I am on foodstamps, not proud, but without my kids would starve
Posted By: Tab on 2009-05-06
In Reply to: need to vent -- are you kidding me ?!? - XanaX
My husband is a plumber and I a MT. There is no work for him and he has even tried our local Wendys and that was low for him. We have 3 kids, all before this mess started. I had to crawl my prideful butt to human resources and get help for my family. It is just food stamps, but I am so glad for them. We would literally starve right now without them. It makes us feel human to have warm food. Maybe that family had the majority of their kids before their situation now. Maybe all her kids are just accidents. The wonderful GOVERNMENT would rather pay to have the children then to pay for birth control or tubal ligation. Who knows. Don't be so harsh!!!! Have you never needed help? Maybe those people need help whether mental, medical, or maybe they need help to get into a situation to get out of government help.
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Just a few pounds, but don't want to starve...
Hi all,
Would like to a lose a little weight, about 35 to 40 lbs. but do not want to starve myself (I have a sweet tooth) and do it healthy of course. Currently, I am eating smaller portions, watching what I eat, no soda, drinking more water and walking in the evenings. I had my baby four years ago and still look about six months pregnant when I look sideways in the mirror and a little extra on the hips and thighs. I would love to have my abs back at least!
Any suggestions? What works for you and/or what have you tried? TIA.
I have the same advice: Let him starve for a while,
then everything will taste delicious. Hunger is the best cook.
Been there, done that...not proud of it
I have faced a situation like this myself. It was wonderful when it all started. Innocent. He told me everything I wanted to hear, and I am sure it was the same for him. No sexual encounters, however, we got caught. Emails were found. It has been 3-1/2 years since it all went down and I am still struggling to regain the trust my husband once had in me. It definitely was not worth it. A large part of the fun was sneaking and hiding, makes you feel young again. You are going to do what you want to do, no matter what others say. You are going to lose everything you have worked for in your life...for a man who broke your heart so many years ago.
you are welcome; be proud of him
nm
Proud of that
post. My judgment with you was correct. You are the type we are encouraged to find here on this board. This is for camaraderie and to connect. We have done that. Good for us! Keep em' comin'. They'll get tired of us and bug the neighbors or something.
Way to go Son!!!! Know how proud you and he must be. nm
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Very proud as is he
He even wore his medal and ribbons to school today to show all his friends. :-)
If you did the best you can I am proud of you
Grandpa told me that when helping with homework and tests.
Very proud of you...
and glad you came around and saw how it can hurt the little ones. It's not easy, but sometimes we do just have to keep our mouths shut.
You are not too proud and this is sm
One: You should be proud of what you have done for animals. We are stewards of animals. Some of us take this to the ultimate and become vegans so as not exploit animals. Others give money. Others open their homes to many pets. Others help out in shelters. Without any judgment of what is best...ANIMALS NEED ALL THAT HELP. You are part of that help.
Two: Being "proud" about this would indicate you are doing it for some sort of personal gain. Personal gain would not include, to my mind, being remembered publicly for doing good. When this takes place, and your will is enacted, you won't be here anymore, but your legacy and care will be. Why not have the recognition and encourage others to do as you have done? NOTHING wrong with it at all.
BRAVO for doing something so generous and kind.
Congrats... you should be proud
of her and of yourselves for helping her as much as you could. I did the same thing with my DIL, looked at it as an longterm invest in my grandchild's future, the sacrifice of all of you is definitely worth it. I was as proud as any mom when she passed her boards for LPN. My DIL is back in school for her R.N. now, so we continue to help with the babysitting, etc. Wouldn't trade the time with my 2 year-old grandson for anything, even though most days I feel really OLD by the time his daddy picks him up each night. Congrats again to her!
Just show them. Be proud of what you have.
That's my opinion, anyway. :) Don't be worried about how you look to others; most of them are probably all in a tizzy about what others think about them, too, and you don't really care what they look like, right?
I would think that your aunt would be proud that
a man who was not a child's biological father would take her, love her and raise as his child, grieve when passes away and refers to her as his daughter. My sister and brother-in-law married when my sister's youngest child was 18 months old. That child is now almost 20 and refers to him as "Dad." Her biological father is alive but the relationship is strained because she had a child out of wedlock. The stepfather, however, loves the child that she had and refers to him as his grandson. 
I was so proud of my 14yr old
when I told her Paris was out of jail. She just said "So!" I hope she always feels that way.
The proud hunter! :-D
Takes a lot of work to bag a wabbit! So cute!
....tell him you are proud of his talents
nm
If you're not proud of something you did, definitely don't tell them.
Unless it may help to teach them a lesson about something. I believed what I was told, that my mother was a virgin until she married, LOL, and NEVER got drunk and was a wonderful student and it goes on. I am very grateful that she was most likely not completely honest about a lot of things as it probably helped me to be a better person and also respect her more as a person. These are your children, they are not your friends or your siblings. There are certain things you do not share with your children.
You have every reason to be proud of yourself - sm
Have your name printed for all to see. It is a wonderful thing that you are doing. So many animals, so much need, and your generosity is going to be not only helpful but so appreciated. I applaud you.
Congratulations -- You should be very proud of yourself
for being able to accomplish that.
let's just say that's one more reason i'm proud
n/m
You should definitely feel proud....and sm
you can also stay close. I know it must be the hardest thing ever to do. My daughter is almost 9 and I am already dreading the day she will move out. We are very close like you and yours. But I have many adult friends who call and talk to their mother every single day and stay very close to them. You can be one of those too. I know it has to be hard, but you should be so proud that you raised her to be such a courageous and strong young woman. She is this way because of the strong foundation and sense of security that you have given her. Good job Mom! And your job as her mom will never be over. We always need our moms no matter how old we get or how far away we are. I think sons sometimes become more distant but daughters who are close to their moms usually stay that way.
Diverse and proud.
x
How proud her parents must be to have such a pathetic...
loser for a child. However, from what I have read about her parents, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree! I am always amazed when those afforded all the advantages of life at such an early age choose to spiral downward so quickly and frequently. I am so glad my own daughters are grown; with the group of young celebutards that are out there as role models for girls today, its no wonder teenage girls (and a lot of preteens) that I see today look and act so trampy!
I'm impressed with bravery of so many. Really proud to be
xx
I'd stay away...I'm not too proud to "lose!"
You are responsible to you and your kids. Your kids count on you to protect them from your anal chocolate stepdad. Your mother and brother are adults; they can arrange to see you all on different terms, like in your own town without the stepdad.
This long of a drive will be no good of a trip for anyone when your kids can be expected to be yelled at for being kids and you have to pick up the pieces. I vote it's not worth it.
Proud mommy moment
My oldest son was in the Special Olympics today and came in first in cross-country skiing and snowshoeing :-) I think the whole Special Olympics is awesome! 
Great news, and you must be SO proud!! NM
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Yes, big Texas accent & proud of it.
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What a good story! You must be very proud.
He's a good writer for so young. Hope he keeps it up!
Fellow workers, you are gonna be proud of me!
I just sent email to a national morning program, has a guy and girl on there. I was watching the other morning, a wife and son on explaining about how her husband suffered extensively with pain, unable to get medications because, you know, some call it drug seeking? Well, come to find out through son being tested, this father had some sort of syndrome (sorry, do not remember the name) and finally died having suffered for years, unable to live a decent life, bedridden. On the panel was the wife, son, a physician and another person The wife started to say something and was cut off immediately but the lady host saying "Well, are you a physician?" The wife said no and the host said "Well, let the doctor speak then." I wrote this host this morning to let her know IF she worked in the field she would know physicians make plenty of mistakes- we clean them up all the time, right? I said people who do not know tend to hold physicians up as gods but if you worked in this field you would certainly know better. I tried to get Megace for hubby 1 time because not eating, lost appetite, starving actually and was told by physician would not help. I switched doctors, got the prescription and hubby regained appetite. Having typed on that for aid in TB patients as well as human immunovirus patients in regaining appetites, I knew better. I feel a whole lot better about myself right now!!
Not proud of this one - Mike Tyson was a few years behind me in HS
I agree this war is a joke, and I would not be proud of my kid being a part of it.
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i'm proud of my worn-off letters -- confuses intruders
i've purchased many keyboards in my day (as have we all), and i just love it when folks come over and see my E, S, T and R are missing, if not more. when you get a new keyboard and read the box, believe it or not, they are listed as having a life-expectancy of 10 million Keystrokes -- doesn't take us long to burn thru that! right now, i've been using this microsoft ergonomic and all letters still in place (bummer). however, microsoft had some nerve moving the keys all around like they did --- just crazy to my fingers....
My lab/great dane mix is Walter- loves to sit proud and tall in my jeep with the top down and put hi
nm
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I believe my kids would still believe . .
had I not got totally busted by my 10-year-old son. My 7-year-old still believes. I always asked as my kids if they believe and when they said yes, I said that that is all that is important. My son caught me playing the EB last Easter. He said to me yesterday, "Come on, a giant bunny hopping around the country bringing easter baskets? How long did you expect me to fall for that?" I about split a gut laughing!!! However, both older children know how important it is to let the 7YO believe, we all watched Polar Express last night and they still were mesmerized!!!
I think a LOT of men are like that with kids
Maybe because since such a high % of marriages end in divorce, some of them keep a distance there. After all, when divorces happen, who gets the kids? Also, women tend to take charge when it comes to the kids and men tend to allow it. I truly believe that kids do not always strengthen a marriage but often the opposite. I have seen statistics stating that more couples with children get divorced than those who don't have any. Interesting, huh? JMO
That's why I won't have kids.
I have totally turned off the need/want to have kids, because I know my husband could never handle it. I don't want to be a single parent...especially a married single parent, know what I mean? It's an incredible commitment and they don't stay portable and nonverbal for long.
What do your kids
What do your kids call you and your spouse? Would you mind if they changed it, as in Mom instead of Mommy, as they got older? My kids call me Mom. If they call me Ma......I correct them, I don't LIKE it!! My son's GF calls me Mommy or Mom, I don't mind. My DIL calls me by my first name, I don't mind that either. I have a stepson, he also calls me Mom.
I do but only to keep an eye on my kids. NM
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Hello......if you want your kids to know...
about STDs and how not to get pregnant, YOU teach them. Why should there have to be programs about that at all? If you want them to have condoms, you buy them, don't ask the school nurse to hand them out. As to the genius of a President...at least he is trying. The one before him was hardly an advertisement for wise choices where sex is concerned ala black dress and use of cigars in a way that NO one ever intended...and committed felony perjury while a sitting President. Oh, but, heck....who cares, right?? Geeeezzz. Gimme a break.
Hello, yourself. If I had kids, I would...sm
Teach them those things. And if you're questioning why there s/b sex ed programs in school at all, why do you seem to be defending the current abstinence-only ones? They're worse than nothing at all because they give inadequate and downright *false* information. How is not having all the facts (or having the wrong "facts") ever a good thing? Just doesn't make any sense to me. If you want Bush to get credit because "at least he's trying" well, that seems like a pretty low standard for the president of our country.
Now as far as Clinton, I never said I was a fan. You're assuming an awful lot there. I don't even want to get into that.
I was one of four kids (sm)
and I was always wishing that my twin sister and I could have parents of our own. Living with mean older siblings was no fun!
Once again, your kids are still not that old
but when my son married, completely absorbed into not only his wifes life (which I am the first to say she comes first) but also her family and I basically just lost a son. Just swallowed up by her side and you would not know he really had a mother anymore. Quit trying on that end some time ago.
Especially with little kids
nm
Buy them, but keep away from little kids, sm
When my daughter was 2 or 3, she got her hands on one of the poppies in the back seat and must have pulled it apart and put the plastic middle up her nose. We didn't know in the beginning what was there, but after a visit to her pediatrician who couldn't get at it, a trip to the emergency room, a 5 hour wait for an ENT guy with the correct equipment to retrieve it, we discovered it was the middle of the poppy. Since then, whenever I see them selling the poppies, I tell them to warn parents with little kids to keep the poppies away from the kids.
I don't even have kids, and I
think that's coooooolllld.
It's really not nice to try to be scientific or philosophical with somebody who is going through a loss and expresses sorrow.
Did Jesus tell Lazarus' family, "Hey, dont worry about it; we'll all see him in heaven soon!" No, he took pity on them in their sorrow. That's how He is. Let's try to mirror Him, not philosophists and scientists when it comes to people who are hurting.
Probably more the kids
Love my marriage and don’t mind the divorces until I got it right. The kids are ok as long as infant, toddlers and then they grow up. Not my cup of tea anymore.
Kids going out
I have no problem with it, but there's always upwards of 10 children and at least 3 adults to supervise out all the time, but I would never let my youngest go out alone under any circumstances. We have a very quiet neighborhood, but you never know.
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