I STILL Give my Kids B-day parties, my baby is 17!
Posted By: MTPockets on 2009-03-16
In Reply to: When do you stop inviting family over to sm - luvmyboys
Nothing elaborate, but I make them their favorite dinner, buy them a nice gift and have the rest of the family over. It is a nice time for everyone to get together and visit.
I could not imagine letting one of my childrens' birthdays go by uncelebrated.
I would tell my MIL that you are never going to stop giving your sons birthday parties but if she does not want to attend she is excused.
I wouldn't let her stop you from having that special day with you and your child.
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Give that baby a BIG hug for me
He is adorable.
What's worse is that Casey DID want to give her up as a baby. sm
The pregnancy was of course unplanned. Casey never wanted to keep it, and her mother Cindy talked her out of not having it, and talked her out giving the baby up for adoption. Casey was always bitter about having to be a mother.
at my kids' schools they give out envelopes when their accounts get low...
If they don't give me the envelope, then it's their fault. However, they have never gone without a hot meal at school - they just can't get any extras if their account is in the hole - which is an incentive for them to remember to give me the envelope.
It does bother me that I have two kids and two accounts. If one is in the hole, the other most likely isn't. I don't know why they can't offset each other. My checks are made out to the same thing no matter which school.
We did not do parties except on special
occasion birthdays, normally just took the kids to see their grandparents as they did want to see them on their birthday. However, it is your tradition and if your in-laws do not want to participate leave it up to them. Invite them and they can choose what to do. Don't change your traditions because they don't "approve."
Birthday parties
My oldest daughter stopped having elaborate parties when she was 12. When she was 13 I took her and one friend to NYC to see a play, when she turned 14 I took her to a concert just the two of us, and this past year when she turned 15, we just had family and really good friends (4) and then I dropped them off at the movies. It just got too be too expensive. My youngest daughter has been having parties for her friends for the past few years (she's 5), but her birthday is in the summer, so we just have a pool party for her. On the other spectrum, I have a friend who lives across the street, and her two children have never had a birthday party (13 and 8) with anybody but their immediate family.
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Imagination is when all parties know it's just a game.
If you were fine with finding out Santa was just a myth, fine, hopefully your kids will be the same. But don't have a cow just because some people aren't into the Santa thing. And I don't have kids, so you don't have to worry about my "poor kids." And it's not necessary to e-mail me to express your anger over my opinion.
Just another work day here. No parties, No BBQs. What
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We usually go to house parties in our neighborhood. - NM
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legal as long as both parties are 18+
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My understanding is that both parties involved are black. nm
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Birthday parties. What do ya'll do? I have a son turning 6 sm
and it's like we know everyone in the world! We are booking this place that can hold a lot of kids, so it's not like I'm paying by head count. He's turning 6, so I wasn't going to invite "girls" but ended up inviting both because I know that some parents would get their feelings hurt. Do you tend to do that? Like invite so and so because so and so knows so and so and if you don't invite so and so, so and so might get offended? LOL
I just sent out the invites and 5 families are invited who have kids that don't really play with my son but I know that if they "found out" we had a party and their kids weren't invited they would be hurt.....
Ahh, the trial and relationships of life! Okay, so why did I do it? Because I hate hurting people's feelings and I don't do it if it is in my power not to do it. So there.
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Volunteering. Church. Political parties.
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A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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You do not give them food, you give
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It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
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I just want him to baby me
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Maybe you could rig that baby to
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Baby? lol
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Congrats!!
If your income isnt too much you can always get medicaid and wic (not health insurance but helps out with food and formula)
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What about Sun-In (to go along with the baby oil)...
and, more importantly, drive-in theaters - my boyfriend and I used to go to the drive-in almost every weekend in the late 70s/early 80s!! I wish they would bring the drive-in back.
some relief for your baby...
Try hemorrhoid cream to the blisters...I swear it will significantly decrease the itching. My daughter was around 4 when she got the chicken pox and I put Preparation-H on her blisters and kept it on them and she barely noticed them. Please try this, it honestly will help! Good Luck...and BTW, sounds like the doctor isn't the only one that is a jerk!!!  ---to your "husband"...
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2 is NOT a baby! It's a toddler and IMO too old...
to be breastfeeding! That's disgusting for a child that old and YES I would be offended and grossed out to see a mom breastfeeding a 22 month old! I have absolutely no problem with moms breastfeeding BABIES in public, but not a toddler.
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Baby Alive
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I'm not going to breastfeed my baby...sm
by choice. I want my husband, other kids and family members to share in the joy of bonding with the baby by bottle feeding at times and have no desire to be pumping my breasts. Our pediatrician leaves it up to the mother to decide whether or not to breastfeed, which is the way it should be. I've known plenty of kids who were bottle fed that turned out just fine.
Anna's Baby
Yes! Yes! Yes! The baby should be with the real father now.
TrimSpa Baby!!
Great for the heart...
the baby did ask to be born
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I think the baby looks like the guy they showed her
the nice-looking dark-skinned man in the hat and glasses. They showed a glipse of them hugging. I think the baby looks like him. She has really curly hair and an olive complexion. JMO.
Baby daddy is by DNA
Larry is the father
Thinking exactly the same that the baby
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You'll know when it's time and your kitty may surprise you and take you way past when you thought it would be.
OH! Is that a baby Rott?
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See, my husband is the baby...
He's the youngest of five children, with two older sisters who also dote on him endlessly. He has had some hard habits to break, but we are working on them. But mama lets us know how awful it is that we live so far away ALL THE TIME!!! Its about 280 miles for us.
I also do not believe for a minute that you are overly sensitive. To those other posters who do believe that she is too sensitive, you try dealing with that kind of a situation every time she calls or visits. Its a constant barrage of guilt along with overstepping their boundaries. My MIL also does all my laundry and rearranges my cupboards and cleans my house to her specs while she is visiting, then complains about how bad her arthritis hurts her because she did it. And then if I thank her but tell her that she doesn't have to work so hard while she is visiting, she bursts into tears and tells everyone that I hate her.
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