I along with my husband lived back in the days when
Posted By: Marie on 2009-02-24
In Reply to: thank you for your opinions -- you're right - XanaX
we were regularly punished with whippings. I remember a yard stick (wooden) plus belts, hands and he probably the same. We have grown into very productive people and we believe in doing right, being the best we can be and no we were not tarnished for life. This is something most kids I grew up with faced and we did not love our parents less for it. I never knew of a kid in high school who fought, cursed the teachers, his parents or really was in any kind of serious trouble and graduated in a class over 200. Now the way kids are brought up, it is an entirely different time and I do not know if it is all for the good. We never thought we were abused, never and if I were growing up today probably would have some busybody sticking their nose in to try and undo what our parents did back then. What you see for your child is not always what others want for theirs. There are more troubled children today than ever before and DH and I both think due to parents babying their kids to the point of almost being scared of them and the kids running the show.
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When I lived on a farm back in the day...
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Years back we lived in the country, and mice
were commonplace in the old farmhouse we were renting. One year, though, our landlord moved about 30 round bales of oats or wheat and lined them up next to the barn outside. Apparently it wasn't a good year to sell it as grain, so he baled it to feed his cattle. Anyway, those bales of grain really lured the rats to the property, and one got in the house. I was shocked and horrified. I think we got it out by using a sticky trap, which slowed it down enough so that we could corral it into a trash can and take it outside. However, the barn cats which we had a-plenty DID NOT catch and kill these rats. They didn't know what to do with them, I guess because they were so much bigger than the mice they were used to. I remember watching one of the cats when he had a rat cornered, and the rat was hissing and squeaking because it was trapped, but the cat never killed it. He just looked perplexed and a little scared himself. I guess my point is that you can't necessarily count on a cat to solve this problem. Good luck, though. Mice are bad enough, but rats are downright creepy.
I met my husband at the appartment complex we lived in.
I thought he was cute but was too shy to do anything about it so a neighbor put a few good words in for me and he came over to my appartment, we talked for a while and then he asked me out for a date.
Maybe get involved in community activities, take courses you are interested in or just do like I did, keep your eyes opened.
My husband growing up lived on a farm where
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no, but I wanted to back in the days!!!
friends have used Sylvan and gave positives on the center....
this is a throw back to my college days
Morning Thunder is loaded with caffeine! Good for all nighters!
your husband was a bad boy! Enjoy your well -earned, good days!...nm
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My hubs had it done, in office, local. Needed an ice pack for 2 days or so. No problems back in
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I almost emailed my post back to you, but feared your husband would read this! so, here it is sm
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No, my husband thought they would store the trailer with the quads in the back corner of their yard.
away from the road. The trailer that had been stolen previously was in their front yard unfenced. And you drive the quad off the trailer and that is it. Really, the reason it wasn't unloaded is because our garage was a huge mess and he was too tired to clean it late at night to the quads could fit in it. Unloading them and loading them wasn't the problem. It was the garage we have that looks like a tornado hit.
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award.
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Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
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I don't even know what that is... lived in CA, AZ, OR
and Nevada. Never heard of scrapple.
:) Thanks! LOL--I wish you lived near me too...SM
We live in Nebraska.
My idea of shopping is Walmart, Target, and K-Mart. It worked while my boys were young, but now that they're getting older I guess I'll hafta dig deeper in the pocketbook and shop at stores in the mall. Thanks for the link! :)
Chickadee
I wish I lived
close enough to a beach to go every day, but then again, I probably would NEVER work!
You see, I have never lived by
myself. I went straight from home, to the college dorm, to my grandma's for the summer, then I got married. I never got to be on my own. I think everybody should have that opportunity. I think it would have changed me in lots of ways.
Back-to-back black swans that look like (sm)
a giant moustache. My MIL painted it for us and put our last name on it and my DH nailed it to an outside storage room door. It looks ridiculous, and when the kids have other kids over they always ask why we have a giant moustache on our door!
Hayseed was back a few weeks back
But we haven't heard from her since. I miss her too. I hope she's doing okay.
In my day, no vaccine. We all got it. We all lived.
At least now he will be immune. Hope you had hubby don't come down, too, but if so, it doesn't last forever. Just keep him away from others while contagious. And don't let him scratch!
When I lived in Colombia....
no one printed anything for me in English. Their country, their language, respect their ways. Those who come here should do the same - our country, our langauge, our ways. If you want to speak Spanish, go back across the border.
We speak English here precisely we were all originally from somewhere else.
The "We were all immigrants" argument is inane. Any country can say that. Mexicans were not originally from Mexico except for the Indians, who are extremely underprivileged and discriminated against by the Mexican government and the majority of Mexicans. Within the Latino culture, there is plenty of discrimination and prejudice - the lighter the skin and hair color, the higher the prestige. Latin American countries look down on the Caribbena and Mexico, etc.
Prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination are not just a white-black issue.
Why is that the Vietnamese and Koreans and other Asian groups come here, learn a new alphabet and many times will learn both Spanish and English in order to do business, but the Spanish speakers come here and demand everything be done to accommodate them?
It don't want to be Americans, they should stay home. If they want to adopt the American culture, come on over - legally.
hopefully this will be short-lived
I'd still send pictures, etc., especially to your grandparents. Good luck!
lived with us for a year.
by the time she moved out, no one would talk at the dinner table. my husband & I would go outside to talk. not good. hopefully your mil will be able to get some friends.
She has lived with us for 2-3/4 years so she...sm
knows all of the family line. We have been told that the judge that is finalizing the adoption spends a lot of time hanging out with a child that is old enough to talk with him at the time of adoption so she's looking forward to that. We've got the camera ready to go with a new battery and lots of memory on the memory card for the photos.
I have made an appointment to get her portrait made and the place we're doing that can create some adoption announcement cards for us with her picture and information on it to send out to people.
I like the tree idea - thanks for that one! Hopefully I could keep it growing! :o)
I grew up and lived in PA
until I made a few moves down south a few years back and moved to Ohio a year ago. I am about 45 minutes now from my hometown in PA, but my hometown in PA is just 45 minutes away from Pittsburgh. We could be close enough to be neighbors!
I wish I lived right next door to
help you with your project. That's my kind of fun. :oD I wuv a good rottie. Can't imagine playing with 3 of them.
How about: If I lived here, I'd be the cook!
Looks beautiful! WIsh I lived there. NM
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Did your parents help? I lived on my own but (sm)
it was because my stepfather did not want me there. I worked a full time and a part time job and tried to put myself through college. It took me years just to get an associate degree. If I had had help from my parents it would have been so much easier. It was very difficult as an 18-year-old to earn enough money to take care of myself.
I wished you lived near me...sm
So that you could meet my big baby and get to know him. I promise you would say this is no pit bull. My mom was scared to death when I got him that he would grow up and be this mean vicious killer. Well now she loves him to death. My father-in-law was against us having a pit. Now he says he ain't nothing but a baby. Some may be mean. But I am telling you mine is not mean. UNLESS he feels threatened or his family is threatened. Just a while ago a friend of my husbands was over here and CJ was just head set on getting up in his lap. CJ weighs about 70 pounds and he thinks he can sit in your lap. Lots of people say he isn't a pit is he? I say yes but he is a nice pit. Some are mean, some are not. It depends on the dog and a lot of how it is raised. This dog has been babied like a child from the time I got him. When he was 3 months old I got him and routinely rocked him in my recliner. Now he is just this huge baby.
We lived 2 blocks away from each other
I knew him in high school. He was the 'much older' Senior and I the lowly Sophomore. I had a crush on him, we'd ride with a group of boys & girls to away football games & he was always very nice to me. My older brother and his older brother were in the same class & had been good friends for years.
DH graduated & then two weeks before my senior year was to start, my now BIL came over to our house, after he returned from the Marines, to see if my brother was home. He wasn't but we talked for a few minutes. Then furture BIL went back to his home and told DH....you need to call Renee.
The rest is history.
We dated during my senior year and we went to all the dances. It was a great year and I have a box full of silly bids from dances, pictures and fun times! That was some 42 years ago now...LOL.
when i lived in the south, they said
i had a 'northern' accent. I'm born/raised Californian. When we moved to midwest, teased kids for having southern accent. however, when my husband used to work all over the country 40 yr ago, he could tell almost exactly where someone was from, hearing them talk a bit. With all the travel/moving around now, accents are there, but not nearly as identifiable, and ofttimes a mixture ...
never lived there but visited.
I love it. So jealous of you. Good luck!!
I lived there and HATED it!
There is nothing to do in North Carolina. The BIG event in Raleigh is the weekly Farmer's Market. The lakes are ugly, manmade bowl-like things. The police are out of control in that part of the country.
You could not PAY me to live in North Carolina again. At least not near Raleigh. Charlotte and the Mountain area are nice, but for the middle of the state? YUCK!!!
Twice so far in 11 years we have lived here - sm
Once when I lived at home years ago, boss got me out. I was excused the two times here as my kids were little and still at home, and no babysitter. My husband got called a few months ago, first time, no clue what he did with the papers or exactly what they said, I think he just blew it off, but no one has ever come to get him if that was the case.
The man who lived across the street.
We lived in cul-de-sac of 10 homes. The whole neighborhood knew each other. This man thought he was the boss of everyone, told everyone how to raise their kids, keep their yards, take care of their pets. He was physically and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. He was absolutely awful.
Someone called me one day to say that man had liver cancer and had less than 6 months to live. I thought couldn't have happened to a nicer person. He died on New Year's Day 2004 and as we watched the ambulance leave his house with his body in it, everyone (including his family) gave a sigh of relief. Only 6 people attended the funeral. Isn't it horrible to think that way about someone? He was only 52.
When I lived in S. Florida, I heard ..sm
I thought that sort of thing is illegal in this country?
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
No she won't - as long as she lived there for 2 years -sm
single you get $250,000 tax exempt, above that CG applies, if married it is $500,000. That tax law has been changed for a while now.
I have lived in the area for over 40 years
and I know exactly where this is and I drive the freeways all the time, including the HOV (which is a lane for more than 1 person in a vehicle to use or a motorcycle driver). The lanes are to the left-hand side of the others and the bus driver apparently took the wrong lane. Ther are 2 there that run side by side, 1 goes straight on thru Atlanta and the 1 he took is the exit lane and apparently exiting at a high rate of speed (i.e. your average speed on the freeways) he was totally unable to make the stop at the top of the freeway. There are 2 lanes there, 1 directly ahead and the 1 he took has a stop sign at the top for a turn either right or left. So unfortunate for these people and our hearts have gone out to them.
Best City You've Ever Lived In
Milwaukee, WI... HANDS DOWN! Love the people, love the city, wish I could move back.
I've move a lot in my lfe- anyone else who has moved a lot who has a fave city?
I have lived in Wyoming all my life .....
It is definately West!! We have it all, flats, mountains, snow in summer, it has snowed here on the 4th of July!! If you are going to Yellowstone, chances are you will see snow in some places...not alot, but some. Jackson, in the mountains, and in the Big Horn mountains around Sheridan should still have some, depending on how late in the summer you come. We have a little of everything and lots of space to breath! I would not want to live anywhere else!! Welcome..I hope you enjoy your visit!!
Allergies possible? I lived at the dermatologist - sm
for a couple years, would get this horrible rash on my neck, hurt, oozed, itched, totally sucked. Dr. suggested I do my own allergy testing at home. I put a spot of shampoo, my ferret's hair, body soap, clothes detergent, etc. under seperate band-aids on inside of my forearm and left them on untouched and dry for 48 hours then removed. I had a horrible red rash/reaction to my shampoo. (was also allergic to 1 of my ferrets, the one that still had its musk glands. So I stopped using that brand of shampoo and it cleared right up. Happened again a few years later and switched shampoos again with complete resolution of the rash. Luckily it has not happened since. So it could be as simple as exposure to something he uses every day or on frequent basis, you just need to figure out what. My DH became allergic to Tide about 10 years ago after they changed their Bleach Alternative formula, got a rash all over his body from it, obviously we don't use that brand anymore. Good luck.
Lived in it for years and loved it. (sm)
Low payment. I think the plus with a mobile home as opposed to a condo or an apartment is pets. A lot of them allow a fenced in yard - at least here some of them do.
Lived right at the beach before, hated it
NM
You are such a crackup! I wish you lived next-door..... nm
:)
Once I lived near some storage units
So a friend and I rented a storage unit for the month, took all our stuff there, made up signs, and set them out by the corner when and if we were ready to sell. It was definitely worth the rent on the unit. When we weren't in the mood to sell, the stuff stayed locked up and dry and didn't have to be handled again and again.
I guess the same way we lived with the thought that the
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Are you saying this 16-year-old lived at home with this guy?
If this is the case, the mother should be charged with child abuse. I have not heard this and if so I am shocked that a mother would allow this.
I have never lived or been to Alaska but I hope to one day. . sm
It looks so beautiful. I have an aunt who goes to the rural areas and teaches bible camp every year. She takes the most beautiful pictures. A couple of years ago, there was a Bigfoot sighting in the area she was visiting. LOL. One of my favorite books is "Alaska" by James Michener. It is a fictional book but it goes into many different aspects of Alaska from the prehistoric age to present. It is very entertaining. Some day I hope to get there! Good luck to you!
Lived and traveled all over the world - sm
If you want stunning beauty at every turn I would pick Hawaii hands down. It exceeded my expectations, which is pretty hard to do because I have done and seen a lot. There is a lot to see and do, which varies wildly from island to island. If you want interesting things to explore, food and beer that are fantastic beyond belief, and people who love to share their country with you I would pick Germany. I lived there for 5 years and went back to visit 2 years ago. A beautiful and magical place for my husband and me. Unless you like rain, snow, and being chilly go there in the summer or fall. Best of luck in wherever you decide to go!
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