I am soooo glad I grew up when I did
Posted By: Bette on 2007-04-20
In Reply to: OK, first lose the WalMart shoes. Kids are brutal. sm - just me
This comes from an older voice but I had a close friend in high school. I used to visit in her home and had no idea that this girl only owned 1 blouse. She told me years later how poor she was and she washed that 1 blouse out every night and wore to school the next day = this was in high school. I still have this friend to this day, 40 something years later and so glad I was not so superficial as to just like someone for what they had or did not have.
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I am soooo glad. Even with her gone
I still don't plan on watching it. When they brought on Rosie, I saw a side of Barbara and Elizabeth that I don't like. I never cared for Joy so guess the show just isn't for me!!! I liked Meredith and Star. The original group made for some interesting, intelligent conversations. Don't need any more crap TV.
bye bye Rosie
You are soooo not alone! sm
I've lived through this, and this year was no great shakes, though not because of presents. We don't make a big deal out of presents at Christmas -- a few nice presents for the kids (teenagers), and DH and I don't actually exchange gifts, but we do go and spend time together one night during the holiday season, usually dinner at a local spot we like. I'm very happy with that arrangement. If I want something for myself, I can buy it when I want it, so it's the time together that I value the most.
Unfortunately, I had a horrible Christmas this year, but it was because I felt completely unappreciated. I spent weeks preparing things, all the usual traditions that we do in our house, decorating, cookies, entertaining, all that sort of thing. I like doing it, but it's a lot of work. Christmas Eve came, and we went to church. After church, I asked to go for a drive to look at lights. DH made a fuss over it, and I made a fuss back, saying that it was one thing that I enjoy, and given all that I do, it sure would be nice if he'd kick in and do something *I* like to do just this one night. He then insisted that the boys had to go, too, because, "If I have to do it, then they have to do it, too." You'd think I had asked him to clean toilets or something! I didn't really care if the boys came. they are 16, 17 and 18 years old. I didn't expect that to be their idea of fun. But they were forced to go and we piled into the van. We started down the street, and they were all heckling and making rude comments. We only drove for 15 minutes when I told DH to go home. I had enough. It was no fun, and DH was goading the boys on. It certainly wasn't any fun for me. They stopped laughing and talking at that point. When we got home, I lined them all up and recounted everything I do for them, told them that they were ungrateful little so-and-so's for not at least trying to tolerate something that interests me, and since I was the one who shops for all of them, and I'm the one who knows where their presents are hidden, they were stuck for Christmas until I darn well felt in the Christmas spirit again. I went up to my room, stuck my iPod in my ears and went to sleep. By 10:30 the next morning, still no present opening. I didn't feel like it. I had another conversation with them about how unappreciated I felt, that they don't even bother to say "Thanks, mom. Dinner was delicious," when I make them dinners every night. "Ever wonder where your clean underwear comes from? There's no maid in this house!"
It wasn't a pleasant Christmas morning, but men never seem to understand what we want -- to be appreciated. And most of us aren't brought up to bang our own drum, but you know what? I'm no saint. I can't give and give and give just for the sake of being a "good" wife and mother. I'm not a doormat. Men have to be told that once in a while, just once in a while, they need to say thank you, make the females in their lives the center of attention, and not be so stinking selfish. It took a while, because they thought I was mad because they made a fuss about going to see Christmas lights. I really had to work at getting them to see that I was mad because they couldn't do this ONE little thing that I like to do, and that they get a darn lot of good things in life because I orchestrate it for them. They need to realize that all of that doesn't come from fairy dust and wishing. MOM does it. Once in a while, be nice.
OK, so how the story ended . . . I didn't make them dinner on Christmas. (Luckily, no company for us.) They made themselves bacon and eggs. I wasn't hungry and I told them I was going to take care of myself. Today, 12/26, is my birthday. One son made me breakfast this a.m. They all said they were sorry, and DH told me this morning that he was sorry for setting a bad example for them on Christmas Eve and making the boys go. He also gave me a very nice birthday present.
I have cousins that grew up there
The lakes down there are beautiful going from Chatta into Guntersville. I probably did not appreciate it much as a child but a few years ago took my father on trip there and was blown away by the scenery.
I grew up and lived in PA
until I made a few moves down south a few years back and moved to Ohio a year ago. I am about 45 minutes now from my hometown in PA, but my hometown in PA is just 45 minutes away from Pittsburgh. We could be close enough to be neighbors!
We grew up going to the same church
until we were about 11 or so. He moved and I didn't see him again until my senior year of school when he moved back into our home town. He looked me up and we started dating. We got married when I graduated high school and we will have been married for 36 years in June of this year. I was 19 and he was 21.
Not sure about that, but I grew up on scrapple
Scrapple contains basically what you mentioned and it's pretty darn good. It's all good meat, but it's basically scraps, hence the name.
I don't mind Spam either, at least when it's fried.
My son won't even try Spam, but not because of Monty Python. He won't eat it because of the movie Waterworld where they were throwing it out to the masses of people on the boat and the cans were marked Smeat! LOL!
Every death comes in 3s. I grew up with that saying.
It does turn out to be true in a lot of families. So...we have Ed McMahnon (sp), Farrah, and now Michael. If no one died within the next couple days (I think that is also 3), it should be okay.
Dang! I haven't felt this bad since Elvis died.
Soooo sorry for your loss
 (((Hugs)))
That is soooo true.
Sometimes I post under Me, but it is I, Misha with the dirty-nose dog. And you're right, you have to snap the picture quick because the dirt falls off their Teflon-like fur.
In the first picture of your dog I have a strange urge to start tufting her. In the next picture she's all brushed out - whew. It's hard to control that urge to pluck loose tufts.
Soooo true! LOL! nm
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Soooo happy! sm
As the Tacoma newspaper headline read, Phinally! Wish I could skip work and go to the parade...just like when I skipped school in 1980 for that parade.
Soooo....I'm getting braces...please sm
Does anyone have any advice for taking care of braces that the dentist doesn't tell you? What to expect while getting them on, how to take care of them afterward, etc. I've never had to deal with braces before...no kids. And I'm not sure what to expect. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks
That is soooo funny!
Do any of you cat lovers have info/ideas about allergy to cats? I absolutely love them but immediately start itching then wheezing when I get close to one. This year my daughter started feeding a stray cat. A few months later the cat started "talking" to her, and shortly thereafter led 3 little kittens up to her. Forward 7 or so months to our freezing winter and 3 more darling kittens. She set them up in a spare bedroom, but of course they are beginning to trapse out and about (4 weeks old). They are adorable. The 2 grandsons of course are carrying them all over the house and bringing them to show grandma how cute they are. So far Benadryl and a lot of CPAP is keeping me breathing. An allergist told me years ago that taking "shots" did not help with continuous exposure. In another 3 months or less, hopefully, the weather will be where they can safely be set up outside. Also my daughter has promised they will all go to the vet and the momma will be spaded, and whatever else needs to be done for them. But 8 cats!! and they are all adorable. Help!! Thank you ever so much for any advice/input/experience you have.
I grew up in a suburb of Milwaukee, and
didn't move until I was 17, just in time for senior year of HS, thank you very much.
When I went back for my 20-year reunion, I was one of the very few who left. Most people, like 98%, were living in suburbs of Milwaukee still! Yet I, one of the least adventurous people ever born, was now living 1000 miles away, in the South. Unbelievable.
I grew up with fire ants and believe me sm
You KNOW when you've been bitten. They aren't called fire ants for nothing. We do think it might be insect(s) from the tree we bought (see post "something occurred to us").
grew up in St. Albans, mom now lives in
Hurricane, used to go to Point Pleasant all the time for Sunday drives. Wanted to see that movie but haven't gotten around to it. I am old enough to remember the Marshall plane crash - couldn't bring myself to see it.
No kids here, but I grew up w/grandparents.
They actually lived in our childhood home with us. Our mother was a single parent trying to get off welfare back in the 60s...going to night school to become an LPN and rearin' the 5 of us during the day. I have no doubt her parents saved her tuckas by doing all they did for her (and us!) back then. I have nothing but incredibly fond memories and miss them all immensely.
There's something to be said for families that pull together like that when times are tough, or even not so tough. Some days I regret not having one of my own, but I'm just waaaay too selfish and I know I'd make a horrible parent. Plus, I have no social support at all and I would be 100% on my own...certainly not the ideal way to raise a kid or two.
Fantastic assets grandparents can be...so long as they're not criminals or anything.
This sounds soooo good - sm
do you get this out or you make it yourself? If you make it yourself, how?
I would fight you for that! He is soooo sexy....nm
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awwww....soooo sweet! Look
at those beautiful, loving eyes. I love animals and all 7 of ours are my children!
I SOOOO agree with you. You are spot on. nm.
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I grew up in the town of Catskill, right next to the river.
I miss thoore brisk mornings.
I grew up on Tijuana Brass and Booker T and the MGs.
Absolutely love those groups!
Also Charlie Pride (now that's embarrassing).
Cool pics and ideas. We grew our
tomatoes in 5 gallon buckets last year, but not upside down. This year, we have 50(!) tomato plants growing. Think DH went a little too far.
I like the other idea I saw about using garbage bags, too. I wonder how that went. We might try that with a couple plants; and I also like using the hanging planters. I have plenty of those left over from flowers.
The idea of putting basil in the top is also a good idea, but I'm wondering if the tomatoes growing upright after a while would shade out the basil. Do you know?
I am soooo decorating challenged and need help. I want to put some color
on my bedrom walls, I'm thinking a light sage color. If I paint the walls the sage color, does the ceiling get painted the same or an off/white? If I paint the ceiling the same color as the walls wont the room feel much smaller and "cave" like? I have comforter with olive, sage, dark brown colors. Average size room with windows on 2 walls so there will be light coming in.
Thanks for your ideas.
Soooo let's talk casinos and gambling
I had lunch today with my women's golf group at a buffet inside one of the local casinos. I was astounded to see how many people were in there, gambling away, mid-day, mid-week. I must admit, I've never been in a casino before this afternoon, so I am totally in the dark as to what the appeal is.
Any of you here enjoy the games, the gambling, the atmosphere (at least it wasn't smoky!)? What's the draw, cuz I sure don't get it?
Thanks for taking me back home. I grew up in Kona, HI. nm
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Sherri...I just grew a great crop of catnip (sm)
If you want to e-mail me (just click on my name there) your addy, I'd be happy to send you an envelope of fresh picked stuff! My old toothless cat still loves it and it gets him so buzzed he just rolls around in his own drool for a good 20 minutes and then he swats at flies that aren't there! Good stuff, grown in Maine, 100% pesticide free! You have my word that it's safe! 
Easy! I grew up on quick tomato sauces.
It's very simple, and I do it without a recipe. I do my "light" sauce without meat in a very large pan, but you can do it in a medium to large pot.
I heat the pan over medium heat, I put several "glugs" of olive oil, probably a little less than a quarter cup. Toss in a clove of finely diced garlic (or more if you like), and about a half of a large onion finely diced. Saute for just a bit on medium heat to get everything softened and translucent, but not browned. Toss in tomatoes, either 4-6 cups of diced peeled and seeded fresh tomatoes, or one large can of crushed tomatoes. Add two or three leaves of chopped fresh basil, or about a tablespoon of dried basil. Let it all simmer for about 20 to 30 minutes (longer if using fresh tomatoes), and that's the very basic tomato sauce. I add salt to taste only at the end after it's reduced a bit. You can cook it longer if you like it thicker.
I vary it based on what how I'm using it. I sometimes add mushrooms or peppers, or a little hot pepper flakes to spice it up. If I'm using it with meat, I also add a little wine. Occasionally, the tomatoes might be just a little on the acid side, and then I'll throw in a pinch or two of sugar to cut that.
I don't use much sauce on my pasta or on meat, just a little bit to coat it and a bit more to top it to make it pretty. My grandmother and all of our Italian neighbors used these sauces pretty sparingly by American standards. I think in this country, we tend to really slather on the spaghetti sauce, so this recipe may not make as much as you want. If you want more, you can easily double or triple it.
I grew up in FL, too, and we got these every couple of years, no permission slips. sm
I forget who did it, but it was one of the service organizations in town. The Lions Club did the hearing tests, somebody else did vision. They do it as a service to those families who either can't afford the exam or are just ignorant to the fact that it should be done. There's nothing invasive about it, it's a service to the community. I understand your kid has a special situation, but save your energy for something bigger.
Oh my gosh.. I agree he was soooo terrible! Sanjaya here we go again. nm
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I soooo love Friday Night Lights, except sm
they are actucally putting it on Friday Nite. I am afraid that many people that watch this show actucally go to Friday nite hight school football. My hubby and son always go see our high school team play. I just don't want them to have low ratings and get dropped.
AW he is soooo cute. We just adopted Chip last week - sm
He is what the shelter called a beagle mix, but if he is mixed with anything I will eat my hat... Okay I do not have a hat, but I would be surprised...LOL.
Here is a pic of him..
[IMG]http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o182/mamahawn/chip3.jpg[/IMG].
I hope your transition is as easy as ours was. We have 2 other rescue doggies, both lab mixes and female and the three of them were fast friends. Of course we have no diningroom left with 3 creats in it, but who cares...
FEELINGS. . . SOOOO sick of that stupid thing! NM
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oooh, the Pine Barrens. Is that near Burlington? (grew up in North J)
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Soooo cute! I have a lab/great dane mix... scary to some 'cause he is so big. But he is a big wus
Are those mini-pins! A while ago I was running with Walter (my dog) and we came across a lady with 2 mini-pins. Walter wants to meet everyone and the lady said they were friendly so we let them sniff, but all of a sudden they were all over Walter with little tiny flashing teeth. Walter yiped like a little baby and skulked away and the lady said "oh my they never do that." Why do they always say that, like it is my big dog's fault?
Well anyway, just this weekend I saw the mini pins in her car at the market when by coincidence I parked next to it. When I opened my door they were up on the dash and leaping at the crack in the window and snarling and barking at me. I know they could not get to me but I cringed and hustled away. They looked really scary! I swear I felt like they could jump up on me and grab on something like my ears or something and not let go.
But I am sure they are sweet... NOT! But it goes to show you never know... they are all animals, after all. And like people all have very distinct personalities, very much formed by their family (the people family, I mean). I could tell the owner of the mini pins was kind of a ---- well you know, not that nice... she left them in the hot car, after all... and they were pretty much a product of their upbringing.
I too actually think pits have some of the sweetest dispositions I have ever met in a dog.
Honey, I grew up on the south shore of Long Island, NY in hurricane territory...
ya know how to duck and cover. I've never been through a major earthquake or a real tsunami yet though. Hey, there's always time for that.  Cat
Glad everything is okay! nm
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Wow...Glad your not my mom!
Life is way to short. I had a stepmother like you. Once I lost my mittens and it was freezing outside and I had to walk. This wench actually got in her car, found me on my way to school in a snow storm and took the mismtached pair that I had found in a box. She was an awful woman and I never saw her again after I was 16 and left the house. I hope she has as miserable a life now as she deserves. Don't be a petty witch with your children. They will resent you in the end, may be even slash your perfect tires....
Glad to help!
I never really watched Frasier. I know, my loss from what I hear. Sounds very funny! Will have to start watching the reruns :)
glad i'm not you
Well aren't you just a ray of sunshine and full of compassion. It's not always about the almighty dollar. You get what you give in life and that includes taking care of ALL of God's creatures. You have no heart.
Glad I did it
I never went to the ER (I have to be almost dead before I go), so I suffered about 4 episodes before I went to the doctor. I didn't know what it was. Each attack got worse. After the last one, which was horribly painful, I went to the doctor,and didn't hesitate to get surgery done. I had a "rock garden", the tech called it. It was PACKED with stones! I had to wait almost 2 months. I was so afraid to eat I lost 12 pounds in 2 weeks! No exercise either! THAT was easy! Having never been in a hospital before as a patient, nor even having had any kind of procedure, the anticipation of the surgery was MUCH worse than the procedure. But I was a healthy person with no previous surgeries. I had almost no pain after, and took it easy. I went back to work after 3 days. I don't know what the risk would be with your recent surgery. It's something to talk out FULLY with your doctor.
You'll make the right decision.
I am soo glad it's
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I'm glad you did. (nm)
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Glad to see you came out okay!
Was your dad in the picture, by the way? You said it depends a lot on the parent, which is true, but it seems you did well for yourself on your own without much help from your mom. I have always believed that kids are born with their own set personality and demeanor, and that the parents can help foster good kids and teach them right from wrong along the way. Seems you were born a good seed.
thanks - so glad someone could help -
this is the only thing I miss about an office setting - someone always knew answers when I didn't. Home Depot, here I come! I was going to build chicken wire cages around them, but it is chipmunks that won't help either.
I had them done and am glad I did...sm
In high school I had allergy testing done which showed I was allergic to dust and mold, and we were able to control my symptoms by making changes around the house to cut down on these (i.e. plastic mattress and pillow covers).
A few years ago I developed other allergic symptoms and had food testing done which revealed that I have 3 allergies to chemicals in foods, and once I eliminated those food sources the problems went immediately away.
Good luck to you. Not everyone who has allergies needs allergy shots, but if you do they should help you. Even my dog had allergy shots and they helped her significantly!
So glad for you - sm
It's so hard for the families to not hear anything for such long periods of time.
I completely understand.
Prayers for your nephew as well as all of our servicemen and women.
Glad I Could Help
I was channeling my 4 year old. LOL.
Glad I could help a bit.
It is definitely going to be longer than 2 weeks though. Not sure on the recovery time for a vaginal so I would ask your doctor. Hopefully, your situation can be resolved without it. Again, good luck.
I'm so glad you took her
and the vet did the right tests. I'm sure you'll both be feeling much better now.
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