I am personal trainer in addition to an MT
Posted By: Jo on 2007-08-14
In Reply to: Skinny versus Plump - who is happier? - HappyCat
so I am at the gym working out almost every day, and when I am not at the gym, I am on my home treadmill. I like to keep in shape and always have. I find that working out always puts me in a good mood (the endorphin release). I was always active in sports as a kid and have always been very tone and fit. I am also only 25 (26 in September), so my metabolism is pretty fast anyway!
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Hey, awesome I'm also a trainer! It is a great balance!I also compete in figure/fitness. nm
Having a pet is a personal choice and it should be kept on personal property
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In addition,
I have found relief with limited use of a tanning bed. Obviously, this is contraversial and has its own drawbacks and possible it may dry skin more, but my problem stems from seborrhea and UV therapy helps. I go about once a week.
New addition
Meet Boo!
Dempsey finally has a sister. She is a bit of a scaredy cat but she will come around with time.
One addition here
I know where you are going with your post. I know people think you are crazy but you aren't.
Don't people know how to make anything from scratch anymore? Geez.
In addition...
In addition to the point that all those women are somebody's mom, sister, daughter...
If the BF is involved in anything involving underage people, keep in mind that you shouldn't do anything on his computers, and it would probably also be wise to keep your finances completely separate (separate banks even, not just separate accounts).
Why?
Because in the case of anything involving children, EVERY PHOTO OR VIDEO IS ALSO EVIDENCE LEFT BEHIND FROM A CRIME SCENE! Any money he spends on the habit could be traced back to you if you share accounts.
From your most recent post, it seems like the BF doesn't know that you know. That's an interesting place in life. I never had the courage, bravery, stability, or self-esteem to not completely turn into a blubbering pathetic mess every time I stumbled on recent evidence. Mine always knew when I found stuff because I just couldn't handle it quietly. I never found any evidence of child-related stuff, though. I always told myself I could have found the courage to set the trap silently if I did. Thankfully I never needed to.
Sheila has it right and in addition...sm
You can encourage her to look at her bills and see what she can cut back on. For instance if she pays her own rent then she can do things like be sure to cut off lights, have the A/C set at 78 instead of colder, consolidate trips in the car to save on gas to help free up money for other things.
We give the kids a bonus in our household. For each month the utilities bill come in under the budget amount they get to have 1/2 the savings for entertainment. It sure helps give them an incentive to cut off lights when not in rooms, not stay in the shower until every drop of hot water is drained, etc.
With the increasing cost of gas when we leave home we try to consolidate errands as much as possible. Now instead of going say to Target for odds and ends and then Publix for groceries we go to the Super Wal-Mart where we can get everything at one stop. These little things add up and I'm finding myself now going about 2 days further between fill-ups than I used to.
In addition to the swats or the ISS, I would take away sm
something at home, i.e., TV, cell phone, Ipod, a previous engagement to do something fun. Being late is rude, lazy, and says "hey, look at me, it's all about me" so nip it in the bud right now. Kids today need to be taught to be on time, be polite, and have table manners, etc. Mine do.
In addition to considering the maturity,
I would also consider whether or not there is someone next door (maybe the bus driver you mentioned) that would be willing to "keep an eye" on him and that he could go to in case of emergencies.
I was a latchkey kid at about the age of 11 or 12; however, my older brother was 14 or 15 at the time and my grandma lived across the street from us.
My oldest son is now in fifth grade, 11 years old, and I have only been allowing him some "home alone" time in the last year. I really wasn't comfortable with doing that until he was 10, but each child is different.
I would also caution you to write down some ground rules and maybe just start out by leaving him alone for 1/2 hour here and there to see how he does. If you're not comfortable with him being home alone, you won't get much work done during that last hour of the day anyway. Good luck!
In addition to the media, I would also
contact an attorney if the school does nothing. I've seen a few movies "based on fact" where the school is legally bound to protect your child during school hours. If the school does nothing and the police do nothing, I would contact an attorney immediately.
I am keeping the journal going and in addition...sm
I bought a ceramic cross yesterday with 1 Samuel 1:27 on it which says "For This Child I prayed". I wrote the baby's nickname that my husband & I called it, the EDC and "went to heaven" dates on the front of the cross and it's hanging in our living room next to our family photo.
Congratulations on your new family addition.
Take your dog to the door every 30 to 40 minutes or so and the dog will get the idea that the outside is the place to do its thing. Could MAYBE give a treat when the dog actually goes outside and does not have an accident in the house. But, try to be careful on the treats, they will get accustomed to that really quick. Good luck.
I am so glad i do not have to keep maiden in addition
to all these past names I have had, being on my 4th marriage now. Gosh, that would be 5 names in all, wouldn’t it?
I'd say IN ADDITION to getting a generator as I mentioned above.
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After reading your 2 posts below in addition to this one...
You need to get OUT! In time the kids will know what is going on either way, married or divorced. If you husband has been physically aggressive with you before, who is to say he's not going to have enough of your turning him down one day and come home aggressive again?! I'm worried and I don't even know you. Listen to stories on the news about the women who trusted their husbands implicitly and then one day something snapped in him - don't let that happen to you. Besides, do you want your kids thinking his behavior is a healthy one. Consciously or not, many children model their future marriage skills after their parents. I think you should seek individual counseling and advice from a lawyer. Commonly the first visit does not cost you anything and they will tell you what type of retainer fee they need so you can be working on that. Also, when (hopefully) everything starts to get in motion, get your kids in counseling too. Early is better. Don't wait for problems or issues. A lot of kids are very good at hiding their feelings from their parents. Finally, I must say, as controlling as your husband sounds the only reason he wants you to stay around is financial. Men talk about these things, my husband had told me. You will make out just fine. He'll be the one writing the check - oh, and you can request that it go through the court so you don't have to see/talk to him about the money every month. Good luck to you. Go with your gut. Be sure to let family know what's going on too so they can keep their eyes open and help if needed.
That other board (in addition to not being free) is also
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Here's an addition to your question about layout - sm
that was unbelievable. I was at a Walmart one day to buy jeans. In the unlikely event I find the 'perfect' pair, I usually buy 2 of the same size, 'cause who knows when you'll ever find a perfect pair again, right?
So I'm in the dressing room trying them on, find the perfect pair, and go out to grab another identical pair before heading to the register. Only......
While I was in the dressing room (maybe 10 minutes, tops?), they had completely reconfigured the entire jeans section, and the whole display that had the jeans I wanted was GONE! I spent another half-hour looking for them, and never did find them, even when I asked an employee, who was of course clueless.
So, I guess Walmart is kind of like the weather in the mountains. If you don't like what you see, wait 10 minutes and it'll change!
In addition to the black oil sunflower seeds,
cardinals also love safflower seeds. Extra bonus -- squirrels will not eat safflower seeds. Cardinals also require a platform type feeder as opposed to a perch feeder.
We have had very few cardinals this year, which is quite unusual. Two winters ago I counted 19 all at once. It was after a heavy snow and it was quite a sight.
Love them birds! 
Important addition to MIL problem directly below this posting
Oh, by the way, 3 weeks ago my DH told my MIL that I was upset with her and why. She made light of it, explaining that she was just "joking" and "being funny" and of course she didn't mean anything by it.
If it were my son telling me that I had offended my DIL in some way I would call her immediately and talk it through. However, my phone has not rung yet, and I'm pretty sure it's not going to.
I can see her sitting over there coiled like a king cobra expecting me on Thanksgiving and I'm so uncomfortable just thinking about it.
My husband said that she was just joking and to suck it up (again), and just go over. I'm really stressed out about this. Any suggestions would be great.
Too many of these stories becoming familiar, in addition to inforcing the death penalty....sm
I have to ask myself why so much of society these days is behaving in this way, uncontrollable, ugly rage...is it the decay of family units, absentee fathers, is it the abundance of drugs, violence in media....I am old enough to remember a time when these atrocities seemed to be the RARE horror stories, why the abundance now? No God in their worlds?????
Addendum: In addition to have warp speed internet connection; just short of having my own server.
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A little personal but
when my hubby and I want some "alone time" the dog can't stand to be in the room. If we don't realize the dog is in the room and we close the door, he lays at the door and cries to be let out.
I have nothing personal....
against pit bulls in particular. I think all dogs can be dangerous given different circumstances. I don't think it is right to single out a particular breed and just take away an animal from its home without just cause.
However, my elderly mother, who suffers from MS, has been plagued by horrible neighbors with many dogs. They do not keep their dogs in their own yard. Not only do they tear out my mother's trash, but they use her back yard as their own personal bathroom. Their one dog bit their own daughter and nothing was done. They are always barking at us when we are in my mother's yard. I had one come at me and I picked up a shovel that was thankfully near me to protect myself if the dog continued it advance. Their little dog frequently gets under my mother's feet and her balance is not good due to her age and medical issues. We have called the Humane Society and they will do nothing.
I personally think that people should have a right to shoot any dog on their property that shouldn't be there. If it weren't for getting in trouble for animal cruelty, I would have shot any or all of the neighbor's dogs in my mom's yard. A 60-some, widowed woman with health problems has no rights to keep destructive, mean dogs off of her property but hey....don't shoot a dog or you will get fined and maybe even jail time. Sad when a mut as more rights than my mom.
Any irresponsible owner shouldn't have a dog no matter what breed. I will get off of my soap box now. LOL.
This may be to personal for some of you but...
How is the economy crisis effecting you?
Your budget, your retirement, your family, your FRIENDS families.
How is it effecting the circle you run with? Do you discuss this with family or friends?
It is effecting my family. The gas thing alone is cutting our budget! My youngest started college and is driving back and forth. I've called my aunt who lives close to the school and asked if he could stay with her a few nights a week to save gas money. The drive for him one way is 1 hour. It has already saved us $$$. The fact that he can't find a job isn't helping either. There are no jobs for young people. Even in fast food!
Food prices have effected what we eat! Have you priced CHEESE lately? A 2 cup packages of shredded cheese cost more than a gallon of milk! Food has gotten outrageous.
We have our primary home and we have a small cabin that we go to on weekends. Our primary home is paid for and has been but we do have a mortgage on our cabin. LUCKILY and by the grace of God, we are in a fixed rate situation but it's still difficult. Did we spread ourselves to thin? Sometimes it is tough but we budget and try to be careful with what we spend. Our payment is nowhere near the $1500 per month mortgages people are talking about - and at that price point with an adjustable RATE - I don't know how people are living.
Also lucky that we do not have credit card debt. I've read where the CC companys are raising limits to increase spending while increasing the payment interest as well? I see more and more credit cards being used at the grocery store.
It's all just very scarey for me.
We have some friends who are building their dream home. They have worked and saved for 15 years. The economy is blessing them in some ways since there are a lot of people looking for work but hurt them in others as the price of materials skyrockets!
Really personal
I think it takes us all. :) Those with children and without. I have four kids to help make up for those who chose not to have any. :) I was in my early 30's before i decided to have kids. I adopted my 2 oldest, and then got pregnant with my younger 2!
why were you on his *personal* computer anyway? sm
It sounds like you already have a trust issue with this person. Since he is still your BF and not your DH, I feel you had no right to invade his privacy. Maybe he had viewed those things a long time ago, prior to you being his GF. Besides that, I learned a long time ago not to go looking for things, because inevitably, you will find it. You snooped, now you are hurt, and have a very different view of this person. Your relationship is probably doomed now, because you will not be able to get past this. I am sorry for both of you.
I just tell them I have a personal policy
related to telemarketing and take my number off their list. They have to do that by law once you tell them. Eventualy the calls do stop.
not personal, just in general...
So many nasty comments...the point of my post was (and this is the last post I'll make on the subject)a teacher won 10grand...woohoo!!! GREAT for him, a hardworking professional (and yes, underpaid) catches a break! I'm happy for him...end of story! Have a lovely day...
My personal experience has been that --sm
you get what you pay for. I have little trust in their products, although the prices seem good. There are other more reputable places out there.
On a personal note -
 Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas? I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future. Anycomments or anything about it? I sure would appreciate it!
My personal thoughts
on the matter - - get out! My husband cheated on me the first time (at least what I knew as the first time) 24 years ago. We stuck together and he said he would never do it again. Well, 5 years ago, it happened again. I wonder now how many times did this occur that I did not know about, or find out about.
Can, but might not. I know from personal experience. nm
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My personal observations as a
mom: I am in my 40s and grew up back in the old days when discipline for kids in school and at home was okay; however, methods used then are now taboo. It looks like *traditional* discipline (which I feel was not necessarily always sensible) has been replaced with an either hands-off approach (due to fear of lawsuits, retaliation, etc.) or extreme measures, as described in the above post. This brings to mind the question: How much more effective are we these days with these approaches?
I feel for kids these days as well as future generations - looks like they'll have their hands full, if society continues this way.
Not my personal situation but I think
a lot of the people you hear bragging about their refunds are those on some form of public assistance or single parents who are getting the earned income credit. Although I think you can get an advance on this, most do not.
Personally, I like to get around $2000 back for the year. I know I could be saving that on my own, but it's not always that easy. If it were in my account, I'd probably end up spending it. The small amount of interest I'd make on it for the year wouldn't be worth the stress of having to save it.
I haven't done my taxes yet this year because they're probably going to be a mess. We lost our house in a fire in October and were underinsured. Now we have to file some sort of tax deduction for that. It'll probably be more paperwork than it's worth, but we'll see.
just a personal opinion...
I think this can be a little tricky with kids. Children's imaginations are developing and they are learning so many new things, not to mention they do not always know the meaning of things or understand reasons for the way things may be done. Adults on the other hand, I think their dreams do mean something. I think it is their subconscious talking to them. Things they regress coming to the surface. I know I have had some kooky dreams before and they seem to take place when I am struggling with something. I wouldn't put too much into it with an 8 yr old, I have a child who is 10, sometimes they just have bad dreams at that age. If it is something that happens regularly or your heart tells you your child is struggling with something emotionally, it might be worth looking into therapy.
I have no personal experience....sm
with esophageal cancer, but I just wanted to say how very sorry I am to hear of this.
personal proof? does it have something to do
did ya see a ghost or just have one too many drinks??
It's a personal decision...
I researched this topic extensively and I came to the conclusion that circumcision was not right for my family. We've had no problems because of it. I can see why both sides have their opinions, but ultimately it is up to the individual to decide what's best. For us, no circ has worked. My child is very happy to be intact, as he was created.
From personal experience
I have a 16-yo son like this. I was like this in high school as well. School as we know it is dysfunctional. He probably is bored out of his wits with it all.
Being he is so close to graduation I have no real advice for you other than you have to let him do what he is going to do. If he fails and has to repeat the grade, get him into something like a homeschool program, be it either by you or through a district. Kaplan has one they do through lots of school districts around the country.
My 16-yo hates most of his teachers because they show that they are just there for a paycheck and do not care about him. The work is boring to him...most of it he could do in 8th grade. There is no help for students like this in our country's current educational system.
My youngest is 12. I have pulled him out and homeschool him for that exact reason. The difference has been amazing.
I think it should be a personal decision....
If a person has a medically documented terminal illness and does not want to suffere any more, then I think it should be their right.
Can I ask some very personal questions? Please don't be offended and you sm
don't have to answer. I would completely understand. but...
When you two got together I'm sure he wasn't exactly over the death of his wife, so how did he respond to you? Was he emotional around you, missing her, etc? At what point were you positively sure that he was in love with you and not still in love with her? I am only asking because of a personal situation in my life and I am curious about yours.
Thank you.
Having seen this whole thing go down up close and personal =
I have been divorced 13 years, had daughters 8 and 12 at the time, and his mother came first. She seemed to glory in coming between us - it became a game that I was not going to win. There's one thing that I don't think anyone else has brought up yet. Children learn what a relationship should be from watching how their parents treat each other. It became apparent to me that I did not want my daughters to chose a man who treated them the way their father treated me. It has been difficult and I have not had a life because my kids really had to come first and I had to work all the time to keep them comfortable - but I knew I had made a horrible choice and hoped that I could salvage their future relationships.
a believer in God, personal relationship with God
My spirituality comes from many places...
Mother Teresa said:
People are often unreasonable and self-centered. FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. BE KIND ANYWAY.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. BE HONEST ANYWAY.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. BE HAPPY ANYWAY.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. DO GOOD ANYWAY.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. GIVE YOUR BEST ANYWAY.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. IT NEVER WAS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY.
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And that, my fellow MTs/MEs, is something we all should contemplate!
Have a GREAT week!!!
From personal experience, do not stay
for the kids. They really do pick up on this. My oldest (she was 5 at the time) witnessed a lot of fights and other things that really upset her. Also, life is too short to be miserable in any relationship--especially if it has been going on for 3 years. If you have tried counseling and that did not work, then think at least about a separation.
My family told me, after the fact, about how down and depressed I was before I left my ex, and the 100% turn around after I left. It does no one any good to stay when you both are miserable.
sorry, this should be posted under Personal Ponderings
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I never said my reliable source was personal - I DID get it from an
internet source - but it wasn't the one you found - obviously checking my sources - so you DO care - so you are just a hypocrite!
This is a personal subject between him and his wife.
First, I hardly think affairs are only a NY thing. Do you know all of NY office holders? If you believe stats, most American adults have had an affair. I don't think that necessarily makes a person not decent, it just means they're human and had a failing. Personally, I'm tired of God complexes in Government.
This is a personal subject between him and his wife. I wonder how many of us could live up to the scrutiny heaped upon politicians. I KNOW I couldn't. I've made mistakes too.
sorry but I don't recall asking for personal opinion
no offense, but I was just asking those with experience on the subject.
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No, nothing personal. They can ask for female or male.
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