I've been through this sort of, but I was the dirty house - sm
Posted By: on 2007-08-10
In Reply to: Daughter wants to attend birthday party - ?????
Girl invited over one time for my daughter's B-day party. I cleaned the house, picked up, dusted, vacuumed, mopped, etc. I am not the best housekeeper in the world but I do a good job when I do clean. We don't have ants or roaches, or any other type of bugs or rodents. BUT we have a lot of clutter which obviously makes things look dirty/messy. I have slowly been getting rid of it but have a long way to go still. I have been squirrling things away in boxes, put them in the garage and see if anything gets missed. Next step is dump or ebay. I keep clean kids, bathe regularly, etc. This girl was/is forbidden to come here ever again because our house is messy per her grandmother (mother is dead, being raised by grandma and grandpa as the dad is too lazy to do it apparently). I could care less that they think my cluttered shelf in the kitchen is offensive to them, or our 50 pictures on the mantle bother them (slight exageration), or my husbands collectables in every corner covered in blanklets (though I do want them out, would make a big difference); we are not slobs. Yeah, I find it a little annoying, but I feel bad for the little girl as she is not allowed to ever get dirty and that is half the fun of growing up. The grandparents have no tolerance for any mess, that kid must live in a bubble. My MIL is exactly the same way too, but this lady is young, about mid-50s, so you think she'd still remember. I know this is not what you mean though. Hygiene is quite necessary and the girl will be teased and tortured by her friends if they see she lives in a pit. You could alway offer to help the mom get ready for the party, though there is no nice way to say, hey let me help you clean your house, it is really gross and needs a total overhaul, and you need to learn how to do laundry, bathe and brush teeth. Kind of hard to do definitely. Just do what you think is right and be as tactful as you can.
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I've ended the cazillion dirty glasses in the sink every day problem...
My husband and I got tired of the kids coming to the kitchen a bunch of times during the day and each time grabbing a new glass to drink from - even after we asked them to pick a spot on the counter to keep their glass at and rinse it out/wash it after every use. Previously we'd end up with the dishwasher filled on the top level with glasses every day.
I went to Target and found different colored plastic tumblers. I bought a tumbler for everyone in the household. At supper time tonight I put all tumblers on the table and told everyone to pick their favorite color. After this was done they were all told this is now their color to use, and they're solely responsible for their tumbler each day, and are to rinse/wash it as needed throughout the day. I then went to the cabinets and proceeded to pack up all but 4 glasses we have in the cabinet - and those 4 I've moved to the very top shelf. They know that if their tumbler is found outside of the kitchen the problem is solved of "who left the glass on the living room table?" None will be allowed to wonder to bedrooms or they'll lose their tumbler and have nothing to drink from but a small juice glass. If we have company they can use the 4 glasses on the top shelf.
This should work and we'll no longer have dishpan hands!
I've always had a key to my parents' house.
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I've had to break into my own house more than once!! nm
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Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Dirty Dancing
I can watch that movie over and over!!
Dirty Jobs
I am soooo glad in knowing I am not the only one who thinks he is cute! He just seems like he would be so much fun to be around and really enjoys life. I have no problem when my son changes the channel to what that. He just doesn't know I secretly like the host!!! 
Dirty Jobs
Same here, my husband and son don't know I like him either. I'm afraid that would ruin it for them and they would never want to watch it. I love the Mike. He is hilarious and I agree with the other posters - the goeduck episode was the best ever! I can watch it over and over and LMAO every time. I giggle just thinking about it.
MMM, Dirty Jobs - what's that guy's name? sm
He's hot. :D
boy, my thoughts are too dirty on that one to express them!!!! nm
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It's not the dirty talk - it's the disrespect (sm)...
It sounds to me that your real problem is that he dislikes and does not respect women in general. Has he always been like this or has he changed? Have you changed the church you go to? Are you getting "male superiority" type messages from church? If not, why not talk to your pastor or minister? I know that it is embarrassing but you can discuss his lack of respect, how he talks and feels about women and, then, let him know that it is effecting you and causing you to withhold "intimacy". Believe me, he'll know what you mean! Furthermore, if I had to guess what caused this change (if he has changed) I would say that your husband's behavior is due to looking at and/or reading demeaning pornography! He is treating you like he would a prostitute and you certainly need to have someone intervene and wake him up. If you cannot find someone to talk to in the church, try a social service "hot line" for women. Men like that can go from bad to worse and you could find yourself in a heck of a bad situation without help! Go get some, now!
Dirty Dancing, Grease,
Urban Cowboy, Vacation, Vegas Vacation, Urban Legend, just to name a few!
Oh, I have a dirty mind or its late or
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Sorry, but I agree with her about the dirty dishes.
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Dirty Dancing...(can you guess?)
Nobody puts Baby in a corner.
Go back to your playpen, Baby.
Absolutely Dirty Dancing
Love, love, love that movie
When the dishwasher sign says dirty
and there is room in it and everyone still stacks their dishes in the sink!!!!
Is she actually dirty or does she have an odor problem?
Who told you she needs a bath?
Can I ask why you aren't able to brush her? There are a lot of new products and tools that can help if you have a problem with your hands or arms.
I have clients who get their dogs bathed every week but I really don't recommend that, especially for a collie type of coat. Unless your groomer missed something she should be good for quite awhile in that department.
Do you use bad language / dirty words?
I try not to use dirty words. I feel that it just shows that I have a limited vocabulary. (My kids hate that). However, there are times, that I fall back and say things I should not.
Today was one of those days. I said the "f" word. Well, actually, I didn't say the "f" word. I said I am "f" mad. Not fing mad just "f" (the letter) mad.
I always told my children that this is a word that should only be used in the most dire circumstance if at all.
Dirty Dancing also and Pretty woman..nm
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I have been told that lice don't like dirty hair - sm
and when there is an outbreak at school to use mousse in the hair as it is sticky, etc. and the lice don't like it. Don't know if it is true but it makes some sense, though if this girl is always dirty and still has lice (especially if they like clean heads) then that kind of makes no sense. I am not sure of our schools policy but I think it is one where the kid is not allowed back until they can prove they don't have it any longer. So far we have had no lice reports this year, had about 3 last year. My DH has a cow over them and I tell my girls not to share hats, combs, brushes, etc. , and when we have the lice scares I use mousse on them for a week or so. So far so good. ---One solution they could do for the girl is to shave her head, no hair, no lice, though it is a drastic solution but I know a family that did that as they had a strain of resistant lice that just would not go away no matter what they did.
Underwear - clean or dirty, your choice.
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Do you have dirty dishes or excess amount
of trash that needs to be taken out?
Probably anything from the top of the "pop" charts that doesn't sound too dirty. Or just as
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TV crush -- Mike Rowe from Dirty Jobs is So Hot!!!
Oh man, he is so funny and manly and smart. That show is so loaded with sexual innuendo. Can't get enough. Think he is a fine specimen of man... yummy yummy.
Dirty World...it's a Traveling Wilburys song sung by him
The world's best supergroup is the Traveling Wilburys! My 3-year-old loves the video of Bob Dylan singing Inside Out with the TW. She thinks he looks mad when he sings. The TW is made up of George Harrison (my favorite), Roy Orbison, Bob Dylan, Tom Petty, and Jeff Lynne.
Theb report it to proper authorities - here won't do you any good they wan to dirty his name n/m
Dirty store and nasty workers. Wanted to clarify
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The best thing for dirty diapers - mini diaper bags at the dollar store that sm
smell like powder. You get 50 to a bag - they are little blue plastic bags. Tie the poopie up tight in the bag and VOILA! throw it in your trash and no smell!
Sort of. sm
I had root canals on my front teeth and could never get the money to have them capped. On a Sat night before I was to start a new job the following Monday, I bit into a BLT and a front tooth shattered into pieces. A dentist saw me on Sunday emergently and was able to built it back up - I certainly was not going to start a new job missing a front tooth. Good luck.
can anyone help me sort?
I have microsoft word, works, notepad and word pad. i'm wanting to sort a list in alphabetical order. in word, i find sort under tables, but it doesn't sort....?? any other way to do it, or suggestions on why its not sorting the list?
many thanks.
Sort of the same here.
Personally I would rather someone take back the gift than to waste my money by hanging onto something that they don't like or doesn't fit. It is the thought that counts and doesn't bother me.
I am a thrifty person, everyone knows this. My MIL buys me things that I consider frivolous and if I can return them and get something similar for substantially less $ and then use the extra money for something else we need or donate it or take the in-laws to dinner, I will. I know she doesn't like it because she will comment on the items such as "didn't that coffee pot have a timer, clock, and all the gadgets?" Yes, it did but we wouldn't use those features and it was an extra $50. Or a hot chocolate maker that just took up cabinet space and was used once, the day after christmas. I returned it for $45 and bought really nice meat thermometer, which I tell everyone my MIL bought for xmas.
The nice thing is she has always, and for everyone, included the receipts for most items. I would never, ever ask her for the receipt. I have returned things that were purchased with her credit card and had them credit her back. Whether she notices or not, I don't know. I don't say anything because I don't want her to feel odd about it but I just think it's the right thing to do and it's not about the money.
Besides, I tell them every year not to get me anything - I grew up with little at the holiday and family/friends were emphasized. Not the case at the in-laws. They shower everyone with gifts and then everyone departs for home.
I have an HP, but and I sort of have to press
out, but I've got it down now. I think I know what you are talking about, but it just sort of pops out, once you press down on it. Then you have to set the new one in there and click it in by pushing it towards the back. I hope this makes sense. Also, I try to say nice things to my printer, so it will act right. This always worked for faulty copiers and fax machines when I worked on-site. People think I'm weird, can you tell? 
Glad (sort of) to know we are not alone
I forgot that my vet also did the skin scrapings and came up negative.
I hope someone will offer some help. I feel so bad for her and when it gets to the point that we are waking up at night...well, I just feel so bad for her.
I will let you know if we arrive at a solution.
I sort of know where you are coming from
with the prices of houses by me. Most people probably don't realize that 400,000 in some areas does not get you much and you probably can't find a 3 bedroom decent house for under 350,000. I think people are getting the wrong impression and thinking you want to live way beyond your means when in reality you just want a decent place to live. As I said, I'm in the same boat and it stinks. Just be careful; sounds like way too much debt to be comfortable with your current situation. Have you thought about moving somewhere cheaper? I am sure your wife can find a job as a nurse anywhere, maybe making even more money; also if she is an RN they can work just weekends and make a full time income. For you, you can always work at home doing MT full time and part time with 2 companies putting in 50 or so hrs a week for now. You'd save on any kind of childcare that way at least while the baby is an infant. But then you may have to put off school. Unfortunately this is what happens. We can't have it all as much as we'd all like to. Sounds like at least you do have a few options, though, the way I see it; so good luck whatever you choose to do.
There must be some sort of natural
repellent on the market that you can spray on the furniture so that when he jumps up there and sniffs around, whatever he does, he won't like it and will get down. I have heard of something similar with cayenne pepper or something in it that keeps them away...Will see if I can find what I am thinking and post it if I can.
I'm the odd one out, but I sort of agree
I do have a child in advanced math. He's in 8th grade taking Algebra and he'll be 14 at the end of the month.
My thing is if your daughter tested well enough to get into this Physics class, then she must be one smart cookie! However, if you encourage her to drop out when in fact she can probably do the work and just has to work a little harder, I think you all will regret it.
A GPA is wonderful to have at high levels; we all know that, but if that high GPA is being earned because the child is in "easy classes", then it doesn't mean much at that point.
I say keep her in the class. She'll get through it, and she may not get a 98%, but she may find it a nice challenge, if she's as smart as you say she is, which I believe she is to be accepted into a Physics class in 9th grade. Let's not kid here!
Good luck to you! I think she'll do great and she just has a little nervousness as maybe it's not coming so easy right now, but it will come! I hope this all makes sense! 
What sort of response did you get?
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Maybe he could be sort of a general fix-it guy
Someone in my area actually has an ad in the paper that says 'Rent-a-Husband'. For household things like building shelves or cabinets, lighting a pilot light, trapping and removing a mouse in the bathroom, or a bat in the garage, things like that. Petsitting and dog-walking are good options for a rent-a-husband, too! Or for busy people, someone to take their car to the shop for a tuneup and oil change, so they don't have to. Back in the 1970's, during the gas 'shortage', when lines for gas were hours long, people made money by taking people's cars to the gas station and filling up for them.
Maybe he could build those cute wooden children's toys you see at the fancier toy stores. And either sell them or give them to organizations that give toys to needy children. If he's 'artsy-craftsy', maybe he can come up with really cute dog-collars & matching leashes, or cute wooden pet-beds that look like miniatures of the real thing. If he likes to write, and is smart, maybe he could start an advice column for soon-to-be-seniors. (Nowadays 61 isn't really a 'senior' - I think it's closer to 75-80!) Or, if he likes kids, maybe a 'rent-a-grandpa'! Or else maybe a small mail-order business, like on eBay.
Well, that's all for my ideas, I need to get to work, myself!
Hope he finds the PERFECT idea!
sort of still keep in contact, but
They didn't go to HS with me. One I've known since probably 1978 when I was 8 and she was 6 and we were visiting here on vacation, then my family moved here and she and I have been BF since 1985...only keep in touch by email and occasional phone calls.
My other one I've known since 1995 and we're in touch by email too.
Our lives are just too complicated and too far apart by distance to really see eachother, but we can catch up instantly with eachother even if it has been a while
To take any sort of antidepressants is
the worst advice one can give. Lexapro and all others are associated with risks of suicide.
Figure it has to be drugs of some sort.....
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Defending Sanjaya, sort of...sm
Stopped watching during the first season because it was a popularity contest, not a talent contest ("ooh, he/she's HOT--voting to keep him/her"). I hear AI updates on the morning radio show and heard the opinions of Sanjaya, all of which may be true, however:
>>"For those of you who are wondering why Sanjaya - the equivalent of MT outsourcing to India - is still on American Idol..."<<
Ouch. He is a (I believe) 17-year-old kid who entered a contest and seems to be handling the critism a lot better than I could.
>>"...Sanjaya is in that group - he has ruined this show and its integrity."<<
It is the fault of Stern, the sites like you mentioned and clueless voters that have ruined the show. Again, the kid simply entered a contest. If he decides to quit, then he will be criticized for that, too. 
I kind of sort of can identify with what you said..sm
I am a mom of three wonderful boys, and grandmother of three beautiful granddaughters. This goes way back, but my own mother does not even know my sons birthdays, much less my granddaughter's birthdays. She knows my sister's kids birthdays though, and their kids birthdays. kind of hurts. My sister has always been her *favorite* so her kids mean more to her than mine do, but then she will *complain* that my kids don't even know her as a grandma. Well, gee, I wonder why? After 37 years of never acknowledging their birthdays, christmas, or any other special day, why would she expect them to consider her their grandmother? If she had taken an interest in them when they were younger, they would be taking an interest in her now. This breaks MY heart, as I know it should be different, but unfortunately the past cannot be changed. So, I know exactly what you are talking about.
that is sort of the way we started off with our neighbors...
but, then we started to see the real THEM!!!!!, time after time after time...thats why that saying that dr. Phil uses is so true "good fences make good neighbors". we should have never started associated with them in the beginning. up until then i had never even allowed my children to play in the front....I should have kept to me rules.
Sort of. Lost dad in 1983.
My dad died at the age of 61. I was 21 at the time. My mom and I have a very difficult relationship, and always have. My father was my buffer in that relationship, and not having him around has made things with my mother worse. Since 1983. That's a very long time. I miss my father, and not a day goes by that I don't think of him or remember the life lessons he taught me in just 21 years. He is with me always. The first several years after he passed were difficult, but so much time has gone by now that I realize how much a part of me he is. He is the reason that I have wonderful relationships with the men in my life -- my husband, my sons, my friends. So every day that I have is a gift that was at least partly shaped by him in the 21 years that I knew him here on earth. And that makes me VERY happy.
I would definitely feel some sort of obligation
I would have stopped and checked to make sure the dog was okay or I would have left a message unsigned due to the OP's situation and at least made sure someone knew about it. It's not the poor dogs fault that they have owners who don't take care of them. I have an indoor cat, but you can bet if he got loose and was hit by a car, I'd want to know about it, especially if he was left in the middle of the road and wasn't lucky enough to just get up and walk away. (I know that's a different situation since he doesn't usually roam free like this poor dog seemed to)Do you have any animals? It doesn't sound like it.
About posting - I'm sort of a newbie sm
When you talk about your family I've come to understand that DH is husband, DS is son, DD is daughter - what does that first D stand for? I haven't been able to pick up on it from the context. Thanx!
No clue but my DH does this sort of stuff too - sm
though he does not help with any school projects, I do all that stuff. But he will grill them relentlessly over something that is either really stoopid or totally irrelevant and get them crying, etc. generally shortly before bedtime, and unless I totally prove him wrong he does not apologize to them. I just tell him to back off and leave them alone, it does take a while for him to actually do this though. Though he has been improving lately, maybe because I keep drilling into him that he is going to lose what communication he has with the girls in a few years (they are 7 and 9) if he does not knock it off. You might want to stress that your girls will soon be tuning him out on a permanent basis if he does not stop and stop now. If he needs to schedule in time to help them with something then maybe keep an appt. calendar on the fridge and have them write down their project due dates (in big red letters) and have him write what day/time he can help them and then keep to it. This may help him with his own organization and if he weasles out of helping, make a note of it too on the calendar (and "reschedule" the appt as well) so later he can't say, well you never asked me for help, etc. He should not be waking them up, they need their rest and and he can wait until morning to make himself feel better. Why are men such total jerkks at times? Genetics?
The recipe is a secret - sort of!
It's funny. I can make the cole slaw, but there's not really a recipe. And the sour cream, mayo thing was not her usual. She was probably trying to stretch out the mayo. That's my cousin's house, and his mom never had enough mayo on hand! LOL The same with the wine vinegar. Grandmom made sort of a face over it. She used plain white vinegar at her house. The cabbage was always sliced paper thin, by hand. Then onion was grated on one of those plane graters, so that the onion turned pretty much into juice. Then added a splash of vinegar, salt and pepper and stirred it up. Then, in a coffee mug, she sprinkled a bit of sugar on the bottom of the cup, filled it about halfway with mayo, and then thinned that with whole milk or cream until it was the consistency of salad dressing. Then mixed it all together. And not wanting to waste a drop, she always took some of the cabbage, put it into the mug and tried to clean out every drop of the dressing. One coffee mug of this concoction was enough for half a head of cabbage. Her cole slaw leaned more to the sour side with vinegar. It wasn't a sweet cole slaw, at all. She added grated carrots on special occasions, like T-giving, which is when the video was taken.
She was barely 5-feet tall, and shrunk to well under that as she got older. My mother was her firstborn child, and weighed nearly 10 pounds and breech, born at home. Amazing. My Grandmom was one strong lady!
yes because if there is some sort of misunderstanding/misprint you may be
you don't really want this hanging over your head, do you?
I have a cat with a sort of similar problem
only I adopted her as a 1-yr-old. She's a purebred that was surrendered to a vet to be PTS because she wouldn't use a litter box. I adopted her, thinking I could change her. Unfortunately, after trying EVERYTHING (reward, discipline, multiple litters, multiple boxes, multiple locations, vet examination, antibiotics, even PROZAC, I finally gave up. The rescue I adopted her from says you cannot give the cat away to anyone but THEM - ever. So after a year & a half of trying everything, I moved to a new place and she was going all over the kitchen floor. Every morning I woke up to having to mop the entire floor.
So I called the rescue, and a different (very RUDE) woman now runs most of it. She said the cat was 'unadoptable', and was trying to insinuate that it was somehow MY fault. (She forgets that SHE is the one who originally went to that vet and saved the cat's life, knowing full well that it had elimination issues). She told me I had only 2 choices: 'Live with the problem', or 'Have her put down'. If she were 17 years old and in questionable health, I'd consider it. But a 3-year-old, extraordinarily healthy, beautiful and playful purebred cat? No.
I did find a way to come to sort of a compromise with her. She will use the litter box (for pee only) if I'm nearby, as she knows if I see her use it, she'll immediately get a treat. Sometimes this means she'll go in there and squat and do nothing, but since it's t least a step in the right direction, she still gets the treats (though maybe fewer pieces).
I was able to gradually convince her to go just in one small area of the kitchen floor, just outside the litter boxes. I used a pet-gate to block off half of the kitchen. The part she has access to is where the food and litter boxes are, near the back-door.
If you clean up cat pee using a cleaner that has ammonia, it will continue to attract them, because pee also has ammonia in it. 'Nature's Miracle', on the other hand, has enzymes in it that break down & eat the ammonia crystals that are left, and truly does eliminate the odor that attracts the cat. It's made for carpets, but I've found it effective on linoleum, as well. So, after I clean up the pee puddle, I use Nature's Miracle on the spots where I don't want her to pee. Then, in the one spot where's she's allowed to do it, I use Windex. My problem was compounded by the fact that my house isn't level, and the floor slopes. The pee would run along the baseboards clear across the kitchen floor. I solved this by taking 3 paper towels and rolling them up into a tight cylinder, and placing them against the baseboards. This not only solved the problem of the 'travelling pee-puddles' by absorbing it 100%, I also found she actually learned to pee ON them. Whever I see a soiled one, I simply pick it up and place it in a plastic bag to be tossed out.
Anyway, it's not a 100% acceptable solution, but for me it enabled me to live with the problem by making the cleanup quick, easy, and efficient. Also, it's in a part of a very large kitchen than I just never use.
I had made the mistake of spanking my cat one time when I just couldn't take it anymore, and like you, she didn't like me for a few weeks. (She has the memory of an elephant!)
BUT! Once you get the problem resolved to where you're no longer P'd-off about it, the cat will sense it and will relax. My cat was never very sociable to begin with. Isn't a lap-cat, wouldn't sleep with me, preferred not to be petted, and when I had to comb her out (VERY thick-coated Persian), I had to trim her claws really short, so as not to need a blood transfusion afterward!
Once I was able to find a sort-of-acceptable place for her to pee, and my anger about it went away, we now have a good relationship. (Geez - sounds like marriage, doesn't it?) She gradually began to associate me with good things, like treats, playing with her favorite toy-on-a-string, petting, etc. The grooming problem gradually resolved as well, to the point where she now even purrs when I comb her (ever so carefully, so as not to pull her hair), and she has even been perfectly behaved about bathing. She now comes and sleeps next to me all night, and although still not a 'lap-cat', will let me hold her for a few moments of just petting.
I don't know all of her background, but part of the reason I came to accept that 40-50% is as good as she's going to get about using the litter box, is that I think she's probably been hard-wired to go on linoleum. Possibly her breeder kept the kittens in the kitchen. Or else the original buyer got her too young, like 5-6 weeks instead of 8-10 weeks of age. But whatever, sometimes concessions can be made both on the part of the person, and the cat.
I assume you've probably already taken your cat to a vet. (That's the first step - make sure there's no bladder infection. She could be trying to tell you something by peeing on the bed. Or, if it hurts to pee, she may associate the box with pain, and thinks that going in a comforting place like a bed, will ease her pain.) The original owner of the rescue where I got my cat said that in some cases, they've had cats that peed on the floor, and the urine test showed no infection, but they put the cat on antibiotics for a couple weeks ANYWAY, and in most cases the cat stopped having problems. So that could be a possible thing to try.
Sometimes cats dont like certain litters, and love others. Many of them prefer the UNSCENTED kind, too. I had a problem with my cat liking only a certain unscented, finely-granulated, super-absorbing kind like Super Scoop or Arm & Hammer. Trouble was, it would never fail - no matter where I went that day for cat supplies, they'd be out of my brand! I solved that problem by creating a BLEND of 3 different kinds that the cats love, and where I'm bound to find at least ONE of them when I go to the store. My blend is roughly 1/3 of the expensive kind (Super Scoop or Arm & Hammer unscented), slightly less than 1/3 of the store brand of fine-grained, clumping cat litter, and about a cup of regular clay cat litter, either scented or unscented. I put just a dab of scented in on occasion, JUST IN CASE for some reason that's all I can find at the store. As a result, the cats are happy with any combination-ratio of those 3 litters, and in addition it saves me money because I use far less of the expensive kind.
I also scoop the boxes frequently (pretty much whever I walk by and see something in them), and about every other day add a tad more fresh litter, and once a week I dump the litter, scrub the box with soap & hot water, and refill with fresh litter.
If you're cat's using the litter pan at least some of the time, then that's good! You may be able to deter her from the bed by just throwing a big sheet of plastic over it during the daytime, and getting her a new little bed of her very own.
I learned a cool way to see if you have all the urine out of something, or to find other spots where the cat might be cheating - it's a BLACK LIGHT. You just turn off the house lights, and walk around holding the black light over the carpet, the bed, etc. Any urine spots will glow in the black light. If you truly have all the urine out, it won't glow.
Another thought about putting her outside. Does she LIKE to go outside? If so, you might inadvertently be getting 'trained' by her to put her out when she pees on the bed. Also, unless you can wash the spot she soiled with something like Nature's Miracle, even if you can't smell the pee, the cat still can. Like dogs, their sense of smell is hundreds of times greater than ours is. You could also try putting a pet gate across your bedroom door, or just keeping it closed and off-limits to her except when you're there.
One thing I learned about the rough-play thing: When you get a tiny kitten, it's really cute when they 'wrestle' with your hand, or 'attack' it. But once they weigh 10-12 pounds and are stronger, it's not so cute. (Same goes for puppies!) So try using your hands ONLY for good things, like petting and treats, and use a string or a cat-toy for playing. My cat likes to sit behind the shower curtain and bat at it when I poke it with a toothbrush. It's become her morning ritual, and it totally makes her day!
Anyway, I feel your pain. I consider myself lucky in a way, that my cat only pees on linoleum.
Good luck with your kitty!
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