I'm the one being rejected. He is rejecting my affection unless it involves (sm)

Posted By: Sad MT on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Enjoy it!... sm - Cheated-on wife

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Husband can't hug - ever - without it being...(sm) - Sad MT
- LOL - they mostly ALL do this.... - Annoying, to say the least....LOL...NM
- Yup, just like animals, neither can they. LOL - nm
- at least ur not in my shoes - angelmt
- Bunch of cold fish on this posting.....nm - Janet
  - Amen! I'm glad i'm not a prude - angelmt
    - Neither am I - quite the opposite - I guess if you have never been in this position you don't kno - Sad MT
- The only time I get a hug that isn't sexual is if someone dies. - No kidding.
- I know exactly how you feel. - another sad MT
  - right, some of us need a hug for hug's sake... - a hug without the H.O. lol - NM
- Try retraining him by your actions - sm - missMT
  - Actually I do this already :( hasn't worked (nm) - OP
    - Okay, trying to think of other ideas for you - sm - missMT
- That is the only way my husband shows affection. .sm - groped too
  - hahahaha - it probably won't!
    - Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm - OP
      - Mine's almost 47, hasn't changed. nm - TiredMT
        And here I thought marrying an older man might be the answer. . sm - groped too
- No they don't and you somehow need to make it stop - sm
- Enjoy it!... sm - Cheated-on wife
  - I'm the one being rejected. He is rejecting my affection unless it involves (sm) - Sad MT
  - I think that is horrible advice. She should let herself - sm
- No, they don't all do this. But the ones who do it, always will. - I dropped a grabber for a nongrabber.
- I would do it right back, all the time in inappropriate - sm -
  - R U kidding? My DH would LOVE that. The groping, - not the slapping. nm,
    - Sorry to say...we're mutual gropers in our family.. - WanderingMT
      - There are different kinds of groping (sm) - OP
        You need Dr. Phil, not a bunch of MTs. - Me
        Okay.. I hear what your saying... - WanderingMT
      - You sound like me, except my SO is off an on with his affection. - Im always on - LOL
    - then how about a knee in the crotch every time - sm -
      - Knowing him, he would just start groping me from - behind. nm
    - LOL - I hear you!!!
- OH MY GOSH! - ...
- Men - Apple Scruff
  - I guess I'll have to think about that but don't see how (sm) - Sad MT

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Are you rejecting religion and the Bible or God?

I have problems myself with organized religion; however, I have personal proof of life after death, which leads me to believe in a Creator. Just curious about where you're coming from.

You sound like me, except my SO is off an on with his affection.
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She has been given SO much advice on here, and has rejected it all. nm
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That is the only way my husband shows affection. .sm
It breaks my heart sometimes. He especially likes to sneak up on my while I am doing dishes and the kids are watching tv. I hate it because I know that means he wants sex and will hound me until he gets it. He wants it once during the week and once on weekends. Once the kids are asleep, he will pester me until I give in or we get into an argument because I don't feel like it. He use to tell me he loved me every day and give me a kiss at night and in the morning. Now, it's nothing but the groping and sex. I think he considers it foreplay! He is otherwise a good husband. I am hoping as he gets older (he is 32 and I am 40), that it will get better. Right now it seems to be getting worse!

Do any of you feel rejected by ur hubby?
I don't know what is wrong with my hubby. I practically have to beg the man for sex. I get so sick and tired of being rejected and then he'll ask me if I am mad. Of course I am mad. You flat out reject me! It hurts my feelings and makes me feel like he does not desire me. Am I the only wife who goes through this crap? I do everything for him...cook, clean, do whatever...and he does not want to touch me. He'd rather sleep or eat or hang out with his buddy. I swear if his friend calls he goes into a frenzy to answer the phone. Sometimes I wonder if they are "butt buddies." I try to not let it hurt my feelings but it does. All I can say is thank God for Adam&Eve stores!