I'm sorry you are going through this.
Posted By: a stepmom on 2008-10-10
In Reply to: Thanks for all your answers... - anon
I understand completely how you can feel that you are just "done." I hope he had a chance to cool off and think about things, but probably not. I can understand when you say that everyone sees it but him. Friends of ours still say things to me to do this day, one person will say things directly to him, which helps because then HE also knows that its not just me, which can be so difficult.
If you decide to stick this out I have some great books that really helped me get through our difficult times. I re-read them from time to time too. There is also a good support website online for stepmoms. Google smoms and you'll find it.
I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make. Just make the decision for yourself and not them.
Oh, and not sure if it will help at this point or not but another piece of advice - When I felt like the 3rd wheel or not included I woudl do as another poster suggested and leave the situation. It really sucked to feel like I was leaving my own house some times but it felt really good to not tell anyone where I was going, not answer cell phones, and just go get a pedicure, go shopping, or go to a family members house for the weekend (and no my family didn't know anything because I often visited them at other times).
just remember, its not YOU, even if he says it. *hugs* and good luck.
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