I agree. My mother is a drug addict and lost custody of me
Posted By: original poster on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: It's hard to tell exactly who you are talking to - sm
and I went to live with my grandmother so both of them have less than stellar parenting skills. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you let into your life.
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Lost Addict
I'm thinking "call my father" is either a drug haze that Jack was in, OR he came back to life on the island. He did see his father standing on the beach not long after the plane crashed in season #1. At the time, I thought it was a hallucination. Maybe not? It seems that the island has the power to bring people back to life at times. The one-eyed guy came back -- or was he not really dead?
Whose funeral was it? Hmmm. Ben's? It was someone that Kate and Jack knew. Sawyer's? Someone that we haven't met on the island yet? How 'bout Jacob?
Ooooo! It's such a long time to wait, and so many possible answers to too many questions!
Brittany just lost custody of kids
Effective this Wednesday, going to KFed, how long??
I lost my mother sm
Two and a half years ago. She was 59. I still have my father and a wonderful step-mother but not a day goes by that I don't miss my mom. So many people helped my by telling me what a good daughter I was and that my mother passed away knowing how much I loved her. She and I talked every day and most days it was 2 or 3 times. I have a 16 and 14yr old and everytime something wonderful happens in their life I think "Oh how proud my mom would be". You are always going to get meaningless platitudes but just keep in mind that your parents did a wonderful job raising you and obviously knew how devoted you were to them. Hugs to you!
I lost 77 pounds on WW a couple of years go. I agree with
meeting and learn from others new recipes or great low cal/low fat things at the store. On-line or at meetings you cant go wrong with WW IMO.
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
I agree with this. Also the mother cannot control what
as long as the child is in no danger, the mother does not get to call the shots when she is with her father. I have seen my brothers go through stuff with their ex-wives that makes me so made. If fact, the more the mother makes an issue of it, the more the father may want to do it, especially if they had a bitter divorce. Also from a father's prospective, if he only has a limited amount of time with the child, it may not be about competing as much as making her time with him memorable.
Also it sounds as if he has alway been this way, as stated she was always the "heavy" and what makes the mother think he is going to change now?
Hopefully they can put aside their differences and do what is best for the child, that is all we can hope in these situations.
I agree. She is less a mother, than a manager and
xxx
I so agree...mother of 3 healthy kids
I have a similar relative who would NEVER let anyone around her girls when they were babies, whether we were sick or not. No one was allowed to even hold them. Those babies grew up to be 2 of the sickest kids I ever saw.
I agree with this poster's mother - it is difficult
Things have changed a lot and obviously it is easier now than it was when I did it (dated someone from a different race)- but there are sometimes huge cultural differences, not only in different races but in same race from very different parts of the country. A lot of traditions that you find important - someone very culturally different (same for religion for that matter) may not. You have to be thick skinned and very committed. A good partner is hard to find.
Fan addict!
I too have to sleep with a fan! Been told the ringing is because I take too much Excedrin migraine....wonder why!  Believe it or not I listen to all my dictation without my head phones! I'm in the house all day long by myself so no one else can hear it. I diagnosed myself that it was because I had those crazy head phones in my ears all day! It has helped some, but can't sleep w/o my fan still! 
I'm a recovering addict...lol. DH woke up
one morning and said he had a nightmare. He dreamt that there was a fleet of UPS trucks outside the house, down the road....poor guy.. LOL Had to stop shopping lately....going through withdrawal. Wish me luck...lol
Not weird, but collecting addict nonetheless..
In my office is a huge collection of NASCAR stuff. For the rest of the house, I collect village houses from Dept 56 and Lemax.
Wow great idea, I am doing this for my next birthday LOL - icecream addict
Custody
You can request family court counseling and the children get to talk to the counselor and say who they want to live with and why. An 11 yr. old can definitely choose which parent to live with, and if father is a bad parent, you can also have supervised visitation only, so the child does not have to be alone with him. Talk to your lawyer.
Because he is trying to get 50% custody (sm)
If I don't prove how he is before I leave what if he gets that and they have to be with him alone without me? Did that cross your mind?
A GAL does not have physical custody -
in the best interest of the child - a lawyer who represents the child. The GAL can make recommendations that this or that person be best suited in raising the child, or make a recommendation to a court that evaluations need to be done, etc. MOST GAL's do a splendid job in looking out for the child's best interest, but there are those whose priorities are more in line with being in favor with a particular party (a judge, a person of influence, etc.). I've seen great GALs and not so great GALs. Time will tell what will happen in this case.
Custody-how much say does an 11-year-old have? PLEASE HELP
 My 11-year-old son has recently started tearfully asking me to divorce his dad. I have been borderline on it for a while but was trying to keep the family intact - one reason being that I was afraid of how my husband would treat my son and 8-year-old daughter when I was not here. In discussing the possibilities of divorce, I told my son that his father could possiby try to get 50% custody of him. He said tearfully, "if that happens, I'll just shoot myself." I have never heard anything like that come out of my child's mouth. His dad is overbearing and he truly doesn't ask the kids (or my for that matter) opinion about anything...just does whatever he wants and expects us to just live with it. He is very concerned with what everyone else thinks but in truth doesn't care much about us. I guess my son is finally seeing that. I asked him to talk to his dad about how he feels but he is too afraid and said his dad will just say , "you got that idea from your mother."
I'm scared. I do want to consider filing for divorce, but if my husband gets partial custody the trauma on my children will be devastating! And he has much more financial means to fight me in court than I have.
How much say does an 11-year-old have in court about who they live with? If we went to a family counsellor first would that help at all?
CUSTODY not company LOL
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Remember they are doing split custody, they might - sm
be with daddy right now, either way though you are right. She can get away with it now that they are little and have no clue what she is doing, but if she continues on this way they will catch on eventually.
they have joint custody w/dad being primary...
Please, open your mind - occasionally there ARE extenuating circumstances, you know?!
I have joint custody w/ dad being primary
Am I a deadbeat mom as well?!
This was agreed upon by both dad and I .. Child lives out of state, I get all holidays and summers....
Just because no support is being paid doesnt mean the person is a deadbeat .. every situation is DIFFERENT....
Why does everyone think negative?!
OP should get custody of kids if things so bad.
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Drug Problem--sm
>Different kind of "Drugging" - by Marsha Kelly
>
>The other day, someone at the store in our town read that a
methamphetamine
>lab had been found in an old farmhouse in the adjoining county and he
asked
>me a rhetorical question.
>
>"Why didn't we have a drug problem when you and I were growing up?"
>
>I replied, "I had a drug problem when I was young. I was drug to church
on
>Sunday morning. I was drug to church for weddings and funerals. I was
drug
>to family reunions and community socials, no matter the weather.
>
>I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful to adults. I was also
drug
>to the woodshed when I disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a
bad
>report card, did not speak with respect, spoke ill of the teacher or
the
>preacher, or if I didn't put forth my best effort in everything that
was
>asked of me.
>
>I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out the soap if
I
>uttered a profanity. I was drug out to pull weeds in mom's garden and
>flower beds and cockleburs out of dad's fields.
>
>I was drug to the homes of family, friends, and neighbors to help out
some
>poor soul who had no one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline or
chop
>some firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that I took a single
dime
>as a tip for this kindness, she would have drug me back to the
woodshed.
>
>Those drugs are still in my veins and they affect my behavior in
everything
>I do, say or think. They are stronger than cocaine, crack, or heroin;
and
>if today's children had this kind of drug problem, America would be a
>better place.
>
>God bless the parents who drugged us.
>
He has been drug tested....
for his job. I don't think that drugs or alcohol are involved. We have considered it, but I just don't think that it the problem. I certainly would never let him drive with my son if I was unsure. I just don't know what it could be. It would take a book to write down all of his issues. The sad part is that his father dismisses it all because he does well in school and he is premed, but he just lacks any sort of personal character. Being smart does not make you a good person and he is just not a good person. I am still so sick to my stomach about this. I feel like I am a bad person, having mothered this kid for 13 years and now I am just ready to wash my hands of him. I am dead serious about that and it makes me ill. I pray to God that I don't ever have these feelings about my son.
drug store
loved the fountain drinks, miss the five and dimes like Woolworth's.
With their drug war going on & innocent
tourists getting caught up in the middle, not to mention how dangerous it can be even without a drug war going on... is it REALLY worth the risk? We have plenty of beautiful beaches right here in the U.S., and why not spend your tourism money to help out our own ailing economy. It is much better to be safe than sorry. JMO...
This drug testing is going too far - sm
I don't do drugs and I do know that there is a huge drug problem in America but turning around and testing for drugs for every single thing is going a bit far. Not everyone who is unemployed does drugs. In fact I can bet the people who are unemployed are probably using the money for basic necessities of daily living (food, shelter, electricity).
My dad (72 years old) is collecting unemployment and if he had to take a drug test to get his check that would be horrible. He's the most honest decent human being I know of.
A lot of people who collect unemployment don't do it because they want to, they do it because they have to. A lot of them are going through depression and then to turn around and have to take a drug test like they are criminals?...well why not treat them like crap more and add to the depression they are already going through.
Think this is just another way for government to take control and it is not a good idea. Usually the people who are for others being tested are church goers who think they are "holier than thou".
Bad idea.
This drug testing is going too far - sm
Why in the world would you think this is a good idea? I don't do drugs and I do know that there is a huge drug problem in America but turning around and testing for drugs for every single thing is going a bit far. Not everyone who is unemployed does drugs. In fact I can bet the people who are unemployed are probably using the money for basic necessities of daily living (food, shelter, electricity).
My dad (72 years old) is collecting unemployment and if he had to take a drug test to get his check that would be horrible. He's the most honest decent human being I know of.
A lot of people who collect unemployment don't do it because they want to, they do it because they have to. A lot of them are going through depression and then to turn around and have to take a drug test like they are criminals?...well why not treat them like crap more and add to the depression they are already going through.
Think this is just another way for government to take control and it is not a good idea. Usually the people who are for others being tested are church goers who think they are "holier than thou".
Bad idea.
I had to go get drug tested today for my - sm
bus substitute driver job; they provided the car for us to go the clinic. Apparently they normally take the white car, but today we took the red car because the white one was being held as they found drugs in it last week. Kind of funny as it is a county car used only by the school employees; and mainly to go to drug tests. How un-smart is that? They still don't know who is the guilty party as the car had more than normal traffic in it last week. Guess they will figure it out though, I bet everyone that has been in that car for the last 2 weeks is getting drug tested; if you test positive you are immediately fired.
Try the company that makes the drug.
We got on a plan for my son through the company and he gets his meds free (Concerta) for at least the next year.
The 100K came way after the drug charges
The arrest came say 15 or 20 years before the 100K and the way they spend their money that $100K probably not around too long.
Has anyone ever been on Clomid - or any other fertility drug? sm
DH and I are having fertility issues and the doc has put me on Clomid but I have yet to get a positive ovulation stick (the kind you pee on), and I am getting frustrated. Has anyone ever been on this?
A drug bust! Well there is no telling
what kind of life that dog had. That is very sad. You know, I had to admit but I use to be one of those people that said oh no a pitbull! They are mean, they will turn on you, but that all changed when I got a little pitbull puppy years ago that changed me. My pitbull taught me the true meaning of Don't believe everything that you hear, and only believe half of what you see.
Help on upgrading drug reference
Hi all,
I am seriously in need of upgrading my drug reference. I am still using Quick Look electronic 2004 and so many new drugs have been introduced in the past 4 years. What would you recommend?? I just checked the Stedman's site and really cannot afford that kind of money right now. Do any of you recommend a hard copy book that would keep me updated??? Thank you for any suggestions.
Can we drug-test the Senators too?
I don't think connecting unemployment benefits to drug-testing is a good idea. In fact, I don't think drug testing should be random at all. I think it should be reserved for cases that are on a need-to-know basis. And no, I have never used drugs, never tried them. It's a matter of civil liberties and constitutional rights against invasions of our privacy. Next thing you know, they'll be testing us for lipid levels after we're seen frequenting a house of trans-fats.
And while we're on the topic, decriminalizing drugs would go a long way toward reducing drug-related crimes. Nothing is perfect in this discussion though because drugs really are evil. It just becomes a matter of damage control.
I have taken many drug tests for many jobs...
and never felt like a criminal. It is just the way things are. I would far rather have drug users weeded out of medical positions,welfare and unemployment than to not take the test. I don't know why anyone who does not use drugs would feel humiliated by taking a test. Just my opinion.
That is what drug addicts and gold diggers do, unfortunately :(
x
I think you do have to go all out. A therapist and drug screen would be first priority nm
x
Talk to the maker of the drug in question. sm
Many drug companies have what they call "Indigent Programs". Don't let the name put you off. It is for people who cannot afford their medications and need them to live.
I worked in a urology office and the cheme seeds for prostate cancer cost approx. $1700.00 a month. The company had a program for the guys who couldn't afford it, the guys who had insurance that would only pay a miniscule amount, etc.
I had that problem when I was unemployed and my anti-depressants cost over $500 a month. The company that made them had a program such as that and it saved my sanity.
Look into it. You are only out the time it takes to fill out a form. Some of these are also income based, but please, don't let the name put you off. It is well worth the time you invest.
Good luck.
Checking for drug usage in unemployed
Just seeing where a senator from Florida wanting to have mandatory drug tests for people who want to apply for unemployment money. I think this is a great idea, what about you?
Just saw a report on news where they listed it as a dangerous drug
apparently caused something that looked like malignant polyps in the colon but other than that, people told not to take it on a first date, not good idea and you should maybe, starting to take for first time, wear dark pants. I guess that is so the orange diarrhea won't show through so much.
See, that's was exactly my initial response to the negative drug test. SM
I felt like relief that my son, even when faced with the temptation, resisted the urge to smoke pot with his friends. I actually congratulated my son and told him how proud I was that he hadn't been taking any drugs or smoking pot. But then I wondered if he should be punished for having a bong in his pack. He obviously didn't use it, but why did he have it?
Now I think I may lift the grounding, but set some rules about him avoiding being around the 23-year-old guy and basically having him check in with me routinely when he is out and as long as he follows the rules, then I'll trust him.
Geez, I don't think I'm going to survive the teenage years and they've only just begun! I can only hope that when my 7yo daughter reaches her teens, she will go a little easier on me!
Thanks everyone for listening and offering your advice.
she is on a multiple-times-per-week drug testing
Too bad - but If you always do what you've always done....you'll always get what you've always gotten.....if her kids are less important to her than her partying, druggin' ways...well, how one makes their bed is how they get to sleep in it.....no sympathy here....
K-Fed, in particular, stays clean FOR his kids....and I don't like or even know the guy, but I do know he IS the better parent from all that is shoved at us about these 2 and not just these 2 but all these rehab'd at-risk younger people....
oh and please don't think I don't have a heart - no flames - got my own family history of substance abuse that goes decades back...some even died....
But having kids is like G_d giving ya a second chance to GET IT RIGHT!! Some people just don't get it....
JMHO (just my HUMBLE opinion)
Jails are overflowing because of insane drug laws.
xx
Anything Billy Mays, any "male enhancement" drug,....
Geico with the cavemen, any "are you behind in taxes" commercial.
My husband is drug tested on a regular basis
for his job, just took 1 yesterday. It can be at any time, when he is arriving or leaving work and being as he has a responsible job, I am totally all for it as he is.
Klonopin is a wonderful drug but a benzodiazepam. Be aware of withdrawal.
I was placed on Klonopin during a stressful year when sleep was elusive, leaving me dragging all day.
It worked amazingly. But, there came a time I had to get off of it. I thought I could just stop taking it. Not so. The drug leaving my system placed me in a state that was far worse than the anxiety I took it for. For three months, I had ringing in my ears, was in an agitated state that I likened to listening to fingernails being scraped across a chaulkboard and then having that sound magnified a thousand times.
I watched a show that featured drug addicts in a methadone clinic and one person interviewed said that the worst drug to get off of was "bennies." Worse than heroin and methadone, and I believe him. I also came to realize there are many people hooked on these powerful drugs simply because the withdrawal is so very unpleasant to go through.
I suggest taking it periodically, never more than two weeks in a row. I only wish my doctor would have said that I would become physically addicted to it to the point that medical supervision would be required to stop taking it. Instead, they appeared to think I had developed "drug-seeking behavior" because of my anxious calls to the office when I was experiencing the symptoms.
Sure she is mentally ill and I am sure all the drugs and the drug-laced lollipops didn't help!
x
Everybody is making it out like she's the first rock star to have a drug problem and win an award
Beatles, Rolling Stones, Aerosmith, Metallica, Smashing Pumpkins, Eagles, INXS, Fleetwood Mac, Eric Clapton, The Doors, and on and on and on. If we only listened to, or gave awards to, the clean and sober musicians, our musical legends would be a completely different list.
Whatever my mother-in-law and mother are cooking--lol
we go to my in-laws for Christmas Eve and usually have ham and kielbasa (we are Polish) and then my mom usually has turkey or roasted chicken on Christmas Day
Tessier's Surgical 'Word Book, old but good. And the Quick Look Drug Book and Saunders
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