I agree. Aren't you married adults?...
Posted By: phillychick on 2008-04-18
In Reply to: What do I think? Time for a divorce! - wow
This is your husband, not your father. Having been in a relationship something like this in the very distant past I can tell you that you need to get rid of this jerk. Why do women put up with this garbage from their husbands or boyfriends? What advice would you give to a daughter or friend if she was in the same situation?
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I disagree - just because you aren't married doesn't mean you can kiss whoever you want (sm)
not if you are in a committed relationship. Now i agree that Helio's kiss was part of the show and don't have an opinion on that. But what you are saying about him having every right to kiss another woman if he wants - I strongly disagree with that. He was engaged. Even if they were just in a committed relationship he wouldn't have that right. Too many germs out there for one thing! It may not be new but it's still not right.
Agree. I am not married but if I was I would
never allow my spouse to treat any of my family members like that. It is just wrong.
If I had a spouse who was acting like that I would probably try to find out what the problem was and possibly try to get things worked out so that there would be harmony. But if that was not possible I would expect at the very least that when we were with family he would be cordial and pleasant and keep his negative bs to himself.
I agree with you on that. I saw it for myself when my niece married. SM
Her husband's sister just automatically developed an additude toward my niece, who is very quiet and very nice and could not be a better wife and mother. The sister was actually jealous of my niece and actually made comments about how no one would have ever been good enough for her "Joey." My niece was good to his family whenever they visited (they lived out of state) but finally told her husband that she would prefer to stay at his mom's house when they visited, even though the house was smaller. She was tired of the cold shoulder she got at ther sister's house. I saw it with my own eyes. It truly can happen for no reason whatsoever. The rest of the family loves my niece.
I agree totally this this post, though I have never been married,
and you should not have to disrupt their lives anymore than necessary by finding a new place to live, etc. Though from the sound of it, you dont like where you live and he does, but I would stay put like this poster suggests.
You can say that about adults but
How horrid of you to feel that way.
Are there any other adults out there with braces??
Just had braces put on my crowded teeth on Tuesday. Feel like I am absolutely the only adult with braces in the world. Everywhere I look I see 13-year-olds with them, but no one in their 30s  But I guess it's better to look silly for a year and have beautiful teeth in the end than to look silly the rest of my life with crowded teeth, huh??
Same here bags for adults
And paper for my children (even though my older one hasn't believed in Santa Claus for a few years).
Big problem in adults
I worked at a hospital about 15 years ago where they were diagnosing senior patients for Alzheimer's. Surprisingly, they found that about two-thirds of these patients did not have Alzheimer's, but had learning disabilities and ADD.
ADD has been around as long as humans, but just given a name and attention in the past 2 or 3 decades.
People usually suffer in silence because they think it's just them, that they have a character flaw, etc.
I would speak to your doctor.
I think it's a shame when adults
cannot put their differences aside for the 2 major holidays a year.
Way harsh? Oh come on. We are all adults here.
This is not a out of the blue tragedy. She sat for two months with lousy paychecks coming in. Why? That is her OWN fault. It would have taken one for me to get movin.
What is wrong with saying get up, get moving and get a job? What is the alternative?
There is no good in crying over something you CAN fix. Maybe the OP NEEDS to find strength now and not be babied.
For the love of Pete!
Adults need one, too. Imagine how difficult it is
for parents who feel the guilt/burden of knowing they cannot provide a Christmas for their babies. I've been there. I know how it feels.
One of my resolutions for 2007 is to pay a set percentage of my gross income to a dedicated cause locally. I'm not sure yet whether I will work with the light/water company to provide assistance for those on shut-off notices (they seem to have less options than anyone else) or help provide transportation to/from doctor visits for elderly/handicapped individuals, but I am going to do something.
I've known 2 adults that had them, one woman was in her mid-20's sm
and the other was a man who was a corporate salesman for the company I work for. Good luck.
meant "consenting adults." LOL
xxx 
They are adults and can handle it. After all, this is the tradition
with your husband's family. If they don't want to go, then let them stay home. Surely they were aware this is what your husband's family does on Christmas Eve before inviting themselves to spend the night. Don't ruin family time with your family and your husband's family.
I like to use gift bags for the adults
and wrapping paper for kids. I know there is a lot of wasted paper when you wrap, but something about watching a child rip into a package is so fun.
Teenagers and immature adults
have always thought it was cool to "shock" people. Poor Britney lived for it, and ended up flashing her nether-regions and then completely ran out of ways to shock people ... no wait, that only left shaving her head on camera. < eye roll >
And I would hope adults have more sense than that,
99 out of 100 is unbelievable to me. I find his statement ridiculous for people who are considered grown.
1 In 5 Adults Uses Pool As Toilet
Officials: Swallowing Urine-Contaminated Water Isn't Harmful
PHOENIX -- A new study by the Water Quality and Health Council found that nearly one in five adults admits to urinating in a swimming pool instead of using the toilet.
Eight in 10 adults are convinced their fellow swimmers are guilty of such a crime, the study said.
Nevertheless, health officials insist that swimming in and even swallowing urine-contaminated water isn't harmful to someone's health.
"Urine in itself has been purified through a whole variety of bodily processes so that it's removed a lot of the contaminants in it," said Don Herrington from the Arizona Health Department.
Swimmers should be more concerned about swallowing parasites than swallowing urine, officials said.
Last summer, dozens of swimmers in the Phoenix area got sick from pool water, forcing the closure of all 29 Phoenix city pools.
The parasite which caused the illnesses, Cryptosporidium, comes from diarrhea.
Phoenix Parks and Recreation spokeswoman Amy Blakeney urged sick swimmers to stay out of the pool.
"People who are sick need to stay home and remain at home for 14 days after they're symptom-free, especially if they have diarrhea," Blakeney said.
Though city pools electronically monitor chlorine levels, the city of Phoenix has begun to require swimmers to shower before they jump in the pool as an extra precaution.
"Taking a shower allows those materials to rinse off and go down as sewage, and then gets a clean body into the pool water, which is what we all want," Blakeney said.
Are they adults? No. R-rate means under 17 not allowed. sm
Easy answer.
The recommended starting dosage for adults is 25 mg (sm)
3 to 4 x daily with a maximum of 150 mg daily. The medication is prescribed for depression, but with alot of those antidepressants, they are also prescribed for their sedative effect, and thus also prescribed for insomnia. Pamelor has been around a long time, and in my last 10 years of transcribing, don't recall any physician prescribing it as a sleep aid. The usual standard now seems to be trazodone, starting dose 50, but may increase in increments of 50 mg up a max of 300. I am not questioning your doctor's reasoning for prescribing this, I just find it unusual. I would not be concerned about increasing the dose you are taking. Most medications, in order to cause deliterious and life-threating potential, need to be taken 30x the normal prescribing dose. Hope you feel better.
We are talking about a 5-y/o here not grown wacko adults - sm
so it is not a diaper fetish. Odds are the child is looking for attention and as stated in numerous posts wants to be the baby again and have all the attention. If the mom can, she needs to spend some 1:1 time with her 5-y/o, maybe at bedtime, story reading, or just talking, or take him down to the corner store and leave the younger one at home with dad, etc. Anything really, just spent 15-30 minutes a day that is his time with him mom alone. I wouldn't get freaked about it. I have 2 girls and the one loves to play with her nipples and stroke her tummy. She is 7 and just exploring sensation at this point. I told her it is okay to do but in private, not in public. I am not making a big issue out of it; not that it is a big issue to begin with.
hold on....letting adults paddle my kid?
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We're talking about kids; not adults.
I banned any gift giving between adults
when my husband and I got married. I will get my SIL and BIL something, but only because they have 6 small children and they always NEED something. Otherwise, Christmas is for the kids, period, plain and simple. Since I made that rule (when we had 6 small ones ourselves) his sisters refuse to come for Christmas dinner which I think is silly, but whatever. Christmas should not be all about gift giving anyway.
I married the same man 3 times and still married to him.
Together for almost 29 years now. 
sorry, should be aren't nm
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Hope you aren't someone I know. Why would you even
respond to the poster like this? Post the ways to reach this goal of yours instead of just mouthing off. What are you DOING to help the situation? Or do you just like spouting off your opinions with no substance? Bet you don't even vote let alone do anything constructive or supportive.
I know!! Aren't there any other doctors? - LOL (sm)
It's our little half hour escape to fantasy land!
Are sure sure there aren't other hidden -sm
issues, such as maybe drug or alcohol abuse?
Aren't there any agencies to help you? I cannot believe SM
you are not receiving child support.
I have cousin who did the same thing. Raised her grandchild alone. You must be very strong. Good luck to you.
Why aren't they working?
At least your son should be working. I agree with the other poster, you MUST cut them off. I can imagine how hard it will be, but it must be done. Sad situation, and it's the babies that suffer.
Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Aren't our babies fun??
 My Simon tries to put two toys in his mouth and throws them at my feet when I'm working - okay, I get the hint!! 80 degrees in Texas Monday - awesome.
Oh aren't they BEAUTIFUL!
Doncha just love flowers?! I was just talking to my husband today about how I just got royally screwed over by an on-line company...
My friend's husband just passed away after a long awful illness. So, I sent her some flowers. When I went to her house to give hugs and support in person, I didn't see them anywhere...no one sent the poor thing flowers . This lady has absolutely nothing, is dead broke, and has no family, and I was very bummed she didn't even get my floral version of a big hug. So I called the on-line floral place and they told me they had no idea and couldn't give me the name of the florist they do business with. Long story short, no flowers for this poor lady.
My husband thought flowers were a stupid way to spend money, but I told him that people LOVE getting flowers. No matter how bad things are, flowers make you temporarily forget. It's why I wanted to be a florist...one of the best jobs in the world is to give someone flowers. Then I learned how nasty some brides-to-be can be and bailed, because I can't take heat like that. Just dang.
You are welcome to e-mail me anytime at kathy@perin.org Like I said before, I only post under "Hayseed" because there were, at the time, lots of Kathy's and KathyP's and KPs posting and I just wanted to be different, otherwise I'd just use my regular old name. I gots nothin' to hide and hopefully no one to hide from, well, except from the Jehovah's Witness' folks. It's always been in my blood to just hide when I see 'em coming, don't know why really...that explanation is for another day I guess....
Oh my, aren't we uppity!
I've seen the Festivus episode. I googled the information people said to Google and did NOT find it. Obviously if someone has never heard of the "other evil board that shall not be named", it's not quite that easy to find it.
So get over yourself already and just post the name.
Well aren't you the lucky one! Most of us don't have
!
Do you REALLY think they aren't learning the
SF has one of the best school systems in the country.
As for 'separation of church and state', what makes you think this will be a religious ceremony? It may be nondominational.
I just can't believe the things I'm reading here this morning. It's really sad.
Aren't you guys always saying that
X
if you aren't doing it out of love
and because you want to, then don't!! You could allow others the opportunity, go out to eat, volunteer at a public dinner, etc. That's silly to do it all with that attitude. Be true to yourself.
Deeni - Are you sure you aren't ME? LOL
I'm just sorry I went full-in and did not figure it out first like you did.
I hope you are happy now in whatever relationship you are in...
Boy, you are pleasant, aren't you?
I would take a screaming toddler over you ANY day! Even someone's poorly behaved toddler.
You aren't bothering me....sm
The purse is 10-1/2 inches tall without handles and
10-1/2 inches wide. It is
4-1/4 inches deep from the front to back of the purse. With the handles it is 18-1/2 inches tall so the handles themselves are 8 inches.
LOL! Men are a whole different species, aren't they?
I have 'disappeared' a few clothing items too... They usually either don't notice or think they misplaced it somewhere - LOL!
Most of us on here aren't unemployed
But most of us are taxpayers and can see the cost of such a program. I won't even get into the infringements on personal rights. Unemployment is EARNED; the government has no right to try to find loopholes around preventing companies (think the Q here) from paying it out.
See the thread below about businesses that are and aren't
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Mine aren't on the list...
Ours are a lab named Festus, a McNab named Jinx and two cats, Precious and Tiger. I'd just die laughing if Festus hit the top ten, that was my husband's big idea.
Aren't yeast infections
caused by the imbalance caused by all the heavy-duty antibiotics that have to be used nowdays to kill bacteria?
I am starting to see medical reports from journals saying that strong antibiotics seem to be causing the increase in serious allergies and asthma, and it's due to yeast and other fungi. Not all doctors are on board yet, but it took them along time to believe that ulcers were often caused by bacteria, so we shall see.
If your scissors aren't sharp enough, you can end up
literally sawing them off, which DOES hurt. (Trust me.)
I have also tied a thread tightly around the base, which cuts off the blood flow and they will die and fall off in a few days without pain.
these look like sugar ants, but aren't
x
Aren't those puppies the cutest!
I have a female Siberian husky who is the absolutely sweetest dog I have ever had. I'm sorry for your loss.
Aren't they sweet all crammed in together like that!
I love to sleep with my critters too. I sleep like a log when they are in bed. Sadly, my poor husband does not. He has to wear a CPAP and has a really bad back, so if the critters hog the bed, he's not a happy camper and I have to give them the boot. Thankfully they've pretty much learned to sleep next to me, or on my head, or smooshed up against me so I can't move at all during the night. Hey...maybe that's why I'm all crippled up come morning!
We actually bought a king size bed becase of the room needed to accompany everyone...how sad is THAT?!
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