I've been made to feel like
Posted By: sm on 2007-09-24
In Reply to: Accepted in the family that you married into? - into?
I was born into dh's family. It's nice because my dad's only sibling, my aunt, lives at the southern end of the state and she's never been emotionally close to us and my mom's family is in England. Dh's aunts organize family barbecues at least 3-4 times a year just to keep the families connected.
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Well now you've made me feel worse!
Not your fault, just don't like this whole situation, as you can tell. I hate the idea of paddling. I spanked my kids a few times when they were younger but I honestly had no idea school districts still did this sort of thing.
If the principal/vice principal bruises my daughter you'd better believe I'll be in there Tuesday morning demanding some answers! Maybe I'll write on the slip "Only if soft enough not to bruise." There is NO EXCUSE for causing that kind of damage to my child. You say there is no bruising IF done by a thick wooden paddle or not done with one? Seems like that's what would bruise. I know they use a paddle, but I don't know any details about it, how thick it is or if it has any holes in it (which I assume makes it worse).
I don't think I'm going to sleep well tonight. This is so hard on a mom, you know. I like your extra pair of undies idea. I have a pair of control-top underwear that I've never worn before, I wonder if they'd fit my daughter. They're pretty padded.
Not happy.
Thanks, you both made me feel better about it...sm
My intuition is definitely telling me something is off in the story. I try not to be too quick to judge but can't compromise the safety of my kids.
It bothers me a lot when stuff like this comes up, reminds how difficult the world is these days. I love technology, movies, music, the internet, etc., as much as the next guy, but it sure raises a lot of issues with your kids that weren't there when we grew up. Whatever happened to the days when kids made doll houses, sleds, and clubhouses out of cardboard boxes and the first thing you did after school was change into play clothes to race to the house with the best swingset or grab a snack to watch the Brady Bunch or the Monkeys. 
Ok, well how would you feel if you made...
your daugther get this vaccine and then 10-20 years down the line she dies from some crazy side effect?!! Then you would have to live with the fact that YOU COULD HAVE prevented her death by just not making her get the shot!! Or what if one of the long-term side effects is sterilization or something else that is just awful, how would you feel then knowing you could have prevented it?! I absolutely do NOT believe in letting my little girl be a guinea pig so some politicians and drug company can become rich! No way is my daughter getting this until they have LONG-TERM studies that it's safe for her!
thanks -- this made me feel better. nm
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You all have made me feel better already
I have cried off an on since last night. Not just a whimpy cry...I mean a REAL cry. One minute I feel like I am in control, the next, I feel like a 13 year old girl whose friends all went out and didn't invite her...kinda childish, huh?
Made me feel good anyway - sm
I can see where the girl gets it though. Really pathetic.
They moved in a couple houses down about 2 years ago and I started locking my front door not long after.
All the neighbors had a BBQ party one night not long after they moved and that is when we all got a taste of how their house is run. The husband seems like a nice guy and I actually pity the poor man.
We are in the front yard of another neighbor and the girl comes storming up to her mom whining about not having something, think it was about a water gun or something. Anyway, the mom looks at dad and I am NOT kidding... she said, "Dale, what are you going to do about this?"
She wanted him to drop everything and race to get her a bigger one... AND HE DID! The girl was what.. 13 then? Give me a break!
Not long after, the girl started coming over unannounced, uninvited, and would just walk right in and make herself at home. Go through the fridge, turn on the television, you name it.
Thought, okay, the kid is rude. Then her mom came over one day did one of these tricks of opening up the door without knocking and saying "Knock Knock! ANYONE HOME?" As she is walking into my kitchen in the BACK of the house. She started doing this often enough that I started keeping the door locked.
She also will stand out in your yard and, while she's talking to you, her little precious dog poops. She simply says, Oops! but leaves the POOP right where it lands!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr
It did not make me feel bad, but it made
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So very sorry. Made me cry. But feel assured that your little one knows how much you love her.
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Hope venting made you feel better...
The thing that struck me the most in your post is that you help a friend by listening to dictation. Is this during *your* work hours? If so, try not to answer the phone. I know, it sounds so simple, but if you have kids, this can be tough. Anyhow, if the friend asks why you are not answering, tell her you need to focus on getting lines so you can pay your monthly bills (stress this!). Maybe she will get the hint. I had to do this when a coworker called me constantly. I'm a sole income earner so can empathize. As for the friends working when they were asked not to, well, unfortunately, it is a supervisors/manager's job to handle. Hopefully s/he will take care of this. Good luck.
Wellbutrin here, it's made a 200% difference in how I feel. (nm)
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I've never made dumplings before,
but that made me think of chicken and waffles. My kids love that dish. I looked up a few recipes for dumplings and maybe I'll give that a try this weekend (since I'll need a trip to the grocery store for a few things). Thanks for the ideas!
I'm making pumpkin whoopie pies tomorrow night for the kids' Halloween parties at school. Yummy!!!
The pill always made me feel awful - does Depo?
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Yes - I've made hundreds of candles
and have used tons of scrap wax - not from glass jars but believe that could be done. My recommendation for doing this: Use double boiler - pot of water, large coffee can filled with water and your candle jar clothes-pinned to side of coffee can or other large can.... water in inner can will eventually melt jar wax and then you will need to very carefully pour jarred wax to another container. Be sure the inner coffee can filled with water has enough water in it to come up to the level of at least half of jar candle - does that make sense? Jarred candle needs to sit down inside water to melt.... You can do just the jar inside a pot of water on the stove but the inner can just gives you another layer for safety... good luck!
As for the meals you've made that you end up tossing, sm
why don't you freeze leftovers in single-serving sizes, in microwave containers? I do this for lunches with leftover main meals, and it works quite well. Almost everything is freezable - chili, spaghetti, etc.
In 35 years of MTing, I've NEVER made
was while being paid hourly as an on-site MT. Now that I'm paid a lousy 8.5cpl, my income is closer to 20K/year.
Thanks everyone, the thousand dollar post before made me feel CHEAP!
I will go with the gas card and some cash, good ideas. I think I got 10 bucks and told I had to start to pay more "board". Times are changing. I don't remember last time we gabbed about this subject but the gifts were way up there for high school. These sound more like what I can afford.
Make sure his Will is made out and pray. I've seen too many people like this in my nursing career
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RE: So sorry about your loss. I've been through it also and know how you feel. Hugs to you all
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As an MT, I feel I've been living in a "recession" or - sm
a 'depression' for years already, not just recently. The only thing that's different for me now is how far my 401K has nosedived. When it happened after 9/11, I at least had the knowledge that I was still putting funds in, and my employer was matching those funds, and the mutual fund was buying more stocks with it at discount prices.
But this time around, the 401K has several more strikes against it:
- It still hadn't recovered to where it would have been if 9/11 had never happened.
- I haven't been able to fund it for the last three years, and as a result there is no employer input, either.
So what's changed for me now, is a real fear that I'll be on the streets in my old age, even though I'll still have to work forever. I was counting on money from my 401K to help make up the difference when my Social Security and work paycheck are not quite enough to live on. (And they WON'T be, especially if MT pay continues to be stagated or declining, as it is now.)
So at this point, I would say there really isn't any way to 'cope' - I'm already working as hard and as many hours as I can, and doing without everything but the most basic needs. So at this point, all that's left is to try to hope that something will change for the better in the years to come.
My family made home-made mozzarella,
and it was very good. I was pretty small at the time, so I don't remember the exact process, just that it was done pretty quickly, and a lot of milk was used.
I don't know if you'll save a lot of money making your own cheese. The cost of milk is very high, too, and you need a lot of milk to make cheese.
If you've got one, you've got bunches!
How do ya feel about cats? That's what I'd do...get a cat...but I love cats and love it when they bring me 'presents' of dead varmints.
If that's not an option, and you're not comfortable with baiting, glue traps, or that sort of thing, it'd be worth it to hire a professional 'cridder ridder' or exterminator. Those things will chew up your walls and floorboards like you have no idea and cause incredible amounts of damage. Good luck in your jihad!
I've done this 12 yrs and I've had to take breaks sm
Took a break and worked at my kids preschool one year, worked at a hospital one year, took a couple months off once. It does burn you out because it takes all of your concentration. When I worked at the hospital as a secretary I could not believe how easy the job was ;-) I was sooo used to just getting paid for actual work that when I had a conversation with a coworker or a phone call or took lunch, I felt like I was getting away with a lot! I hope your break works out!! I wish you lived close-by, we could take turns watching each others kids ;-)
esl just made my day
 I just had the best ESL dictator! He spelled almost every word he had trouble pronouncing and spelled it accurately, spoke slowly and ended the report with, "Thank you so much and have a nice day." If only they could all be so easy! 
None of this is made up
I don't care if you think I'm weird. My kids and family didn't think it was weird and your opinion doesn't mean anything to me, anyway. Apparently there are people here with an opinion because they have posted so many - I don't care if ya'll want to keep it going. Be my guest.
LOL! You just made my day! :)..nm
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Made too much $$$$, had to pay it all
Gosh, that tuition came around often and so did all the books I had to buy, all out of pocket because back then I made more than I should have (we also had a home business that cleared half a million the first year) but I would have loved not to pay out of pocket, I am really cheap on some things, my pockets for example.
ha, ha...that just made me think...take a lap
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that made me think a bit.
someone who is less educated than yourself?
No
someone of a different race?
Yes
someone whose parent's are divorced?
No
someone who has bad credit or alot of bad debt?
No
someone who is overweight or obese?
No
someone who affliates or supports a different political party than yourself?
yes
someone who is rude to customer service staff?
No, if he's rude to everyone.
someone who talks a longtime on their cell phone when you are eating?
No
someone who enjoys a different genre of music?
Yes
someone who does not enjoy the same leisure activities as yourself?
yes
someone who is a very picky eater or someone who is a vegeterian/vegan and you are not?
Yes
someone who prefers to spend leisure time alone or with friends (without you)?
yes
OMG, are you serious? You made my day!..nm
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One of the cutest I made...sm
My kids are too old now but I use to make all their costumes and usually tried to match the up even though they are 5 years apart. My favorite was a scarecrow and a crow. Scarecrow costume is fairly easy with overalls, straw hat and rafia (My daughter, older) and my son was the crow, using a long sleeve black leotard and orange tights (had to dye some), sewed full head gear (including beak) and tail, feet to cover top of shoes out of felt. They won their school contest that year.
That made my day, I loved it !!...nm
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By then, they usually know, and if not, will be made fun of by other kids.
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For those of you who believe this rule had to be made
because of those with medical problems - you are very naive. We are know there are exceptions to all rules - this has obviously become a huge problem with obnoxious children.
i think iit was all made in fun, and besides if Simon did not like him
he would not be hosting the show.
I made such a big mistake
I got in touch with someone I went out with once, just to say hello. Now he won't leave me alone. I've told him I don't want to see him, that I was just saying hi, and he won't believe me. He acts like we're going to have a relationship and live happily ever after. He called me like 4 times before I ever got home from work, even though I told him what time I would be home. These were weird calls. One of them sounded like somebody else, not him at all.
He's not a whacked out kid, or on drugs (at least not that I know of), he's in his 40's and is a seemingly responsible single parent.
He's called a couple of times, ranting at me about me not answering the phone. He's called a couple of times and hung up. He just won't stop. I had to take my phone off the hook.
I wrote him an email telling him to leave me alone. Maybe he hasn't checked his email tonight, I don't know.
Anyway, this guy is seriously obsessive. He wasn't like this when I knew him before, although he did react rather badly when I broke it off.
I think I'm dealing with a psycho here! I never really knew him very well before, and now I'm hoping I can get out of it without having to get the police involved.
My FIL's doc made housecalls.
My father-in-law died this past November, but for about six months before that, his MD made house calls. Truth be told, if my FIL had still been able to walk, he could have walked to his doc's office in about five minutes since it was only blocks away. It had gotten just so hard to move my 6Ɖ", 250-pound FIL into a car, drive him three blocks and then get him out of the car, into the office, etc. etc. Finally, the doc said, "You know what, Charlie. It's easier for me to come to you!" He never made an exact appointment time, just knew what day he'd come over. When there was a break in the patient's at the office, he'd come over to the house, and my mother-in-law made the doctor something to eat, as well. The doc didn't have a traditional black bag, but he carried a very cool, very compartmentalized backpack with him. And he only ever charged for an office visit, since, according to him, his office was nearly in my in-law's back yard. He was a nice guy.
Okay...so the poison is not even made in the US?
Some kind of terrorism? What? How the....What the...
Man-made holidays...
but you are all so quick to forget that the Bible from which you quote from was in fact man made as well.
And if we are to only quote by the Bible as to what rules to follow to get into Heaven, you exclude a ton of other religions who believe they will get into Heaven or where ever based upon their man-made books as well!
Is the Bible the only true verse? If so, then Christians are the ONLY true believers and will be the only ones to get into Heaven. Bull...
Like I always said though, whatever floats your boat.
Me personally, I do not want anyone in my room preaching to me on my death bed unless I personally asked them to do so.
Just made burgers on my
Yummy and FAST!
R the fathers made to look at the x-ray, too? -nm
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Joy said she wasn't doing much, so he made up for it
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I too never made Montana but in the 70s
this film was shot completely in Montana and you get to see/feel so much of the environment you almost felt like you were there.....that part of the movie was worth seeing it...forget the plot
not a bad plot though either, if'n ya like Jack Nicholson.......*lol*....which is why I went actually....Jack in the 70s....terrific to some folks, not to some others (no flaming to commence here please). I just thought if you could rent this movie, you'd enjoy it for the scenery.
Have a GREAT time on what sounds like a SPECTACULAR trip.
I'd rather ID's were made harder to get so my next
:/
The thing that really made me wonder is that
I am having problems reading and comprehending. I read like crazy. I always joked I could not afford my reading habit and got a library card instead. I actually retain what I read too.
Now I am having to re-read something several times. In this business, that costs money.
The other thing I've noticed is that I walk around all the time wondering what I was doing. I am a lot more confused too. She said this could be from the anxiety medicine and my depression. I honestly feel like I am losing my mind is the best way I can describe it! I cannot keep up with things. I get confused. I'm a mess. Also, I am too young to be having problems like that already, as far as my mind going or something.
My PCP suggested I see a neurologist. I just went back to my old psychiatrist though because I knew my meds needed to be changed anyways and I needed to start seeing one again. I think maybe I will see about looking into it further. My brother is on Concerta, and I've thought about just taking one of his pills and seeing if it helped any to be able to tell the doctor that, but I know I shouldn't do that. Maybe I will go see the neurologist after all.
I'm so made at my husband
Honey, I have found that the majority of men in this world think that their job is the most important and no one has it as hard as they do. I would tell him just for one day that you want him to do your job, plus take care of kids and keep a household running. I bet that would make him not say another smart a** comment again!! What would men be like if God hadn't created women?? I hate to imagine.
That made me laugh.
You are right about the gorgeous doc. My old OB doc years ago was so gorgeous. Beach bum, bleeched hair, dark skin and just gorgeous. I only saw him once. Not kidding. Couldn't go there.
I hope your hysterectomy goes well when you have it. My best friend had one 6 months ago, and fortunately she was able to have a vaginal hysterectomy and not abdominal. She was fine in a couple of weeks. Mainly just sore. Lots of good thoughts for you.
I believe my husband has just made sm
a claim on the dog. Not that we need another dog, we already have 2, but it's a very pretty dog. I'm waiting for the animal shelter to call me back with an update. The phone isn't staffed all day as the volunteers all work part time. Only 1-2 people man the phones. The animals are all well cared for and we do donate regularly at every canister we see. I hope he is going to be okay. I haven't been hardly able to work worrying.
I agree with you and have made up
my mind to just ignore, and not even open anything negative on this subject again. Thanks for your input. You are absolutely correct. To acknowledge it is to fuel the fire. It will finally have to burn out.
Made a mistake x2
This is the second time that I tried to make a vacation around a big track and field event that DH runs in each year. We left last Friday for St. John New Brunswick. It's not a hot spot place, let me tell ya! We did manage a whale watch which was cool, and a day in Nova Scotia which included a flat tire in the middle of nowhere. Then, we moved down to Maine for another 5 days, and we're in the only dull spot in Maine -- Orono. Went to Bangor and spent the day in Acadia today, but I'm actually working from the hotel room now while DH runs in the meet. I don't know why I did this again. I must have been insane. So what am I doing this weekend? Working in a hotel room, and then driving 9 hours for home on Monday. sigh
Don't know, but you made me CHUCKle!
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Not one reply as of 5 pm has made(sm)
mention that Sadgirl has a child.
Why is that not a huge factor/motivator in these replies?
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