I agree..it sounds like kids are picking on him...
Posted By: MtMommy on 2008-09-17
In Reply to: 11-year-old boys - always this emotional? sm - MeMT
Some kids most definitely are cruel...That is why I wish all public schools had uniforms too...would make life so much easier I tell ya...I would definitely have a talk with him about it...good luck...I have a 9-1/2-year-old son and he is like the below posters son: forgetfull, lacks common sense, et cetera.
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It sounds like your kids are okay with
your rules, even if they are different from others. The trend is to try to be cool and slack off on the rules, but rules are made to protect people, and if kids would follow them, they would be better off. So have your rules at your house and it is up to them to be wise or foolish when they are not there. You taught them right, and when they are 30 or have kids of their own they will probably appreciate just how wise the rules were, and how hard it is to stick to them.
Sounds like YOU picked a real loser to sleep around with and have kids with.
You have no one to blame but yourself.
You son is picking on her...
What seems like fun and joking around to a person can be threatening and terrifying for a dog. Dogs aren't that complex. Happy before son came home...terrified after he came home...see? Whether he is deliberately being mean or just giving--what he thinks is--a playful stomp towards her or a little mean look, the dog is obviously terrified.
Where are you picking that up?
Not seeing on CNN or the other big channels. Not surprised because I noticed a paramedic hovering over him going into the hospital giving CPR
picking my battles
You dont even realize how right you are about picking battles. Social security? That is a small, small worry in comparison to where you spend eternity. I am concerned about worldly issues, however, I find that my "battles" are with what happens after this. I want to be sure that my children have a firm belief and faith in God so that they can spend eternity with him and not in he11. That is the ultimate God-given responsibilty of parents.
someone picking their nose
If I have to shake hands with someone who was coughing, rubbing their nose, if I see kids picking their nose or eating their boogers! I completely freak out!
I can clean up cat barf when everyone else in the house is screaming and running in the other direction!
I agree with your kids. sm
Kids need to be able to be individuals as long as they are not showing anything they shouldn't show and as long as the clothing is not distracting.
However, for schools to decide to go to uniforms is just ridiculous and more of a cost to the parents. Instead of having to buy church clothes and school clothes, now the parents would have to buy school uniforms, church clothes AND then of course their regular clothing that they will wear whenever they go anywhere but school.
If a parent chooses to send a child to private school, then that is by choice and yes they should have to wear whatever uniform is necessary. As far as public school, no way. The schools need to start putting more emphasis on educating our children and quit worrying about trivial things such as what the kids are wearing.
I agree...sounds like more than--
just pot. He may need help. Pot would not do that to him all by itself. good luck to both of you.
I totally agree and think that is why many kids
are the way they are today. I think since now most moms have to work outside of the home (not us of course!) they are so guilt-ridden from leaving them at daycares, etc. all day that they don't dare discipline them at all and act almost as if they are worshipped. I am also getting sick of people bringing their infant children and all the rest of them out to fancy restaurants for late evening dinners and thinking it's just adorable when a kid starts screaming or having a tantrum because he wants ice cream and not a gourmet meal. In the good old days there were things called non-working moms, babysitters and spankings! And the kids didn't have half the problems they have today. I don't remember ONE kid that appeared to have ADD or ADHD when I was in school. And I don't remember everyone wanting so much to be famous and a millionaire and have perfect Hollywood looks. We were all pretty much the same, normal! It is very sad what is happening to this world and the upcoming generations.
I agree - no kids, why do they have to have a relationship?
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I agree, and they need to think about kids watcing too.
It seems that they think they can get away with more because it is a commercial. Some commercials are worse than TV shows that I would not even consider letting my kids watch, and there it is forced upon them. Terrible.
I agree, but it could be burn out, because it sounds
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I agree - this sounds like our cousins son
I don't know what your going through but I just wanted to tell you this sounded like our cousins son. Come to find out he was way more intelligent and had a lot of pent up energy. They took him to testing and found he was 2 years ahead of his classmates, so they enrolled him in 7th grade instead of 5th the next year, and they also got him involved in sports and he's so much happier and doing really well. I wish you all the best while you're working this out.
Cant beleive that instead of picking up phone to call Dr.
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I so agree...mother of 3 healthy kids
I have a similar relative who would NEVER let anyone around her girls when they were babies, whether we were sick or not. No one was allowed to even hold them. Those babies grew up to be 2 of the sickest kids I ever saw.
I agree. Little did we know. The young kids today
how we lived without computers and cell phones.
I did just fine.
I remember knowing who lived in every single house in our little neighborhood. In summer, all of us neighborhood kids would ride our bikes down the street and all the adults would be out on their porches or leaning on fences talking to one another and the baseball game would be on everyone's radio.
We would roll down to the neighborhood pharmacy, sit at the soda fountain and order chocolate Cokes and sometimes cherry Cokes. Then you HAD to go to the neighborhood mom and pop grocery store, stand 4-deep at the penny candy counter and all shout and point at the same time. I LOVED Mary Janes and those little foil covered chocolate "Ice Cubes." Anyone remember them? Then of course, you had to grab a bottle of coke out of the ice-filled Coca-Cola cooler, and little bits of ice would stick to the bottle and that Coke tasted soo icy cold and bubbly.
I remember thinking as a kid, boy how can anything get better than all this.
I was so right.
As a side note -- my sister found my old wicker basket from my bike in her basement. I repainted it white and have it on my bedroom wall, and fill it with silk seasonal flowers. Right beside it I have a picture on the wall of me and my best old friend in our Girl Scout uniforms, smiling and hugging. She died from leukemia a couple years ago. We were friends for 40 years. A piece of heart will always be gone now. But when I look at that picture and that basket I think of happier times, at least for me as a kid.
"I told hubby would not mind picking up & sending to her"
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Picking blackberries & putting them in an empty coffee can.
There was a field nearby with TONS of wild blackberry bushes. Some of them we would keep for ourselves and make blackberry cobbler, or we would sell them in empty coffee cans to the neighbors for $5/can. What a bargain!
don't agree w/U - she's 45, raising kids..regular lady..
lol, I so agree - why are kids the way they are today? Rude and obnoxious?
The generation raising them, apparently. Kids today are treated like little princes and princesses. I don't know when children became things of worship but they have. And this time out and talking to the child it such crap, when most just need a good smack now and again. Hey it worked for us. When I was growing up we kids were not disrepectful and we didn't think the world owed us something and we grew up to be decent people. We were afraid of our parents in a way and it helped us to be decent kids. I don't remember being worshipped by my parents. So, I just can't imagine this world in say 20-30 years, how scary.
I totally agree with you and this is what is wrong with the kids today!
They think they're *all that* and then some. And they're in for a rude awakening. LOL
I agree! Many kids are overweight, lazy and don't want to work hard for anything!
Good luck to them in the working world...how many do you think will actually do well? It's a scary thought.
I agree - the switching idea is HORRIBLE. When I was a child the kids who got switched
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Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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What an awesome post! I agree, agree, agree completely with you.
 You are right on the money in my book! 
You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
Marsha, Marsha, Marsha.... stop picking on me.
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I agree, try to live in another country, then you will also agree...nm
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absolutement! Agree! Agree! Agree!
Why is it so hard to understand this? HMOs are just middlemen who get everything balled up and costly!
I agree with you - not judging either but agree (nm)
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I believe my kids would still believe . .
had I not got totally busted by my 10-year-old son. My 7-year-old still believes. I always asked as my kids if they believe and when they said yes, I said that that is all that is important. My son caught me playing the EB last Easter. He said to me yesterday, "Come on, a giant bunny hopping around the country bringing easter baskets? How long did you expect me to fall for that?" I about split a gut laughing!!! However, both older children know how important it is to let the 7YO believe, we all watched Polar Express last night and they still were mesmerized!!!
I think a LOT of men are like that with kids
Maybe because since such a high % of marriages end in divorce, some of them keep a distance there. After all, when divorces happen, who gets the kids? Also, women tend to take charge when it comes to the kids and men tend to allow it. I truly believe that kids do not always strengthen a marriage but often the opposite. I have seen statistics stating that more couples with children get divorced than those who don't have any. Interesting, huh? JMO
That's why I won't have kids.
I have totally turned off the need/want to have kids, because I know my husband could never handle it. I don't want to be a single parent...especially a married single parent, know what I mean? It's an incredible commitment and they don't stay portable and nonverbal for long.
What do your kids
What do your kids call you and your spouse? Would you mind if they changed it, as in Mom instead of Mommy, as they got older? My kids call me Mom. If they call me Ma......I correct them, I don't LIKE it!! My son's GF calls me Mommy or Mom, I don't mind. My DIL calls me by my first name, I don't mind that either. I have a stepson, he also calls me Mom.
I do but only to keep an eye on my kids. NM
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Hello......if you want your kids to know...
about STDs and how not to get pregnant, YOU teach them. Why should there have to be programs about that at all? If you want them to have condoms, you buy them, don't ask the school nurse to hand them out. As to the genius of a President...at least he is trying. The one before him was hardly an advertisement for wise choices where sex is concerned ala black dress and use of cigars in a way that NO one ever intended...and committed felony perjury while a sitting President. Oh, but, heck....who cares, right?? Geeeezzz. Gimme a break.
Hello, yourself. If I had kids, I would...sm
Teach them those things. And if you're questioning why there s/b sex ed programs in school at all, why do you seem to be defending the current abstinence-only ones? They're worse than nothing at all because they give inadequate and downright *false* information. How is not having all the facts (or having the wrong "facts") ever a good thing? Just doesn't make any sense to me. If you want Bush to get credit because "at least he's trying" well, that seems like a pretty low standard for the president of our country.
Now as far as Clinton, I never said I was a fan. You're assuming an awful lot there. I don't even want to get into that.
I was one of four kids (sm)
and I was always wishing that my twin sister and I could have parents of our own. Living with mean older siblings was no fun!
Once again, your kids are still not that old
but when my son married, completely absorbed into not only his wifes life (which I am the first to say she comes first) but also her family and I basically just lost a son. Just swallowed up by her side and you would not know he really had a mother anymore. Quit trying on that end some time ago.
Especially with little kids
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Buy them, but keep away from little kids, sm
When my daughter was 2 or 3, she got her hands on one of the poppies in the back seat and must have pulled it apart and put the plastic middle up her nose. We didn't know in the beginning what was there, but after a visit to her pediatrician who couldn't get at it, a trip to the emergency room, a 5 hour wait for an ENT guy with the correct equipment to retrieve it, we discovered it was the middle of the poppy. Since then, whenever I see them selling the poppies, I tell them to warn parents with little kids to keep the poppies away from the kids.
I don't even have kids, and I
think that's coooooolllld.
It's really not nice to try to be scientific or philosophical with somebody who is going through a loss and expresses sorrow.
Did Jesus tell Lazarus' family, "Hey, dont worry about it; we'll all see him in heaven soon!" No, he took pity on them in their sorrow. That's how He is. Let's try to mirror Him, not philosophists and scientists when it comes to people who are hurting.
Probably more the kids
Love my marriage and don’t mind the divorces until I got it right. The kids are ok as long as infant, toddlers and then they grow up. Not my cup of tea anymore.
Kids going out
I have no problem with it, but there's always upwards of 10 children and at least 3 adults to supervise out all the time, but I would never let my youngest go out alone under any circumstances. We have a very quiet neighborhood, but you never know.
Some men have kids, but then
continue to spend as if they are still single. I can't believe how often I see this. They complain when the wife buys clothes, but when he buys something it has an engine and it's a big, dangerous toy!
That's why I can see why some women might want to hide money. Of course not all men are like that.
I used to buy my kids
those paint-by-numbers kits. Kept them occupied for a short time. Also go to a dollar store and load up on some new toys and books without spending a fortune.
She has kids as well
That was the deal - we were taking both of our kids to do something fun together.
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