I've been making a "quilt" for my daughter -
Posted By: NYMT on 2008-10-29
In Reply to: I think you could it that way sm - Oh dunno
I have a hard time throwing anything away, so I have material from old clothes of all of ours, plus old sheets, curtains, a shower curtain, you get the gist- I cut them up in to approximately the same size squares. I have most of them sewn together, six across and seven or eight down (about 10-inch squares). Then I think I'll buy a bedsheet for the backing and put either batting, or more probably, because I'm cheap, an inexpensive blanket in between. What I'm doing also is embroidering pictures on each of the squares, so it's turned into a multi-year project, but it will be done before she leaves for college next fall. Really, I mean it! (I started it when she was in 6th grade).
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I've been making a list of possible...
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Tough Love advice. My 19-year-old daughter is making me nuts..
I don't even know where to start with this one but I'll just to give a short summary. My 19-year-old daughter has been troubled since I can remember. For example, her terrible twos went beyond that..if you didn't peel her orange right, she didn't want it and would throw it across the room. I think her diagnosis is best described as ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) and bipolar. She has a quick temper and at age 5 blackened her 12-year-old brother's eyes with a book because he got in her face. She has annoyed everyone she has come into contact with. She is very immature. We have tried everything to get her help because once she became a teenager it just got worse. She is self-destructive and I became the enabler and now it is out of control. She would not go to school so she does not have an education. We had to call the cops numerous times because of her violent outbursts. We had her arrested when she stole our credit cards so she could learn a lesson but the courts did nothing. She was supposed to be court ordered to have a job and attend school, of which she did nothing and there was no punishment. She has never suffered any consequences no matter how hard we tried. She was charged with 10 felonies for the credit card theft but got nothing. She just batted her big blue eyes at the judge and it all went away. I have paid her rent for a year or two, bought her a car and paid for it. All of these of course when she had a job but right after I did all of this she stopped going. She got into meth..You would not believe my heartbreaking nightmare. Some days I just don't think I can take another minute of it. At this point, she is now homeless because I just cannot keep paying her bills. She just totaled the car so she has no car and no job and still wants me to pay her way and she has lost her license due to DUI and driving again without privileges. It never stops. How far do I take this? She calls me for money that she says is to eat but if I keep giving her money then what is her motivation to go to work. I kept thinking if she hit bottom she could only come up..but she likes the bottom and just hovers there. She adapts to any environment. So when does she wake up and do you think tough love would work on a child with mental issues. I paid all of her doctor bills so she could get help and on medication but just found out she hasnt been taking them. I know I have so many questions but I have no idea how to "fix her" anymore. I know she needs to help herself but how much is she actually capable of being on drugs and mental health issues. This is devastating to our family and when I don't help her she becomes suicidal and I want to just hang up because I know she is manipulating but what if this is the time she really does something. I tried to take her into the hospital because of her meth addiction because she finally asked for help and was told there really wasn't any programs for her because she didn't have insurance so I left just thinking.."well, I guess you'll have to do it on your own, there is no help." Now, that is heartwrenching. At some point, I know she just has to grownup, but I don't know if I can survive this. I'm stressed 24/7 and sadly whenever she calls I get such bad anxiety. I can hardly be around her because she is so manipulative and I feel guilty that I try to avoid her. I always thought it'd be different if I just loved her more, spend more time with her and so as a mom, I blame myself because she is so messed up. Guilt just fuels the enabling.. Help.. any suggestions, advice??
My daughter's been one since age 9, now 19, and I've been for the last 4 yrs. Never too
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she should've seen Not Without My Daughter
never too late to see that flick...or to Google the culture and other stuff to see exactly how it is for MOST OF THE WOMEN there in those places.......and even here - it exists right here.....very scary indeed!!!
Good luck on this....
Okay, now that you've told us about your g-daughter
We want to see a picture! I'm sure she's adorable. Do you have a picture of her you can post? I'm sure we'd all love to see her.
Daughter's phone is daughter's responsibility. Valuable lesson learned.
It should be between the daughter and the friend if the friend is going to pay any of the fees. They are teenagers, not preschoolers.
I think you are making way too much of it.
My BF of 9 years calls me that all the time when, in fact, it just the opposite--he is my "sugar daddy." If he is worth it, just let it go. People are way too sensitive these days about things.
It is almost making me cry as well now.
 as time approaches. I loved that little Tux cat. I am going to have to get mama cat fixed. I think this is too hard.
If you are not making the $$$ you need
then you double up on jobs, and jobs that will pay, not sitting around waiting on work to come thru. I up until 2004 worked 2 jobs for years and years, for a safety net and both of those would qualify for full time, weekends included. I have now done MT longer than you so I guess I might know jack squat about what I am saying. I never got evicted, never did without food, kept a car, home and everything by myself because I did work so much. Why in the world are you making peanuts working 10-12 hours per day? I know the pay was more years ago, I understand that but if the job is not taking care of your needs, then a person needs to do something else.
Thank you for not making me feel so alone.
Glad your son has quit.
I will have mine read articles and will find pictures on line to show him. I do not think he has a clue as to what can happen to him if he continues this. Like I said he is only 18 and to think about many many years of this is very scary.
He says he wants to quit. I hope he means it and I will help him as much as I can.
I also was surprised by this since he has been so athletic. He always made statements about how he hated the smell of smoke and would never smoke cigarettes. I guess he thinks this is okay and won't do him any harm.
He started over the summer, so I hope it will be easier to quit than to have this go on for years. I will speak to his doctor and dentist also. May be they can help.
Thanks again for your concern. It it good to talk to someone who has been through this. Enjoy the Holidays.
Making candles
I had heard that you can save up the scrap wax from candles in glass jars, melt all of them down and put them back in the containers, adding a wick and scent such as cinnamon. So, I've been saving my containers with the bits of leftover candles. Anyone know how one goes about doing this? Is it possible to do this?
THANKS!
Any parents here making a
to only have one child..? We're seriously considering not having any more..One is PLENTY OF WORK AND LOVE!!
Thanks for making me giggle! nm
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Thanks for making me laugh!
Cute post! Yes, it is yucky, but you made me laugh this morning. Thanks!
Thanks, for making me laugh.
This is so terribly hurtful. I guess you guessed it is my sister. We have had a history of ups and downs our whole life. I am the one to just let the hurt and hard feelings go to try to have peace. I will try to grin and bear it . . showing some teeth at times. Hope I can do it.
Thank you all for making me feel
a little better about this. I would NEVER get rid of my cats. Once an animal comes into my home, it's for life. I would probably send my husband packing before the cats :)
Mine is just making me sad
When I first got my little boy he and his brother could not stay out all night. They wanted to come into my bedroom and jump on me so I gave them their own bedroom. I made sure they had all the catty things little guys need and tucked them in each night with food, litter box, their treats, whatever. They are past that stage and now know how to behave and I leave them to have the house when I turn in for the night. My little boy now sits right outside his old bedroom and meows. He looks under the door - I keep that closed off now after cleaning up after them - but he knows that is where he stayed when just a small guy and he cries. So pitiful!
Thank you so much! You're making me cry!
I have learned that this is the true meaning of Christmas - giving. There's no greater feeling than watching a child open a present or an older person whose family has forgotten them. That's what Christmas is about for me. God bless you, too! Have a very merry Christmas!
MAKING??? Isn't he a grown man? (nm)
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You might be right about Him not making trash.
Seems like she has done a good enough job by herself, oh, and her mother right along there. I have said for sometime she was really sick, desperately needing help, needing the attention or else she would not be putting herself in situations such as showing her behind - you nor I have made her do these things- she does these on her own. If her face plastered everywhere, again did you or I do that? Don't think so. She has needed psychiatric help for ages. The part where she cut off her head was a very telling point, same as self abuse. Anyone who has typed psychiatric work before knows about this. Same as multilating yourself and there is another celeb out there who does this, initials LL. This make get taken off the board, I hope not because is truthful. She has been crashing for some time. I wondered when the kids were going to be taken completely out of her care. This should have been done a long time ago for their safety, only supervised visits. Well, guess someone finally saw clear on that. After this required 72 hours of hospitalization she will make the choice to leave, I am sure and it will be a shame. She loves the limelight, though. She is really pitiful.
Yes, you are making the right decision (sm)
I was days away from making that decision myself with my old 20 year old baby, but she took the decision out of my hands, and I am grateful for that. Maybe your baby will too. If not, then she trusts you to do it for her. Hugs.
I think you are making her point, actually.
You describe the "wear their exhaustion as a badge of honor" syndrome.
But I don't think we have it easier that other generations. I don't think we have it harder. It's just relative to the times, roles, etc.
And just because your mom sucked it up, others moms may have not. Mothers' little helpers were a lot easier to get back in the day, trust me, and the kids never even knew...
Yep, a lot is what we decide as women, but you can't just wake up one day and decide you're going to take control. Once in a cycle of self-abuse or whatever one wants to call it, it's a very hard cycle to break, possible, but not easy...
we are and i am making things
finally got my stuff organized and am knitting/crocheting things for people. They may not want what i make but hey, lol.
Candy making
I use chocolate bark to dip with. I do know you have to watch the humidity outside. If the humidity is high, the chocolate will not set, but you can put it in the refrigerator to get it to set. Have fun!!
candy making
Aww, my favorite time of year. You can freeze your candy and it will still be good until Christmas. I make chocolate and peanut butter fudge and freeze it. As a matter of fact, it is really good frozen, takes longer to eat, just melts in your mouth. I have to disguise the candy in the freezer, otherwise people will pick at it and it will be gone by Christmas. YUM!
now you are making sense! sm
I am not being mean, just trying to get you to think! Now you will have to call a domestic abuse person in your state or an attorney and ask what you have to do. BUT if you truly are scared, you can go to a "safe house" tell them your story and I guarantee they will help you. Explain what you have said that you thought you hd waited too long. Also tell them what the cop told you years before. They hve heard it all. I am just trying to get you to leave before its too late. Sometimes it takes a rough push but you CAN do it and do well. Don't ever get it in your head there are no options. There are always options nad always hope as long as there is breath and life!
You are making a lot of generalizations...
and until you know someone's situation, you can only speculate. As far as name brands, should there be a law that those on food stamps can only buy dented cans without labels, bruised fruit, and out-of-date dairy products? Lighten up a bit and don't look down your nose at others...you may be in the same situation some day. Have a little compassion for those not as fortunate as you.
What about making a quilt? s/m
If you feel that you cannot wear them, then possibly select some of your favorite outfits that have memories and have someone make a quilt out of them. Then whenever you are missing her, wrap yourself in the quilt and it will feel like she is giving you a hug...
So sorry for your loss.
you are not making a big deal out of it
Does he have an IEP? What she did is a real problem. Huge. You need to have an advocate at that meeting.
personally I think you are making sm
up most of this stuff to get a fight started. But in case you aren't, I really feel sorry for you. A person who only cares about the "things" they have and can accumulate is a very very sad miserable being.
Its very obvious that you do not like people, are very unfriendly and only care about what you can get. I have news for you, it won't be going with you when you leave this world and the things don't keep you company either. you are pathetic!
Why is it selfish to have a child and not be making
at least 100,000 a year? Are you serious?!
We have 2 children and do not make quite that on combined salaries, but are very blessed in what we do have. Our children are happy and participate in activities outside the home, are well taken care of and have all the things they need and most of what they want. Last time I checked, having a kid and keeping them happy wasn't about keeping up with the Joneses. That is a warped sense of belonging that too many people have nowadays. Parents too who then pass it on to their kids. It's quite sad, really.
The fence did not cause the dog to die. The owner did by not making sure
the batteries were changed on a regular basis. The fence and the dog are blameless. The only one who had any control over the situation dropped the ball....poor dog.
Making MY list and checking
I also made a list for my hubby. He is a sweetie, though and last year it was diamond ring, the year before diamond bracelet, the year before gold necklace and this year I made not only things for me but also things I wanted around the house. He bought me gold earrings, a bling watch and some snuggles for my feet (he says he has heard me say my feet get cold). Love that man with a passion!!
you and above you ARE making FUN of obese people.
Not all overweight people are overweight due to an EATING problem any more than ALL people in hospitals have diabetes either. You just cannot seem to comprehend that sometimes being over weight comes from other variables, and that your opinions and comments are very condescending to those that do have those afflictions. You have closed small minds and judgemental attitudes towards the overweight. YOUR overweight problem may not be the same as the next persons, but you only see yours, so that is the ONLY truth. blind...so blind.
Now you're making me hungry and I have not even
She's making them buy their own dresses? TACKY!! NM
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I was planning on making a flower bed there
with several good-sized bushes such as hydrangea and/or forsythia. Hopefully that would take care of the problem, especially since we don't plan to get any other pets (we're mid-50s, want to travel, plus I don't think I can go through this pain again).
Because he is making vacation plans
with a guy, not his wife. That sounds like a guy who has no interest in vacationing with his wife. A man's wife should always be who he thinks of when he thinks of vacation. Not that he can never take a trip or vacation without her, but he should take his thoughts to her, not just announce it as if she is just the help.
Something is very wrong here.
Well I believe you - I was just making light of my post (sm)
many people have seen these things, including what my friend and I saw.
I was totally making a joke, Just having a little fun!
I love my kids as well as my furkids, but believe me, they are not genuises!
I think he is trying to tell me I am making him mad when I leave him home...nm
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Hey, I just finished making him tostada
a while ago, Slim in bed snoring away, I have the house all to myself, he came in after a long hard day at his new job....Couldn't let the boy go hungry now could I. He shared his cheese and wine with me, then the gang came in, drat!! He is a real cool guy. His wife will be arriving from Brazil in two weeks. He hopes to have their apartment set up by then, not too far down the road from us....
If she's such a good kid, why stress her more by making her pay
for car/gas/insurance? I think that making good grades and having extracurricular school activities are enough. If she has to work also then something might slip, probably her grades. My girls, now 30 and 33, did theater, choir, drill team and we took care of the car. They did not turn out to be slackers. Maybe taking her siblings to school and running errands is enough of a payment.
I was making candied apples...
and I stuck my finger in the pot of the candied syrup to see how it tasted... burned the living daylights out of it!! Needless to say, working was miserable for about a week.
My daughter, then 12 or so, said, 'Mom, what were you thinking!!!???'
Oh yeah, and we've all BTDT with some sort of blender mishap... I think I'd be more upset that I lost the good stuff inside than the mess LOL ;-)
I'm making costumes this year (SM)
My two youngest daughters love to dress up with their costumes after Halloween, but the costumes from the stores fall apart after only a few wearings. I figure if I make them, they'll last at least a few months longer!
I've been sewing quite a bit lately, so all three of my girls wanted to be nurses for H'ween. I had them pick out their scrub shirt material. I picked white for their pants. My oldest daughter (8) picked out Tweety Bird saying "Nurses are Tweet," my middle daughter (4) picked out Bugs Bunny saying "What's up, Doc?" My littlest daughter (2) picked out Dora the Explorer. I'm making them roomy enough so they can layer all kinds of warm stuff underneath their scrubs--Iowa is COLD during Trick or Treating!
I am also buying them cheapo single-head stethoscopes for $5 each. I figure I'll spend about the same amount on the material, pattern, notions, etc., as I will to buying a costume that will fall apart soon after H'ween.
Hubby is asking me for a new fall scrub shirt to wear to work, too, so hopefully I'll get it done too on time.
The Stick is making a comeback
Them that don't believe don't receive! 
Candy making question
If I make some candy would it still be good for Christmas? I'm going to make those Peanut Butter Bon Bons today.
How do you make you choolate chips and paraffin wax to dip them in? I can't remember how many choc chips I used before, but one time the candy didn't get as hard as it should.
I always keep these in the fridge anyway.
You're making me hungry! nm
xx
Making a humane decision about a pet.
My mom lives alone and is nearing retirement. Although I live out of state, my sister is very close by and has a good relationship with my mom. My mom is very close with her grandkids. In the last 15 years my mom has been through immense family loss and in the last 5 years the sudden loss of 2 pets due to medical conditions. She has a new cat and a dog (used to be mine but she was attached and wanted me to leave him behind for her). He is a large dog, 10 years old, and having multiple medical problems. He has a number of lumps and bumps, hip problems to the point where he has injections and won't walk on the kitchen floor any longer. He does not indicate he is in pain other than his actions. But I don't think he would wimper or cry as he is a very well behaved and trained dog. My sister and I have been trying to talk to my mom about the possibility of making "the humane decision" for him or atleast preparing for it. All she will say is that SHE is "not ready yet." The vet has told her that his hip and spine problems are painful and that's what the shots are for. Nothing can be corrected and the vet will not evaluation his lumps because of his age and other problems. To further complicate the matter, he is a large dog. I have tried to explain to her that should something happen with him in her home there is no one to help her get him into the car. My BIL has recently had medical problems himself and is in no condition to be lifting a 100 lb dog off the floor. I am sure we could call on a family friend but I know my mom and she wouldn't want to "bother" anyone.
My questions is...has anyone else been through this? I don't want to convince my mom to do something she is not ready for but at the same time I don't want the dog to suffer either. Any ideas of an unconventional approach to getting her to think of him and not herself? I really feel she just doesn't want to feel any more loss and that is why she is holding on.
Plus there are ways of making that extra day
There may be temp work to be had for 1 day a week (a good way to explore other jobs). Or devote one day a week to starting a small business of your own, such as on eBay, or crafts, or doing odd jobs in the neighborhood.
Another way is to spend the day working on the house. Things there weren't time for with a 5-day workweek, like finishing that deck or BBQ pit in the back yard, or replacing a leaky toilet or faucet, painting, weatherstripping, insulating etc. There are lots of things that can: add value to the house, improve heating/cooling efficiency, etc.
Or, maybe one day a week take a class at the local junior college, trade school, etc. It could pay off in just doing something fun or interesting, or in working towards an unfinished degree, or in learning a new trade altogether.
making ends meet
I agree if you need money to support your family you should not be going to school right now...and if your full time job is not cutting it then get a couple part time jobs. i work 3 jobs now; 1 FT and 2 PT and have so much work now its unbelievable. I will never go back to working for just one service. You never know when things are going to be slow. If your husband is not getting enough on disability then he needs to look for something else too...there must be something he can do unless he is totally disabled.
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