I've seen shows where once the wife gains a lot of weight
Posted By: LinK on 2009-03-24
In Reply to: When you answer no to some of these, as in would you marry an obese person - And then
yes, the husband gives them a choice, either lose weight or I'm leaving you. It does happen. I'm sure it happens the other way around too.
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I've only seen a few shows (sm)
I've caught it a few times channel surfing, but I was mesmerized by that kid. He definitely has something. Unfortunately I work too much to get 'hooked' on anything LOL.
But yeah, his kids seem really well adjusted and grounded. My 20yo daughter just can't get over the fact that they have 2 kids and been living together forever and not married.
I've seen shows on really obese people
I have no idea how someone could consume that much food. I mean really? It is interesting though how it goes from one extreme to the other in that anorexics do not eat anything at all, and I mean nothing.... So, I couldn't do that either, and I certainly believe in eating disorders; I really do. I am no skinny minnie, and my daughter is sort of overweight for her age, but not really for her height. I see her go to the fridge just cuz she's bored.... So, I've been trying to teach her other things to do when she's bored; she's only 9. Here's another thing that's interesting... At school, if she mixes odd foods together (like ketchup and BBQ sauce to dunk chicken tenders), she gets a rise out of the other kids at the table.
That site and what my daughter does certainly shows me that this is part of a much broader, wider (no pun intended) problem with this society, which is that if we are odd in any way it draws attention and we all love attention don't we?
P/S: YUCKO on the huge Scooby Doo sandwiches, but I watched that growing up in the 70s and 80s, so this is not a new thing! Anyone? 
I'm hungry! I want to eat! I'm trying to lose weight and I've been
doing pretty well, but now I'm getting at that poing where I just want to eat anything and everything. Any ideas on what I can do to curb my voracious appetite?
You will be taxed on capital gains
nm
capital gains = probably big bucks.
nm
We paid capital gains on a rental house sm
that we sold about 8 years ago. It was approximately 23% (I think-it may have been about 20%). From the way I understood it, capital gains was based on our adjusted gross income and you pay the taxes on the profits not the whole amount. When we got paid for the house, I kept back 30% and it covered the fed and state taxes. We wound up paying about 5,000.00 between the two. Hope this helps. I'm not an accountant either, just know from experience. The IRS website has really good information there.
I am only 5Ƈ". When I weight my desired weight (sm)
my face looks bad - drawn. I like myself best when I weigh about 140-150.
My son met his wife somehow
on the internet. They've been married 4 years..Very nice girl... Also know 2 other couples who met online and happy together. susan
Does he have a wife?
Maybe you can talk more calmly with her about it. I would be furious too! But if confronting him you don't know what you may do or say and your daughter doesn't need to lose a friend right now. Dyslexia is not the worst thing that can happen, although right now to her and you it may seem that way.
Have you looked into the disability act laws and getting her some support or into programs for this?
Share the below with your daugher, if you haven't already, it is a list of famous people that had dyslexia; Albert Einstein. Tom Cruise. Thomas Edison. Many others.
http://www.dyslexiamentor.com/famousdyslexics.php
All the best to both of you.
To wife sm
Try some on-line help anonymously for awhile. Just Google recovery or AAonline and you should find some help there. Give him credit and help him. Remove all alcohol from the house, support him and realize it IS a disease, not a flaw in his personality, he inherited this in the gene pool but although there is no cure, it can be turned around with the right support. I know someone who will not admit it and he has lost everything.He thinks beer is not alcohol. So be grateful for the awareness and pay no attention from those who judge. Good luck, it takes a lot of work, it didn't come on overnight but with your help and his higher power, he can do it if he is ready.There is Al-Anon, AA, Adult Children of Alcoholics but beware, some go to these meetings and tell all they hear there. You can decide later if you want the whole community to know. Usually those who judge point the finger, having three pointing back at themselves. It's not always anonymous. Get some professional advice and get rid of all the temptations. You may have to change playmates and playgrounds. You will figure this out as you go along. Only listen to the positive, ignore all who judge, they know not of what they speak, it's a disease. Just treat it as taking the sugar away from the diabetic, same scenario, help but do not enable!
My son and his wife - sm
have been married eleven years and over time developed a pattern for Thanksgiving, at least - they trade off years, one year coming to our house for dinner and her parents' house for dessert, and vice-versa. Of course, she's not a cook and has never been interested in hosting their own holiday dinner. They've always slept over Christmas Eve at our house as we have two more children still in school (had actually, one's not in school anymore but living at home) and shared Christmas morning with us, then go to her parents' house for Christmas dinner. I don't know if that's going to change now that the last of the kids are basically grown now. Unfortunately they aren't able to have kids, but if they did I would encourage them to stay home and we would come to them.
Yes. My son's second wife never
cooked. It was always McD's, Taco Bell, Pizza, etc. She never cleaned either. All she knew how to do was spend the bill money. (She didn't work, BTW).
Now my grandson is on a diet at 15 yo, 195 pounds.Thank heavens, my son woke up and got rid of her.
My mom worked every day and when she came home, made supper and it was always on the table by 5-5:30. If my father was on the 2nd shift, she'd make him a hot meal, put it in a square metal container and I would bicycle it to his work. When I was old enough to use the stove, I would make supper once or twice a night. In the summer, I would clean the house so she would have less to do.
I worked 2 jobs most of my life, but always had time to take my boys to their baseball practice, wrestling practice, and when old enough, to their PT job and pick them up at 10-11:00 when they would get off, went to open house every year to see how they were doing, etc. I also made sure their homework was done (not that boys really bring homework home in those days LOL), had a meal on the table for them every night, never had snacks like chips or pretzels in the house. The only thing they had to drink was water or milk. No soda. BTW, my husband during this time was away from home all week, so it was all left to me.
The parents today are too pressured, as are the kids. Kids are not allowed to be kids anymore. They are 7 going on 70. I think it's time they get back to being normal kids. They need breathing room. I don't know who ever decided that the kids had to be in every sport, every club, every volunteer activity the school has, but it's crazy. Not all kids fit that mold and they shouldn't have to. Plus their grades are expected to be A's and B's, nothing less. Perfection is the norm and no one is perfect.
What's wrong with this picture?
I'll jump down from my soapbox now.
shows
You've chosen great shows....Etta James?!!?.....I would give my right arm to see her live!....Bring tissues to Phantom if you've never seen it before. You're gonna have a lotta fun. 
It shows an ape for everyone
NM
shows?
any particular great shows or things to see ? ? My daugther is getting married at Mandalay Bay - not sure about the spelling of that.. we'd like to stay there or somewhere close but don't want to stay at a real expensive place. . watching the budget - planning our own marriage/house, etc.
Well, if it shows up in my
chicken and broccoli, then I am going to ask for an accounting somewhere. I checked the site, see nothing there that we use.
This shows you just how much you do not know
I was married, previous husband (deceased) bought a vehicle. At the time he bought this vehicle we were separated. He died before the car was paid off (back together at the time of his death). I was not signed on the papers in any way, shape or form and did NOT have to pay for the vehicle. I told GMAC they could come and get it out of my yard, I did not want, did not drive, etc., etc. Your statement about being responsible for each others bills made during the marriage does not hold water. You do not have all the answers like you think you do.
TV Shows
I don't have much time to watch TV, but I do DVR a lot. The main shows I watch are Ghost Whisperer, Nip/Tuck (when it's on), Flashpoint, Americas Next Top Model, Hells Kitchen, Desperate Housewives, and of course American Idol. I also have to admit that I love reality shows and watch a lot of the reality shows on the E channel, VH1 and MTV shows.
Talking to the ex-wife
Your boyfriend/husband talks to his ex-wife because he is mature. She means nothing to him. He would be with her, not you, if that was his choice. Don't you have ex-boyfriends? Do you speak when you meet them in the street? Please don't go down this road or you will experience a LOT of pain. You cannot ever "make" someone be faithful to you. Either they are or they are not. Dogs need to be tossed aside because life is too short. Work on your self-esteem. Choking someone to death with your insecurity and jealousy is the quickest way to make your boyfriend/husband say, "Bye-bye." My grown children stay with my husband's ex-wife when they are in her city visiting. We have had her over for Thanksgiving dinner. Was it 100% comfortable? No, but we did it for the children. Everyone has a past when they are over 18. Accept it, don't make it bigger than it is, and enjoy your relationship. That is very good advice.
Your knowing the wife well would be
much more important than you hubby talking to his buddy now and then. She's the one stuck with cleaning, getting a guest room set up and worrying about meals. Some women enjoy that, but many are just too busy to drop everything.
I agree that he should always put his wife first
but my brother was pretty much the same way...family was always an after thought if he thought of them at all and I assure you he is not gay.
To confused wife...
It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT. The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS. It probably will not matter what you change about you to him. If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.
Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't. Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.
And your child is being hurt by these outbursts. She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time. In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.
You all need help, even the child. Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help. Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right. Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate. Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...
confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
I agree about the wife, but...
she knows what side her bread is buttered on! Play the stand by your man, humiliated wife in public means for a much heftier settlement when the divorce proceedings start...not that she doesn't deserve it but come on, if your hubs was going to hookers for almost 10 years you'd be dumb as a post to not suspect it or at least get a hint of it from someone... Then again, they may just have that type of relationship where it is okay with her as long as she has the prestige, power and money that he brings. His daddy is worth 500 million dollars.
At least it is not a bombshell to the wife.
They both admitted their relationships..had counseling and moved on. you know it has been said for years now that good people are afraid to run for office for fear of a skeleton rattling around somewhere. You know an investigative reporter will dig it out.
my hubby did that with his first wife!!
I didn't believe him when he told me that he had only known her for two weeks when he married her! I said to him, "what were you thinking and no, I will not marry you right now"!
The wife will be gone at night
I am still thinking they are going to lock you in the basement for 10 years!
Dear Ms K9's wife
Try as you might, you cannot tell me your husband can approach any and all pitbulls and put them back on their chain- I was not born yesterday and don’t believe that for 1 minute. Tell someone else who does not know better, ok? You have named (except for the doberman) all dogs the police department close to me do not allow to be rescued because of their known aggressive behavior, chows, rotweilers and the pits. Better luck next time, sweetie.
He should consider his wife FIRST, not his stylist.....
nm
As his wife contacted you, you must have had some
contact details. Her son was in jail and instead of helping her, you took their inheritance share, PRETENDING that you do not know their whereabouts?
WOW!
I hope you are not one of those religious freaks, that would really be too much of a hypocrisy!
What the wife says and does is irrelevant
since the agreement was only with the husband. The wife has nothing to do with it.
Yes, shows are something we could do, living
where we do. It's not far to go, maybe 12 miles across town.
And thank you very much. One thing we don't want to do is get Sasha's nose out of joint, LOL.
What about going on one of the judge shows?
I heard they pay the plantiff on the spot :)
shows who rates around here
So, the almighty humans get the seatbelts and all we get is a stinkin' leash?
I like the judge shows too, --sm
'specially Judge Judy. I like it when she starts telling people they are i*d*i*o*t*s, and the like. I really don't know why some of those people would even WANT to go on there and be subjected to her wrath! Talk about an anger personality! wheee.
Broadway shows
Hubby and I and 2 kids are going to New York and are going to see a couple of B'way shows. Daughter and I are going to a matinee of Legally Blond and the whole family will see the evening performance of Lion King. What is the appropriate attire. Does hubby need to wear a tie and jacket. I am clueless! Thanks for any info!
Nah, just a big fan of the nature shows.
I forgot manatees. I shoulda said mermaids. :o>
I also got married there- as far as shows
I loved Jubilee at Harrah's(this is topless at later show) and have seen Barry Manilow, George Wallace lately along with George Carlin- the Cirque shows play at 4 places, the Venetian, Bellagio, Treasure Island and the Mirage, I believe. A lot of the shows close around Christmas and they also have blackout nights during the week. I would check on line to see who is playing the week you will be there. Jubilee is there all the time whereas other entertainers in and out. I thought the Bay was sorta expensive place to stay?
Have you ever seen it? All of those shows are just disgusting.
It's very vile. Which is why I only watch t.v. 0.00001% of my time. There isn't anything good on t.v. anymore - or good for you. I have 3 young children and the only safe channel it seems is the food network!
She should do more exposure shows because--
not only does she reach millions, people pay attention.
this one's going to be hard for me to watch.
LOL...we watch those shows
at our house. I am usually the one who wants to see them (female).
No, not in that area. But just shows that this goes on everywhere. nm
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fave shows
I'm addicted to HGTV and all the home improvement shows and house selling/buying shows..
My 9am EST *must* is Ellen, even if I only watch it for a few minutes for the monologue.
My 11:30pm **mustmust** is Chelsey Lately!! She is TFF!!!
I luvvvv House
I luvvvv that show the chick from Will & Grace is/was doing... oh shoot, what's the name of it.... grrrr... she's an ex-wife with a diary..
What TV shows do you watch?
With all the renewals and cancellations going on for the networks, what are the shows you regularly watch?
For me:
Lost
The Office
Kath & Kim
Big Bang Theory
Law & Order (& SVU)
House
The Simpsons
We got rid of cable so we rely on Hulu for anything else.
most of the time it is the wife divorcing the man...sm
not always, but most of the time. I am just expressing caution, and to have eyes wide open. Love or the thought of love, tends to blind people to the true facts. JMO.
wife beaters and rapists.
From what I heard his wife did release
the tape and against court orders. This child was supposed to, from what I heard, going with him somewhere. The mother got into trouble 1 time before for going against court orders. True he did wrong by the ranting but I would be willing to bet you Ms. Kim involved in not following through with court orders. This is probably the case of a child being put in the middle by these 2 who cannot stand 1 another now. Sure it happens all the time but we are not Kim and Alec, right?
yes I believe his present wife was seated next to him
and next to her was Laila's mom. They seemed friendly with each other and both were very supportive of Laila.
A military man shot his wife
This man was our son's recruiter when our son signed with the military three years ago. We had several meetings with him. He was a "fun" guy to be around, always smiling, always happy. But now, this and I can't get over the sick feeling in my stomach. He is on the run, of course. He left behind his little boy, with no mother and now no father. Temporary insanity?????
That wife you wrote about sounds like me! LOL! SM
I was married to a man who cheated for years. I was in total denial. After close to 30 years, I up and left. Best thing I ever did.
Just want to acknowledge point that men don't leave. If they are in a long marriage, and have been getting away with cheating for a long time, AND there is a lot of money involved, what with houses, pensions, savings, etc., THEY DON'T LEAVE.
I admire both your honesty. Good luck.
If he were to leave his wife for you, then at some time in the
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