I am not a teacher but I call kids that kind of stuff all the time (sm)
Posted By: Honeysayer on 2009-02-18
In Reply to: Would it bother you? - sm
I call my kids little names, their friends whatever name pops into my mind at the time, my Brownie girl scouts names. Sweetie, honey, sweetie-sweet, squirrel, pumpkin-lumpkin, sweet potato, little sweeties, etc. To me it just signals that I am the adult and they are the kids and I like them, they are important to me. I think it makes them feel at home and comfortable. My children used to think kids were called "little sweeties" when they were younger. My daughter or son would say, "is that her little sweetie?" meaning is that her little boy or little girl. My son had a horrible 2nd grade teacher who yelled at the kids all day. My daughter had a wonderful second grade teacher who hugged them and called them endearing names. Why is it wrong to treat a child like a child? They are sweet and innocent and we are adults, parents and parent-like figures to them. I don't get it.
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This kind of stuff happens every day in school...
You people overreact to everything... I understand the mother is upset over the puncture wound, but this will be the first of many hurts. Yes, the child that did the poking needs to be told she did wrong, but expelsion and calling her "special needs" is just plain overreacting.
Of course that girl's mother is probably beside herself and she may very well be remorseful, but they are 6-year-olds. Are you all that paranoid?
I agree, no teacher should call a student 'retard', t
and try to convince his peers to drop this name calling.
It's not funny and if it goes on for a long time, it's labeling.
Something I've done for each teacher my kids
have had is to get a frame from Things Remembered and engrave the year on it with a picture of my child. They all loved this gift a lot. You could always engrave something along with the year if you wanted. If you want to add something to it, I know most people love to get a $5 or $10 gift card to somewhere like Starbucks or get her a nice box of chocolates.
Our Chihua/rat terrier mix will eat any kind of fruit, even canned stuff. And fresh
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Yes, and friends too. But school is where kids learn facts, so whatever their teacher says (sm)
they are going to think it must be right. I think that is unfair leverage to use to support your own point of view as a teacher.
A jello dish we call "raspberry stuff" that my sis makes. YUMMY!! nm
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no kids, no deer - will that stuff keep other animals off?
Home Depot is just around the corner - I have a 6 foot stockade fence and live in the city - I am sure there are no deer - possibly possoms, no deer.
...still battling with our kids over stuff like this and they're much
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next time you go to her house, steal your stuff back!!
may you should start marking your stuff w/those markers. Every time I take anything anywhere anymore I am going to mark my stuff.
you are very kind; thanks for your time.
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My college-age kids love finding stuff at the Goodwill Thrift Store. Go figure! They like their
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My kids call me Mom, but my daughter
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My kids call it 'going commando!' :) nm
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Cornish Hen, or as my kids call it "baby chicken"
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Time for a call to a lawyer.
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Time to call Lorena!
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Ya'll are just too kind and sweet. I am having a hard time thinking "I'm the better person&
all of this. Thank you for your support. You are exactly right. She doesn't want to "make nice" with me. She is feeding on my vulnerabilities. I can't believe she can live with herself like that. Poor thing. My husband and I got into the biggest fight yesterday because I refused dto go to his mothers house. I went and she was not there! Thank God! It worked out well and I had a very nice time. My husband does not understand my pain and not wanting to be around her.....
I "feed" on positivity and niceness. I love nice, sweet people and can't, for a second, be around meanness. A lot of it has to do with my upbringing...
Ya'll are great and I appreciate you so much. Thanks!
I wish I had more time to volunteer more: Call your local sm
Uited Way or Humane Society if you like animals.
Call the cops every single time. Don't give into bullying.
You can bet he'll get tired of being visited by the cops every few days... And cops are required to follow up on complaints, so they'll go out there, and cops are adults with neighbors too, so they know what it's like. What is wrong with some of these parents now days?!
my kids know the reason for the season. believe me the first time one of them said "who do you lo
more? santa or jesus..."...well thats all it took. they do get carried away with it., but they know the story of jesus. we are christians. its just so controversal, but yes she should have kept her mouth shut. she goes to a church where they are told not to practice the santa tradition. i know her church. that is fine with me. to each their own. btu there is a time and a place, teh classroom isnt it.
we did tell teh principal, he giggled and said "so what do we do now?'...adn he neve even spoke to her about it. believe me we gave him suggestions of what he can do...but nothing is happening. im just still batteling as to whether this is worth the trouble...or not. i still have a kindergartener that might get her as a teacher.
my kids know the reason for the season. believe me the first time one of them said "who do you lo
more? santa or jesus..."...well thats all it took. they do get carried away with it., but they know the story of Jesus. We are Christians. its just so controversial, but yes she should have kept her mouth shut. She goes to a church where they are told not to practice the Santa tradition. I know her church. That is fine with me. To each their own, but there is a time and a place, the classroom isn't it.
We did tell the principal, he giggled and said, "so what do we do now?'...and he never even spoke to her about it. Believe me we gave him suggestions of what he can do...but nothing is happening. I'm just still battling as to whether this is worth the trouble...or not. I still have a kindergartner that might get her as a teacher.
I read that for the younger kids, this is a good time
to explain to them that the characters they love on TV are just that "characters pretending" and they should look to parents, teachers, scout leaders, etc as role models. I am not saying you haven't done that, but I thought it was good advice for the young ones that are disappointed and don't understand.
One time our neighbor's kids fed our German shepherd candy corn while she was out on her run.
I was out in the driveway washing our car at the time, and I saw them playing with her, but then saw what they were feeding her. She then came inside and threw up yellow and orange all over our beige carpet. Thankfully we own a really good carpet steam cleaner!
Absolutely, but I shake myself out of it quickly to make it a happy time for my kids and hubby. nm
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My favorite time of night is when kids and hubby are asleep and the house is quiet...
Usmoms need some quiet time too...don't feel bad for feeling that way...I am sure we have all imagined what it would be like not having kids or a husband...but then that thought goes away and someone yells "Mommy" or "Honey"...LOL...
The drinkin kind or the rubbin kind?? sm
So....is that for me to drink so I don't notice or care that my hands are all splotchy black or to get the ink off? Seriously though, do I use the rubbing alcohol - or like Jack Daniels?? and do I soak in it or what? I never heard of using alcohol but I'll try anything.
I feel that is best too. I have been kind, very kind, to this ...sm
child since he moved here in March. I also am not one of those parent's that thinks my children are perfect. You never know what they might do out of your presence. I do know how I have raised them though and I am all for getting them all together when there is a problem and getting to the bottom of it but anymore that doesn't seem to work. The parents automatically get defensive and start making excuses, etc. I'm going to look for somewhere else to move. I've lived here for 2-1/2 years and we never had a problem until this boy moved in. His mother is a piece of work.
teacher
The law better get to her before I do!!
I had a teacher like that when I was 7, and I
went from never wanting to miss a day of learning at school, to depression, stomach aches (both real and fake, to get me sent home), and from then on detested every minute spent in school. It only takes one rotten teacher to ruin your future.
Where is the teacher from?
Where I am from, everyone uses terms like sweetie, honey, hun, sugar, etc., interchangeably for males and females. They are terms of kindness and not necessarily terms of intimate endearment or disparaging sexisms. Now if she called your child something along the lines of Sugar Britches that would be another matter.
From a teacher's
perspective. I taught Adult School but I had some high school students in my class. We were mandated by state law to report all weapons, threats, signs of abuse immediately. If a report was made to a teacher it had to be reported to the administration and administration had to report it to the local authorities. If administration took no action in your son's case, heads should be rolling about now. I would contact the local police department (go in in person if you can) and report the incident to them. Tell them what your child has witnessed, been threatened with, overheard, the "harm list" etc. and ask the police to handle the case. If the school knew about it and didn't act on it and heads roll so be it. I would rather have a school administrator fired than have even one child injured/killed let alone another Columbine incident. It is the school's responsibility and they have apparently dropped the ball, so go over their heads. One more question, who is this kid? Someone high up in your city, parent's have money, pull or social status? In other words is it being glossed over because of whose kid it is?
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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That was the letter he was given by the teacher. nm
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What a good teacher you are. sm
You're not only making the parents happy, but showing a good example to the kids. Good for you and Merry Christmas.
Yes I would - it's not the teacher's place to do this....sm
shouldn't they be spending time teaching anyway instead of being worried about what kids do and don't believe in outside of the classroom?
Teachers are being allowed to do whatever they want this day in time. My high schooler listens to her biology teacher rant and rave each day about the "evils" of eating meat and she's sick of hearing it every day and is anxious for the end of the semester next week to get rid of this obsessive teacher.
To the teacher? Sadly, nothing. To my son: SM
I just told him that sadly some people don't believe in Angels and God, but that we know they are for real. I told him about different things that have happened in our lives that showed us that they were real and told him we should just remember to pray for his teacher at night and to just not talk about it with her at school.
I was really mad at her and practiced in my head what I wanted to say to her, but unfortunately (or fortunately) I never had the guts to confront her about it. I thought I was over it (this happened 8 years ago!), but I'm feeling angry all over again right now. Oh well...let it go Chickadee! :) 
Chickadee
teacher's gift
If your kid has the teacher in the above posting, you could send him a few good lesbian porno websites.
Don't everyone tell me how rotten I am - it was too funny to see this post right after the one about the teacher with the porn on his computer.
A teacher at my son's school...
on the radio! Isn't that AWESOME...especially since teachers are highly underpaid...just wanted to share...
for teacher of 6 years
My son is graduating from 5th grade this year. He's had a most wonderful speech therapist at school for the last 6 years, and I would like to get her something really nice, but appropriate. She is a super speech therapist, and just one of the sweetest people. She really helped my son with his speech impediment, and I'ld like to show my appreciation in some way materially. Any suggestions? Thanks
I would talk with the teacher first
some of the above posts are wanting to tar and feather- it is NORMAL having a period. Do you stop your life when pregnant?? I was talking to the post about why get an excuse from a physician to lay out when on a period. These children now are a lot more advanced than we were in years past and boys, even in their immaturity, know about periods and such. Kids are going to sex classes together long before 13 and OMG, they learn things such as this. I would never ever listen to a child before talking with the adult involved and make sure the story is straight- then and only then would I either talk with the teacher 1:1 or if no satisfaction then, talk with highers. I posted to the listing above saying to get excuse from physician. That is laughable.
Talk with the teacher
I would schedule a meeting with the teacher. Tell her your daughter handles the tasks concerning her with no problem at home and ask what exactly is going on that has her concerned.
I would also talk with your child to see if any of her comments shed some insight into how things are going at school and the type of interaction with the teacher.
Kindergarten teacher
My little one just started kindergarten this year, and already I am getting flak from the teacher. She called me to tell me that my daughter is having problems putting papers in her folder, and that it seems like her hands get flustered when shes trying to do tasks like this. She also tells me that I need to make her do things around the house, like clean up her toys, take her dinner plate to the sink, etc. (all of these things that she has been doing for a while now!), so of course I just say okay, not wanting to seem like a smarty pants by telling her she already does these things. After I got off the phone I gave my daughter papers and a folder and told her to put them inside. She did, without a problem at all. Well, I was dropping her off this morning and I was walking her downstairs to her class and I had her lunch box in my hand from when we got out of the car, and they have this basket that they put the lunches in that sits outside of the door. So as I am walking out I just put it in the basket and go to leave, and the teacher (who was heading towards the classroom) makes it a point to stop in front of me and tells me that I need to let her do these things on her own and not to do them for her. It took all I had not to explode in her face! If I happen to be carrying her lunch box and just put it in the basket myself, I see no problem with that. Its also the demeanor of this teacher that I don't like...kind of like one of those people who "tries to be helpful and nice" but is actually condescending and rude. I wanted to say, Lady, why don't you get your nose out of my business and go teach the class? UGH. She just drives me up one side of the wall and down the other!!
daycare teacher
Ask her about it. See how she reacts. Maybe she is in the military. Maybe she doesn't know its posted. You just never know. Ask her.
I would definitely talk to the teacher -sm
and have your child moved aware from this nut case. When I was in 2nd grade a boy came up to me on the playground and stabbed me with a pencil in my forearm, nice puncture wound.....I do not remember anything being done to him in terms of a punishment, cannot ask my mom as she died a few years ago. I hated that kid from that day on though. Get this, he is now a doctor.
Here's to my Home Ec teacher!
All this discussion reminds me of my Home Ec class. We took the class in grades 5-8. This would have been 1973 to 1976. The boys took shop class, and the girls went to Home Ec. In 8th grade, we were allowed to choose shop or home ec, and I still chose Home Ec.
My teacher was Mrs. Moffet, and she was wonderful. The women in my family were also great teachers, but Mrs. Moffet was great, too. In our small, close-knit community of Italian immigrants, I don't think there was a young lady my age who didn't already know how to make bread and pasta by hand, sew from a pattern, and clean house. Still, Mrs. Moffet taught us lots of great things. We made clothing and had a fashion shows every year. And I still remember her teaching us how to make doughnuts. LOL I've never done that since, but it was fun that day. We snacked on warm doughnuts and drank REAL hot chocolate that we made. I do still make real hot chocolate, and every time I do, I think of Mrs. Moffet's smiling face. She was elderly in those days, so I'm sure she's no longer on this earth. Mrs. Moffet, wherever you are, here's to you!
::: raises cup of cocoa :::
I would say something to the teacher of the class
They should be the one to stop this chick from preventing other kids from having one.
I wouldn't say anything to her parents, though. That is the teacher's job if they feel so inclined to do so.
Why isn't the teacher of the class saying something as it happens? nm
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The teacher was wrong, but
I can understand her frustration. I think she was trying to help your son. I think these other kid's parents need to be informed of what their kids are doing. They're bullying your son and no child should have to go through that. There are policies against it in almost every school district. If these other kids can't control their mouths and actions, then maybe they need to be suspended or moved to another class. I'll bet if their parents were told that, the kids would straighten up in a hurry. Name calling is just as much bullying as actually touching somebody.
Are you going to tell us what happened when you confronted the teacher?
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Absolutely. Is teacher teaching sex ed also? nm
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what are you giving your child's teacher
I was thinking some sort of gift card...I'm sure she is overloaded with trinkets and Christmas ornaments, etc. Any creative suggestions? 
MERRY CHRISTMAS...
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