I am deeply sorry for your overwhelming loss
Posted By: romey on 2008-01-14
In Reply to: Thanks for the posts on my furkid dying - Grieving a lot
A Simple Message From Your Pet
by Ken D. Conover
To have loved and then said farewell is better than to have never loved at all.
For all of the times that you stooped and touched my head, fed me my favorite treat and
returned the love that I so unconditionally gave to you. For the care that you gave to me
so unselfishly. For all of these things I am grateful and thankful. I ask that you grieve
not for the loss but rejoice in the fact that we lived, loved and touched each other's lives.
My life was fuller because you were there, not as owner, but as my friend. Today, I am
as I was in my youth. The grass is always green, butterflies flit among fthe flowers and
the sun shines gently down upon all of God's creatures. I can run, jump and play
and do all of the things that I did in my youth. There is no sickness, no aching joints
and no regrets and no aging. We await the arrival of our lifelong companions and know
that togetherness is forever. You live in our hearts as we do in yours. Companions such
as you are very rare and unique. Don't hold the love that you have within yourself.
Give it to another like me and then I will live forever. For love never really dies,
and you are loved and missed as surely as we are.
Your pet in heaven.
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I am deeply sorry for your loss - see inside
Try to remember all the good times you shared and he will always be in your heart. I like to share this piece with other animal lovers, but Rainbow Bridge is also comforting:
Do not stand on my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in the snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am a gentle Autumns rain
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
I am the birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
So do not stand on my grave and cry
I am not there.... I did not die
May peace fill your heart. Take care.
It's an overwhelming to feel a loss like that...sm
especially after so many years. But, at least she got to be hugged, comforted and loved on by you until the end. You're a great furkid mommy. Hope you get to feelin' better soon. Cat
it's an overwhelming response
in here. I think we may have to do some second thinking if we're going to buy that house or just wait a little more before we get stable. We're just thinking about the welfare of our baby, like living in a comfortable place, not getting sick, etc. I forgot to say that it was our net income, excluding taxes, health insurance, etc.
I'd say she has been hurt badly and deeply
besides having a questionable upbringing. It has been shown you can even be raised weird and still have great qualities - something happened to push those natural feelings towards other human beings way down inside her. If it were me - I would just kind of detach myself from her as she will most likely not change and you will grow to become bitter and you cannot change her. You are not going to get what you need as a friend from her. Sorry also about your son. Hugs!!
I'm very sorry for your loss. NM
NM
I am SO sorry for your loss--sm
I have followed your posts about Misha since you started and had high hopes that all would be well with her. I am crying now, and feel her loss probably as much as you do. I love animals and have had many in the past, some that I too had to let go. It is not an easy thing to do and I feel so badly for you! Misha is comfortable and happy now, and at peace. You will see her again and she will see you. Sasha may grieve, as well, now. I wish you all the best in the future. Take care.
Good bye Misha. You touched so many hearts!
ks
I am sorry for your loss, too. .. nm
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So sorry for your loss also..nm
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Your loss
I am just so near tears reading your loss. I am so, so very sorry.
So sorry for your loss :-( nm
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I am so sorry for your loss.
jm
I'm Sorry for your loss - NM
NM
I'm sorry for your loss
My pets are my family, and I know how you feel. Hang in there...
So sorry for your loss
Sending cyber hugs. Believe me I know how it hurts. I'm sure kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy, healthy and full of life.
I'm Sorry for Your Loss Also - NM
NM
Sorry about your loss. when my dog
died last year, it was traumatic for me. Search Rainbow Bridge on the web. It is an inspiring story you may enjoy reading... susan
Sorry for your loss...
The recent news is just terrifying. I have 3 indoor cats and feed 6 outdoor cats the neighbors left when they moved. Luckily, I never fed my cats Iams on a consistent basis, but I have once in a while, as well as others.
Deeply, deeply sorry for your loss :(
I am very sorry for your loss...
I lost my brother to suicide almost 8 years ago. It shattered my whole world because we were so close. I have a big family, but my family to me was my mom and brother.
It was by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, ever. I went through many stages too, and still to this day I sometimes think maybe it was just a dream, not real. I know it was real, but this other side of me thinks this from time to time. It is really hard to put in words.
It does get better though. With time, you start to heal and pick yourself up and move on. It is during this time though that you have to lean on whatever comforts you have, whether that is God, your friends, your family, etcetera.
All of my grandparents are gone now too. Unfortunately I was never close to any of them other than one grandpa who passed away first.
Good luck to you and hang in there...it will get better.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
The reason I was buying the ultra-premium dog foods with no gluten products was because I was trying to get Misha healthy, so her illness actually protected my other dog from an early death.
My loss-
I lost my first pregnancy at 16 weeks. At that time I was completely heartbroken. I was confused and mixed up as to why it happened. It has taken me a long time to remember the date of my miscarriage and date the baby would have been born without making myself completely depressed. I have now seen all the events in my life since then and I have come to realize, which was so hard for me to hear and accept at that time- is that things may happen for a reason and be for the better. It is the worst to hear, but it is what you need to find on your own. I am sure your blessings in life will find you, whether they are a wonderful and happy life with your husband, the joy of a pregnancy to fullterm with a child to love or anything else in life that brings a smile to your face and peace in your soul. My child would have been 10 year this August. I always take that week of my estimated due date and just give a moment to think about what could have been. It does take time and I hope you find some comfort in time. My thoughts are with you and your loss.
Am sorry for your loss.
and am on oxygen at night, nasal cannula, not CPAP, and I absolutely hate it. I wake up and it has come off, so it really is not doing me any good. I should probably ask to be switched to CPAP. Again, very sorry for your loss. P.S. Am going in for lap band surgery and so hope to get rid of the oxygen totally in the future.
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my sister several years ago to cancer so I can relate. It makes you realize just how fragile life really is. What a beautiful way to honor your sister, thanks for sharing the pic.
First of all, I am very sorry for your loss.
A friend of mine and former boss lost her husband very suddenly in a work accident when they were both in their early 30s - 5 years ago this week actually. I think she might have tried the online way for awhile, but I know she ended up going to a grief counselor in person eventually, which really helped her. She took her 2 small kids for a few sessions as well, if I remember correctly, and when she was about to remarry, her finance went as well.
I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to, but have you considered seeing your doctor for some sort of antidepressant? You sound very depressed, which is understandable. And people that tell you it's time to snap out of it can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned. Everyone grieves differently and at different paces. One step forward and 2 steps back a lot of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something goes haywire.
((((hugs))))
I'm so sorry for your loss...
I'm close to my mom also and I do dread that milestone. We lost her sister suddenly 6 years ago, who I was extremely close to ("second mom"), and it took a long time, a couple of years, for me to be able to even think of her without crying.
Beliefnet.com has some good reading resources on grief, I think. I think they have forums also, but am not sure. It's definitely worth exploring the site, though, since they often mention other resources outside of their site.
Good luck to you.
I am so very sorry for your loss - sm
May she live on in your heart with the good memories you shared together...
I'm so sorry for your loss. sm
She has gone to the Rainbow Bridge where I think you are right, she is sunning herself and happy.
This is one of the most heartwrenching things to go through but it sounds like Mochi was in a lot of pain and was ready to rest and that was truly the last, best gift you could give her in setting her free.
Fly free without pain, Mochi.
So very very sorry for your loss. nm
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So sorry for your loss.
nm
Sorry for your loss. RIP CJ nm
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Sorry for your loss . . . perhaps you could
sprinkle them somewhere that the two of you enjoyed together or as a family, since neither of your children are interested in having them.
I'm sorry for your loss.
She's warm and comfy now. There will be 4 cats at my new job. Apparently some interact with the workers, whether they are expecting it or not. Should be interesting to be cat ambushed while concentrating on a new job, LOL.
For some happy news, I just scheduled a July vacation. My brother and his family are going.
Other family members could come also, but it's hard to get everybody to agree on a location. Some of the best-off family members are balking at the cost of the hotel instead of just saying "Wow, it's right on the beach and it has all these amenities and we are going to have a blast." Oh well, those that go will have fun and those that don't will wish they did.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
He was just adorable.
Sorry for your loss
and the grands that I reffered to who lost their gc to foster parents by the state was the state of Georgia, just outside of Atlanta. The child was taken from the hospital at age 2 weeks and adopted by the foster family at age 9 months, even though the grandparents (who already had the older 2 siblings in their care) were petitioning to adopt. This is a valid reason to keep kids with family.
So sorry for your loss. nm
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my "first child" at 13 in 2000 and still miss him deeply. The pain does eas with time and the good memories stay, though it does take much time. God bless.
Very sorry for your loss
Thank you for sharing your story.
I am so sorry for your loss. She was a
beautiful girl. Hugs.
Very sorry for your loss..sm
You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her. Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention. You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go. You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did.
When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there. A scenario I never imagined. I was incosolable because, let's face it, 17 years (18 in your kitty's case) is such a long time to have someone in your life. There is a website that helped me through the grief--www.petloss.com. It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out. You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out.
Please write again and let us know how you are doing. ((((hugs))))
I am so sorry for your loss...
it is so hard to loose our family member when they have been through thick and thin with us, giving us all their love. You should not feel guilty and have nothing to feel guilty about - you gave her a great life and she knows that. You did all you could (and more) to make her comfortable and she passed on knowing you were there with her and she no doubt felt it was a nice way to go....with her family in her own home. My thoughts are with you.
So sorry for your loss.
Handsome fella. What is his name? You obviously cared for him deeply, and I am sure your fur-friend knew this. Again, so sorry for your loss.
Am very sorry for your loss
It is so sad to lose a pet. We lost our two cats in 1989 (both died within 3 months from eacher other - were brother/sister). It is so hard and to this day I cannot talk about them as it chokes me up and I start crying as though it was yesterday and I feel such sadness (you would think after 9 years I'd be over it by now, but it still hurts - and now I can see why my mom never got over my baby sisters death). In amongst our research we wanted to know if pets go to heaven and came across some wonderful web sites. Here is a link to a site I just came across as my MIL just lost her cat. I hope it helps you during this time.
http://www.dopetsgotoheaven.com/
I'm so sorry for your loss.
What a gorgeous boy he was. He reminds me of one of the shelties we had when I was growing up. Ginger was mostly my mom's dog, and all the kids had moved out by the time she lost her. She took Ginger's jingling collar with her on her walks for a long time.
I'm so sorry for your loss
My older brother committed suicide also, a long time ago now, but I remember how hard that was. Time helps but it never goes away completely. So sorry. :(
I am so sorry for your loss...sm
what a terrible thing to happen. You are right to dread the holidays. I would too.
I'm sorry for your loss...sm
22 years is such a long time to have a pet. I know he was a member of the family.
I'm very sorry. It must be a sad loss.
xx
I am so sorry for your loss. sm
It is never easy to go down that road, at any time, let alone after 22 years. I hope your Fred had a good, long life. My 4 cats and I will keep you in our thoughts.
loss
My sister-in-law died at 52 of lung cancer with brain mets. She had neck pain for five years before and thought it was from a car accident, but it was the tumor. Christmas was her favorite holiday. My husband quit smoking on her birthday for motivation.
pet loss sm
Here is a link for The Association for Pet Loss. http://www.aplb.org/
They have scheduled chats for people who have lost pets and who anticipate losing a pet. It was a great help to me when I lost my dog last year. There is even a book called, "Loss of a Pet" by Dr. William Sife.
My dog Scooter was my constant companion for 11 years. She got sick suddenly and deteriorated quickly. I took her to a pet ER and made the decision to put her to sleep, but she was in pretty bad shape. I don't envy your mother or you having to make this decision. 
I'm sorry for your loss..........sm
A loss at a holiday time is always a sad thing.
I'm sorry for your loss... sm
It sounds like you gave Simba a wonderful life full of love, which many poor kitties are never fortunate enough to have.
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