I've never lived in an apartment building that
Posted By: TinaK on 2009-05-02
In Reply to: Need opinions. moving from situation - lifetimeMT
even ALLOWED smoking, and that was 15 years ago!
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Best City You've Ever Lived In
Milwaukee, WI... HANDS DOWN! Love the people, love the city, wish I could move back.
I've move a lot in my lfe- anyone else who has moved a lot who has a fave city?
I've lived it, both sides and it goes both
I've been on both sides and I have seen stepchildren thrown in the middle, guilty parents on both sides. I have seen the new single mom (now married mom) want her husband all for herself and act SHOCKED when she realizes she can't have him all for herself...it's not always a fairytale ending. It does sound like the child is playing her and it's obvious why, but I witnessed first hand a grown woman manipulate her stepchildren and husband, until she had both turned against her. Instead of expecting all the attention, perhaps your time would be better spent with your stepson NOT expecting anything from your husband, since you're not getting it, it sounds but instead, go out of your way to give him attention. Take him somewhere just the two of you and eat at his favorite fast food place, go to the zoo, something without dad. When he has to depend on just you and dad isn't there for comparison and pity, you might see an improvement for the better.
I've lived in Houston my whole life and I
love it. I like living in the city, although we actually live in the burbs, but close enough! I've never been to NY, but really want to go myself.
I've lived here for 25 years, a transplant from the NY area.
 I live in the "burbs" like the other poster, but if you have a choice, go to NY!! It is WONDERFUL this time of year. The crowds are what make it New York at holiday season. Rockefeller Center, Radio City, and all thos wonderful things. I lived close enough to NY that I could hop on a train and be there in 15 minutes. I miss New York - lots.
I've lived in the snooty HOA places and amongst regular people
With all due respect, I'm not a conformist and have no desire to feel 'unique' in a development simply because I get to choose 1 of 3 styles of carpeting, 1 of 4 styles of roofing material, etc. I don't like being boxed in or having others make my decisions in life. I'm far too independent to be subservient to a group of individuals who decide what is aesthetically 'acceptable'. I've no desire to associate with people who exude your smug, self-satisfied attitude that simply because you pay others every month to dictate what you can and cannot do with your own home. I've lived in a place like this, very briefly, simply because I got tired of trying to explain to first-time visitors which condo was mine because they all looked just alike, nothing unique about ANY of them.
MT work is isolating in and of itself. I've no desire to further isolate myself from society by feeding myself a false sense of security or self-righteousness that because I'm in an HOA-dictated community that I'm better (or safer) than anyone else.
The day someone tells me I can't put a decoration up without permission is the day I move.
If I wanted to live by someone else's rules, I'd have lived with my parents all of my life.
Indepenence equals freedom to me, and by letting someone else dictate what I may or may not do with something I pay hard-earned money for is just tacky.
Again, you do not have to go to a building
and give donations and be preached to, etc. to have faith and believe in the Lord.
Sure they can! If they own the building, they can tell
I haven't lived anywhere where indoor smoking was allowed since the late 1980's.
another plane just hit NYC building
gosh -- turned on the TV for a break and it was emotional to see again -- tho they say that there is no reason to believe its a terror attack --
You don't want your lining building up (sm)
without shedding. That puts a woman at higher risk for cancer, nevermind the heartbreak of not being able to conceive again.
I've gone longer than a year without a period because of PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) in my early 20s. It's not normal and it's not good.
I'm not sure how your post was helpful to her. She has suffered miscarriages--to tell her not to worry about her irregular cycles is not going to particularly help when she really wants a healthy baby, and for that she needs some cycles, and she will worry until that time comes. (Then she will be worrying about her baby during pregnancy.)
Building a house
Hey everyone, I am planning on buliding a house soon and I have been debating stick versus modular (not to be confused with manufactured/mobile). I have talked to many people about both and it seems like a Chevy versus Ford issue around here. I am just looking for some facts. Are modulars really as bad as some people say they are? are they as good? If anybody has had any experiences and opinions with either, please share. Thanks a bunch!
I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
I was the building spelling champ when
I was in 5th grade -- boy were the 6th graders mad. I was also on the 5th grade 3-kid all-star scholastic quiz team (kind of like jeopardy) and we beat the 6th graders that year, too! We didn't get to compete any further than within our own building.
Of course, as for the spelling bee last night, I only watched the last few rounds, but I couldn't spell any of those words. Whew! I was surprised at the questions they were allowed to ask. We were only allowed to ask definition and to use it in a sentence. The one last night asked what the root word was -- I'm not sure that should have been allowed.
Anyway, the winner definitely earned it!
No washer/dryer at my apt. building, and laundromat
it's far away & I'd have to burn valuable gasoline to drive there. Thank goodness I work at home and can wear clothing for several days before washing. I wash them in the bathtub and hang them on the fence to dry.
Lord NO, 28-Yo has own apartment
anger isn't all the time but when it comes up it is very uncomfortable for those around....my husband is the type that doesn't believe in counseling, he thinks they jut want your money and of course he hates Dr. Phil!!! Really he doesn't like to talk about his feelings..
Apartment ... okay ... job, stupid
I can see why apartment managers would care, but an employee is not going to have to pay his boss, so it's unfair to use credit against a potential employee.
People end up with credit issues for a variety of reasons and it's not a fair assumption that they will not perform in their jobs.
So many ways people struggling financially get pushed further down ... savings gets below a certain amount - the bank charges a fee; a person misses a payment or pays a little late - another fee, etc.
I can see if someone is just not paying, but when people are in hard times, it's not fair they can push you further down!
Obama said last night on Jay Leno he is going to do something about the credit card companies ability to charge ridiculous fees, so that's a start at least.
I have also known people trying to make their way off welfare, but everytime they earned a little extra, they were shorted funds from their welfare and could never save to get out of the hole.
Our government and society surely needs an overhaul!
I wish your son all the luck, as he, and all of us needs it!!
renting an apartment
 What to you think of the idea that landlords should lower the rent money?
House or apartment? When my child was 8, got 1
What was once a really cute little bunny...within 3 months grew up to be a HUGE rabbit - and the litter box was far worse than a cat using the litter box for #1. It got to be too much for apartment/condo living and so we gave it to Pet Supermarket for their weekly Sunday sales and/or giveaways but given to Pet Supermarket as a donation. We then went to cats only for condo living. Hope you have a house. 
Last week one of the gardners at my apartment - sm
complex (aka 'Leaf-blower Nazis') - actually stole my tiny little hummingbird feeder! It was a little globe with a red flower on it, mounted on a stake in the ground. They were removing old plants outside my bedroom window for the winter, and I saw they had knocked over the feeder. By the time I had put on my jeans and shoes and gone outside to refill it, (about 3 min. later!) it was already gone. I can replace if of course, but it was a gift from my best friend, so had sentimental value.
I HATE dishonest people!
I once came home at night to an apartment -
I used to live in, to find the front door was WIDE OPEN. (Thank goodness I didn't have any cats at the time!) I woke up the building mgr. and made him go in there with me. Turns out, while I was at work the complex's UNhandy-man had come to fix a gaping hole that had been in the bathroom ceiling for 6 months (after he'd "fixed" the leak in the upstairs shower pipes that was rotting the ceiling and causing mold to grow. It was right over the shower, so when bathing I'd have to stand right under this giant hole with cold drafts & spiders coming out of it.) Anyway, 6 months later, out of the blue he decides to come back & finish the job, so I got no 24-hour notice, and he not only left the front door wide open, he left the bathroom window wie open so the paint would dry faster. Amazingly, nothing was missing from my apartment. Another time, their gardners (who did nothing but blow leaves from one side of the complex to the other with a noisy leaf-blower) stole a couple bird-feeders I had outside my bedroom window. I'm glad I don't live there anymore!
No tree at all; apartment's too small! - (see mssg!)
(Hmmm... maybe I could......)
Hang mistletoe over, or from the PC?
Or some bright-colored lights on the kitty-cat tree?
Or dress up the rabbit-ears on my TVs,
With tinsel that shimmers and blows in the breeze?
Yeah... that sounds quite festive; it's what I will do.
And it just might improve my reception, too!
We were next door neighbors at an apartment complex.
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Hydroponics is an answer for apartment dwellers.
Can grow up to six different vegetables on your kitchen counter. 
Maybe she's thinking of large apartment complexes??
I would think it would be a lot harder to stop people from smoking in those types of apartments when there are maybe hundreds of apartments in a lot of different buildings like they have in big cities. I can understand not smoking in a one or two family home type apartment.
I don't even know what that is... lived in CA, AZ, OR
and Nevada. Never heard of scrapple.
:) Thanks! LOL--I wish you lived near me too...SM
We live in Nebraska.
My idea of shopping is Walmart, Target, and K-Mart. It worked while my boys were young, but now that they're getting older I guess I'll hafta dig deeper in the pocketbook and shop at stores in the mall. Thanks for the link! :)
Chickadee
I wish I lived
close enough to a beach to go every day, but then again, I probably would NEVER work!
You see, I have never lived by
myself. I went straight from home, to the college dorm, to my grandma's for the summer, then I got married. I never got to be on my own. I think everybody should have that opportunity. I think it would have changed me in lots of ways.
In my day, no vaccine. We all got it. We all lived.
At least now he will be immune. Hope you had hubby don't come down, too, but if so, it doesn't last forever. Just keep him away from others while contagious. And don't let him scratch!
When I lived in Colombia....
no one printed anything for me in English. Their country, their language, respect their ways. Those who come here should do the same - our country, our langauge, our ways. If you want to speak Spanish, go back across the border.
We speak English here precisely we were all originally from somewhere else.
The "We were all immigrants" argument is inane. Any country can say that. Mexicans were not originally from Mexico except for the Indians, who are extremely underprivileged and discriminated against by the Mexican government and the majority of Mexicans. Within the Latino culture, there is plenty of discrimination and prejudice - the lighter the skin and hair color, the higher the prestige. Latin American countries look down on the Caribbena and Mexico, etc.
Prejudice, stereotypes and discrimination are not just a white-black issue.
Why is that the Vietnamese and Koreans and other Asian groups come here, learn a new alphabet and many times will learn both Spanish and English in order to do business, but the Spanish speakers come here and demand everything be done to accommodate them?
It don't want to be Americans, they should stay home. If they want to adopt the American culture, come on over - legally.
hopefully this will be short-lived
I'd still send pictures, etc., especially to your grandparents. Good luck!
lived with us for a year.
by the time she moved out, no one would talk at the dinner table. my husband & I would go outside to talk. not good. hopefully your mil will be able to get some friends.
She has lived with us for 2-3/4 years so she...sm
knows all of the family line. We have been told that the judge that is finalizing the adoption spends a lot of time hanging out with a child that is old enough to talk with him at the time of adoption so she's looking forward to that. We've got the camera ready to go with a new battery and lots of memory on the memory card for the photos.
I have made an appointment to get her portrait made and the place we're doing that can create some adoption announcement cards for us with her picture and information on it to send out to people.
I like the tree idea - thanks for that one! Hopefully I could keep it growing! :o)
I grew up and lived in PA
until I made a few moves down south a few years back and moved to Ohio a year ago. I am about 45 minutes now from my hometown in PA, but my hometown in PA is just 45 minutes away from Pittsburgh. We could be close enough to be neighbors!
I wish I lived right next door to
help you with your project. That's my kind of fun. :oD I wuv a good rottie. Can't imagine playing with 3 of them.
How about: If I lived here, I'd be the cook!
Looks beautiful! WIsh I lived there. NM
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Did your parents help? I lived on my own but (sm)
it was because my stepfather did not want me there. I worked a full time and a part time job and tried to put myself through college. It took me years just to get an associate degree. If I had had help from my parents it would have been so much easier. It was very difficult as an 18-year-old to earn enough money to take care of myself.
I wished you lived near me...sm
So that you could meet my big baby and get to know him. I promise you would say this is no pit bull. My mom was scared to death when I got him that he would grow up and be this mean vicious killer. Well now she loves him to death. My father-in-law was against us having a pit. Now he says he ain't nothing but a baby. Some may be mean. But I am telling you mine is not mean. UNLESS he feels threatened or his family is threatened. Just a while ago a friend of my husbands was over here and CJ was just head set on getting up in his lap. CJ weighs about 70 pounds and he thinks he can sit in your lap. Lots of people say he isn't a pit is he? I say yes but he is a nice pit. Some are mean, some are not. It depends on the dog and a lot of how it is raised. This dog has been babied like a child from the time I got him. When he was 3 months old I got him and routinely rocked him in my recliner. Now he is just this huge baby.
We lived 2 blocks away from each other
I knew him in high school. He was the 'much older' Senior and I the lowly Sophomore. I had a crush on him, we'd ride with a group of boys & girls to away football games & he was always very nice to me. My older brother and his older brother were in the same class & had been good friends for years.
DH graduated & then two weeks before my senior year was to start, my now BIL came over to our house, after he returned from the Marines, to see if my brother was home. He wasn't but we talked for a few minutes. Then furture BIL went back to his home and told DH....you need to call Renee.
The rest is history.
We dated during my senior year and we went to all the dances. It was a great year and I have a box full of silly bids from dances, pictures and fun times! That was some 42 years ago now...LOL.
when i lived in the south, they said
i had a 'northern' accent. I'm born/raised Californian. When we moved to midwest, teased kids for having southern accent. however, when my husband used to work all over the country 40 yr ago, he could tell almost exactly where someone was from, hearing them talk a bit. With all the travel/moving around now, accents are there, but not nearly as identifiable, and ofttimes a mixture ...
never lived there but visited.
I love it. So jealous of you. Good luck!!
I lived there and HATED it!
There is nothing to do in North Carolina. The BIG event in Raleigh is the weekly Farmer's Market. The lakes are ugly, manmade bowl-like things. The police are out of control in that part of the country.
You could not PAY me to live in North Carolina again. At least not near Raleigh. Charlotte and the Mountain area are nice, but for the middle of the state? YUCK!!!
Twice so far in 11 years we have lived here - sm
Once when I lived at home years ago, boss got me out. I was excused the two times here as my kids were little and still at home, and no babysitter. My husband got called a few months ago, first time, no clue what he did with the papers or exactly what they said, I think he just blew it off, but no one has ever come to get him if that was the case.
The man who lived across the street.
We lived in cul-de-sac of 10 homes. The whole neighborhood knew each other. This man thought he was the boss of everyone, told everyone how to raise their kids, keep their yards, take care of their pets. He was physically and verbally abusive to his wife and kids. He was absolutely awful.
Someone called me one day to say that man had liver cancer and had less than 6 months to live. I thought couldn't have happened to a nicer person. He died on New Year's Day 2004 and as we watched the ambulance leave his house with his body in it, everyone (including his family) gave a sigh of relief. Only 6 people attended the funeral. Isn't it horrible to think that way about someone? He was only 52.
When I lived in S. Florida, I heard ..sm
I thought that sort of thing is illegal in this country?
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
No she won't - as long as she lived there for 2 years -sm
single you get $250,000 tax exempt, above that CG applies, if married it is $500,000. That tax law has been changed for a while now.
I have lived in the area for over 40 years
and I know exactly where this is and I drive the freeways all the time, including the HOV (which is a lane for more than 1 person in a vehicle to use or a motorcycle driver). The lanes are to the left-hand side of the others and the bus driver apparently took the wrong lane. Ther are 2 there that run side by side, 1 goes straight on thru Atlanta and the 1 he took is the exit lane and apparently exiting at a high rate of speed (i.e. your average speed on the freeways) he was totally unable to make the stop at the top of the freeway. There are 2 lanes there, 1 directly ahead and the 1 he took has a stop sign at the top for a turn either right or left. So unfortunate for these people and our hearts have gone out to them.
I have lived in Wyoming all my life .....
It is definately West!! We have it all, flats, mountains, snow in summer, it has snowed here on the 4th of July!! If you are going to Yellowstone, chances are you will see snow in some places...not alot, but some. Jackson, in the mountains, and in the Big Horn mountains around Sheridan should still have some, depending on how late in the summer you come. We have a little of everything and lots of space to breath! I would not want to live anywhere else!! Welcome..I hope you enjoy your visit!!
When I lived on a farm back in the day...
One night my girls (little then) and I were coming home after work and we came down the hill and the headlights illuminated many, many dead cats, at least 40. It was so traumatic. The girls were screaming and crying, it was awful. And it was also a black lab that was the culprit. What a horrible sight that was. I'll never forget it.
Allergies possible? I lived at the dermatologist - sm
for a couple years, would get this horrible rash on my neck, hurt, oozed, itched, totally sucked. Dr. suggested I do my own allergy testing at home. I put a spot of shampoo, my ferret's hair, body soap, clothes detergent, etc. under seperate band-aids on inside of my forearm and left them on untouched and dry for 48 hours then removed. I had a horrible red rash/reaction to my shampoo. (was also allergic to 1 of my ferrets, the one that still had its musk glands. So I stopped using that brand of shampoo and it cleared right up. Happened again a few years later and switched shampoos again with complete resolution of the rash. Luckily it has not happened since. So it could be as simple as exposure to something he uses every day or on frequent basis, you just need to figure out what. My DH became allergic to Tide about 10 years ago after they changed their Bleach Alternative formula, got a rash all over his body from it, obviously we don't use that brand anymore. Good luck.
Lived in it for years and loved it. (sm)
Low payment. I think the plus with a mobile home as opposed to a condo or an apartment is pets. A lot of them allow a fenced in yard - at least here some of them do.
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