my color lightens up.
I was fine when I could get this sable color that Clairol had, but I'm not finding it anymore. I let some new guy highlight my hair last summer, and I finally got that ugliness covered with the latest color I put on. It started out burgundy and a bit too purple, but now it's lightened up a lot. I don't have a whole lot of gray, but enough to show, and my natural shade of brown is sort of green with a couple of wide lighter natural highlights. Even though I told the hair guy not to get any lightener on those, he did. You've never seen so many different colors on one head until I finally got that mess covered. I like my $9 color job better than his $100 job.
I catch LAInk a lot because I am so totally opposite all
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To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
It won't be making any difference. I tried a couple of techniques for my adults and very soon I came to realize they found the antidotes for them. If there are 10 sites telling how to monitor your kids, there are 1000 more telling how to escape it. Down the road you will be pushing your kids to visit those sites (full of porn banners & adult materials) and nothing else.
Southerner too, and I have the exact opposite experience...
I put peanuts in my coke sometimes when I was a kid (at that time coke came in a small glass bottle), but not something I did all the time. It was okay...probably wouldn't enjoy it now. My dad did hunt and we did eat squirrel, rabbit, duck, deer, dove, quail pn occasion. These were not like what was for "dinner" but used when they would have a crowd over who liked those type of dishes. Gumbo (my favorite) also could be made with shrimp, duck, squirrel, turkey whereas the quali and dove were used for stew-like dishes..and they were delicious. My mother made something called "Court bouillion" made with fish, like a red fish soup ...loved it, but do not know how to make it. My dad would have a fish fry every once in a while and have company over to enjoy it. For regular daily meals, we had the usual meats of beef, pork, chicken, etc. .For us, we had round steak and gravy often, of course, rice for the gravy. And also, our main meal was at "noon" whereas up north some have it at the meal we call "supper". Not to say that all southerners had their meal at "noon" . I also tire of the generalizations people make, but it's only human nature I guess. Also, in the south (Louisiana for me), we called "pop" a "cold drink" or "coke". Anyone want a "coke" or "cold drink"? Ok. What kind do YOU want, Dr. Pepper, RC, orange, etc. ? Funny, but that's the way it was. Anyone in the south remember Shipley donuts? Loved them! They literally melted in your mouth. Wonder if they are still in business. To me, they were a smidge better than Krispy Kreme, but very close. In the South, we called the coin-operated laundry a "washateria", up north it's the "Laundromat". Fun reminiscing.
It had the opposite effect on me, I couldn't even get through 1 week. I might be a fluke, though.
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No, definitely not -- if this had been a woman - sm
asking you the same question would you have thought twice about it? He was a rep of the store asking if you found what you were looking for, since it happened to be a bra, I think he phrased it correctly, but then again he did not take into account a person who would take a question the wrong way. He has learned the hard way never to question a lady about her underwear that is for sure. You need to learn to let things roll off your back. If he had leered at you and said, hey lady you find a bra for those nice **** of yours, then yeah, that would be harrassment and not good customer service. Learn to chill some and not worry so much.
I know of a woman who actually did this
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what do you get for the woman who has everything?...sm
Spend some time together.
Give each little young lady a handmade card/voucher that she can cash in to spend time with you one-on-one, whether it be at the hair salon, lunch, walking in the park, just doing regular shopping stuff, going to a play or just sitting, talking, having a cup of tea and looking through family albums....It's the special time that'll be cherished.
Oh, and 50-ish is not old.....I know 70 to 85-yo young ladies who can run circles around me with their enthusiasm, drive, ambition and joy for life.  Cat
did you NOT see that 95 y/o woman who
graduated college last year? She was all over the news, GOD BLESS HER!! Had all her wits about her......just old looking is all....
Education doesn't stop until we die - so by all means 40+ is still young in that many change career directions many times in ones' life...
another woman
Does his name rhyme with Boo by any chance? This brought back memories from 16 years ago. Same situation. I found out I was not the only one and that he had been seeing someone else for years and when she and I "met", she told me he owed everybody money. I did get mine back by personal check in a very nice (what a joke) card, wishing me well. I loved him - couldn't deal with the other woman thing, so let her have him. Glad I did - I would have been miserable with him. Good Luck - watch your purse!!
wonder woman
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then you should definitely let the PTA woman have him
and after he's with her instead of you, make sure to send a thank you card
Do you believe what this woman says?
That an employee told her to use the MRI machine at the zoo?
When a 5-foot, 275-pound woman found out she had a tumor on her spine, she was told by her local hospital to go the zoo to have a MRI because a regular MRI machine could not hold her weight, myfoxkc.com reported.
Carolyn Ragan told the television station she discovered the tumor two years ago and, after the hospital told her she could not use their MRI machine, a medical assistant said he would help her find a solution.
“So he suggested the Kansas City Zoo,” Ragan said. “I thought, I know I’m big, but I’m not as big as an elephant. And my husband got mad.”
The University of Kansas Hospital would not comment on Ragan’s claim, but said its MRI department does not know of any animal MRI in the Kansas City area that would scan a human.
Ragan’s problem was two-fold: She was too heavy for the table and too wide to slide through the opening.
Medical Imaging in Kansas City North, which has both closed and open MRI machines can typically hold up to 440 pounds, but sometimes a person who weighs less can still be out of luck, according to an MRI technician.
“It depends on how they are built a lot of times and what part of their body we’re scanning,” said technician Sarah Abbott of Medical Imaging. “(The machine) can only be so open before the magnetic field dissipates into the room.”
Ragan, who ended up having two surgeries and some paralysis, said she finally found an open MRI machine that held her weight, but it was embarrassing and frustrating.
“They should have machines that fit most everybody,” she said.
A Woman Should Have... sm
BEST POEM EVER
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A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....
by Maya Angelou
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .......
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without
ruining the friendship....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...
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YOU DON'T ALWAYS SEE THEM,
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A single woman
What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Please do not rush into a relationship with any man at this point. Enjoy this time and spend it getting to know your children better and just spending time with them. Also get to know yourself and feel comfortable with who you are - develop some hobbies and interests. If you've spent the last 2 decades in this kind of relationship, you haven't had much time to spend on yourself. Soak in a hot tub every night if you want to.
In a sense, you've just cut a huge wart off your foot and of course it's going to feel strange and unfamiliar. It was the wart that was strange, now things are normal. It just feels strange because you aren't used to it.
Hope some of this makes sense. If you think about it, I bet you are actually less lonely now than when he was there. Some of the loneliest people I know are in marriages and relationships. Some of the happiest and most joy-filled people I know are on their own.
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