I agree! Many kids are overweight, lazy and don't want to work hard for anything!
Posted By: sm on 2007-01-31
In Reply to: Hmmmmmmmm, - Susan
Good luck to them in the working world...how many do you think will actually do well? It's a scary thought.
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lazy parents don't monitor their kids or keep them on the right
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I agree, depends on face shape....I'm not overweight
but I have a fat face! lol
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Might be a little hard at first, but then you get used to it. Have your kids help.
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Congrats to all! Lots of hard work getting there, for sure! :) nm
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dating someone with kids is hard
Bottom line is he SHOULD put her first, because if he didn't what kind of man would he be? My point to you is that although I understand COMPLETELY how you feel... it's just not always justified. I couldn't deal with my situation with kids so I left it. I respect him as a man for being a great dad, but having broken homes and split families is sometimes very difficult, as atested to the way the daughter acts towards you. You have to realize this is the way it's gonna be... deal with it or leave... (im not trying to say it is easy or anything... just facts you know?)
with lots of hard work/rehab they can get it back...
My father had a stroke and got everything back but for only 8 months and then had another one which took him out but he lived for another 10 years.
A friend at age 52 had a stroke and she is fine today, not 100% but 90% and works and drives.....
A person's father where I live had a stroke the other day and didn't go to the hospital and I saw him twice since then and he is up and walking around and is 62.
When a stroke occurs, many strokes may follow...and it's ost important to get to the ER ASAP without fail.....the sooner, the better...and in getting function back.....
Hope he gets better real soon......
Baking bread from scratch is hard work, sm
especially for people like us who abuse their hands working. Kneading bread is exhausting!
I have a bread machine and love it. It allows for both bread mixes and scratch ingredients. The bread tastes delicious, too.
Since there are kids involved, I'd think long and hard (sm)
about leaving him. It's quite easy for others to tell you he needs to be dumped, but they sure won't live with the aftermath.
Take the 100k and remodel the house. Forget adding on. Spend the money on creating a fabuous kitchen with hearth room, fix structural defects, redo the kids' rooms; totally redecorate exactly the way you want with no regard to his taste, and get a nice new minivan to haul the kids around to play dates.
Oh, spare a little money to build a bedroom in the barn. He loves the yard and barn so much, he can live there.
See, this way if you stay and work on your marriage, you'll have a beautiful home you can live with. If his selfish ways finally push you beyond tolerance and love for him, you'll have a great house to put on the market. With your half of the sale, you'll finally be able to have the home you've always dreamed of. It's a win-win for you.
I agree with you, but I worked really hard to come up with the $1,700 and our family had so much fun
My kids are young teens and it was a family affair that everyone loved and we would for hours and hours together. No, it isn't anything compared to losing my home and thank goodness, but it hurts me to no end that a theif got away with it and so will my sister and BIL. There's no way they will pay unless I take them to court, and I just can't do that.
Agree, Tina is hard to watch
sort of makes you want to look through your spread fingers in front of your face. LOL.
I completely agree with you. Cats much happier inside. Hard
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Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm)
make sure they know you are "at work" even though you are right there? I have worked at home in the past but had issues with this. Mine are old enough now to be home while I work (10 & 7), but I would love any ideas of how to make sure they respect my work hours. Any ideas?
I used to work at night when kids
were little so he could watch them while I worked and also do some stuff around the house. Fair is fair. He learned very quickly how hard it is to get things done while watching a couple of children and holding down a job.
My kids knew no work , no money
I did not have to beg, plead, cajole, swear, swat or promise the kids anything. They had a room over their head, food to eat, bills paid- I told them from a very early age the necessity of my working. I do not believe you have to give prizes to a child for doing what they should- and that would be leave you alone while at work. Too many things kids can entertain their own self- at (after a certain age, of course) so you do not wind up having to entertain them.
Help! Pushy parents think I work from home and can drive their kids etc
I am constantly being asked to watch people's kids because I work from home. The latest is a friend of my son attending the same camp in another town. The friend I will call Scotty. Scotty has two parents. His father works from home as a computer consultant. My friends and I have called Scotty's dad to work on our computers and he never even returns the call or shows up. Scotty's mom recently asked me if I could drive her son home from them because the dad gets busy and doesn't like to leave clients. I told her that I too am working from home and have to minimize my time in the car. Scotty does not live close to us. I feel like a big meanie but they have pushed me before. Last year our kids were not even in the same camp but the mom called and asked if I would drive and pick up her son every day because i live in the same town as the camp. I was like ??? no way.
They used to drop Scotty off at my house on school holidays. They would drop him off at 7 AM and then once the mom called me at 5 PM and said she wanted to get an oil change and asked me if I could keep scotty until 7:30 PM. I said NO and then she came to pick him up earlier but stayed at my house uninvited until 9:30 when I just said I HAVE TO GO TAKE A SHOWER.
Anyone have clever ways to handle these situations?
Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
I agree with your kids. sm
Kids need to be able to be individuals as long as they are not showing anything they shouldn't show and as long as the clothing is not distracting.
However, for schools to decide to go to uniforms is just ridiculous and more of a cost to the parents. Instead of having to buy church clothes and school clothes, now the parents would have to buy school uniforms, church clothes AND then of course their regular clothing that they will wear whenever they go anywhere but school.
If a parent chooses to send a child to private school, then that is by choice and yes they should have to wear whatever uniform is necessary. As far as public school, no way. The schools need to start putting more emphasis on educating our children and quit worrying about trivial things such as what the kids are wearing.
I agree; the cleaning spatula they give you does not work
If you use marinades or the like forget it - everything sticks to it and makes a big mess. So most times I either had to clean it right away with water while still very hot (and by the time I ate my food it would get cold) or I had to go and turn the grill back on and use water on it and a new sponge each time and then throw the sponge away each time because it was such a mess. Anyone have any pointers on a easier way to clean it or suggestions for another indoor grill? :)
I have to agree......I quit with Chantix also. It really does work wonders.....nm
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I totally agree and think that is why many kids
are the way they are today. I think since now most moms have to work outside of the home (not us of course!) they are so guilt-ridden from leaving them at daycares, etc. all day that they don't dare discipline them at all and act almost as if they are worshipped. I am also getting sick of people bringing their infant children and all the rest of them out to fancy restaurants for late evening dinners and thinking it's just adorable when a kid starts screaming or having a tantrum because he wants ice cream and not a gourmet meal. In the good old days there were things called non-working moms, babysitters and spankings! And the kids didn't have half the problems they have today. I don't remember ONE kid that appeared to have ADD or ADHD when I was in school. And I don't remember everyone wanting so much to be famous and a millionaire and have perfect Hollywood looks. We were all pretty much the same, normal! It is very sad what is happening to this world and the upcoming generations.
I agree - no kids, why do they have to have a relationship?
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I agree, and they need to think about kids watcing too.
It seems that they think they can get away with more because it is a commercial. Some commercials are worse than TV shows that I would not even consider letting my kids watch, and there it is forced upon them. Terrible.
I so agree...mother of 3 healthy kids
I have a similar relative who would NEVER let anyone around her girls when they were babies, whether we were sick or not. No one was allowed to even hold them. Those babies grew up to be 2 of the sickest kids I ever saw.
I agree..it sounds like kids are picking on him...
Some kids most definitely are cruel...That is why I wish all public schools had uniforms too...would make life so much easier I tell ya...I would definitely have a talk with him about it...good luck...I have a 9-1/2-year-old son and he is like the below posters son: forgetfull, lacks common sense, et cetera.
I agree. Little did we know. The young kids today
how we lived without computers and cell phones.
I did just fine.
I remember knowing who lived in every single house in our little neighborhood. In summer, all of us neighborhood kids would ride our bikes down the street and all the adults would be out on their porches or leaning on fences talking to one another and the baseball game would be on everyone's radio.
We would roll down to the neighborhood pharmacy, sit at the soda fountain and order chocolate Cokes and sometimes cherry Cokes. Then you HAD to go to the neighborhood mom and pop grocery store, stand 4-deep at the penny candy counter and all shout and point at the same time. I LOVED Mary Janes and those little foil covered chocolate "Ice Cubes." Anyone remember them? Then of course, you had to grab a bottle of coke out of the ice-filled Coca-Cola cooler, and little bits of ice would stick to the bottle and that Coke tasted soo icy cold and bubbly.
I remember thinking as a kid, boy how can anything get better than all this.
I was so right.
As a side note -- my sister found my old wicker basket from my bike in her basement. I repainted it white and have it on my bedroom wall, and fill it with silk seasonal flowers. Right beside it I have a picture on the wall of me and my best old friend in our Girl Scout uniforms, smiling and hugging. She died from leukemia a couple years ago. We were friends for 40 years. A piece of heart will always be gone now. But when I look at that picture and that basket I think of happier times, at least for me as a kid.
So does my cat. She is overweight. Actually,
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Maybe because they are lazy or just don't - sm
care or want to be troubled by it.
Thanks - other than being overweight
He's healthy. He could stand to lose about 50 pounds (but I could stand to lose about 75 pounds) I understand the question of Alzheimers/dementia. I didn't make that real clear in my last post. It's not stories that he repeats over and over, its just what he wants to do. Like he'll come out and say he thinks we should move to another location (larger town where there is more work), then he'll come in 5 minutes later with all this stuff he found on where he thinks we should move to, then about a half hour later he'll come in talking about the same area, and 1/2 hour later comes in telling me more stuff about the area. To me it's a repeat over and over and over. This is all while in the middle of me trying to work, then he gets mad and says I'm not interested cos he's the only one finding the info and I have to be involved blah, blah, blah. So, it's not really a repeat of stories like that, just more of a discussion of the same topic over and over and over. But I understand exactly what you were thinking. If it could only be that easy. I've had close family members (an aunt had dementia, and a grandfather had Alzheimer's) and I helped family take care of them and I'll tell you...that was a lot easier than this is. It's probably harder because he doesn't have them and he thinks he's sane and this is normal. I did tell him once, fine, lets pack up everything up the following week and move and then he got all p!ssy at me and told me forget it if I was going to have that attitude. I said to him all I keep saying is lets take a drive there, lets do more research, then make the move wisely and not just jump. As for the other issues of doom and gloom and end of the world scenarios...well I told him life has to go on and that's what I told him. I always hear people say prepare for the worst and hope for the best (think that was in a movie), but I just can't live like everything is going to end in the next couple days. There has got to be some hope.
Being overweight. I'm not
happy with the way I look or feel & am very self-conscious about it.
AGAIN --- LAZY.
Why don't you offer her to live off of you while she sits and whines about not having money. How long would you take it?
Go ahead. Offer.
You know you wouldn't. So be still with yourself.
Ha! 
don't agree w/U - she's 45, raising kids..regular lady..
lol, I so agree - why are kids the way they are today? Rude and obnoxious?
The generation raising them, apparently. Kids today are treated like little princes and princesses. I don't know when children became things of worship but they have. And this time out and talking to the child it such crap, when most just need a good smack now and again. Hey it worked for us. When I was growing up we kids were not disrepectful and we didn't think the world owed us something and we grew up to be decent people. We were afraid of our parents in a way and it helped us to be decent kids. I don't remember being worshipped by my parents. So, I just can't imagine this world in say 20-30 years, how scary.
I totally agree with you and this is what is wrong with the kids today!
They think they're *all that* and then some. And they're in for a rude awakening. LOL
Being overweight sure is a choice, just like sm
smoking cigarettes or doing drugs is a choice. If you are making the right food choices, exercising, drinking water, or even following a Weight Watcher's plan, you will lose weight, unless you have a problem with one of your organs where you retain "water weight". I, quite frankly, am tired of people sitting around asking "how do I lose weight" when they are not making good food choices and not staying active? If you have trouble with arthritis, then you can do aqua therapy (get in a pool even if it is heated). Anything that gets your heart rate up is exercise. The "government" is not at the grocery store holding your hand or at that fast food restaurant making you buy those burgers. I'm sorry, but that is JMO. 
Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight.
Pay more attention to who he is checking out/drooling over on TV - bet it isn't Roseann Barr or Camryn Manheim! lol
Thank you. Never in bird. I'm too lazy LOL :-) NM
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I'm not overweight or a smoker,
and since I'm not an addict, I can see clearly. Smoking makes no sense, which is why people are trying to educate children, who then assume you don't understand the risks and try to educate you. Logic states that if you understood the problems tobacco causes, you would not smoke. That is why kids are kind to you and try to educate you on the subject.
because they are not (superior), just lazy. nm
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I have a very overweight beagle....sm
She just went to the vet the other day and he didn't seem too concerned. She weighed 40 pounds. She weighed 30 before being spayed. I told him she barely eats much. There is no way the weight can come from overeating. He said she is fixed right? I said yes. He said well that happens sometimes. They gain a lot of weight due to the hormone changes. I knew it had to be that cause she didn't get like that until we had her spayed. So I figured that was it and it is. So he said not really much you can do. She is very lazy though. My husband said put her out in the backyard and make her get some exercise. Well the backyard is fenced in so I put her back there and she lays out in the grass and looks at me after going potty. I said come on get up and play. She just looks at me like I can be lazy inside or lazy outside but I am going to be lazy. LOL
I would if they were being lazy bums...
I am 35, and while I'm not terribly "successful", I'm very independent. My mom let us live at home, but she had stipulations. We either had to be working full time or going to school full time if we were living with her. she said in emergencies, we always had a place to crash until we get on our feet, but not to be lazy and do nothing, and I'm so glad she did that! My sister and I are both independent people. I know first hand a few guys who in their MID 40s, STILL live at home! no ambition to go, and actually one guy annoys me because he has the nerve to get IRRITATED with his parents for asking him about his life, where he's at, whatever. I find it funny that he doesn't think that living with her gives her the right to know whether or not he's coming home. He lives there free of charge, would rather not work if he didn't have to, and has no ambition and it bugs me. I know him as a friend of a friend, and I don't particularly care for his laziness at all.
I will do what my mom did when my son is old enough, he can stay as long as he is working full time and/or going to school full time. I will not raise or enable mooching or being a bum around me. But, if at any point in his life if he's been on his own, then has something like a divorce or lost a job, and needs to come home, of course I'd welcome him with open arms till he gets back on his feet. He's 8, so I have a while to worry about that. ;)
Absolutely. If someone is too lazy to get a job,
Are you lazy? Or are you working?
Probably lazy.
girls act that way because their parents are too lazy
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Her mother isn't too lazy to teach her better sm
Her mother is riding her coattails and loving the party life. Her mother is too messed up herself to teach her anything.
I was "only" 65 lbs overweight with 2nd pregnancy...
but I was so horribly ill with 24-hour morning sickness that I walked out of the hospital 12 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I certainly wouldn't recommend that method of weight loss! I was in and out of the hospital the entire time of my pregnancy for dehydration and IVs. Every moment of that pregnancy was a struggle with food; thinking about it, trying to keep it down, worrying about the baby.
In the end, it worked out. He was born 2 weeks early and was 8 lbs, 2 ozs. Within 24 hours I was eating like a horse again, and I was great while nursing for 6 months. But eventually, the glory days of eating and not gaining weight were gone. Now, 17 years after that pregnancy, I'm 80 pounds overweight. Sigh.
Why do very overweight/obese women
wear tops that show all the bulges and fat rolls that they have. It does not look good and I just do not get it. It looks like the tops are about 2-3 times too small. Any answers on this?
I agree - the switching idea is HORRIBLE. When I was a child the kids who got switched
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U R taking easy/lazy way out. Be the parent even if
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I am confident but also overweight and I have the common sense
to not wear clothing that I look like a sausage in. I have upper arms that do not look good in short sleeves so I do not wear. I do not think it has anything to do with confidence, I definitely am not short on that and admire myself in good looking clothes but I know what and what does not fit properly. Any woman who likes her fat rolls showing, her midrift bulging and several different bellies hanging down all at once does not ooze confidence to me, rather seems like they are insecure and dressing so maybe someone might notice.
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
I am lazy and not a good cook, but I buy those roast bags sm
in with the seasoning packets. It comes with seasoning and the bag for about $2 usually. I buy whatever cut is on sale, put it in the bag with the seasoning, straight to the hot oven and add veggies in a few hours. Always, always tender and falling apart no matter what cut. I have tried the crockpot too, but mine is never good and tender that way.
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