I am a CASA (court appointed special advocate) and I personally see nothing (sm)
Posted By: JMO on 2007-07-08
In Reply to: I'm concerned that you were typing & weren't watching your 6 yr old. - Red Flag NM
wrong with mothers working at home while their children are there. For goodness sake, the mother can get up and check on them, the children can come to mommy with a problem. They are not unattended. If I were investigating a case as a possible neglect situation where the children were at home with mom working I would have to laugh.
I have seen many more neglectful moms who were doing nothing, I mean nothing except talking on the phone, watching soaps, napping, engaging in all sorts of sexual behaviors, using drugs or alcohol, etc. These parents are by far the more neglectful and causing more harm to their children.
The children of MTs are observing mom multi-task and yet they still have the advantage of having her there to break up an argument, put on a bandaid, etc.
With all the horror stories of day care anymore how can you even suggest they are harming their children.
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And I was involved with a CASA
before for stepgchildren and personally I did not find them to be that hot. They actually played a part in giving back the children to a strung-out mother who lived off the welfare system, never worked, lazy, good for nothing but they feel like "kids should be with their mothers." Ok, so they went back and last I heard the mother was gone and the kids out on the streets, oh well you live and learn. Mothers around not always the best.
CASA, etc in many states have been known to threaten kids...
Without seeing the tapes, etc, I can't blame the kid, especially not knowing the age. Mine, at 7, was chastised by the court-appointed social worker and GAL (guardial ad litem)about not wanting to be with her dad, even though the social worker had learned and verified that her dad had molested another child and attempted to molest an animal (not to mention all his porn they found). Courts and court-appointeds were determined she would "learn to like" her dad,and it was all my fault that she didn't. According to them, he was only trying to help her relax when he had her hand up her nightgown. I have the only appeals court record in the country that I know of (has been cited in several court analyses nationwide) where they specifically stated it is "normal male behavior" for a 50-YO man to be looking at pix of girls believed to be 12 to 15 years old. She is back home with me finally and recovering from the nightmare, but it was not done with any help from the family courts. The Titleman case is the only one to actually be accepted by the US Supreme Court for review.
Totally agree! which is why I advocate
providing one's own happiness regardless of whether you are in or out of a relationship.
high 5!
I did try to get a consumer advocate involved
but no luck. Called 1 day and would not take my call, guess he had more important ones that day. I agree totally with you about getting a news channel involved, I just decided maybe if I went the court way might would stand a chance, knew I could go after their banking acct or garnishment if the courts on my side and it turned out that way. The price they owe me has gone up over $100 just for my court costs and now they owe those in addition to what it was in the first place. The courthouse steps is the way the county does where I purchased the furniture. We could have it at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, just as long as I retrieve what is owed.
Just to play devil's advocate...
there are many women who LIKE to play the victim, poor me, I sacrifice all the time role. IMHO, this is a lot of psychobabble designed by women to further their status as the downtrodden gender. No one can MAKE you not take care of yourself first; you choose to do that to yourself. It doesn't take a genius (or Oprah) to figure out that if you do for others all the time and are not taking the time to take care of yourself that you are eventually going to wear thin and fall apart. Too many women on anti-whatever drugs (anxiety, depression) who can't figure out how to go through day to day existence without mother's little helper pill. It only stands to reason that if you try to be perfect you will fail; something will be neglected in the long run. Deal with it, do the best you can and don't be a doormat. If you fill your face with junk all the time and are fat and don't exercise, that is nobody's fault but your own. If you try to do it all and don't ask for help, that too is your own fault. Women today have it much easier than other generations did. My mother-in-lawr raised 4 boys, worked on the family dairy farm, cooked 3 meals a day and cleaned every day and never thought twice about it. We are spoiled compared to that!
Perhaps I'm playing devil's advocate or maybe I need a
But, I just don't get it.
If things are this dire and it sounds as if what you have posted about him is true, it sounds like you need to spend EVERY POSSIBLE MOMENT getting out of this situation to protect yourself but, most importantly, to protect your children.
What I don't understand is, if time is of the essence and you're taking all of these steps to extricate yourself and your children from this situation...
Why are you wasting precious time soliciting the opinions of virtual STRANGER on an internet forum, and wasting hours arguing with posters?
I dunno...I've never been in an abusive situation, but it seems to me soliciting advice and sympathy from strangers on the internet would be the LAST thing on my mind.
Best of luck to you. It's 2008. If you really want to get out of that situation, and get your children out of it, you can and will.
there is a patient advocate or ombudsman in every state...
whose job it is to deal with things like this. the nursing home can give you the number and it MUST be posted somewhere. If you ask for this number, chances are, they will find the ring if at all possible because they do NOT want to deal with this type of mess, but you should definitely get in contact with him.
I think probably they did not have as much to put on special -
I bet that people are just not buying as much and they are having to mark it down before it ruins.
I don't think they ever threw it out - they just were able to sell it before it got old.
No, there is nothing really special about
Danny's voice and Danny in general. Very common. I have already forgotten his voice, I remember only his rock shrieks......
What brought him that far was only compassion for the death of his wife or girlfriend........
Well, isn't that just so SPECIAL.
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Special Potatoes
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20/20 had a special on E-Bay the other night,
warning about scam sellers - it was actually a repeat though they touted the show as new. On the test buys they ran, all the sellers who scammed them in one way or another had 98% or above feedback. The feedback means nothing, really, as there are lots of ways to remove it - i.e. paying for it to be removed, and also lots of feedback blackmail, where most buyers are too wimpy to leave a negative, as it means they will get one, too. So the feedback system is not valid at all.
I remember a 20/20 special about this...sm
I remember seeing something about this on 20/20 a couple of years back and just remember it's not always the best way to go. Doctors recommend it too fast without looking into other ways. There were women on 20/20 that wished they didn't have it done, can't remember all the reasons. Do tons of research before doing it. Good luck!
I do know a special needs trust will not
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I remember seeing a special on these
odd animals many, many years ago. I was probably about 18. I found them quite upsetting, LOL. I have only seen anything about them one time since, and my impression the second time was that they were very small, like mice, instead of the larger rat-like creatures I was picturing the first time.
There are special chews that have
enzymes in them. They are sold along with the toothbrushes and toothpaste at the pet stores. You are using doggy toothpaste when you try to brush them, I assume. Even if you only get a few swipes of that enzyme paste on the teeth and feel like you aren't doing any good, it actually does make a difference, judging by the comments my vet made about my Misha's teeth. We did do it from a young age, but not often, and she would only tolerate a little bit. But she had great teeth for her age.
Another good way to keep plaque down is to use true raw bones and let them gnaw on those. They work pretty well also.
But I do see the most benefit from any attempt at brushing, and also of course when I've gotten them cleaned under anesthesia if they needed something else done.
There is something special about wintertime.
It's hard work getting things prepped for this weather...but when you come inside in at the end of a day--it's a good tired, a satisfied-feeling kinda tired.
Of course that specialness lasts about 48 hours (or at the first slip and fall on the ice) and then it is so not fun anymore! Anyone down south wanna swap joints, er residences, with me for a few months or so during the winter, you know where to find me!
Me too! I feel so special! (nm)
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Thanks - they are running a special
It's for 11 pieces including brushes, video, etc. I'm starting a new job in a couple weeks and if I don't get it by then I'll check out WalMart. Thanks for the tip.
There is a special place for them
The worst crimes committed are abuse to children and to animals. In the bible it does state that hurting or maiming an innocent animal is one of the worst sins, the first being abuse to children. These are innocent creatures who are here to help us and give us comfort and love. They never ask for anything, are always there for us and never complain. It sickens me to my stomach to hear of abuse to animals. When I was younger I had a dalmatian pup. He was outside one day, fenced in, and got out through a small place in the fence. Someone in our neighborhood saw him, hit him with their car, and left him to die. I was heartbroken and it took me a long time to get over it. I would not like to be the person that will have to stand before God in judgment when it comes it comes to abusing these blessed animals. Only a coward and a bully would commit such an act.
We did not do parties except on special
occasion birthdays, normally just took the kids to see their grandparents as they did want to see them on their birthday. However, it is your tradition and if your in-laws do not want to participate leave it up to them. Invite them and they can choose what to do. Don't change your traditions because they don't "approve."
There's a special collar
I bought mine at Petsmart or Petco. It has spikes on it that grip into the dog's neck. Sounds painful, but it WORKS. And my dog has never yelped, not even once, so I don't think it actually is painful (my dog is a yelper at the slightest amount of discomfort, like trying to wash out his ears).
Anyway, look in the collar aisle at Petco or Petsmart for it. It's around $10-15 and it will make your walks peaceful!
did you plan anything special?
did you plan anything special?
guys depend on us to do all the planning
when it comes to stuff like this
did you plan anything special?
did you plan anything special?
guys depend on us to do all the planning
when it comes to stuff like this
Court TV is now Tru TV as of 1 1 08 nm.
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Some will go to court WITHOUT you..sm
without informing you. Its your word against theirs that you were/werent served with a notice to appear. Next thing you know, you get a letter that a judgment has been entered against you. (Happened to me, and worse.)
Special recipe for frosting?
I need help with finding a recipe for frosting. Years ago, I ate some wonderful cookies that had a frosting that was hard on the outside but soft on the inside. I tried and tried to get the recipe but to no avail. Can anyone help?
Easter is a really special time too. sm
daughters are a special blessing.
Did you watch special on them on PBS station?
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Anyone ever been trustee of a Special Needs Trust?
I've been the trustee of my older sister now since 2001 when our mother died. She is mentally retarded because she fried her brain on LSD and mescalin when she was a teenager, also is bipolar and on SSDI.
She just called me to say she is on the edge of losing all of her benefits, including her state-funded housing, because her love toy went and blabbed to the housing authority that she was getting this "extra" money and it's a huge amount. Well, it's not a huge amount by any means, not even $40,000 to last her lifetime. I'm sure she and her benefits are protected via the whole category of "Special Needs Trust" but to say my blood pressure is up is an understatement of the decade.
I just want to drive 8 hours to smack the sh*t out of her and her G-spot Johnny (did I mention she's also hypersexual?!) boy toy. Now, I'm not a violent person, but the attorney told me that the government could also come after me if they feel there has been any sort of fraud here. I'm not the one that did drugs, yet for some reason this responsibility was tossed in my lap. Hmmm...could be that whole atheist thing and this is mom's retribution.
So, anyone know anything about Special Needs Trusts I should be particularly concerned about?
Oprah just had a special on the other woman....
and found it very interesting to hear from these women who had affairs with married men. Only one of the 4 women was still with a married man, while the others ended it. The psychologist on there asked her what was it in her childhood that brought her to this point in her life to feel like she didn't deserve better. You deserve better. Your child deserves better. His wife deserves better. They also said how the men tell you what you need to hear...they know what you need to hear, so he's not real. He could also be saying the same things to another woman at the same time, or maybe not, you never know. Please don't feel sad...get out now and meet the man of your dreams. He's out there waiting for you, but you're not available to him yet. You deserve more. Your child deserves more.
Has anyone bought the special toothbrushes...
Okay, way off the wall and out there. Have any of you bought the fancy toothbrushes they try to sell you at the dentist's office? Mine in particular is pushing Rota-dent. I REALLY want the results, etc., but $120.00? Is it really any different than the electric spin brush you get off the drugstore shelf?
I'm going in tomorrow to start some extensive and expensive dental work, and I want to take the best care I can, but again, is it worth $120.00 or should I just stop by Walmart on my way home?
They look pretty, I wear them, if I am going somewhere special.
To make them look real, I stole an idea from Marilyn Monroe. I cut the lashes in half and then I use the resulting minilashes and put them starting from mideye to the edge of my eye nearest the ear. Be careful just to put a little glue. Then, you can put eye liner over it. I have very blonde (almost platinum) hair and eyebrows, so it can't be heavy handed. Also if you use the half lashes, you can put a light color like cream under your eye brow arch and on the lid, with a bit of brown in the crease. Blend it together and it will look glamorous yet natural. Only you will know, because it looks like a lot of mascara on the edge, or you are blessed with long eyelashes! Have fun with it. I do.
Your cabin sounds so special
I love where I live because I do have animals around. Some deer were standing close by my home when I started out the other morning, a bunny ran across the road the other evening and I told my husband my home is magical. Coming home the other night I could have sworn the moon was sitting right behind my home so big and bright. I have loads of birds and squirrels and I feed those.
this should be challenged in court
This is NOT a communicable disease and should NOT be mandatory. What about possible side effects, what about 20 years down the line when they discover it caused a new problem. No. It is wrong to make this mandatory. This regards one's personal health decisions, for their CHILD no less. What next?
You need to get it back into court sm
and get this changed. Is there any reason you feel you might deprived of all visitation privileges? So hard to give real advice or opinion without the details. Sad for you though, must be hard. You need some court mandated visitation rules.
Yep, ordered to court but you might be ok
the only exempt 1 today was a new owner and he had just had lawn put down- but having said that- you are only allowed maybe a month and then after that a homeowner on same restrictions as others so don’t know how much it could get roots and grow by them. We have sprinkler system but I try not to use if I can, just too expense and I am cheap!
Court Jobs
Here where I live Court jobs pay excellent, plus there are all sorts of benefits, pensions, and a lot of time off. They're very had to come by, though. Some of them are civil service, and some is definitely who you know. I was a paralegal for a long time before I became an MT and I always wished I was able to get in the Court system.
I know my chances are 0 with that court
You said "I've seen them put kids in the custody of parents who are known to abuse them when the other parent has no problems, etc."
That's exactly the situation here. My son wants to live with his dad due to his lax (to put it mildly) parenting skills and will cheefully lie to keep daddy out of trouble. The last custody battle was the worst nightmare I ever hope to go through, every lie the ex told was taken as gospel, every truth I told was "alleged" - and while the judge was making the custody decision, my ex went to jail for being drunk and naked in his yard while my child was present, the court was quite aware of this and he STILL got awarded custody. I am really reluctant to jump into another such fiasco, and I told my son until he is ready to tell the judge in writing he wants to live with me, I won't go back to court.
I am convinced that by the time I got to court my son would be back in school, it would be a moot point, I would be told its "normal" to miss that much school, ex would get a pat on the head for his "loving parental concern", and the ex would retaliate by counter-filing to double or triple my child support payments.
That particular court has told me "lots of children go to school filthy and in rags, its the community norm, its no big deal". My child has experienced recurrent scabies and lice due to his father's lifestyle, (which is also "normal" to the court) so I am utterly amazed at his dad's sudden concern for his health.
when you go to court in the USA, you swear on..sm
In every court in the USA, one swears on a bible, probably the New Testament (I know it's not the Old Testament), and no matter who you are, you have to swear on the Bible (in a trial case). I would swear on it - it's a book about God, no matter if it's the old one or the new one, and as a result it still holds up as a respectable Bible to me for swearing to God.....I revere all books such as this, for everyone's religious beliefs.
Unfortunately, I am court ordered to do it
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They will take you to court, without doubt.
It isn't too little for them. If they have evidence you owe that debt, then they have legal recourse to collect.
If it goes to court, you will get a judgement against you. It will go on your credit record and they can also garnish wages to receive their money. They may be entitled to other collection means.
It won't matter whether you send a cease and desist letter -- it is a debt you legally owe. You need to call them immediately and discuss your concerns over the legitimacy of the claim. Never, ever avoid them - it will just cost you more in the long run.
yes, you can go to the family court and do that on your own.
You do not need an attorney. Research online. I think you even HAVE to do this, updating the financial situations for the sake of the children.
so what r u taking her to court for?
You didn't cosign for the vehicle. You didn't loan her the $$ for her electric bill. You didn't want any profit from the business. The only thing I saw you mention was at the end about animal food, etc, but isn't that considered start-up costs of a business?
Sorry, don't mean to make you madder, just confused.
It's always crowded but more so on special shopping days. nm
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Same here, only animals and special needs orphan children.
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There's a special coating you need to use first to fill in the grooves. Don't
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I got to get back to typing her but need special prayers
my DIL and grandson are in flight from Hawaii to LAX to be with her mother, his grandmother in the last few days of her life. Her name is Pat. She lives in Placentia. She is in the hospital right now but wants to come home when they get here. My son also in HI, scheduled to leave within 10-12 days to Iraq but he is having some medical issues. Please pray they will not be of a serious nature. Please pray, he is thinking his men will think he is faking this. It is just all the stress he is under....Thank you in advance
Wonderful news!!!!! Special Olympics
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Now wait a sec - the woman did NOT ask anyone for special favors - sm
There's not a single thing in the original posting asking us to pity her or that she was suing anyone. Nothing. SHe's not asking for your judgment or your forgiveness either. I'm just saying your tone is all holier than thou. Obviously you've never struggled with fat or any other addiction; I have and I didn't ask for anything from anyone else either. You're just self righteous is all I'm saying.
How doea one become a waitress? Is there a special schooling?..nm
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