I am so worried. Anyone have this experience? My 5 year old son sm
Posted By: Very normal family on 2007-05-10
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has been caught putting on his 2 year old brother's diapers. He got up in the middle of the night the other night and I caught him. He got embarrassed. He does it during the day behind locked doors. He does not wet his bed. I kept finding clean, used diapers around the house and thought I was losing my mind.
I am not comfortable discussing this with pediatrician yet. He's been doing it for about 2 weeks. I can't imagine what this could be. He gets really embarrassed if I try talking to him about it. He clearly knows it is not right. He has no faults at all - plays baseball, very boyish young child - and then this creeps up. Anyone out there know what this could be?
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Should I be worried about my 8 year-old's reaction? sm
Last night my 11 year old son and 8 year old daughter were watching one of those rescue shows on TV....they had just show a little girl being found safely on the beach after wandering a couple of miles away from her parents. Then they started the story of an 11 or 12 year old boy....I had no idea they would ever have a rescue show on TV if it had been unsuccessful but the boy died! My daughter was devastated. It was almost bedtime, no less, so I held her a while and she cried and I consoled her. Then I took her to tuck her in and said prayers and sang to her like every night...but she told me she was feeling really strange inside because of the show she had seen. I tried to calm her down by staying with her and rubbing her back and continuing to sing but she started shaking really hard...and continued to shake. I told her that I had looked up the story on the internet and that it wasn't a true story (a lie to try to make her feel better), and she was glad, but she continued to shake. So I took her to the other room and rocked her for about an hour (which of course I have not done much of in the last 7 years or so). She fell asleep and then I went to put her in her bed and she started shaking again. The shaking was so bad that I could feel it through her covers!! She is just a tiny little girl! She said the shaking was so bad it was making her legs and back hurt :( I ended up taking her to my room and letting her sleep with me but I am concerned that she would get upset to that point. I know the show was sad, but is it normal for a child to shake like that? It really scared me!
We had the same experience last year
My daughter got them last year in second grade. She also got a reaction from the Nix, and I was reluctant to try anything else on her. I did some searching on the web and found that over-the-counter Denorex, which is a dandruff shampoo, kills them. There are two different kinds of Denorex, and you have to get the one with coal tar in it, it is stronger.
Anyway, we washed her hair with it and let it sit in her hair for about 5-10 minutes. It does tingle/sting a little bit, but much better than the Nix. When we rinsed her hair, I can't tell you how many of those things just fell out!!! I used the lice comb, and she only had a few unhatched nits that I could find. I washed her hair every day for a week, just in case there were any left, and we never found another one.
The other thing we do EVERY DAY now is to spray her hair with tea tree oil. You can find this at Wal-Mart or any drug store, either where they have vitamins/supplements or actually in the lice aisle. Put a 4-5 drops of the tea tree oil in a spray bottle full of water and spray this on her hair every day before she leaves in the morning. You don't have to saturate her hair, just kind of mist it. For some reason, lice hate the smell of this stuff, and it repels them.
I know how frustrating this is, and I only had one child to treat while you have 3! Good luck with this.
20-year old personal clinical experience
is simply not relevant. Very recent clinical investigation by international health organizations simply is.
And we should stop focusing on only the physical ramifications (of which there are many) and acknowledge the potential for psychological effects. And before you all tell me you think your kids have no psychological side effects, allow me to reject this out of hand, since it is not backed up by anything comparative.
As I said, we may do it in a sterile environment, but it is still an atrocity.
My experience when my husband died last year
My husband died suddenly last year. I was devastated and not thinking really clear, but my family was very supportive and the funeral director was very helpful. My husband wanted to be cremated. The biggest single expense is the casket and when cremating, it gets burned with you. If you're being cremated, they now "rent" you a casket for the viewing. It's totally sanitary. There is a removable liner that is put in and the usual silk/taffetta liner is put over that. It's no different other than buying a casket, other than you don't pay the high price and no one knows the difference. It was a beautiful, very expensive wood casket. We had a very nice viewing and service with all the amenities, prayer cards, notices, music, flowers, etc. The total cost was around 4000.00. I have his ashes, they are going to be spread this summer in a place he had always said he wanted them to be. I wasn't trying to do it as cheap as possible, but it was nice to not have to spend a small fortune.
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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worried
Is there anyone in her family that it can be reported to so they can get her some help. Help is definitely required!! May be you can talk to her and see if she would be willing to go to counseling. What about even asking her doctor for samples because she cannot afford. most docs will do that.
I got a little worried
when she did that last kick at the end, it looked she hurt herself. We rewound it a couple of times and it definitely looked like pain on her face.
I would have like to see her perform alone. Not a big fan of Beyonce
I was worried as well...
For the same reasons, I thought the chinese girl was going to take it all the way with the way they were scoring our girls but in the end the judges came through thankfully!!
Has me worried too.
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more than a little worried
I have been watching my 403B get smaller and smaller. At this rate I will be working until I am 75! I know all the reasons to keep the money invested, buy low, sell high, etc., etc., but every time I get my statements I just want to cry.
Would you be worried
Would you be worried if at 13 your daughter had a lot of friends who are boys? My daughter also has a couple female friends but not around this area. I am working so I can't take her someplace... all she wants to do today is hang out with boys. She is downstairs in the kitchen now making lunch for the 2 neighbor boys because I told her she couldn't go out for pizza with them. These kids are driving me crazy today! What would you do?
They should be more worried about the effects
especially in a larger state such as California. Smoking is an addiction, but I personally feel that there more of a problem with obesity. People are trying to quit smoking, but are they really trying to quit eating? JMO. What someone does on their own property, whether it be an apartment, townhome, etc., is their own business as long as there are no laws broken.
I think even Simon is getting worried
He said if Sanjaya wins he will quit. He must be getting a lot of votes. Even Howard Stern is pushing people to vote for the kid.
He treats you like that and you are worried about where he
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You are so welcome!! I was also worried about the smell,
especially since I noticed it was also for horse manes, but it sure did help our hair. So glad it helped your little one!! :)
I'm in CA and was up all night worried ...
that I might have to evacuate because of the fires here. My kids are scared. My cell service is down so can't call my PS So, I emailed her early this morning to let her know I might have to be evacuated and if so won't be able to work. No answer. Emailed her supervisor. No answer. Luckily, (so far) we haven't had to evacuate, but I am sooooooo tired from staying up all night with worry and from getting prepared in case we do have to leave. On top of that, I feel I have to work since I didn't get a reply. So I'm trying.
So, whatever. Who cares if I get a reply. But then I started thinking, wow, they REALLY just don't care. It's not like I'm suprised, of course, but still, when something like this happens it really just make you feel bad .  I'm just trying to console myself thinking that maybe they are just too busy or both of them didn't get my 2 separate emails.
In comparison, my sister, who works for local huge defense company.....Let's see, her supervisor called HER 3 times already to see how her family was and gave her (and other employees affected) the entire week off WITH pay. I don't expect that much, but even a call to say it's okay to take a PTO day would have been nice.
I would be worried about illness.
Especially with such a drastic change from the kid he was. As an example, schizophrenia's usual age of onset for men is age 16-20 and is accompanied by many of the same behavior you mention.
Certainly, if he had some other serious illness he may be trying to consciously or unconsciously push you away or alienate you rather than tell you what is going on.
I dunno, it just seems that there should be a compelling reason (illness/substance abuse) for a personality change this huge out of the blue.
Good luck with this, my prayers are with you.
Worried about autism.
Hey everyone, I was just hoping someone with experience in autism can either confirm or shoot down some fears for me. My mother says that she is 90% sure my son has autism, and although we have had concerns before she mentioned anything, the doc said a couple of months ago to wait until he is 2. He is 22 months now and his next appointment is next month. This has really been worrying my spouse and I recently and I was just hoping for some input.
My son shows some definite red flags, but at the same time seems perfectly normal. For instance:
RED FLAGS: (1) His speech is pretty delayed. He will say "uh oh" and "daddy" and a few other words, but nothing else really and it is near impossible to get him to say any of the words he knows with prompting. He babbles jibberish constantly, however. (2) Sometimes it seems like he is ignoring us, but this is usually when he is occupied with something else. Sometimes he will look at us to his name, sometimes not. It does appear that he is deaf at times. (3) He never points at anything that he wants or is interested in. He will either get it himself or drag us by the finger to whatever he wants. (4) He lines objects up. They are never in any particular order or color and he doesn't get upset when we mix them up or take away one of the objects, however, they are usually the same type of object, ie. cars, dvd cases, blocks. (5) He won't give kisses or hugs when asked, however, does without being asked every once in awhile, hugs much more than kisses. (6) Compared to other children, he seems very behind in listening and really interacting with others.
NORMAL BEHAVIOR: (1) He loves other people and children and will often act silly if someone comes over to our house, showing off. He will bring out toys that he hasn't played with for awhile. (2) He isn't afraid to look us or others in the eyes and always has a ready smile. (3) He loves to cuddle and has no problem with it unless he wants to play. (4) If one of us pretends to cry or if he accidently smacks a friend who is his age and they cry, he will look concerned and give them or us a hug (and a kiss if we are lucky.) (5) He plays with his toys for the most part how they should be played with and gives his favorite stuffed bear rides in his trucks. (6) He has no problems with schedule changes and loves to go places different. (7) He has no repetitive movements with his hands or body, at least none we have noticed.
After actually listing these things, I feel a little more at ease, however the red flags are pretty strong and are very apparent on a day to day basis, especially his speech. I'm thinking he is somewhere on that spectrum at least. Thanks for listening as this has been the cause of some tears lately.
If you are worried, call a different vet.
I think diabetes is hard to deal with when the dog won't eat properly. There are so many variables that I think you should call a different vet. Good luck!
Are you worried about our economy?
so many jobs moved offshore, banks failing, mortgages being defaulted on. It's got me a little worried.
I am seriously worried about Paula Deen
Every time I see her on her show, she looks bigger and bigger.
Poor lady, she is so sweet, I really like her show, but she just uses an obscene amount of butter... so so fattening. I don't see how she going to make it, eating the way she does. Yikes.
Everything she makes looks delicious but I know I can't make or eat any of it!
Only idiots who can't read need to be worried
It clearly says you shouldn't take them with high-fat meals.
I've been taking them for 2 weeks now and have not had any such effects. I'm not on a super low-fat diet, I just use common sense.
Gotta admit -- I was a little worried
Not because I doubted their abilities, but because it seemed like in the first rotation or 2, they were showing some serious bias to the Chinese. Shawn Johnson's balance beam was way better than Ying Yilan's and yet her score was ranked higher (not talking about the difficulty value, just the execution score) Even the commentators last night were talking about it. Nastia's uneven bars got a lower score than it deserved as well. I'm glad to see the judges got their heads out of their you-know-whats for the last 2 rotations and gave these girls the scores they deserved.
I do feel somewhat bad for the Chinese girl, though. I hope she doesn't lose a few fingers or toes over this. Of course as young as she is, I'm sure she'd recover quickly.  That's something else that seemed strange to me, the American girls seemed very emotional and yet the Chinese - nothing (at least not last nice). Could that be because our girls have a few more hormones running through them, like any normal 16-year-old would? Hmmmm
Worried, horrific rib pain (I think) and wondered
if anyone else has ever had this, what did it turn out to be. I was diagnosed with fibro but this is really unbearable. Any thoughts?
Isn't life kind of short to be worried
probably peanuts compared to what we make working. Do you really think people on disability live the good life? JMO.
You're worried about the mother? Doesn't sound like she did a very good job herself! nm
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Are you the Anon who was worried abt possibly violence or hubby taking your kids? m
Best of luck to you for taking the steps to change your life. I wish you well.
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
A 17-year-old would have the same goals as a 20 year old (sm)
Only the 20 year old is hopefully more responsible and based on what you say about his character, would be a better choice than someone her own age.
I have a 9-year-old son that sounds just like your 10 year old...
Lately he has been so negative about everything...trying to make him have a good summer and whenever I take him somewhere, he is just a brat when we get home...I think they are called tweens at this age...not quite teenagers but have the attitude like one---LOL
We skipped it entirely last year, and THIS year?
This 40-year-old got dumped for a 30-year-old
http://www.gqmagazine.co.uk/CoolNewStuff/Photos.aspx?StoryID=53859
This year will be our 35th year
The first couple years it was literally 5 or 6 times a day every day (more on the weekends). Over time it gradually slowed down (once a day) and over the past few years its been 2 or 3 times a week. Not sure that is average or not. There were times were I felt it was too much and him not enough, then there were times where I wanted it more and he didn't. Guess everyone goes through a phase. I guess because of how long we've been together, now it's just comfortable - nothing exciting about it. Just a routine. I have to make it exciting in my mind and pretend I'm someone else.
I don't know what it is, but you are correct...after awhile the lust and infatuation wears off and you get in a routine. I guess for us it was that we really didn't know each other when we married (we dated for 3 weeks then eloped). Once I got to know him it was too late. Now 35 years later it is just comfort (and amazingly we never once used birth control and never had any kids). My mom still tells me she's amazed at the frequency of our encounters that not even once did I even have a "close call" with getting pregnant.
But 35 years once or twice a week and 3 or 4 times on weekends. Not sure if that is normal.
Do any of you experience this???
Do any of you transcriptionists experience severe pedal edema with foot pain? My left foot is quite swollen, has been for quite some time, but I recently developed rather severe pain in my left foot, tender to touch, and painful to walk. Ideas what the pain might be from, and do any of you experience this? I'm sure the edema is from sitting, but the pain??
Anybody have experience with
smokless tobacco, snuff and what the effects are? My son is 18, will be 19 in 3 months. I found out over this past summer he was using this and I was not very happy about it. Does it get you high or something? He has a glassy-eyed look after he uses this product. I have gone on line to read about it, but it only states it puts nicotine into your system.
He said he would stop while he was away at college. He has been home since last Friday and this morning I just found out he is still using it and lying to me. He has been a runner all throughout high school and very athletic. I am very saddened by this development in his life.
Yes, he is an adult but not of age to buy this or even alcohol. That also was an issue over the summer and do not want to think about that today as I will really have a melt down. Any thoughts or advise would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
A very sad Mom today.
No experience
But thank God they found it early. Keep up your spirits and vitamins, keep your body as healthy as you can, eat the right foods and stay physically and mentally strong, cancer is no longer a death sentence remember that...
My experience..........sm
We lived in south Florida when our son was born, and at 6 weeks we traveled 16 hours to see our family. Our daughter was 3-1/2. We just took our time....I stopped to breastfeed him, took walks at rest areas, and still made good time. Mine tended to drop off to sleep as soon as the car began moving, so that made it easier. Our daughter would get car sick and had to sit in the front seat to avoid this, so my husband or I always got the backseat anyway. As long as you don't push yourself, it could actually do you good to get away and enjoy yourselves.
I had the same experience (SM)
I have no cellulite anymore either. I went from 235.5 to 112 pounds. I do have a little loose skin on my belly and thighs, but it looks like I had 3 big kids (which I did-my 10 pounder was my biggest). I'm 27, so my skin is a little forgiving still, but the cellulite is gone.
I also had my fair amount of cellulite. It can go away.
Very very little experience
I think the boss must be paying the MT very low and expecting me to pick up the slack and basically retype a lot of it. I'm not happy.
This latest person... she worked a little in a doc's office. No real specialty. She is making terrible errors. It's dangerous. What's worse... the boss can't fix the errors. I really have to do it all. The boss is not all that experienced. Only in the sense of being a business person.
It has been my experience...
that dealing with foreign people (NOT ALL...but some) is extremely difficult. Our favorite Chinese restaurant for example, call in to place an order and after every selection, she says "that all???" Uh no...more ordering..."that all???" My husband said something to her once about it, like asking her to stop doing that, and she said "we very, very busy, hurry up with your order...no time to think about it....what you want?" UHHH......
I can tell you that from my experience sm
it is possible. My experience may be different from most others, but I have seen it happen and end happily. My father divorced my mother when I was 11. I wasn't happy about the divorce (what child would be) but even as a young adult I saw it was for the best. A year later he married my step-mother and they will celebrate 29 years in Sept. They are still incredibly happy. There were many hard times (my older brother and I went to live with them 6 weeks after they married and she had a 5yr old son from her first marriage)and times when I think they almost wanted to just give up, but they didn't and I for one am happy they are still together.
Here's some of my own experience . . .
Your comment about his reading your mind after 10 years caught my attention. I've been married for 23 years, and have known my husband for 27.
Also, I'm the youngest of 7 and the only girl in my family. I have three sons, and I'm an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop. I've lived all my life in a circle of males. Don't ever expect them to read your mind. I know there are plenty of men who are sensitive and can anticipate the feelings of others. In a very wide generalization, well... most men aren't that good at it. They actually appreciate it when you clearly state what you want.
My other words of wisdom about relationships with men... the silent treatment is useless. Don't bother. It's just a respite from arguing for most of them. Speak up. Try to stay calm when you do. (This is MY problem! I'm very passionate when I argue!)
I'm sorry you had such a bad time. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a good talk together about things. Better yet, maybe some counseling would help. In the heat of an argument, alls sorts of things are said. Maybe we mean them when we say them, but later, in calmer moments with hindsight, we wish they were unsaid. Establish goals with your husband, and then move forward together. Get help doing this, if you need it.
My experience
I was allowed to do whatever I wanted when I went to college (I'm only 25 so we're not talking THAT long ago ) as long as I got good grades (my mom was helping pay for college). However, I also had a full time job and went to school full time, had my own car financed by myself, and had my own apartment that I paid for. BIG difference. If my mother had been financing my car with the title in her name, I would understand her wanting to have control over what I did with it. Would I have liked it at 18, no, but I feel that it is the right way to do things. If he wrecks in that car - guess who foots the bill, as I'm sure you know. However, I would ask, does he now or did he ever want to work to pay for a car, etc. and you told him no? If so, I could see how he would get angry. I was allowed to work even in high school as long as my grades were good. And I was allowed to go out with friends as long as I went to work and the grades were good. It taught me how to be responsible come college time.
My experience - sm
First let me say how sorry I am for your loss. A lot of people who have never been through this kind of a loss early in the pregnancy do not realize how hard it really is to work through. I had my miscarriage at 7 weeks and got my period 6 weeks after that. I pray that this time goes easy for you physically and that the next pregnancy is healthy and full term..
Sue-Ellen
In my experience - sm
My family doc is one of the old fashioned types, in that when you see him you see HIM, not a PA or a substitute. He also knows what I do for a living and respects my judgment and takes whatever I say into consideration.
On the other hand, we've been trying to get a diagnosis for my daughter's stomach problems and I have yet to find a doctor who puts any credence into my input. Most just sidestep or just pooh-pooh anything I say.
So, you see, there are both. Your aunt, unfortunately, probably has either not had a doc who listens or (most likely, given her age) is still in the "doctors are gods, don't question them" mindset. Don't let it affect your relationship with her, by any means!
Good luck with your ribs. Nothing worse than an undiagnosed syndrome that you can't treat!
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