I am basing this on personal experience. They did not contact me

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You didn't mention where on your back the mole was, but particularly if it was on your upper back near your neck,  I would be concerned about the swollen and tender lymph nodes.

Regardless, you need to talk to your doctor. The lymph nodes could even be a completely separate issue, but it is definitely a sign that there is a problem.

Good luck!

Call your local animal control officer, or if you don't know the contact info for them, the police should.  It's their job to calmly address the situation.  It's not fair to you to listen to this poor animal all day long.  I would also mention that you fear for not only the animals safety, but also your own.  I'm sure it is on record anyway from the prior incident but wouldn't hurt to bring it up again.  I would definitely not approach the people one-on-one, especially given their past behavior. 

I'm sorry you're going through this. 

just phone calls.  That will let her know that you are cooling off the visitation with her but not make you look ungrateful.  If she brings up never seeing the children, I would let her know politely that you thought she didn't care to have them visit since they always seem to "act up" at her house.  If DH wants to see her DH, then let him visit him alone.  Is there a close neighbor or friend that could keep your girls while you visit your aunt once in a while?  I take it she lives nearby if your boss has contact with her.  If she asks why you didn't bring the children, again - say that you thought it would be better for her if you didn't bring them anymore since their behavior doesn't meet her standards.  She should get the hint pretty quickly.

I definitely agree with you that she should not be pushing her discipline methods on you.  You are the parent and only you and DH should have any say in how you choose to discipline your children and whether or not they even need it.  I will say from experience that the previous generation seems to think we don't know how to handle our kids.  I think a lot of that has to do with the state this country is in, but I don't believe it falls directly on our shoulders.  Afterall, our kids weren't even born when things started to go downhill.  Maybe it's all the hairbrushes and flyswatters that are causing some of these problems.

against pit bulls in particular.  I think all dogs can be dangerous given different circumstances.  I don't think it is right to single out a particular breed and just take away an animal from its home without just cause.

However, my elderly mother, who suffers from MS, has been plagued by horrible neighbors with many dogs.  They do not keep their dogs in their own yard.  Not only do they tear out my mother's trash, but they use her back yard as their own personal bathroom.  Their one dog bit their own daughter and nothing was done.  They are always barking at us when we are in my mother's yard.  I had one come at me and I picked up a shovel that was thankfully near me to protect myself if the dog continued it advance.  Their little dog frequently gets under my mother's feet and her balance is not good due to her age and medical issues.  We have called the Humane Society and they will do nothing. 

I personally think that people should have a right to shoot any dog on their property that shouldn't be there.  If it weren't for getting in trouble for animal cruelty, I would have shot any or all of the neighbor's dogs in my mom's yard.  A 60-some, widowed woman with health problems has no rights to keep destructive, mean dogs off of her property but hey....don't shoot a dog or you will get fined and maybe even jail time.  Sad when a mut as more rights than my mom.

Any irresponsible owner shouldn't have a dog no matter what breed.  I will get off of my soap box now.  LOL.

How is the economy crisis effecting you?
Your budget, your retirement, your family, your FRIENDS families.

How is it effecting the circle you run with? Do you discuss this with family or friends?

It is effecting my family. The gas thing alone is cutting our budget! My youngest started college and is driving back and forth. I've called my aunt who lives close to the school and asked if he could stay with her a few nights a week to save gas money. The drive for him one way is 1 hour. It has already saved us $$$. The fact that he can't find a job isn't helping either. There are no jobs for young people. Even in fast food!

Food prices have effected what we eat! Have you priced CHEESE lately? A 2 cup packages of shredded cheese cost more than a gallon of milk! Food has gotten outrageous.

We have our primary home and we have a small cabin that we go to on weekends. Our primary home is paid for and has been but we do have a mortgage on our cabin. LUCKILY and by the grace of God, we are in a fixed rate situation but it's still difficult. Did we spread ourselves to thin? Sometimes it is tough but we budget and try to be careful with what we spend. Our payment is nowhere near the $1500 per month mortgages people are talking about - and at that price point with an adjustable RATE - I don't know how people are living.

Also lucky that we do not have credit card debt. I've read where the CC companys are raising limits to increase spending while increasing the payment interest as well? I see more and more credit cards being used at the grocery store.

It's all just very scarey for me.

We have some friends who are building their dream home. They have worked and saved for 15 years. The economy is blessing them in some ways since there are a lot of people looking for work but hurt them in others as the price of materials skyrockets!

You know how when you go to the dentist office, enroll your child in day care, fill out a job application, everyone wants contact information "in case of emergency."  Maybe I'm different from everyone else, but I consider an emergency as defined by my falling to the floor clutching my chest while my lips turn blue and I can't talk, or falling down 5 flights of steps, or being hit by a car...you get the idea.

I no longer have a good relationship with my mother (75) because she is getting senile.  I can't trust that anything she knows about me won't make the gossip curcuit as the truth or something totally different, plus she wants to die on her own property without anyone else another and be found days later by some unknown stranger who notices her body out in the yard...so I don't visit, either.  Last time I visited, her whole face was black and blue because she had passed out and fallen face down on a concrete pad where she stayed until the next day when she was finally able to stand up and go inside, then hide from the world for almost a month...I happened to visit her within a week of it happening.  I don't want to be the one who finds her dead on another visit. 

The reason this is important is because of a legal situation that I am in totally unrelated to her and I have a gag order on me...and she can't talk to me without taking "no" for an answer when she quizzes me about it, which she will do every single time we talk.  So, I've just had to say, have a nice life, love you, let instructions to my sister to call me if anyone needs me.

Now it comes back to those old applications I filled out.  My phone number changed and my dentist used my mother's "emergency" contact information to try to reach me, going into great detail the nature of why they were calling.  It was just my 6 months cleaning, but I didn't even schedule it because I was moving and changing jobs and couldn't predict if I could keep an appointment 6 months in the future.  So my mother calls my ex-husband, my ex-mother-in-law, trying to reach me for this "emergency".  My ex-hubby called me.

This is so embarrasing to me.  If someone dies, let my sister call me.  I don't know what to do or how else to get across to her that she doesn't have the right to interfere in my affairs.  The dentist office made the first wrong, and her trying to "save" me was the next one.  I'm almost 50 years old and I think I can take care of myself, thank you very much.  I let the dentist office have it with both barrels.  That was abuse of a reason to call my mother as an "emergency" and they have taken her info out of their system.  I have even had to change physicians because my mother and I had the same primary care, and all my visits were relayed to her by the staff..."oh, your daughter looked so good when she was here last week!", which prompts a phone call to my ex-hubby.  ARRRGH!!  Violation of HIPAA!

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?  I'm almost at the point of having a lawyer draft a letter to her.  I'm past the point of feeling bad about hurting her feelings as she shows no consideration for mine. 

5 years free of hysterical calls at all hours that go on for hours, crazy accusations, death threats, trying to turn other relatives against me, her demanding praise for the tiniest things and putting me down every chance she gets, cops at my door if she gets a scratch on her car because "I must have done it because I'm stalking her".

Nope, don't miss her at all.

I had giant cell papilloma on the inside of my lid once from my lens.  Not painful, occasionally itchy, but really not bothersome.  Doc told me to stop wearing the lenses a few weeks, maybe gave me drops (happened a long time ago), and the condition resolved. 

Hope you heal soon, whatever it is. 

I ask because if she was your friend and you knew she had pancreatic cancer, why wouldn't you know her husband left her?  I would imagine if a friend of mine was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I would visit her and call her up until she passed.  I would probably know if her husband left her.

Just curious. 

Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas?   I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future.  Anycomments or anything about it?   I sure would appreciate it!

mom:  I am in my 40s and grew up back in the old days when discipline for kids in school and at home was okay; however, methods used then are now taboo.  It looks like *traditional* discipline (which I feel was not necessarily always sensible) has been replaced with an either hands-off approach (due to fear of lawsuits, retaliation, etc.) or extreme measures, as described in the above post. This brings to mind the question:  How much more effective are we these days with these approaches? 

I feel for kids these days as well as future generations - looks like they'll have their hands full, if society continues this way.