I agree with Donna below...

You first have an obligation to your son to teach him how to be a man!  You are not raising a child.

I would have a talk with your ex-husband who apparently has figured out how to treat a woman and have him talk with your son.  But most importantly, it has to come from you that you are special also and deserve recognition.  So many women will tolerate this and it is not acceptable. 

I would also have a serious talk with your current husband about his job as a husband, friend, lover.... but also his obligation as a role model to your son as he is the man in the house and he should have done something, made a card, cooked you diner, did the dishes and in front of your son, explained why...  *Lets do the dishes for Mom because it is her day!* 

I feel very strongly that raising a boy to be a man in these times is very hard, respect, love, tenderness, concern, compassion, understanding, kindness.... these are all things not being taught to our young boys. 

Many, many times I will walk into a store and a young man will walk in right in front of me and not hold the door.  I always follow the young man in and make mention of the fact that he should hold the door for a lady, children, or the elderly.  Yes, sometimes they take offense to this but I do not care.  Someone has to enlighten them.

Good luck to you Mom, and do not forget to call that ex-husband on Father's Day!

• Mother's Day - Late late late.
  • I asked a very simple gift for Mother's Day, should have saved my breath - All but forgotten
  • You have every right to be upset....sm - curious girl
    • He doesn't literally have 2 different ....sm - curious girl
  • I agree with Donna below... - also forgotten
  • I would also be upset, - momto4
  • Response - Pink Ice
    • Mother's Day Treatment - Donna
      • I've used Donna's method - with mixed results
        • I guess I have always looked at this a little differently.....sm - m
          • Giving freely but never getting back - is a bum deal
            • I would definitely stop this expensive gifts, but - .-
              • gave child up for adoption in 70's - reunited 6 years ago

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Finally have my 14 year old trained - but he had to go without birthday presents or Christmas presents from me last year before the light would dawn.  No amount of preaching about my feelings, lectures about reciprocating good wishes (even IF one has no money to shop for gifts - a phone call or card will NOT bankrupt anyone!!!!), or anger could get through to him.  No amount of pointing out people he knows who whine that "nobody remembers their special day" that do nothing for others on their day seemed to matter.  But the golden rule did - and he realized that he DOES want to receive something from ME, so I better receive something from HIM.

His 31 year old sibling cannot and will not see the light, and continues to moan that nobody cares on x-mas or birthday; forgetting all the years that presents were received and were not even acknowledged, much less any gratitude expressed or reciprocated.  Guess that person is doomed to a lifetime of lonely special days.

OP, your husband sounds like an entitled, lazy turd.  Its not your job to be his secretary, or remind him he has a mother.  Good grief, if he can't remember THAT on his OWN, he deserves whatever the fallout will be.  I sincerely hope on his next birthday she "forgets" him in return.  As for father's day - ask him why hasn't he reminded you to call your dad, and why hasn't he gone shopping for a present for your dad for YOU?  Maybe then he'll see how stupid and ridiculous that is.

I would rather them be locked in a car driving than strolling or walking alone - In Florida - we have had MANY YOUNG KIDS killed (murder) by being alone walking to and from school.  My children are VERY responsible and pay for everything, except that car insurance (which is wayyyyyyyyy too much) which I offered to pay until age 28.  By the age of 28, they'll be earning more $$.  My OLD brother (and he's very old *LOL*) did this for his son until age 28 (think he's about 38 now) because of the exhorbitant insurance rates.  I decided to follow suit.  If we have it, why shouldn't we help them.  I'd rather help my children while I'M ALIVE AND KICKING rather than what they get when I die, IF there is anything to get *LOL*

Y'all have a GREAT day! 

Remember, we can all agree to disagree without being nasty and rude. 

One of my children saved all the Xmas/holiday/birthday $$ ever received from toddler-hood so that at 17 had $6000+ and put it down on a BRAND NEW SMALL CAR, albeit I had to co-sign the balance.  Child did pay the rest off.  I too am very proud of the children who are  young still, one has worked for 10 years already (started off part-time at about 14 after school by own choice).

Yep, I want kids to hang out in multiple numbers today - never walking alone - too many CREEPS out there in the USA today and they are EVERYWHERE....really creepy to me.........

Let's sing out for the responsible good kids who are out there trying to live life in this messed-up world!!!! 

HOORAY FOR THE CHILDREN!!!!  They are our future and if we don't back them, well then we are up the creek without a paddle, right?   

My husband is far from dispensable!  He's my best friend too.  He's a wonderful father, husband, son, brother, everything!  We've been married for almost 20 years and I love and need him more today than I did in the beginning.  Men are getting an unfair wrap here...although I completely sympathize with the OP.  That's her situation, though, not every marriage comes down to that.

Like I said before (and my post was deleted for some reason) I am looking forward to growing old with my husband...raising grandchildren...hopefully finally getting to travel.  I do believe the best has yet to come for us!

actions speak louder than words - if he wasn't guilty he would've stuck around..........would have had nothing to run from if he was innocent......and that's another thing - in the case, he was NOT found NOT GUILTY - he was found innocent by a reasonable doubt....(pssst - cause he's still guilty)...LOL

if it looks like a horse, smells like a horse, acts like a horse, it is not a swan! 

RIP Ron and Nicole......

And it was even worse in the days of pay toilets what we had to endure. 

I remember sitting there broken heated.

Paid a dime and only farted.

Definitely don't get tempted on the business trip, and if he wants you he needs to get rid of the other one. 

It is really easy to cheat on a business trip and come home to the wife/steady girlfriend like nothing happened (for some anyway).

A lot of teens are going to have sex before marriage.  My 17-year-old daughter came to me last fall about wanting to go on the pill.  She is in her first serious relationship, so I took her.  I had a pregnancy scare in high school and it was not fun and I was very honest with her about that. 

My daughter is not getting the vaccine because it is too new and I don't think anyone knows the long-term problems that could come from it.  Hopefully by the time my daughter is having this discussion with her daughter, it will either have been proven safe or pulled off the market, but my daughter is not going to be a guinea pig.

He's no Judge Judy or Judge Millian (Marilyn) or Judge Mathis or any of them.....he seems to be merely an ATTENTION SEEKER.

Judge (*and I use the term JUDGE loosely here*) Larry Seidlin is a 3-ring-circus unto himself with his one-liners and cliches...remember folks, he is a former cabdriver in Bronx, NY and is exactly what he *sounds* like in the courtroom....chastising the attorneys, calling them/addressing them by state , i.e., *Texas...sit down*....or things to that effect...and yet taking every single momentary opportunity to push his OWN agenda, and what I mean by that is HOGGING THE SPOTLIGHT and CAMERAS!!!  He's nauseating!!! 

So, Irish Mom....GMTA (great minds think alike) !!!   

Thank you!  I thought I was the only one here that wasn't still living in the dark ages!  You are so right, the people that think teaching anything but abstinence is like telling kids it's OK to have sex make me laugh.  It does not and will not ever work!  Yes, you teach both young girls and boys for that matter to have selfworth and value themselves and the consequences of sex and hope they are armed with enough self-esteem to make the right choices for them.  Then, just as importantly, you need to teach them about safe sex and birth control options.  That doesn't encourage them to have sex, only to be safe about it and to feel comfortable enough with their parents to discuss such issues and ask questions.  Lets face it, they are going to do it if they really want to.   

Talking all this immorality nonesense is just teaching young women that it's OK to judge other women for their choices, and I think that is so wrong.  Something someone else does can be not right for you, but that doesn't make the other person bad or mean they should be looked down upon either.  I would so much rather have people like you in the world who talk to their daughters openly about sex and teach them about birth control than I would someone yacking at them about their own agenda and morals!  Good for you for educating instead of judging and sending your daughter out in the world prepared!