I agree. People put problems or situations on this board to get - sm
Posted By: mammamt on 2007-08-30
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advice from others on this board. There are many different types of advice given and that is generally what the poster is looking for. Those of us who have given our lives to the Lord, have found that it turned our lives around and given us great joy, as well as helped us through many times of hurt and fear. We like to share this with others, especially when they are seeking advice on how to get through their own fear. As Jan said, if you do not want to read this than don't. I did notice however that you did not offer any advice for the poster to help with her fears and anxieties. You just used it as an opportunity to slam those of us who are trying to help.
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People end up in so many situations (sm)
So many people who are supposedly "high class" get pregnant and decide to have abortions....but that doesn't change the fact that they got pregnant young and without being married just like Jamie Lynn did...no one has a right to judge anyone else. If we want to talk about trashy, how about spending your time following every little detail about what is going on in someone else's life and feeling like we have to spread the gossip. I am vaguely aware of what is going on with them because of the media, I don't really care about all the details. Teenagers unfortunately get pregnant every day...just because this girl is famous doesn't mean we all have to talk about it. As for her show, if the media didn't have to tell everyone every detail of her private life, the show could have continued and the viewers didn't have to know. The content of the show is what is important and the personal life of the actors in the show is really none of anyone's business.
I agree with cat. We need a crab board! Ha, too funny. nm
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I agree 100%, and what a nice change from reading the MQ board.nm
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I would think there are many different situations. But it sounds like in yours
you truely have to consider what is best for the child. Also consider the age of the child, is the child old enough to say what he/she wants. If the mother is the sole caretaker and there is no likelyhood of any kind of relationship with the father, I see nothing wrong with it. It seems like it would be much easier for the mother and child to share the same last name.
Kids/situations
Hang in there. It's tough, and no there is no one-size-fits-all answer.
I had a very permissive mother (and a father who was with us but not really involved) and I did some "normal" teenage stuff that was not the best, but I was much, much, less wild than the girls I knew whose parents were extremely strict. They did things I wouldn't have dreamed of doing, and they always found a way to sew their crazy oats in spite of their heavy limitations.
I'm not saying it's good to be overly permissive ... it's not. But I think a lot of it comes down to personality of the child, and you have to try to find the best way to deal with each personality. And, let's face it, one can only have so much control. The rest is their decision (whatever the consequences). That's what is so scary.
Maybe you can find some true stories (like the one poster whose daughter ended up in such a bad way) to show her for examples. There are probably a lot of them on the Internet and maybe even on Youtube.
Please keep us posted.
Similar situations here with 4th grader
I also would think they would know better at that age, but obviously my child did not. Similar things happened to mine, not DS games as they are not allowed to leave the house, but with other things. We explained to him that it was his mistake and you can't trust everyone, even friends. He has had to deal with it on his own. It took a few tiems and now he has finally learned his lesson. Sometimes they have to learn the hard way I think. Even though I don't like feeling like I lost money but he's the one who lost the game, not me. He has to deal with the consequences.
After 11 yrs as a boy scout leader, I've seen all sorts of situations.
And, I've had to deal with my share of 11 yo bullies. (I have one in my troop now who is absolutely driving me up a wall.) I've learned a lot over the years. For one thing, I know that while it's possible to be a very good influence on a child, it's also likely that parents who are having issues can, in just a moment, un-do any positive influence you've had on a child. I've also seen kids come back years later after I thought I had made no headway with them. They've come back to thank me for showing them patience and kindness and a better way to act. And, sadly, I've seen more than a few kids spin off out of control, right to the point of their own death.
Firstly, you have to think of your own child's safety, of course. If you can band with other parents in your neighborhood to provide supervision while this bully is around, that would be a great help. Agree on play areas, who is and is not allowed to be in the play area, be patient and teach the children general rules of good behavior. When the rules are violated, then there are consequences. If the bully cannot behave, especially if he's being dangerous. If you feel that he and the other children in his household are not being properly supervised or cared for at home, then call the authorities.
The other thing I've learned is to be very direct with problem children and parents, and to keep my emotions calm. No shouting, and always have an adult witness nearby. For many years, I would dance around direct language with parents, afraid that I might hurt their feelings. But that always leaves too much room for them to misunderstand what I really wanted. State exactly what you want the other person to know. "I have a problem with your child's behavior. I'm willing to help supervise, but only on these conditions." If the parent becomes argumentative or defensive, walk away and lock your door. Write down what you said and what happened. I don't want to scare you, but if there are questions later, accusations from the parent or child, you won't have to rely on your memory alone.
One can be patient and extend help to people who need it, but you don't have to put up with abuse, either. Use all of your resources -- other neighbors, authorities, your own talents, and do what you can, but be careful.
Thank God there are people like you. I agree and would do the same.
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I agree with you. Too many people..
want all the goodies now and when they are in too deep think they can just file bankruptcy and presto, all is right with their world again. I can fully understand filing because of a medical hardship, but too many people live well above their means, charge everything, never save or plan for tomorrow and then want you and I to pick up the slack because they are irresponsible with their finances. And yes, been there, done that, many, many years ago and learned my lesson, so don't bother telling me not to judge others.
yes, I agree, how do those people who have
a stone where the heart should be, dare to talk to people who are in misery caused by the FORMER ADMINISTRATION to talk like that?
That's not what the Bible says!
Completely agree! People should be
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I agree but also the people had to be a little bit smarter and say...
I don't make near that, I can't afford that in the long run...they are also to blame...
Agree. IMO, the people who took the door sm
off the hinges should be charged with involuntary manslaughter. Hope the security cameras got a good shot of those SOBs. I read that other workers tried to help the poor trampled man and they also got hurt.
Think of how much business these stores would get if they offered such bargains for a longer period.
Greed is an evil thing.
I totally agree. All but one of the dozen or so people (sm)
that I know who had tubals later on developed horrible menstrual problems. Many ended up with a hysterectomy 10-15 years down the road.
I'm not sure the doctors recognize or admit a connection, and I admit my info is anecdotal, but it was enough for me to decide I didn't want to risk it.
i agree, if people didn't have sex outside of marriage, then
unless i'm wrong, but i don't think too many married woman are aborting babies who are fathered by their husbands. i think the overwhelming majority are babies that are the product of people married to each other
Have to agree. Most people know cost of that school and it is
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I agree. It is in some people's nature to use those words.
My supervisors at work call me sweetie because they are southern and that is how they speak. Does the teacher treat everyone like that and it is just not part of your speaking style, or is there something else that seems inappropriate about it?
IMO depends on age of people. If youngish, agree with big deal.
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I agree! I could puke to hear people defend that name.
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Totally agree! Lots of people under 21 drink anyway
so what is the point???? If they were to set a legal age, I think it should be 18.
I sort of agree; in the past years people miscarried
all the time only didn't even know it because they didn't have the ability to find out they were pregnant after 2 weeks! It is sad but definitely does not compare to losing a living child from disease etc. JMO.
I agree. I could never understand why people bragged about the size of their refund.
It just means they let the government accrue interest on their money throughout the year. I aim for less than $100 difference between what I owe and what I pay in every year. Yes, my refund is smaller, but I would rather put that money into savings or my retirement fund on a monthly basis than let Uncle Sam "hold it for me" all year long.
Could someone tell me if there is a Christianity board as well as a prayer board (sm)
or are they one in the same? I have some faith related questions, but don't want to post on the prayer board again if it is specifically for prayer requests. I do not see a Christianity board listed. Thanks so much.
Main board, gab board, company, etc, just like here,
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naw - that was the old board that did that, aka the 'other' board!
why was it here and not on the Politics board anyway?
you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
What an awesome post! I agree, agree, agree completely with you.
 You are right on the money in my book! 
People who go around calling other people "low class"
have their own issues in life. Ignore them. Nothing like a misplaced superiority complex to make a person feel good about themselves. Like they've never done anything gauche or made a faux pas. It must be nice for them to be so perfect and live in a glass house.
For that matter, you probably saved your piggy's life by popping that mondo zit! It could have gotten infected or something.... (yes, I have a zit popping fixation myself, but you were really descriptive on that pig zit. gag LOL)
Man, you would have appreciated the time one of my relative's popped a HUGE cyst on her face. I was standing right next to her at the time and leaned back because I knew it was going to blow. It did! Big time! All over the wall, mirror and light fixture. I'm still disgusted by the thought of it 10 years later. LOL In a revering kind of way...
some people did, some people didn't. It's their choice.
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If this helps...I know people who know people (sm)
who can make people disappear. 
Not really--I'd be lyin' if I said I never thought such things though! ;-)
IME, people don't feel sorry for fat people either
They actually have less sympathy than they do for people who have substance abuse, IME.
At any rate, I do feel sorry for Britney but the safety of her children should be everyone's first priority, then her safety. It would seem to me that all these hangers-on she has are jeopardizing that safety. It's all just very sad.
Is that board still available?
Thought I had it in favorites, but takes me to the main board . . . I do not have board options to the left though. Anyway, the Gab board is to gab about anything not MT, so I'm sure she's fine here, but I had been trying to check out the WAHM board yesterday and couldn't get there, so just thought it funny you brought it up today.
a new board??
Oh, I love it. We can yak about anything here? I'' be back!
RE: Gab board
Sorry about that. . .I'm new to this site. I'll take my questions out to the Company Board. I might get some additional advice there. 
I don't think many on this board ... sm
I posted on scrapbooking one time and didn't get any response. I love to scrapbook and I am about to finish up one that is a thank you gift for the family that we stayed with last year on vacation in Colorado.
I am limited in what I can spend on it so I have to depend on a paper cutter, scissors and I love corner punches. I think I have seen the machine that you are asking about but I really don't know anything about it.
The question I posted back quite a while ago is concerning scrapbook programs on the computer. Do you know anything about them? I think I would like to use one of those programs but I have not found anyone as of yet who is knowledgeable about them. I was trying to research that one day through Google and found this website. You might find the answer to your question on here: twopeasinabucket.com This is a scrapbooking website and I found it quite interesting although I didn't have a lot of time to spend looking for the answer to my question. Good luck!
About using this board -
Does anybody know why, especially in the replies, when I click on the subject sometimes I just get one letter or a mark, or there just isn't anything there? Am I doing something wrong?
I think there is only one Jan on the board,
so you can always skip her posts if you don't want to read them.
When somebody is hurting, it is only natural for a caring person to offer whatever they have that could help. Every Christian on earth was once a nonchristian, and somebody led them to Christ, perhaps by offering them help or hope in a time of need.
Nonchristians of all kinds are also free to offer whatever help or hope they have to offer.
I saw this on another board I was on
and it was said that Walter Reed will not pass out cards made out to "A Recovering American Soldier." So you might want to check before you do it.
Thanks, JMR, we need more like you on this board!
Thanks so much, will copy your info down. MERRY Christmas, and thanks for your positive and kind input!!!
what other old board?
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What other board?
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You don't pay for the other board....
the best thing about it is nobody is nasty towards each other, no name calling if you have a different opinion about something, not much whining and complaining about how horrible someone's job is, etc. A nice breath of fresh air over there. Been on the political board here lately? If you want to see nastiness, pettiness and childish behaviour, hop on over there for a bit.
Where is the other board?
I would like to communicate with some nice people.
Can you tell me where the other board is too?
Thank you.
How many on the board
are finding it hard to make their house payment, car payment or credit card payment?
No you do not need the board, but you do need
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this board
I would liken this board to a bus stop. Or talking to someone in line. Americans love to do that. Mindless chit chat, no politics, religion, or anything too personal. I hope you are not scarred, but virtually (pun intended) no one feels super anonymous here. You are okay, just remember you are at the bus stop and these are not your sisters....
This board isn't a job interview.
This is a place to kick back, relax, and vent. I don't see this as a place where people have to behave professionally, although it'd be nice if they behaved more politely.
There's a time and place, and what you see is appropriate for this place. I'd expect to see professionalism on the job search boards.
There are all kinds of ways to get work done. You're right that it's a privilege to be able to work from home. You do it in your manner, and others do it in theirs. As long as the output is professional quality and timely, the methods are as individual and as varied as the people.
That's my opinion and I'm stickin' to it!
Why is there so much assuming on this board
because once you assume you know what you are talking about, usually wrong as you are in this case. I took in my stepgrandchildren, 3 of them, 8, 13 and 15 and raised them for 3 years. Their mother on crack, their father in prison and they went around their real grandmother's home and she sold dope and illegal alcohol from her home. I went to their school, middle and grammer, endlessly. I saw things I never saw as I was growing up, so disrespectful to authority figures. The mother took son to crack house with her, kids lucky to eat 1 meal a day when not living with me. So instead of telling me I don't know, think I have probably lived it. I doubt all the kids getting the diagnosis of attention deficit really fit that category. Oh, tell me I don't know about that either, not so because a neighbor of mine used to get a check and had her son diagnosed just to get a check. Get your head out of the sand.
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