I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
Posted By: MQer on 2006-12-06
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hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad. 
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You seem to be depressed. You should be SM
getting some joy from life, your work, your family, your friends. Those are the most important things.
Is there any way you can see a therapist? I would talk to your family physician about antidepressants or see who he/she can recommend you see.
I know he is depressed...but
he refuses to ask a doctor about it and get medication. I have tried multiple times to get him to. I have to take antidepressants myself. If I don't I don't want to do anything. I have told him this, but he won't listen. So I can't force him. I let him eat when he comes over and all. But what I am concerned about is when he is evicted he can't live here and how do I tell him that? My husband says absolutely not because he sold a mobile home he had a few months back that was paid for and blew the money. He said he shouldn't have sold it and he would have a place to live. He said he cannot live here. I have to tell him if he asks no. And he does hint about it. My husband is a truckdriver and I know when he is gone dad is gonna say well can I just sleep here while he is gone. My husband says no he is not. He said he has to learn to stand on his own two feet. How do I tell him? How would you go about it? I thought I would just say you have to talk to Steven (my husband). Of course he isn't gonna ask my husband.
What to do, What to do?
No way! He may be depressed,
but he created this huge mess of his life. It is not his daughter's responsibility to pick up the pieces for him. (Just to fill in the back story, dad blew all his money on a mistress. Mom didn't just throw him out.)
I think the OP should have her husband tell her dad in no uncertain terms that he WILL NOT be staying with them when he loses his apartment. Since the OP understandably has a weak spot for her dad, her hubby should step in BEFORE he is out on the street, look ole' dad in the eye and tell him it's time to be a man and stop the whining.
Just wondering, OP, has your dad ever asked you or your mother to forgive him for all the pain he caused?
James Denton sm
He used to live in Nashville and whenever he comes to town he gets interviewed by the TV station where he used to work and he always seems like such a cool guy. He has got the looks AND personality.
Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
I'm officially depressed
If I made $80,000/year , I would think I was rich. . I am single but only make about 19,000 per year - thank God my child is out on her own.
I feel exactly the same. I am very depressed and
anxious now about everything and don't have the money for it this year. I have to find a way to tell my nieces, etc. that I am not buying gifts this year, but it is hard. My mom is elderly and ill and things are not right for it this year. Good luck to you.
The Quickie by James Patterson
They should make a movie out of that one.
James and the Giant Peach
by Roald Dahl.....Also, another macbre piece came out when my boys were young in the late 80's early 90's....The Thief of Always by Clive Barker....We had all the Little House on the Prarie books by Laura Ingalls Wilder, anything Mark Twain, Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway .....My mother's a teacher and we're all voracious readers...What wasn't in our library at home, I just went and roamed the stacks at the library....Most kids these days don't even know what the stacks are. War and Peas...(food fight!).... you crack me up Hayseed! Cat
She sounds depressed. Sorry if that offends
xx
Just venting somewhat about depressed parents sm
I feel the need to vent a little about my parents. I talk sometimes with my hubby but he doesn't give much input. I'm close with my parents (I'm 36 they are in their mid 50s). My dad has always been controlling and negative (causing stress on our family). I'm an only child. I'm not going to go into deep details about stuff. My parents are not financially stable. My mom is a hard worker, always has been. My dad hasn't worked for almost 9 years. He rehabs houses when he has one to rehab. They are down in the dumps I think because of money. My mom gets stressed out with her job and then not having financial help from my dad, that stresses her. My dad is a negative person. He lost his mom when he was in his 20s and I'm not sure if he believes in God. He doesn't have faith at all. He gets jealous when my kids stay the night with my in-laws (my parents like my in-laws). There's no talking with my dad. The one time I tried to talk to him about something he said to me that hurt my feelings (I was 30), he didn't talk to me for a whole week. Sometimes I feel guilty for being happy. My hubby and I are fine financially, with our faith. I wish I could sit them down and talk with them, but there would be nothing but negative talk coming from them. I know that really you can't help someone unless they are ready to help themselves. It's really hard to say exactly what I feel. I love my parents, I want them to be happy, but then I feel like YOU are the only one who can change your life, or what makes you happy. I don't want disconnect from my parents (they live a mile from us). If my dad would just go get a job, I believe he'd feel so much better about himself. Anyway, I'm really sorry for rambling on like this. I just don't have anyone to talk to. I sometimes feel responsible for my parent's happiness/unhappiness. But growing up, I could never do anything right to please my dad, so I guess that's why I feel that way. There's so much I could type about, but not going to. There have been numerous times I thought to myself that I wish my mom would've never married my dad. Anyway, thanks for listening.
Actually, he sounds clinically depressed - sm
I would call the local "crisis response team" and say you think he is a danger to himself, to get him in for a 72-hour evaluation. Sounds to me like he needs to be on some meds, get some counseling, and - if he is faking - see that his threats have consequences. If he isn't faking, you'll have helped him get professional care. Good luck.
James Earl Jones and Sam Elliott nm
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Maynard James Keenan from the bands
Why would it offend me? And suggesting someone is depressed isn't a putdown anyhow. NM
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Reading Beach Road by James Patterson
xoxo
James Gandolfini, but only doing his Tony Soprano accent..
and James Earl Jones. The only woman I can come up with is not an actor, but it would be Maya Angelou, she has the most crisp, perfect command of the English language.
Keanu Reeves, Vin Diesel, Ami James from Miami Ink
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Coming from a Steelers fan, that was bad judgement by James Harrison
no need for that...probably won't get fined though because he didn't hurt the guy...
The voice of Darth Vader was James Earl Jones.
DEEP
Yeh, just reading where NFL's James Harrison's son was bitten by their family pit today
The child was 6, family dog. Severe facial wounds. The dog will be held 10 days before it is put down. Lovely animals.
I am feeling very depressed this Christmas season. I feel guilty because I
would rather it would be over. I have no money to shop, and things in general are bad in my life. I am trying very hard to focus on what matters this time of year and what it is about. Anyone else having difficulty now?
Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
Let me say, after finding someone again
I wished I had stayed alone. I am not getting divorced again at least not until the kids are grown, so I have made my own space. But let me tell you I believe living on one's own is preferable to living with the wrong person, quite preferable. At least you don't have someone controlling every single move you make!
You just finding that out?
I have 3 cats now but my older cat who died last year was a fabulous mouser at my previous home. She moved most of the time (due to age) slow until she caught a glimpse of a mouse and talk about going into third gear! She killed at least 3, that being 3 less than I had to try to jump up on a table from. I now have 3 younger cats and they might run from a mouse as they have never seen. I have cats who live next door who wander thru my yard (althought not supposed to let animals roam in my neighborhood) and my husband could care less- knows they keep the mouse population down.
Finding classmates
I have been successful at finding classmates by putting up a myspace profile at myspace.com. This is free and there are more of us (from the 70s) on their than you might think. It is primarily a social internet space for younger people, but I have located and reunited with several former classmates - it's great. There is also a section for high schools - so we are able to post about the good ole' days. It's fun being able to see pictures of old friends now, as well as their children and grandchildren. The best part is that there are no fees involved.
Where are you finding pants with
inseams of 33 inches? The usual is more like 30 to 32 inches where I shop, unless they are talls.
I was on three meds before finding the right one (sm)
Zoloft made me too sleepy, Effexor didn't do much but gave me strange buzzing sensations when stopping it. Prozac, low dose (10 mg a day) has helped a lot. I take it in the a.m. so it doesn't keep me up at night. But by the end of the day it helps me sleep. (I also take melatonin for sleep). At first you may have some palpitations when your body is getting used to the Prozac, not sure about the other meds with that symptom. I definitely think Prozac is the best.
Yes, and I'm finding it very depressing.
I find myself having to make lots of pasta dishes because pasta is so cheap. I am single but 16 yo son lives with me and you can imagine how much he eats. It's really discouraging to be on such a strict food budget. Just seems like money doesn't go far at all these days. :(
I was one who wrote below about finding SM
love after divorce. I believe there are good men out there, but they are hard to find, especially the older one gets. I think the key is letting him find you, but it doesn't mean you can't put yourself out there.
OK. What I think about problem men have in marriages. I'm speaking about my own here. I was the only girl he ever dated. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. He knew it was mistake, but was devout Catholic and just stayed married, but decided he would still like to be single, so he began cheating on me. As for me, I loved him for a long, long time. When I see him at family events, I wonder why! LOL!!!!
Have you tried finding a copy? Think a new
copy would be nice, not a used one.
Tried finding out myself what happened
I did not particularly care for her. She could not stop crying long enough to sing and besides that she messed up everytime she got up on stage, flubbed her lines. Simon had said if that happened automatically out and yet they passed her on through.
She might be better finding a new career
I hate to sound harsh or rude, really, but if you cannot do the Indian accents, it might be wise to take your unemployment benefits and transition to a new career. There are few jobs out there that don't come with a goodly number of ESL dictators, and the transcriptionists that have jobs typing just the "good" dictators aren't crazy enough to give them up.
So keep telling unemployment you're looking for work, but do your stress level a favor and look for it in a different field.
Was just thinking, finding a boy-toy would be the way around it....
:)
Not that yours is a boy-toy in his 40s... but you know what I mean. :)
finding a new mortgage company...sm
Is at the top of my agenda for this year, but it was the plan all along to refinance this year anyway, so...thanks for the support y'all!
Anyone else finding the net slow today? Must be all
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Glad Roxy is better - finding that web site
When I went to that web site to copy the link for you, I went into the breeder section and out popped a picture of a dear friend from my bird breeding days. I've known here for 16 years, but we have been out of touch for the last 5. I called her and she happens to be coming to my city over Labor Day weekend, so we are going to be able to have a reunion and I'll be able to see her and all the cute little cudly birdies I used to raise - I've missed both my friend and the birds very much!
Finding myself watching the wierdest TV shows
Deadiest Catch was my first crazy addiction - who would have thunk? Now Ace of Cakes. Anybody else have some weird ones?
I think you'll have a hard time finding someone who will (sm)
come for one hour every day. As wonderful as that would be!! I think they could do that in an hour. But finding someone will be tough. Most housekeepers around here make $75 to clean a house and that takes them 2 or 3 hours. They make more than we do sometimes!!
Incidental finding of a cat colony, what this means now.
I had an early morning appointment today and as I started off saw first 1 cat and living really close by decided to come home, get some food and go back to feed it. When I returned 2 more of its friends close by and so I fed them the 3 cans that I had. I hated to see this because of my love for animals which means now I have to go buy them food (in addition to my 3 indoor ones) and go to feed them most days. I am sure they are feral but just breaks my heart to see them having to fend for themselves.
F11 didnt work and I am finding nothing under View on my toolbar. sm
Thanks for your suggestions. Does anyone know how to make that darn paragraph symbol go away? I have those and a bunch of arrows all over my document!
any Dancing with Stars fans finding this bunch -
difficult to get into or is it just me?
and try finding time to workout between children and work...
I wish I had the energy of my 8 year old....
Incidental finding, polycystic kidney disease
Not something that I would have liked to hear but being as older, told the doctor maybe can outlive the cysts, i.e. having to be on dialysis and/or dying because of them. I had an MRI of another region and those picked up, told someone in my family had to have and know of no one. The cysts I have can go anywhere in your body so they will watch them every few months, no abnormal lab tests or the like, found those about 2 years ago. The kidney cysts are the only ones I know of.
Another dead
They just reported on CNN that an 18-year-old girl died from the VT shooting.
Dead Like Me
Showtime didn't give it a chance. At least SCIFI is rerunning it. Oh, also "Firefly." LOVE it!
dead??
didn't Benny Parsons die?? I think he had cancer. . I could be wrong. . I'm not sure if he drove a Dodge or not. . .
dead serious
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So do I. Rather be dead.
xx
My college-age kids love finding stuff at the Goodwill Thrift Store. Go figure! They like their
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Anna is now dead
I just saw on the Comcast home page Anna is now dead?
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