I am surprised at the statement, "every facet"
Posted By: Nancy on 2009-02-13
In Reply to: Caught between pride and terror - Almost empty nest
of her life. Have 2 kids, both grown, glad they are out on their own, not interested in "every facet" because they are grown. I enjoy my time now. I am glad my children know how to live on their own and I surely do not live through them. Sounds like you need more interests in your life if you are going to fall apart when she leaves for college.
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First of all, it appears that she has had this situation occur in the past. I am not generally a negative person, but in this case, I may make an exception. Perhaps letting her know that we expect our children to learn from their mistakes and accept accountability for their actions would be a start. If this does not work, perhaps stating that she must be a very blissful person, because ignorance is bliss, would make her take a long, hard look.
the statement
The statement that healthy people are dying seems absolutely counterintuitive. People insinuating that sick people with weakened immune systems survive over people with strong immune systems that overreact to the virus flies in the face of logic. The weak survive over the strong? Maybe better advice like if you are getting worse after 3 days, go to the doctor to make sure you don't have a secondary pneumonia infection is better.
In my extended family alone, in my family tree, there are all kinds of people who died from pneumonia at all ages, seemingly random acts of God. It is the pneumonia, which is treatable with antibiotics, that kills people with influenza, and that is actually logical and time proven.
WHAT? Ridiculous statement.....sm
I so don't agree with you - Had one, got rid of him, don't want another - I want men in my life, not in my house full-time! No regrets here, happy, independent, do for myself and my kids and my friends and family without a *DH* to drain on me any longer! Happy Happy!
yet again ANOTHER RIDICULOUS STATEMENT
It is not a ridiculous statement....
Statistics say roughly 5% of rapes result in pregnancy...that is about 1 in 20. So, the statement that very few rapes result in pregnancy is true. Look it up.
What a ridiculous statement that is.
Very helpful.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
FOR. I don't see them as a religious statement - sm
but rather, a statement of love for the person who died there, an expression of sadness that they were lost, and a little reminder to everyone else driving past it to back off on the throttle a little bit.
I so agree with your last statement!
NM
Is this statement true?
I was flipping radio channels last night and heard a woman say she absolutely positively had to send her children to private school; she had no other recourse because the school system in which she lived was totally horrid. She was talking about how high priced everything is and she was afraid her husband would lose his job, but even if that happened, she'd still need to send the kiddos to private school.
I know there are some bad public school systems around, but couldn't you transfer to a better public school system without physically moving?
Just wondering about this statement.
"It is the one sin the Bible says cannot be forgiven completely. There is a reason for that. "
I thought blaspheming the Holy Spirit was the unforgivable sin.
I do not like 1 statement which annuls
a lot, namely
e) Raise your children without both parents being
in the home
???
This is rather hypocritical, selfish, unthankful, insensitive, God will not bless you for that. I can only wonder.
oh I agree with your statement about family...LOL...
No, I don't want *ANY* family just *dropping by* unannounced.......*LOL* -
Friends yeah, neighbors yeah
family....no thank you *rofl*
oh and I do love my family.........it's just that *family* can be and usually are so judgmental...........we don't get to *choose* our families.....but we do our friends *S*
but then I rolled off the family tree of nuts.......*l*
IMO, he has served his purpose according to your own statement .
.."I believe my brother brought him into my life for a reason. Since he has been in my life, it has been the best year ever and I have evolved into a better person.".....
You say you are a better purpose and maybe that was what he was supposed to do and that is all?
I say back off and if someday he is single and wants to start something up, then (if you are available) go for it! I think Dr.Phil would also tell you this, and any preacher or religious, or educated counselor/psych, etc.
Powerful statement, WWTx...
Mom, you don't want your daughter looking back in 15-20 years and wondering why her mom didn't protect her. Deep down she is looking for boundaries. Hang in there through this rough patch.
What a sad statement, pushing the consequences
nm
and I totally concur with your statement!
You gave him life and the means to make it as far in this world to be 36 years old. You nor your husband owe him squat. You can believe one thing, and I have told both of my children (ages 36 and 34) - that the they would not and could not make the sacrifices that I made for them being a single mom and raising them (without the benefit of assistance). I love my kids but I don't take any crap from them, grown or otherwise. I love them, listen to them, give them any advice they ask for but WHATEVER decisions they make are ones that they must deal with. Period.
Amen to that statement sister!!
I have never heard of anyone killing people on the highways just from being stoned!!
Now, don't be a bogart!! 
I totally understand the statement
of she was a stay at home mom. This profession never started out to be a stay at home job, in fact after all my years which are almost 40 now, I have only worked from home now for the past 7 and not sent home because I wanted to, but because the hospital decided they could use the room where the MT people were. Many, many postings I have seen have to deal with the fact of taking the job in order to stay home with the kids, common theme here and if that is what women hoped for, then that is the way they are looked at. I know just taking the time to feed my cats with them meowing underneath, I would hate to think of having to feed and tend to small children, babies or the like. Something will suffer, the kids or the job? I really do not believe anyone who says they can work around babies, kids to do this job, not and make a decent living.
John Assaraf's nauseating statement about that
He was on Larry King promoting the theory that you wish everything into your life.
Larry King asked this man if Jessica Lunsford wished her torture and murder into her life, if this is his theory.
The man paused a moment and then said, "Yes."
Made me sick.
I understand dwelling on the positive aspects of your life and they become more apparent to you. However, to think you simply "wish" something into existence is the biggest pile of manure for people to fall for.
Especially to say that every baby, child, teenager, woman, man ever abused, tortured, murdered WISHED THIS ON THEMSELVES.
Ludicrous.
*time wasting* ?? Not fair statement
The family has released a statement saying she died.
So sad.
Two statement I find wrong and disagree with you on
1. With chemo he has a 90% to 95% chance of living a long and productive life. That's just outright not true. Who said that, the chemo company providing the drug? The doctor working for the chemo company to ensure they get their money? The government? Holistic medicine will give him a better chance of living than any chemicals that will destroy his immune system among other things.
Second, your statement of his mother murdering her son is wrong. Have you not been following the story. She is trying to get an alternative health cure so he can live a long and productive live. Not sentence him to death under killer chemo. Sorry if you don't like to hear that but it's a fact - chemo kills.
It's not just a major stress and strain on the body - it kills off the good cells with the bad. It weakens the immune system. It's toxic and poisons your body. I found this article to be interesting.
http://www.naturalnews.com/012727.html
Saying "it's a major stress on the body" is like saying just a couple of your hairs will fall out during the treatment.
This lady wants her son to live. He's only 13 years old. She wants to watch him grow up, go to college, marry, have kids, and lead a productive life. She loves her son unconditionally and is doing whatever is in her will to find him a better treatment rather than one that will kill him. Why would anyone want to allow government to kill her son when there could be an alternative treatment that would save his life and he could lead a healthy and productive life.
Mainly though why would anyone want the government telling them what they can and cannot do as far as how they treat their own family health and well being.
I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
NM
Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
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I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
What surprised? Things happen everywhere
Have televison on as I work and live reports- a noose found on door of a black educator at Columbia College in New York - yes things happen like this elsewhere, not just the south and another high school shooting in Cleveland, Ohio this time. People are saying shocked it happened at both places. College people said the people there are educated. I don’t know if education has to do with racism. I wonder if and when things like this might be a thing of the past.
Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Was anyone surprised that Howard Stern
has been arrested as being involved in giving Anna Nichole Smith drugs that eventually resulted in her demise? I am surprised it too this long.
I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
I am amazingly surprised by it!! It really does work great (sm)
and I have barely had to clean the shower. I would buy all those in the spray bottles, but let's face it, no one but me is actually going to spray the shower in this house and half the time I forget! I can actually get the kids to press the button on this when they are done in the shower and it gives you a few beeps before it starts off, so they make a game out of it.
We just moved into this house a fever months ago and it is even beginning to remove the crud that I could not get off from the previous owner and it is literally starting to shine - and I am only on the second bottle. This is really one product I can recommend, especially if you hate cleaning the shower as much as I do!
P.S. When the beeps go off, don't watch to see what it does without goggles! :)
I'm hooked on this show. Was surprised it didn't
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