I am the OP and I did not mean to get people angry here. SM
Posted By: anon on 2009-01-07
In Reply to: Need advice from those of you who have been there. SM - anon
I have not turned my kinds against my husband, in fact I have always defended his actions to them, but now they are old enough to make up their own minds based on his actions. He is not a bad man, but he is just all about him and can be very demeaning and hurtful to me and my girls. Seems like he always has an alterior motive, which is usually something to gratify himself and his needs.
He just does not make me happy and I don't wish him any harm, in fact I want him to be happy. I just don't think I am the person who can make him happy, really.
I am able to financially support my children and I know that without him in the picture, none of us would have to walk on eggshells anymore. That's all.
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I know this will make people angry and ...
I do not know everyone's situations, but I see women on here whining and whining about stupid things. Enjoy the person you love. My husband is at war and I miss him terribly. All of these stupid little things that women deem "selfish" and such are usually nothing more than selfish women wanting things their own ways. Like I said, not every time, but come on, you have to give some, too. If you think your man sucks, there is really nothing he is going to do to make you happy, so you should probably cut him loose to find someone who can appreciate him.
I think if you were not angry
you would not be human. You did the right thing and she did the wrong thing. Try to hold your head high and remember that instead of being angry. I have learned that MOST OFTEN, people who ask for money are wasting money and they start to think of your money as an easy backup source if they don't feel like pinching pennies. This is America and there are resources out there for emergency situations. The trouble is, the other resources that are in place for emergencies require some effort on the part of the one needing help. It's a lot more convenient to go to a friend for help, especially if they learn they won't have to pay it back.
It is much better to give money rather than to loan it. But now you know you were taken advantage of. Lesson learned. You are a good person!
You are right to be angry (sm)
I would talk to him, probably by phone and say in as calm a voice as you muster up, that your daughter has dyslexia and that she is already sensitive and struggling with that and that by calling her lazy, it really hurt her feelings. The reason I would do this nicely is because if your daughter slept over there, she must really like the other child and you wouldn't want to alienate them from each other. I have issues with a neighbor but because my children like to play with hers, I have to step gingerly when I talk to her about things - if it was just me I was thinking of I would be happy to just give her a peice of my mind! But in my children's best interest I choose my words carefully. I am so sorry that he treated her that way though, and you are 100% right to be upset.
not angry, just sad
I don't know when this started, or why. I guess I didn't notice until I had my child around the time my sisters had theirs, and there was a big difference in how often she saw each one. I have talked to mom about this before, and it goes nowhere. She gets all guilty and cries and apologizes, and then nothing changes. She means well, but actions speak louder than words.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I guess that pretty much says it all.
Have you ever seen anyone more angry looking?
It's a picture of a local prostitute. She was arrested for pimping out her own daughter.
Who are you angry at?
Not me because I think Susan was a jewel of a find. I also happen to like Simon and did not find him in any way condescending or the like. I guess you would have to know/like him in the first place to realize this.
You are one angry lady!
I'm not sure what your problem is.
I'm not the OP, but I can certainly tell you that every doglover in the world has the right to have their pet in their own space. Not in mine, though.
Public places that are not designed for dogs include shopping malls, etc. (except pet stores where that is the entire focus of their business).
Perhaps a dog is the only thing that can be nice to you with that attitude of yours!
Calm down!!
me2-cannot stand Jen and was angry she got HOH
You're right to be angry
I would have pointed out to her that as proud as you are of your daughter for making the team, you feel that putting family first is a higher value for you and your husband.
I hope you have a wonderful meal with your father-in-law. Your child is lucky to have parents like you and your husband.
venting and angry
My daughter had this same problem 2 years ago. I finally called the doctor, and the nurse asked me if we have animals. I told her that we did, and she said that they need to be treated as well. So, along with treating my daughter, bagging all her stuffed toys, vacuuming and steaming everything else she had been in contact with I bathed the cats in a shampoo for animals that helps treat lice. We didn't have problems with them again. Maybe you should find out if this child's family has pets, and if so, make a suggestion that they treat them as well. I know this is a frustrating and expensive problem, but as was stated earlier, I think educating the child's mother is the Christ-like thing to do. If she gets angry about your help/suggestions, then you know that you did your part. Hang in there!!
Don't stay angry, instead get EVEN.
been there, done that. no need to be in a hurry, either. if you take months or even years to get even, you have just that much more time to come up with something truly memorable.
or, you can do something swift and simple, like blocking their emails on your pc as spam.
And the need for adding the little angry icon is???
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I was so angry Gina went last night (sm)
Before last night it just seemed like a silly stunt that was being pulled, between Vote for the Worst and Howard Stern, but last night because a really talented person left before Sanjaya, it went too far and really angered me. I agree with the poster below about Howard Stern being a hypocrite, and the VFTW website seems to be run by some lame people who have nothing better to do. They don't seem to realize that in the process they are actually hurting Sanjaya, not helping him, but they don't seem to care. They just have their own agenda. Something needs to be done, but I can't imagine what because we do have free speech in this country, which normally is a great thing. There, I've had my rant!
I agree/always seems very negative and angry.
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You sound angry in your response saying whatever
But it is such a beautiful day will just think you are probably just having a bad day. Anyway, this police did not eat even half the sandwich; I have seen a picture and looks like it could have been a couple of bites. Enjoy the rest of your day, take some time for yourself!
I am angry when I hear something this ridiculous (sm)
But not having a bad day at all. It was more of an eye-rolling thing. He should have taken it back and showed it to the manager and either gotten his money back or another burger. If the girl did anything wrong she should get in trouble with her manager, not the police. If she did indeed go to her manager first, they should be the one in trouble not her. We have all gotten so petty - so focused on petty things that we miss the important ones.
Norb and Dag - the Angry Beavers
Even DH likes them. They are so funny.
Bugs Bunny and Tigger are right up there, too.
Probably should not waste your time being angry or
hurt - she sounds like a loser - and better to just use this as a lesson learned and not share anything with her in the future. Be the bigger person if you can and put behind you - but take a lesson from it - she is not your friend. Praying that you get your dream home! Hugs!!
Nanny 911 would say he is angry about some injustice once
she ruled out hypoglycemia. Is there competition or jealousy. Do you subtly favor the 11 yr old or does anyone else and make it obvious? Fairness between siblings is so important - it levels the playing field. Take him out alone and have a talk with him. Ask him what is upsetting him so much. Tell him it is important that he tell you because it can be fixed.
Sorry, not my year of birth? Why are you angry?
NM
yeah..okay...now I am nuts, paranoid, angry and need a
psychiatrist. like I said, you are not overweight so you DO attack overweight people. I only eat one meal a day because that is the only time I get hungry, like someone else said about ONLY eating when they get hungry. I am not intentionally starving myself. I just have no appetite for hormone infested, pesticide ridden, additive stuffed foods. I am not being paranoid. I have researched this subject fully, and if you think the govt would not do this to unsuspecting, naive people, you are more naive than most. Remember the cigarette lie? What makes you think they wouldn't do it to your food? why are american's the only obese people in the world? think about it. oh...and I am not nuts, angry, paranoid, nor do I need a psychiatrist or therapy. I am not blaming every one else for my weight problem, other than the food we eat. You did not do this to me...I am not blaming you, but you are also thin and have no compassion for those that DO have a problem. I will not continue this. but this is my opinion only. I HAVE accepted responsibility for my whole entire life, including my weight. Oh...and I am not a liar either. thank you for all your compassionate support...must make you feel better to attack the overweight when you brag about being a size 6. I bet you are in your 20s, as well. hmpff.
It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
I wouldn't want to. I'm angry that our system is set up so that this innocent man could not b
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grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
People who go around calling other people "low class"
have their own issues in life. Ignore them. Nothing like a misplaced superiority complex to make a person feel good about themselves. Like they've never done anything gauche or made a faux pas. It must be nice for them to be so perfect and live in a glass house.
For that matter, you probably saved your piggy's life by popping that mondo zit! It could have gotten infected or something.... (yes, I have a zit popping fixation myself, but you were really descriptive on that pig zit. gag LOL)
Man, you would have appreciated the time one of my relative's popped a HUGE cyst on her face. I was standing right next to her at the time and leaned back because I knew it was going to blow. It did! Big time! All over the wall, mirror and light fixture. I'm still disgusted by the thought of it 10 years later. LOL In a revering kind of way...
some people did, some people didn't. It's their choice.
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you may not be bitter, angry, or uptight, but you are RUDE rude rude!
You talk about being attacked when you are the one calling names... yes someone called you Doctor to start with, which was pretty childish, but they were saying so because you acted so matter-of-factly about diagnosing someone saying they were just having vivid dreams, and then going off on a tangent about their Xanax use...
Xanax affects EVERYONE differently so just because your husband is a certain way does not mean that is the same for this person. I take Xanax to fly... guess what it is a LIFE SAVER! I never take it to sleep nor do I ever take it for anything else...
maybe you are being rude because you are reacting, but my guess is you will have a response to me pointing this out... and it might be rude. just a guess.
If this helps...I know people who know people (sm)
who can make people disappear. 
Not really--I'd be lyin' if I said I never thought such things though! ;-)
IME, people don't feel sorry for fat people either
They actually have less sympathy than they do for people who have substance abuse, IME.
At any rate, I do feel sorry for Britney but the safety of her children should be everyone's first priority, then her safety. It would seem to me that all these hangers-on she has are jeopardizing that safety. It's all just very sad.
Some people just look at me
like I am crazy. You should see the looks I get when she rides on my shoulder in the car. Most people associate rats with dirty animals, etc. They are just like a hamster, only very smart animals. Plus they don't bite like hamsters or try and get away from you. They want to be around you. They are very loyal and love attention. She's my baby.
Unfortunately, she has a cyst growing under her arm now though. She is getting old, and I know her time is coming. :(
OMG! You people are bad, bad, bad!!! I'm going to
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For me, over 25 people to buy for......
including mine and my husband's immediate families we see separately Christmas eve and Christmas day. We also visit grandparents, aunts, cousins, etc. a week later. We don't have kids yet so still spend a few hundred on each other. It is probably closer to 1500 combined for us.
What about NJ? People here act like
they're the best beaches in the world and I can assure you they are NOT. LBI is the cute nickname now given to Long Beach Island which is a dump as are most NJ beaches and everyone acts like it's the Hamptons or something. Been to NC outer banks and loved it. No comparison.
I think there need to be more people...
in the world like you! You are doing a wonderful thing and are a shining example to your children!
Pet (Dog in particular) people -
I have a Lab/Pit mix, probably 8 or 9 years old, who has a terrible problem with itching and scratching all over. I am hoping someone on this site has a solution for us.
I will tell you what we have tried that has not worked.
Benadryl has not worked. Seemed to help initially but stopped it and she shows no change.
Changing her food has not worked. Have tried all kinds of food, wheat free, have not helped.
Adding oil to her food, 1-2 tablespoons of olive oil twice a day, has not helped. Seemed to help initially but she went back to scratching.
Getting her groomed with dry skin shampoo/conditioner has not helped.
What DID help was steroid injection and prednisone pills on a tapering dose. But once the dose was tapered down, she started scratching some. I dont want her on steroids indefinitely. PLUS, the steroids made her very very aggressive and being part pitbull, that was not a good thing.
When it gets to the point that she and I are both waking up multiple times during the night, I have to go back to steroids. Before I do that, I wonder if anyone reading this has another remedy we could try before going to steroid route.
We also have a cat and I am beginning to think she may be allergic to the cat. Do you think this is possible? My vet technician told me it is possible but it would involve costly allergy testing and injections if it proves positive. Would like opinions from others before I take her for allergy testing.
Any info anyone could provide would sure be appreciated, not only by me but by my best friend who is suffering with this.
Thank you!
um, a lot of people don't go to the, uh, gym.
nm
I know 5 people who have had this...sm
1 has kept the weight they lost off.
2 had major complications after the surgery and 1 almost died - he was healthy before surgery.
4 lost weight but have regained most if not all of it. You can restretch the stomach back out by eating too much.
I like those too - I know a lot of people don't :-)
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Yes, but LL should have people to look out for her
be watched 24/7, but LL could be and should be. She should be protected and anyone with any interest in this girl, either for financial or other, such as her mother, should be helping her better than this.
IMO there is no excuse for this. Maybe I am being harsh, but give me a break already with these celebs.
Just like with people
Recovering from surgery (procedures done with anesthesia) when they're older is harder for them, and you have to be super careful that they don't have any conditions that could be worsened by the medications. Please try everything you can before getting them declawed. I'm lucky, my cats love their scratch posts, but they also love picking at the carpet. I just buy rugs and stick them all over the place!
Those people should have given you (sm)
thank you notes BUT, when you give you have to give with a free and willing heart and not expect anything in return - even a thank you - because you will only get bitter waiting. Only give when you really want to and feel the need to and you will feel better about it I think.
re: people
Just me,
The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9:
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; Who can know it?"
It is our sin nature to commit sin and we're all born with it. I don't know what the percentage of sexual sin is, but I do know that it is getting more and more prevalent and has been around since bible days because we are all born sinners and we all need Jesus to save us. That doesn't mean that after we accept Jesus we stop sinning, but are more likely to be faithful when we know the Lord.
God bless!
Jan
Pod people.
It's the only explanation. How can you not talk to people in an environment like that?!
This really is about the right age when most people do this (sm)
I was 18 and that was 20 years ago. You cannot make her not do it. I would strongly focus right now on teaching her all the possible STDs - I mean seriously teaching her - because I got herpes from oral sex when I was 21 and did not even know you could get it that way. Just sit down with her and say, "well you have decided to do this and I don't agree with it, BUT since you are, let's look up every possible bad thing that can happen" and make sure she is extremely well informed. Even find scary pictures of HPV and look up hep B and hep C and herpes and every STD you can think of. At least then she probably will not be promiscuous and will be choosy and careful about who she is with.
and once again, people come in here and can....n/m
Why do people have to
make reference to a person other than "did that nice woman smile at you?"??? If she had been obese instead, would they have said..."Did that fat lady smile at you?" Just annoys me how insensitive people can be and how they can be quick to label a person without even knowing anything about them.
I would have been offended myself in this situation. HOW RUDE!
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