I've never had a bride offer to pay for the attendant's dresses. nm
Posted By: The cost is always up to the attendant. nm on 2007-07-26
In Reply to: She's making them buy their own dresses? TACKY!! NM - Flibertygibbit
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Are you serious? What bride pays for the dresses? LOL
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The majority of bridesmaids buy their own dresses unless bride's family
is extremely wealthy.
Red dress attendant at wedding
Just got back from vacation and saw the post about bride not wanting red dressed attendant at wedding. Getting past keeping the book part (some know about it, others do not, some agree, some do not) but I am talking the red thing. First of all, anyone wearing red is usually saying LOOK at me. The bride has every right in asking anyone in the wedding party NOT to wear red. This is her day- NOT anyone elses. It falls under the same thing as no one wearing white to the wedding- that is supposed to be reserved for the bride only. Wearing red would be about the same as wearing sequin dress and I guess also most do not know you should not wear black although I see women doing that also at weddings. I think the problem now days is most do not know manners - I recently saw the most outlandish dress for a funeral, bare arms, bare midriffs, very short skirts, capris and/or bermudas. Any request a bride makes for her wedding for her attendants SHOULD be followed to HER liking, not theirs. Any who disagree with this post really just do not know etiquette but should brush up on theirs - try reading Emily Post to begin with.
I meant playing peek-a-boo with the flight attendant..c'mon now.
Just a joke. This kid was too big and she refused a blanket. I have nothing against people breastfeeding infants in public, discreetly. However, for toddlers, I say bottle it, please.
A guest book attendant is not a bridal party member and should
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Plus-size dresses
My friend is getting married in August and I need to find a dress quickly! Can anyone recommend a designer with a line of plus-size bridesmaid dresses? I'll require a size 14 or 16 depending on the fit (probably 14).
Also, I realize this is late and I may have to buy "off the rack" or via internet versus using a bridal shop. Any recommendations in the Philadelphia/So. Jersey area?
She's making them buy their own dresses? TACKY!! NM
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Me too. In fact, in dresses and tops
I actually need petites to have them fit right. Otherwise there is room for a hunchback in the shirt or dress! But my arms are long, like a monkey.
I'm 5ƌ" with a 33-inch inseam - not sure about the arm length - how about you?
BTW, my inseam is the same as my 6Ɖ" husband's!
Ever notice how men's shirts can be bought by neck and sleeve length size, but all women are supposed to be proportioned the same?
I was in a wedding with deep blue dresses.
We had the shoes dyed to match the dress from David's Bridal. They have a big selection of styles to pick from and then you dye them, relatively cheap too.
If not, then I would go with silver, just something simple though. JMO, but I don't think black would look great.
Dillards has nice dresses for older women, slightly
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Beautiful bride!
Congratulations to ALL of you ;-)
You are not unreasonable...the bride sounds..
like a pain, I feel sorry for the groom! If she does not like your dress she can buy you a new one and any accessories you might need to go along with it. Or you can simply not be the keeper of the guest book, which is what I would do if I were you! Good luck and don't feel bad! If this ruins her "special day" she is pretty shallow!
Gaaa.... what a snotty bride! Here's what I would do -sm
Tell her you'll 'look around for something, but at this late date you don't know if you'll find anything.' Then WEAR the red dress. Totally do your hair and makeup, and you're gonna look SMASHING. Go ahead and look better than the bride. Serves her right for being so snotty.
And oh, yeah - 'Guest Book Monitor' - BLEAH. The first wedding I ever went to was my best junior high friend's wedding. But I guess I was no longer even a 'good' friend in high school or jr. college, 'cause at her wedding I was left out of the wedding party and told I had to be in charge of the guest book.
I stood by it in the church, and that allowed me to have my preferred seating.... way in the back of the church! Then at the reception, there was that danged book again, and her mom telling me I had to make sure EVERYONE signed it. Well, I lasted maybe 5 minutes, until I smelled food. After that, I left the book to it's own fate, and went in to the reception and ate to my heart's content. As soon as the cake had been cut, I got one of the first pieces. I'd been seated at a table with a bunch of older people I didn't know at all and had nothing to talk about with. Never did see my friend all day, other than walking down the aisle! So, I developed an 'upset stomach' and left early so I could go home and go for a nice long, QUIET bike ride. Didn't say goodbye to anyone. And I never signed the Guest Book, either.
Bride 65, grooom 68, 2nd marriage for both. No
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9-year old bride "marries"
See the link below.
Was it rude of my bride friend to register for...
My friend just got married. When I went to the store and requested a copy of the bridal registry, I found several $200-$600 items on the registry. I was shocked.
I do not know if it is proper or not, but I have always been told you "pay for your meal" in the gift you bring, so I always assume at least $75 to $100 for a sit down meal. But, she and her fiancé are both middle class at best, so I was not initially expecting a big wedding.
When I saw so many $200 to $600 on the registry, I concluded, incorrectly, that they had decided to throw a big bash. I bought my gift very late and the registry still did not show that ANY items over $150 had sold. I spent $150 on my gift, which was more than it looked like anyone else was paying, but if you wait until the last minute, your options at the low end are very limited! That is my own fault!
They actually served a very low budget buffet, prepared by neighbors and friends, for the meal. It was actually a lower budget wedding than I expected. I am not criticizing their decision to save money on the wedding. I think lots of people spend way too much money on weddings. BUT, I do think it was rather presumptuous of her to register for such pricey items when most of her friends and family cannot afford them and when she was not throwing a fancy wedding.
I am not complaining about spending $150 and not getting "my money's worth" from the meal...that is NOT my point at all. BUT, I do think if you are going to put items like that on your bridal registry you need to consider who your friends are and whether or not your circles can afford such items. I am in a financial position where I could decide to buy a $150 item, but not all of her friends could even go that high and there was very little below $100 to choose from even if they were the first ones to shop.
Is it really typical for middle class people to request such high ticket items for wedding gifts these days? Or was it actually as presumptuous as I perceive it to be?
The guest list is up to the bride & groom....sm
no one else! Of course if grandma wants to foot the bill for the wedding then I'm sure they'd consider her desires.
The bride magazines say no white, ivory, too sexy, and don't
try to match the brides maid colors. Ask the bride for her ideas of color, styles. The style should be similar to the mother of the bride, if possible, such as length. A 2 piece suit would be nice and tasteful, short for day or long for evening.
This is tthe same bride?!?! lol, the one having bridesmaids, flower girl, etc.
and was upset about you wearing red? I absolutely thought you were talking about a much younger gal like in her 20s!
She is 65? This is just way too much!
LOL.
stick to your guns and let the bride and groom decide who they would like at the wedding(sm)
Twenty years ago there were 150 people at my wedding. I knew MAYBE 20 of them. My parents INSISTED on inviting every single long-distance cousin and relative, most of whom I (and certainly my husband) did not know and had never met. Granted, MA and Dad were paying for the wedding but I've always felt like I missed out on having MY wedding because, in order to stay within their budget, I only invited about five or ten friends. And my husband and his parents felt like they COULDN'T invite anyone because of the budget restraints and my parents' guest list. We ended up with about 20 people on my husband's side of the church (basically his immediate family), three of his friends, five of mine, and the rest were mostly my distant, DISTANT unknown relatives (with a few close relatives scattered among the many distants). I look back now and wish that I had taken better charge of the situation. It certainly would have cost my parents less money because I wasn't going to invite that many people.
This is a REAL contract a bride asked her bridesmaids to sign...
*Bridesmaid’s Contract*
Hello my beautiful bridesmaids! Let me just say again how happy I am that you are going to be a part of my special day! Below are just a few guidelines for the wedding that I’d like you to review, please initial by each point, sign at the end and send back to me. Just want to make sure they’re aren’t any surprises! The planning bride is a happy bride!
Thanks a bunch! Love ya!
-The Bride-To-Be
______ My hair will remain at the length it is now or longer.
______ I will not change my hair color without first consulting BRIDE and providing a sample photo or hair swatch for consideration.
______ I will use Sally Hansen’s “Maximum Growth-Daily Nail Growth program” every day for the 4 months before the wedding day.
______ I will not gain more than 4lbs from the weight I was when I was asked to be a bridesmaid.
(Sarah and Anne only for the point below…)
______ I will join a well-known weight loss program and through whatever means necessary will lose the desired amount of weight as previously discussed with BRIDE at the time when asked to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.
______ I swear to attend all showers, (lingerie, kitchen, bridal & bachelorette) to arrive in a timely manner and do everything in my power to support and “be there” for the bride.
______ I will purchase the DESIGNER style # 464 dress below in Pistachio/Ivory within 3 weeks of today.
______ I will NOT knowingly get pregnant without notifying BRIDE at least 6 months prior to the wedding so a suitable alternate can be found. I will also give my purchased bridesmaid dress to said alternate.
I do hereby swear that I will adhere to all of the above & other understood bridesmaid duties for the wedding on DATE, 2008
X_________________________
(sign, print and date)
How sad. I can offer no help but
I feel so bad for you and your son. I had no idea such a conditon existed. To think of a 5-year-old child existing on pizza rolls and Ramen noodles, makes me so sad.
God bless you both (and the therapists too!!).
Thanks, thanks, I appreciate the offer
but unlike this poor excuse for a person, I am not using our website to ask for donations, financially making it alright for the present. We are going to high kill so called "shelters" and pulling from there to try and give our best little friends an extra hand. I am finding so much joy in what I am doing. In my state you have to be licensed (have that applied for), incorporation (applied for) before you can charge a rehoming fee. When all in order and if others in my rescue group want to charge fees, I will let them have that to go back into the pot to, well save others. This is my heart and what I have wanted to do for a very long time. Probably the most rewarding thing I have done in my life. Here in the south we have an overabundance of animals and I hear there is a need for animals further north. All 3 of my furbabies are rescues, they also are my heart.
Offer these suggestions -
Title loans if they own their cars, sell anything they can, pawn what they can. Some of this will only be a very short-term solution.
Look inside for how much they offer LOL!
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Hayseed, thanks for the offer but
today on my way back from ceramic class, I stopped and got my babies some of the organic catnip and ground it up between the fingers and they rolled and sniffed and had such a good time. I wish I could have taken all the covers including blankets, sheets, whatever that I have put over my new furniture from 3 days ago but had no time before had to get to work. Am off tomorrow so will try and orientate the babies towards their new delight. They did love it and am hoping this will be a good thing for them instead of the new leather.
Perhaps it would be better to offer your help locally - SM
What you are doing is wonderful and I can easily understand that you must be selective in helping those who are in real need.
At the same time, you must understand that people are not accustomed to running into true Good Samaritans who have no personal "agenda", so they would understandably be reluctant to provide intimate details of their financial situation to a total stranger, however well intentioned. If "What's the catch?" is their first reaction, it's only natural. Sadly, there have been a lot of scams that have been circulating in the form of "assistance".
By working locally (perhaps through a church or social agency), you can be thoroughly satisfied that you aren't being scammed by someone with a slick story, or someone who would misuse the money, and the recipient of your kindness can be confident of your good intentions.
You're truly a rare bird in this jungle of life. Don't take it amiss if a lot of bird-watchers don't recognize you because they've never seen anything like you before.
The only comfort I can offer is to wish you well and say a prayer for you. sm
I'm sure all will turn out fine, too. My mom went through early stages of cervical cancer in her mid 40s and she is doing well. Best of luck to you and keep us posted and updated.
Thank you so much - some of us are quick to judge and offer
I really appreciate those who have give good advice and hope to help my DD. To those who suggested it was too late, 22 is just the beginning of life IMO, especially if you have been in college and the like. For reasons I do not care to go into, my DD could not work while going to school and so now that she has her own money, well you can figure it out!
I think that's a great idea to offer to
help chaperone! Personally I'd take some kitchen cleaner and some paper towels and clean the counters to "keep busy" when nobody was paying attention, but I'm pretty bold, LOL.
Not that my house is as clean as it should be, but if I had kids I'd be a lot more motivated to clean!
what does a company normally offer for PTO yearly
Starting fulltime and just curious?
Most leagues offer seminars
You may want to look into that for your opposing team and yourself. If these kids sense the parents' hostility, it will ruin it for them. This is written by another little league mother that has already been there and done that. It's not worth the negative energy. Cheaters are not winners! End of story.
Why should she offer to feed the twit? - sm
he was violating a restraining order, I certainly would not make him feel at home. She did the right thing calling the cops. He mouthed off because he was mad at her and wanted to cause trouble.
As for CPS, clean the house, why you still have his lousy magazines there is beyond me if kicked him out. Get rid of all the clutter for sure. Obviously be straightforward with the inspector. I highly doubt from your story that you are in imminent danger of losing your kids. Just be truthful and explain the whole situation, CPS has seen it all and can quickly figure out who the good and bad parents are.
You don't offer to feed someone you have a restraining
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I offer snazzy colored pencils.
You'd be surprised how eyes light up when they see they can choose a special looking pencil. I think it's because it's unexpected. I have candy too, but they are more excited about the pencils.
Thank you for the offer. I don't have a cell phone contract, i do the pay as you go. sm
i have ATT go phone stuff. Thank you though.
It is rude to ask someone if they are married. If they offer fine, if not, butt out. SM
Being married does not justify a person's worth, neither does having or not having kids. If you are happy, that is all that matters.
Don't feel bad, I had a 30 year miserable marriage and only stayed married for the sake of my daughter.
I'm in a ten year long relationship with a special man, but I will say, if anything happens to this relationship, there will not be another. Too much weird stuff out there.
As long as it's not a sleepover, why not stay at the party and offer to help
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Mary, I offer my prayers for the safety of your sons. SM
I thought brothers could not be in battle zones at the same time. Did they choose to?
Does anyone have Verizon and also their cell phones. Can you tell me if they offer a decent deal if
you have both from them compared to other cell phones. No sure which one to get.
Comm colleges also offer otometry assistant, pharmacy
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Krispy Kreme to offer free doughnuts on Inauguration Day
Krispy Kreme is offering free donuts (or doughnuts, as they call them) Inauguration Day.
In a press release the company announced that it will be "honoring American's sense of pride and freedom of choice on Inauguration Day, by offering a free doughnut of choice to every customer on this historic day, Jan. 20. By doing so, participating Krispy Kreme stores nationwide are making an oath to tasty goodies -- just another reminder of how oh-so-sweet "free" can be."
Whatever. It's surprising that Krisky Kreme even has the money to offer this promotion. The company has been bleeding cash for years and its stock currently trades at $1.50 per share. In 2003, it was trading at more than 30 times that price.
Want a free donut? Just show up at a Krispy Kreme and enjoy your day.
Leave a big sign on her nightstand, tough situation! Some are thiefs, offer a reward!
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Wal-Mart does offer health insurance to their workers. Wal-Mart pays part and the employee SM
pays part of the premium. Just like other companies do.
If you've got one, you've got bunches!
How do ya feel about cats? That's what I'd do...get a cat...but I love cats and love it when they bring me 'presents' of dead varmints.
If that's not an option, and you're not comfortable with baiting, glue traps, or that sort of thing, it'd be worth it to hire a professional 'cridder ridder' or exterminator. Those things will chew up your walls and floorboards like you have no idea and cause incredible amounts of damage. Good luck in your jihad!
I've done this 12 yrs and I've had to take breaks sm
Took a break and worked at my kids preschool one year, worked at a hospital one year, took a couple months off once. It does burn you out because it takes all of your concentration. When I worked at the hospital as a secretary I could not believe how easy the job was ;-) I was sooo used to just getting paid for actual work that when I had a conversation with a coworker or a phone call or took lunch, I felt like I was getting away with a lot! I hope your break works out!! I wish you lived close-by, we could take turns watching each others kids ;-)
I've been using...
Zicam severe congestion. It gives me temporary relief and I've been taking Singulair, but originally nasal discharge was clear, this morning it was yellow (don't mean to gross anybody out). Could it have turned into a sinus infection? And if so, is it time to see the doctor??
I've tried that...
I've done that along with changing my diet but still no relief. I just received an e-mail saying to try vitamin E which is what I am going to try next.
Thanks a bunch.....
I will try that too, I've had enough of this...sm
where to I go to do this, remove IE7 and reinstall IE6.
TIA
oh yea, we've been through that one . . SM
My husband is the type of person that avoids conflict, does not want to face it, because if you pretend it's not there, it isn't, right???? Yea. He was in counseling for a while, but never went back after a few times. He really felt like last night was a punch in the face, like it's a game or something . . . like if you look the part, you ARE the part.
I've been there...
Hang in there...
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