I agree about society and options, etc. (as
Posted By: unfortunate as that is), but sm on 2007-03-08
In Reply to: I wish I had an eating disorder - I know some of you won't agree
You don't have to have an eating disorder to be thin. Not everyone who is thin has an eating disorder.
Don't wish that horrible fate upon yourself.
If you want to lose weight, just set your mind to do it. Decide before every meal, snack, or drink you have, if what you're eating is undermining your desire to look better and be more healthy, and decide if instant gratification is more imporant that this.
Oh, and by the way, just because you are thinner, does not mean people will give you more attention. Believe it or not, it is what's inside that counts to the people who really love and know you. Yeah, you might turn more heads, but you are still the same person inside.
Having said all that, I do agree that society does judge people on their appearance.... beauty, body, blah blah blah... I could go on about my philosophy of that, but I'll save it for another time :-)
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The only option is leaving? There's no hope for a passive/aggressive? Is this really true?????
somewhere in * options *
you should have the choice of checking to alert you when an email has been read. I believe this is the case in Outlook. Not sure about the others, hotmail, yahoo, etc.
She has some options -sm
The first of which she needs to see her first shirt or commander. She could maybe get reassigned to another base stateside and not be deployed right now. She also could take emergency leave. She could also allow her parents or another close relative to take care of the child for a time. The thing is, she has signed a contract that is hard to break. While her superiors will most likely work with her, she is under obligation to serve as expected along with everyone else. If she goes AWOL, as someone suggested, she is subject to jail time when she is caught (and believe me, the military can find you!). Been connected with the military for 45 years now. That is just the way it is.
There many Catholic options
If you want something prepackaged:
www.setonhome.org (regionally accredited.)
www.kolbe.org
www.chcweb.com
www.olvs.org (They are traditional.)
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/cathswap/
Cathswap is a yahoo group for buying used Catholic curriculum.
I would give her 2 options
Someone did this to me. I told her there were 2 options if she needed my help this badly. I told her that I do work, just from home so her options were:
1. Since it takes time away from my work, she would need to make up the income lost including transportation costs. Since I make about $20 an hour, she would owe me at least that much each time I had to drive her kid plus a transportation fee of $5 a day (gas and what not).
2. If she didn't want to pay, than she would get to take care of my kids at her house when she was off of work. If that meant she was off at 6, got home at 6:30, and still needed to do what needed to be done at home (dinner, cleaning, spending quality time with her family), she would have my kid with her so that I could work since I had to take time off to help her out. If I had to work at night, she could watch my kid (or just take my kid to work with her if she wanted her nights).
Needless to say, that made her realize that I do, in fact, have a job and she would need to rely on someone else. She wasn't willin to pay $25 a day nor was she willing to give up her nights for my child.
do they have vegetarian options
As I am vegetarian, would like to check into it further, but if they do not take this into account, do not want to waste the time. Thanks
A couple of options
I would try to host your own. They should be understanding that you want to celebrate being a new couple doing the family things. Or you could go to one on Thanksgiving day, the other on the day after and then do the opposite for Christmas Eve and Christmas. Ask your husband what he thinks, certainly he knows his family well enough to be able to know how they would take it.
They do have payment options
it may be if you're not already in arrears with them, but I have had a payment plan with them before. When you file for the automatic extension, it only allows that the deadline to file the return itself is extended to August 15th, but if you are going to owe, you are still supposed to pay by April 15th. (What's the point, right?) I think it is more a means for people who have complicated returns to get more time to complete them, but still have to estimate how much they owe and go ahead and pay that.
I did about a month ago. There are other options.
Workin at the Q. Money is real tight.
But there are internet sites like Hulu where you can watch TV shows for free. Also at least I know on NBC who can watch some TV shows on there for free, too. Just about any news channel you can watch recorded news stories and sometimes even live if something major is going on.
Also, I found on YouTube that you can watch shows and movies. They have started putting commercials on them, though (same with Hulu). But who cares, you would have to see them on cable TV, anyway.
There are actually a ton of internet sites. I actually got into watching old *Kojak* reruns on Hulu (I know, but I liked that show back when.) They have a ton of old shows.
There is also Netflix or Redbox - you can get the cheaper options for movies.
I can watch my local news on the internet, too.
So, just seek out what options are out there for you. I figure even if it is only temporary (I have some job interviews this week) I can still watch things on TV but on the internet until things are better.
Honestly though, I will have to think about that because I haven't missed my cable TV not one bit.
Have at it. You are limiting yourself to options daily.
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You may not feel that you are limiting YOUR options SM
but it sure sounds like you would try to limit other people's options. What a sad, intolerant attitude. The fact of the matter is that there are gay/lesbian people in the world and there have always been. They are human and they have rights and they have needs and some companies are giving them the opportunity to purchase what they want/need. Not all stores are bible outlet stores or catering to the PG audience.
There are a lot of options for at-home high school (sm)
There are many online high schools used for homeschooling. Some community colleges and 4-year colleges and universities have high school homeschooling options to check into. You may also have the option of her taking some college classes, but watch out...they may be run by gays and lesbians. What is wrong, again, with a gay and lesbian club?
When looking at the two options, the monthly payments were much higher
if buying, I mean by double in many cases. Also, my husband knows the car dealers where we bought, and they were the ones actually explained all of it to us and why most of them lease! I'd rather pay under 300 a month forever than pay 500 or more a month for 5 or 6 years for the same car. Yes, you may not have car payments for a few years but what are you really saving based on the above? Plus, NO repairs and always having a brand new car. Some even come with free OnStar and satelite radio for a year, and other perks like that. Oh, I've bought many times in the past; and for me this is just a much better deal. To each his own.
simply explain that for several years KFC has had many side options
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not normal...usually a plan covers all the fancy phone options sm
if that was my phone bill I would freak out. Heck I don't even pay that much for electricity during hot summer air-conditioning months. A good cell phone plan, with data included should not even cost that much because you get allowances for texting, etc. whose ever that is really needs to revisit their contract.
Unfortunately society has already
taken Christ out of Christmas. It has been said that many children today do not even know the true meaning of Christmas and only that Santa Claus is coming.
society does not get it
I am just going to have to vent on this one...
My husband and I got married when my stepdaughter was 7. She was in the wedding, etc. I adored her. We paid for her child support on time, bought her first car and anything she wanted, she came for summers, we went on trips together, and she grew up.
But her mother told her to choose which family she really belonged to and she chose her mother's family and that is the end of it.
It had nothing to do with me, even though it felt personal. Her mother asked her to choose and she was a good daughter and a bad stepdaughter.
I am allowed to move on with my life. Not every story has a happy ending. She will never love us or thank us for anything, and yes I took her to shop for her wedding dress.
I will be so glad when people stop romantizing divorce.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Being a stepmom is not like being an adoptive parent. It is like being a parenting team member. There is no recognition of you, except when you drop the ball.
Has society become this bad and why
I saw the post down below about the Wal-Mart worker. Here is a new article that just came out (link below). The police are now looking at video surveillance to see who trampled this poor worker to death. Personally I hope they find all responsible and prosecute them to the fullest. It doesn't matter that it was Wal-Mart. I like their store just fine, it is what society is doing to people that nobody even bothered to stop and help this person. I grew up in the 60s/70s in a small town in New England. Maybe I'm old fashioned but my parents/grandparents taught me better than this.
I just can't believe people would do this. And for what? Getting a Christimas item? This is one of many reasons why I do my Christmas shopping (what very little I do) online and gift cards.
I think the "traditions" of the "big" shopping day the day after Thanksgiving should go away. I really don't know what the solution would be to try to get the people to "love thy neighbor", not trample, bite, and spit at them so you can grab that item. (BTW - you can shop online at Walmart too).
I think to myself that I thought the spirit of Christmas was supposed to celebrate Christ. Oh yeah, I'm sure he is so proud of people like those who harm others and cause death so they can get what they want.
I hope those guilty are sitting at home worrying about whether or not their face is going to show up on the video camera.
http://apnews.myway.com/article/20081129/D94OJ4NG0.html
When I got my dog from the Humane Society
a while back, they gave me a free veterinary visit to almost any vet office in the city. She also developed kennel cough, but about five days after I brought her home. They say it can take up to ten days for them to get the symptoms. They said a large majority of dogs from any shelter will end up getting it. The vet can also tell by looking at their teeth about how old they are. Maybe you are right, she may have some kind of infection going on.
I think it's great you are committed to keeping the dog even with these problems. A lot of people would take it back and trade it like it's a car.
Society is getting too tolerant!
I suppose you are one of those people who thinks she can do anything she wants because she isn't "hurting anyone". It is poor manners to take an animal into a public shopping area. I feel sorry for you if you do not see anything wrong with this type of thinking. I suppose you also drive with your dog on your lap, too!!
Unfortunately you're right about society and
it's very sad. I'm average, not thin or overweight and fluctuate a few pounds a lot. So when I lose 5-10 lbs or so, I often hear from others about how great I look. Gee, thanks...? How bad did I look before that 5 or 10 lbs? It's a warped society but that doesn't mean we should try to conform to it. Turn off the TV and throw away the magazines for a while. And, heck, if your boyfriend doesn't like you the way you are, throw him away too :)
that's the problem with society
the poster definitely got to people. You need to get involved, for the sake of every innocent child and animal, and put these sick humans ouf of every child's and animal's misery. It's because of attiudes like the couple who posted here, oh, why post this, I did not want to read this, so just go on with your life and ignore what's going on around you, and that's why it continues to happen, because you do not want to hear about it, much less do anything about it.
National Honor Society
Have been asked by a friend to write a letter of recommendation for her daughter for National Honor Society, unfortunately I stink at letter writing, any suggestions?
I am so grateful the dreges of society
are not able to go on welfare and live anymore. I do not mean this for disabled, the elderly and the like. If you have a child, you did this and should not in any way receive welfare. This was what you wanted, not something taxpayers should have to pay for. If you had no money to have a child, well maybe waiting until you did have some might have been a good idea. If you cannot make it on your own, DO NOT have children. Simple. Do the math. I give only to people who come under a heading of some kind of misfortunate they did not bring onto themselves happening or to animal shelters, etc. To a drug place, alcohol or unwed mother place, never....
Leukemia and Lymphoma Society
Hey guys, want to support a good cause, check out my Team in Training page and help me support the Leukemia and Lymphoma society.
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I think we've become a disposable society
Perhaps it comes from having too much.
People used to get by with just a few clothes, that had to last. Now, many people need more than 1 walk in closet to house all their clothes. Something tears, ach, chuck it out, there's plenty more to wear. Even shoes aren't made sturdy, anymore. Used to be you got shoes repaired, re-soled, re-heeled, re-tipped. You don't see many shoe repair shops any more. We used to have one in about every mall.
Function of society at large (sm)
I think you are right to some extent. I personally try hard to keep my word and when I can't, I feel bad about it! I call as soon as I know it's not going to work and I apologize. I try hard not to say I can do something if I am not sure I can. I don't make other plans for that timeframe that I have already committed to see someone during. How is that so hard? If someone is "iffy" about something, they need to say "I don't know, can I get back with you?" Not just say yes and then forget about it. I know a lot of people these days who seem to plan several things for the same time period and then whichever one they feel like doing at the moment gets priority - regardless of who else is inconvenienced or whose time is wasted by it. (I know I'm ranting here...making me feel better...haha.) Then they don't even understand why you are angry or why it is offensive...as though you are being unreasonably demanding to think that someone is going to try to do what they said they would do. Whew.....ok, I'm done. Think I will look at my navel now...lol
Call the Humane Society or Emergency Vet
Tell them what happened, that the owners are not home, and you are afraid the dog is critically injured. They will then send someone to check on the dog and do what needs to be done.
As far as your neighbors being mad at you for hitting their dog, it is their responsibility to make sure their animals are safely confined. NOT taking a nap in the road.
Don't let the poor beastie suffer for their ignorance. Please call to see if the dog can be helped.
The lesser known (and least respected) Black Hat Society.
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Ditto, no desire, not in today's society/world!
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That is ABUSE Humane society or ASPCA should be called
Dogs dont just bark for no reason. In my opinion a person who puts there dog out and the dog is distressed and barking and the person does nothing to work with the dog and leaves to avoid the barking is abusing that animal. That is like locking a child out. If you really do love dogs like you say anonymously call the ASPCA or Humane sociey and let them explain it to the owner.
The local humane society allows people to stop by
and visit the pets. For example, if you like Kittens you can come by anytime they are open and just sit and play with kittens and or pet and keep them company. Also if you are a dog person, you can do same. Any day, any time. You might want to call your local pet shelter if you like pets. I hear that the pets and people get a lot out of it. Of course, I planned to do this a year ago, and still have not made it out of the house, but I do think about it sometimes! Good luck and have fun what ever you do.
As a civilized society, life in prison without parole
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Isn't it refreshing to know you are not a tool of the consumer "buy buy" society? sm
I can't tell you how empowering it is to know that I have 50K in savings and liquidity, as well as a 401K, my cars paid off, my house paid off (although it is old and not fancy). If I need something, I can pay cash for it. What a relief, when the economy is crashing to know that I will be fine (God willing) with what I have!
Definitely call Animal Shelter or Humane Society
Ours runs a once a month clinic where they will give rabies shots and spay or neuter for only $20.00. Tell them she's a stray, hopefully they can help you. LOL, she has chosen you and your family. She brought her babies in the house cause she feels they'll be safe there. Congratulations on being adopted!
The poster meant breastfeeding is primative in PUBLIC in our society today.
I agree with her. I don't have a problem with someone breastfeeding their baby, and I mean BABY, not toddler, but discretion should be used. That woman knew full well that she was going to be on a plane. She could have bottled her breast milk for her TODDLER instead of making others uncomfortable around her. It's the 20th century, not the dark ages, and not Ethiopia. And, this lawsuit crap only makes the mother look even more like a beatnik dingbat.
St. Vincent De Paul Society is good. Volunteers administer the program.
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No, Blondie, give the dogs back or call the Humane Society.....s/m
who can take care of 10 (t e n ) dogs? This is CRAZY!
Your husband is a coward. He should protect you. God knows what a 'deal' he made with this 'friend'.
What an awesome post! I agree, agree, agree completely with you.
 You are right on the money in my book! 
I agree, try to live in another country, then you will also agree...nm
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absolutement! Agree! Agree! Agree!
Why is it so hard to understand this? HMOs are just middlemen who get everything balled up and costly!
I agree with you - not judging either but agree (nm)
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and I agree with you *nn* -
I agree......
I agree with everyone's reply here. Also--one more thing...DO NOT TOUCH THE RADIO/CD PLAYER WHILE DRIVING!! It was 17 years ago that one of my best friends was killed this way-very responsible girl, just did not think for that one moment.
I was a responsible teen, but my parents set strict rules on my driving. At the time, I did not understand but now that I have a 10-year-old son who keeps reminding me each year that he will be driving in __ years, I understand completely. If it were an option for us, I would keep my kids babies forever.
Another thing you can do, just to maybe ease your mind about driving is take her to the local police department and have them to show actual footage of accidents. I know that sounds pretty harsh, but it has saved a lot of kids lives in my surrounding area.
Hope this helps!!
wow - I sure do agree with you!!....sm
I would rather them be locked in a car driving than strolling or walking alone - In Florida - we have had MANY YOUNG KIDS killed (murder) by being alone walking to and from school. My children are VERY responsible and pay for everything, except that car insurance (which is wayyyyyyyyy too much) which I offered to pay until age 28. By the age of 28, they'll be earning more $$. My OLD brother (and he's very old *LOL*) did this for his son until age 28 (think he's about 38 now) because of the exhorbitant insurance rates. I decided to follow suit. If we have it, why shouldn't we help them. I'd rather help my children while I'M ALIVE AND KICKING rather than what they get when I die, IF there is anything to get *LOL*
Y'all have a GREAT day!
Remember, we can all agree to disagree without being nasty and rude.
and I so agree with you!!!.....sm
One of my children saved all the Xmas/holiday/birthday $$ ever received from toddler-hood so that at 17 had $6000+ and put it down on a BRAND NEW SMALL CAR, albeit I had to co-sign the balance. Child did pay the rest off. I too am very proud of the children who are young still, one has worked for 10 years already (started off part-time at about 14 after school by own choice).
Yep, I want kids to hang out in multiple numbers today - never walking alone - too many CREEPS out there in the USA today and they are EVERYWHERE....really creepy to me.........
Let's sing out for the responsible good kids who are out there trying to live life in this messed-up world!!!!
HOORAY FOR THE CHILDREN!!!! They are our future and if we don't back them, well then we are up the creek without a paddle, right? 
I agree...
Don't be too quick to judge! Last I knew car seats can be moved from one car to another! It's so sad that a few rotten apples out there ruin it for the people who really need the help! Hope you are never in a situation where you may need a little help.
I agree
Hey, Chillie, I love what you said. It's time somebody did. All this political correctness crap is getting to the point where it really offends me. And I'm SOMEBODY, TOO!!! Thanks.
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