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I appreciate all of you who responded to my original post 3 weeks ago.    Physically I'm doing well with the recuperation from the miscarriage and subsequent D&C and the doctor told us that we can try to conceive again in a couple of months, which we will do.   

Emotionally it's still tough but getting better each day.  I miss the baby very much.   I'm keeping up the journal that I began during the pregnancy and writing my thoughts to the baby in heaven when I feel like it and  it helps to know I'm communicating my thoughts to our baby.  I'm actually able to say the words "I had a miscarriage" this week without bursting immediately into tears.  My husband continues to be very supportive and we both shed tears together at times over our loss.    Our friends, family  and church family have been incredibly supportive and that helps tremendously and we've definitely felt their support through their prayers and expressed concern. 

For any of you who encounter a woman who has had a miscarriage in the future, the best thing you can do is be there for them and show genuine concern.     

I try not to post on this site very much but this is something that is very important to me and should be to most of you out there. 

www.lifetimetv.com/health/breast_mastectomy_pledge.html

Thank you for signing the pledge. 

to be an old pro at trying to make ends meet. Hang in there. I doubt it can get any worse????

I've been the main support for DH and me since 2006. I'm tired of doing it but have to keep going.  A lot of times, I would love to take off work for a day and/or just "retire" but it's impossible. I am now working 7 days a week instead of the 5 days  just ot make up the difference in pay checks.

We're all in the same boat this year. It can't get any worse, I hope. At least, hubby's pay did take care of the mortgage and taxes for this year but we have no idea what will happen next year. He doesn't even know if he will have a job to go to,  but is looking into other possiblities 'cause around here, there are no jobs.

we chose Sprint, only because they had the best rate plan for our area.

Loud cheers greeted her inauguration, with US First Lady Laura Bush and Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice among those at the ceremony.

Mrs Johnson-Sirleaf says her top challenge is to maintain peace, law and order after 14 years of civil war."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/4615764.stm

I started last week as an IC for a small to medium MTSO.  I decided to work as an IC because I wanted flexibility in my schedule.   However, they insist on a set 40-hour schedule and working holidays, just like an FTE.   They are not paying me any benefits, not paying my taxes including SS, and I have run out of work 2 days already.  

Now I'm told I have to work either T-giving or Christmas - this really grates on me.  I get paid nothing extra for the holidays.  

I didn't think it was legal for them treat ICs like FTEs.  Has the working universe changed this much, or am I a sap for putting up with it?   I would really like to hear from other ICs who have faced the same situation -  please let me know how you handled it.  I cannot afford to quit without another job, which I am looking for.   TIA

My father died last year and he was a DNR and had a Living Will stating *no heroic measures* - at that point they oinly do *comfort care*.......

Very sorry for your experience!!!!!  *gentle hug*

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To check the status of your sound card:

1. Click Start, point to Settings, and then click Control Panel.
   
2. Double-click System.
   
3. Click the Device Manager tab.
   
4. Click the PLUS SIGN (+) next to Sound, video and game controllers to expand the branch.
   
5. Under the Sound, video and game controllers branch, click your sound card, and then click Properties.
   
6. On the General tab, make sure that the Device Status message is "this device is working properly." 

If the Device Status message states that the device is not working properly, contact your sound card or computer manufacturer for further assistance.

It's is a driver problem, .........email for details.

I like what you said there - you have had a GOOD solid thing for 41 years now.......or thereabouts with your husband -

Doing this to him, even surreptitiously....do you think this is what HE deserves after you having a full life with him?  Do you have a conscience?  Even if you don't see this guy from 900 miles away - YOU'RE STILL CHEATING, you are carrying on a secret relationship in a secret email account behind your husband's back.........

I ain't judging.........but points upward.........towards G_d.........

jes' sayin'..............

on the top of GAB BOARD?  And silly me, I answered it *LOL* - says Jan 16, 2007....all below this are March of 2007........very bizarre...someone probably trying to invoke conversation(?) 

very_curious_indeed

Divorce is a huge decision - I have been talking to family and friends but this is the only place I can get anonymous opinions from a lot of people, and it is more likely that someone here may have been through something similar.  My husband now is asking me to not go.  But he has already told me just a few nights ago that he was never happy with me, was always disappointed and frustrated with who I am, and that this is probably the reason he hit me a few years ago.  He went nuts a few years ago during a very minor argument (children were not present), and now says that it was probably because of years of frustration.  But now he is once again asking me to stay.  Because my parents are divorced he says that "divorce is the only thing I know" when faced with conflict.  I have been here almost 14 years and he has never been happy with me.  Even when I was young and thin and our house was spotless.  My question is - if he has never been happy with me, and I have always been a source of frustration, why should I stay now and expect things to improve?  We have been to 4 marriage counsellors in the past.  I am scared about leaving and I still do love him deep down, but why continue to stay if I will never be good enough? 

Well, here you can post what you think is an awesome idea or might we say lame... (Creativity is the key)

I'll start with:

Awesome:
Water powered cars...

Lame:
Really cool stuff that is ridiculously expensive(i.e. PS3)