I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
Posted By: Topaz on 2009-05-02
In Reply to: Need opinions. moving from situation - lifetimeMT
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
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Again, you do not have to go to a building
and give donations and be preached to, etc. to have faith and believe in the Lord.
Sure they can! If they own the building, they can tell
I haven't lived anywhere where indoor smoking was allowed since the late 1980's.
another plane just hit NYC building
gosh -- turned on the TV for a break and it was emotional to see again -- tho they say that there is no reason to believe its a terror attack --
You don't want your lining building up (sm)
without shedding. That puts a woman at higher risk for cancer, nevermind the heartbreak of not being able to conceive again.
I've gone longer than a year without a period because of PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) in my early 20s. It's not normal and it's not good.
I'm not sure how your post was helpful to her. She has suffered miscarriages--to tell her not to worry about her irregular cycles is not going to particularly help when she really wants a healthy baby, and for that she needs some cycles, and she will worry until that time comes. (Then she will be worrying about her baby during pregnancy.)
Building a house
Hey everyone, I am planning on buliding a house soon and I have been debating stick versus modular (not to be confused with manufactured/mobile). I have talked to many people about both and it seems like a Chevy versus Ford issue around here. I am just looking for some facts. Are modulars really as bad as some people say they are? are they as good? If anybody has had any experiences and opinions with either, please share. Thanks a bunch!
I was the building spelling champ when
I was in 5th grade -- boy were the 6th graders mad. I was also on the 5th grade 3-kid all-star scholastic quiz team (kind of like jeopardy) and we beat the 6th graders that year, too! We didn't get to compete any further than within our own building.
Of course, as for the spelling bee last night, I only watched the last few rounds, but I couldn't spell any of those words. Whew! I was surprised at the questions they were allowed to ask. We were only allowed to ask definition and to use it in a sentence. The one last night asked what the root word was -- I'm not sure that should have been allowed.
Anyway, the winner definitely earned it!
No washer/dryer at my apt. building, and laundromat
it's far away & I'd have to burn valuable gasoline to drive there. Thank goodness I work at home and can wear clothing for several days before washing. I wash them in the bathtub and hang them on the fence to dry.
I've never lived in an apartment building that
even ALLOWED smoking, and that was 15 years ago!
I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
NM
Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
x
I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
Look down on smoking...you said it!
I feel like such a loser sometimes, when I am with others and I'm the only one who has to go find a place where I can have a cigarette. You cannot even smoke outside anymore at certain places, hospital grounds etc., unless you go to the dreaded designated *loser* smoking spot which is usually 1/2 mile away and very obvious (one had a smoking gazebo) :) Happy for you. I'm going to try Chantix too.
smoking
Stick with it!! Believe me you will feel better in the long run! I quit about 8 yrs ago now.
smoking
Did you ask your doc for the new pill that just came out. I can remember exactly what it is called but I have a girlfriend on them and it is working great. Give it a shot!!
Smoking sm
I can only tell you a true story. My younger sister smoked (I never did) and she would try to stop but each time a stressful situation would occur, she would pick up again. At a young age, she was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer, never even had a cough and she looked great! She lived exactly 17 months, the charts said 18. By the 2nd month of DX the young docs told her, "nursing home or Hospice, you can't lay around here." This was when she had a high fever and reaction to chemo. She lost her hair, gained about 30 pounds, etc.from chemo reaction. She died penniless and heartbroken. She was only a year retired early from a great job and had the rest of her life to look forward to, yet cigarettes robbed her of her family, her dignity, her retirement fund, and now she's in the cold, cold ground, all because she "needed" a cigarette. She wanted to retire early and enjoy her 401K retirement plan and her kids. Her daughter just had a beautiful baby and no mother to share the news. Her grandchildren have no grandmother and I have no sister anymore. She just had to have that cigarettte and would listen to no one. Her oncologist told her, "Go ahead and smoke, what difference does it make now?" Is this what you want for yourself? It's the bare naked truth, please, I would rather you cut off your fingers than smoke, at least you would still be alive. Cigarettes STINK and they KILL. Don't let it happen one more day.
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So that's a yes on the smoking, then.
Of course it has everything to do with it.
smoking
That's a difficult situation. Legally you can do nothing against her, that's bad. I hope the smoke detectors are well maintained? You can try to talk some sense into her, but I doubt it will help.
The only solution would be that you move into a building where the owner forbids smoking. There are some sensible landlords out there who want to keep their houses smokefree.
But, as you said, that's difficult for you.
Try to convince her to stop smoking or cut down by telling her how bad it is for her health.
There should be 'houses for smokers', stinkers, and 'houses for nonsmokers', nonstinkers.
I have the same problem. I am a nonsmoker and live on the 1st floor, under and on above me both are smokers and I tell you, it stinks!
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
What surprised? Things happen everywhere
Have televison on as I work and live reports- a noose found on door of a black educator at Columbia College in New York - yes things happen like this elsewhere, not just the south and another high school shooting in Cleveland, Ohio this time. People are saying shocked it happened at both places. College people said the people there are educated. I don’t know if education has to do with racism. I wonder if and when things like this might be a thing of the past.
Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Was anyone surprised that Howard Stern
has been arrested as being involved in giving Anna Nichole Smith drugs that eventually resulted in her demise? I am surprised it too this long.
Smoking outside stores
I don't like people smoking outside stores either. They stand right by the door so you have to hold your breath and go through the smoke cloud. Unlike the other things mentioned, that does invade my personal space with secondhand smoke exposure.
No smoking pills?
Has anyone taken the drug Chantix for smoking? My son has been taking this and he and his wife haven't slept in a week. She says he is not acting like himself...I don't smoke so I don't have a clue what its like.
The smoking might have to be done outside if the laws there say
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15 yo smoking question
I found a pack of cigarettes in my 15-yo son's back pack. He said he was holding them for a neighbor. I kind of believe him but regardless he is under 18 and should not be in possession of them. What kind of consequences do you think are appropriate?
Trying to stop smoking
I haven't smoked today! I am trying to quit. Have tried several times before, but this time I have to do it! 
There's a little difference with smoking, though.
Your second-hand smoke is harmful to others and the environment.
Alcohol kills more people than just those who ingest it.
Obesity only kills the person suffering from it.
Rude to comment on it? Maybe. Then again, everyone who has to put up with the butts on the ground, the second-hand smoke, the nicotine stains and the stench of it clinging to you as you walk into the building -- well, I guess they do have a right to comment.
Today is my second day not smoking
You may want to give it another try. It make cigarettes taste terrible. I think that it only takes 3 days for the physical withdrawal to be over and then it is the emotional part and the habit you need to kick. I decided to quit because I saw the show Intervention and this kid got hooked on heroine after his mother died of cancer and that really hit me and I realized that my life is not only mine, but that of my family's as well. It was funny because yesterday it seemed that whenever I had the urge for a smoke, I would get a note of someone who had lung cancer. Good luck to you. I defintely feel your pain. People who have never smoked just don't get it. Give it another try with Chantix. I have to say that the only problem with it is that I can't sleep at night, but I took a Xanax last night and slept better, not well, but better. It will be worth it in the end when I am a nonsmoker and don't have the threat of lung cancer looming over me. Good luck.
While I don't proport smoking, I'm not sure
asking this information on an insurance form should be allowed. We already deny many Americans affordable health coverage because of obesity and other medical problems. What's next? Asking how many foods we microwave or how long we talk on a cell phone (supposedly these cause cancer, too)? We already ask the obvious questions - smoking, drinking, exercise. They have you weigh in and ask every question imaginable about your family medical history.
How are we supposed to obtain coverage if we're not in perfect health, and let's face it, how many Americans are in perfect health? I was watching Celebrity Fit Club on TV and I looked at some of the people on there and thought what's wrong with them, only to find out their body fat percentage was 2 points over norm. Come on America -- this is just another way to keep us from having healthcare coverage. No, I'm not a smoker, just a concerned American wondering about the future of my health insurance.
Smoking at school
My high school had an area called the "smoke hole" where, if you had a "smoking permit", you could go during lunch or breaks and smoke! I think about that now and it just amazes me that kids were allowed to smoke at school. We called the people that went there the "smokeholians"...too weird now!
quitting smoking
You are correct to be afraid. Quitting smoking is excruciatingly painful. You have to re-train your brain to do every single daily activity without smoking. And the cravings never go away.
Skullcap, Gingseng, and Valerian are extremely useful, so you don't have to suffer if you don't want to.
The sore throat alone from the first week of quitting will scare you to death.
You will need to eat and exercise to get the energy you get from cigarettes, and it will take awhile to learn how to take better care of yourself.
Why is it worth it? You aren't a slave anymore, you can go anywhere, colors you see are more intense, all foods taste different, smells are different and more intense, (and sex is more intense also).
You can quit anything if you can stand the pain. Don't be a wimp, you are worth it.
Quitting Smoking Again
I was wondering if any of you have any tips for quitting smoking without gaining weight. That is my biggest fear as I am already overweight. Thanks in advance!
quitting smoking
I gained 10 pounds I never lost, but not more than that. I used to skip meals when I smoked so I think that is self-explanatory.
Apples and fruit for snacks and quick energy.
I bought an espresso machine, but the mocha grandes I was drinking made my eyes vibrate....not kidding.
Siberian Gingseng to remove fogged brain, depression, and fatigue.
Skullcap for mild irritation.
Skullcap combined with Valerian for psychotic irritation.
Gas-X to combate the effects of constant gum chewing.
Long walks, deep breathing and YOGA. Yoga is amazing....
Smoking either boosts you up or calms you down. Figure out which it is and you can substitute for that need without eating.
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