I'm probably older than you and I DO follow rules of etiquette,
Posted By: but the majority of people do not and will not. NM on 2007-08-19
In Reply to: You sound really young, good taste never - S
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It's not the worker's fault. She has to follow the rules or be fired. sm
I've taken a lot of flack from a lot of customers, and the run-of-the-mill retail worker really has no freedom to make decisions. When the worker is caught between a yelling customer and a yelling manager, who do you think she'll listen to?
Rules is rules. Cant make exceptions or everyone
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I have always made my rules and the rules were
no overnighters for my son or my daughter with their girlfriends or boyfriends. I would never back down on my values and as long as you pay to be the boss, then you are. Simple.
And evidently not raised w/etiquette emphasis!
and evidently not raised w/etiquette emphasis!....
lack of etiquette just means one is a goon....
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Read up on writing etiquette. It is yelling.
It comes across as hateful
extended family, boundaries, and etiquette...sm
to me it sounds like your mom violated your boundaries (perhaps without realizing it). you need to reestablish your healthy boundaries. you tried subtle and subtle didn't work. now you need to be direct; kind but direct. use the "i feel|when you|i want" technique. how did you FEEL when your parents invited themselves along on your hard-earned vacation? if you can figure out the FEELING, then you can tell her, "Mom, Dad, I love you and want to spend time with you. But I felt *_?__* when you invited yourselves on my family vacation. I want to spend this week with just my husband and my kids. It's really important to me and not negotiable. If you want to plan an extended-family vacation, then I'm willing to save more time off and more money to do that because I would love to go on a vacation with you; but not right now. Not this trip." How do you think your mom/dad would respond to this? Accepting? Dysfunctional? Deaf? =)
I'm older than dirt, too, and older
than the 2 posters below me.
I remember when gas was $.25 a gallon when I got my driver's license and first car.
The first car my dad had was a LaSalle with running boards. After that, he bought all Hudsons and then Ramblers. He never owned a Chevy.
My first car was a ི Chevy, green and White, that my dad paid $12 for (cost of the tag). My uncle gave it to him and was a stick shift. I never drove an automatic until I was 20 and bought my own car with my own money. I paid $1500 for a ྀ Rambler Classic, 4 door (my first 4 door, too) in turquoise blue. My dad was mad because I didn't pick the Navy blue and white stick shift Rambler because it was cheaper.
My allowance was $1.50 a week and to make money, I chauffered all my friends around plus to school and back for $.25 a week.
And, I just turned another year older on Monday. Ugh! Thank heavens, no one in my family wished me HB. I quit counting 20 years ago. 
Follow up to the above
Parvo causes the mucus, blood and also weight loss that you are describing. Once I found out what was in my yard, it seemed like it never went away. Years later I had forgotten and hubs brought home another puppy and put in the backyard. The same thing happened. If not treated in a yard, seems like it just stays on. Older dogs seem not to have problem because I guess their immunity built up. I hope you get to a veterinarian as soon as possible because it does kill if not treated.
I can't follow this for the
Follow up
I guess my first question would be, who made the decision to have the sleepover? Obviously you allowed your son to have the boy over -- did you talk to the mother about the arrangements? What if something had happened, i.e., a medical condition and you needed to contact the parents? Sounds to me like you were "duped into being a free babysitter for that kid" (and not sure if they had others who might have been farmed out) but the parents were totally irresponsible, but you have to take part of the blame as well for not checking into things more thorougly -- I think that if the parents had not answered a home line or a cell line and NOT called back within a hour or 2 I would have been on the phone to the authorities -- when are parents going to learn that these are innocent, sweet, children and something like this can leave emotional scars for a very long time
You have to follow your instincts and
A therapist ideally really should be able to adjust their style to the needs of the client. In the end, what matters is are you making progress? ... is she helping you address the issues you came to her with in a way that is meaningful to you? ... and is she challenging you emotionally? It reminds me of the movie, Girl Interrupted, where Angelina Jolie's character is lamenting that nobody cared enough to push her buttons. It's one thing to be a friend who is supportive and accepting of one as they already are. It's another to not care enough to "push the right buttons" to help someone challenge their shortcomings.
It sounds like you have examined this relationship and find it lacking. There is no shame in telling someone, even a therapist, that you are not getting out the relationship as much as you are putting into it (in this instance, a lot of money). At least you can say learning to trust your instincts is one thing you did get out of the relationship.
Follow up on this cat stuff
I just got back from the store and bought some hairball control dry cat food. The older cat I spoke about drinks water so no problem there. I got the dry as well as several cans of wet hairball control so probably will mix a little of the wet with dry to start out with. I also bought glove to run over the cat and get rid of some of the excessive fur. This is not a common shedding as she has had for sometime, surprised she has any left. I have hairball gel that I could give them in addition to this. Thanks for the insight!
Follow your instincts
I had this happen years ago with my brother. I tried to make him realize I didn't do what he thought, but he wouldn't budge. I chalk it up as a lesson learned in life, you can't make another person think or believe anything they don't want to. If I dwell on it, it still burns me up, so I try to leave it behind. Anyway, trust your instincts, they will never let you down.
mammogram-follow up
I was diagnosed and beat breast cancer after a very caring radiologist kept taking additional views. I go back next month for my first mammogram, kind of scared, but I'm stronger now, so off I will go. That was an excellent post. I wish more people would get checked and be faithful with following. Have a wonderful day.
It may not but people who follow it will
We are not intimidated by the Bible. We are just sick of the people who think they are more rightous than others becase they wear their religion on their sleeves while they cram down our throats that they are better than us. If it gives a man comfort, then he will receive the same comfort if that bible is in his posession but not for all the world to see. How can you be sick of Christians always being in the wrong when they are given more rights than people of other faiths. If you want to talk about people being wronged out of their religion being able to be openly observed you should consider what the Wiccans have to go through. And for pitty's sake I'm sick of hearing how we are taking "Him" out of everything. Your not the first to say it, I've heard it before and its absolutely untrue.
I definitely did not follow the crowd - sm
I was basically a "good" girl though, though had a secret side only my friends knew about. Had my own sense of style totally different than everyone else, I looked pretty good then, (early 80s, graduated in 1983), lots of purple and feathers. Was mainly an A student, Art teacher's pet, principal's pet, in marching band (baton twirler), starting at 15 drank beer when I could (rarely), at 16 smoked pot a couple times a month, more when I was senior but not much more, never bought it myself - had 3 BFs, we all drank/smoked pot, though one did it much more than the rest of us, she was a straight A student too. Was never an "addict" and never tried anything stronger than pot, saw the damage the harder drugs did on others and had no desire to screw myself up or fry my brain, did NOT have sex in HS though 2 of my friends did starting at 15- both were drunk their first time, had enough drama with them to not want to do that until I was ready and sure I'd use birth control. I had a good time, parent's never knew of the things I had been up to, was very good at keeping it all under wraps.
Very smart. We should all follow, but for some reason, it's almost sm
entertainment for some. Isn't that sad?? We find "entertainment" in someone else's grief and sorrow. What else do you call it? I hardly ever watch t.v. In fact, I didn't find out about the shootings until 3:30 when I read that 30+ people were dead! I was shocked!
The media wouldn't give it to us if we didn't show intense interest in it. It seems the more drama it is, the higher the ratings. So, so sad.
Like I said, I read about the accounts on-line at People.com where they never have any news on there - just celebrity gossip. I know, it's not much better, but it's hardly ever death, shootings, earthquakes, terrorism, kidnapping, and the like. I can't handle that kind of stuff.
Thank you for all the responses. I will follow your advice. nm
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Follow up on cat gorging and throwing up
Posted a few days ago, had Ms. Thang to the veterinarian's office today and he thought possibly hyperthyroidism because of extremely fast heartbeat, hair loss, the 3 pounds weight loss since the end of last year- labs done and sure nuff, hyperthyroidism. Vicious cycle of the gorging, throwing up, seemingly never getting enough to eat- hopefully now with medication can get this under control.
Go to their web site and follow their procedure - sm
they have it all there how to report problems, etc.
Follow the part that has the brains. : ) nm
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That's horrible. OP--Don't follow this poster's example.
A letter like this is probably the most inappropriate way to have dealt with the situation other than beating the kids up yourself. I'm going to assume this letter was also sent anonymously. Awful, awful, awful.
This thread is a little confusing to follow so I will just
throw my experience out there and see if it works. I was in my 30s when I started having problems with dryness. My husband thought it was because I didn't want him, and I kind of felt weird about it, but it really was just physical - I am not sure what caused it. Finally, he expressed to me that the sex was not as good anymore - I agreed - so I tried using artificial lubricants. The sex was so much better and there was not so much unspoken baggage about the whole thing.
We have been married for 20 years, gone through an almost divorce, and raised 2 kids, so I am not sure why that was such a hard issue to talk about. Like others said, sometimes the sex is hot and you want bunches, sometimes its the furthest thing from your mind, but ultimately just talking about the problem worked for us.
Follow up on money transferring
Went into the bank this morning, talked with someone yesterday and the only way to set it up on line is thru transfer instead of bill pay. I also use bill pay but this would be between 2 bank centers. Noticed below where someone said wire transfers cost $$ but with transferring this way it is $3.00 per transfer.
Rules
Here is the reasoning listed in an article on NJ beach rules:
Ocean City passed a law in January prohibiting the feeding of seagulls from beaches or other public property. Officials say they acted to prevent bird droppings from contaminating waterways and spreading disease, but also note the avian scavengers have just gotten too brazen in recent years.
By the new rules
the bp is a bit high. The diastolic isn't too bad, but the systolic is high and might need meds to control it. It's the top number that generally gets high if you're under stress. As for the migraine, who is to say it wasn't the body warning of impending hypertension?
I have the same rules as you. nm
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ass ? really? is that against the rules?? sorry!
pathetic aren't you
you want my post removed because you can't deal with the truth.
Again, I follow what the Bible says, that homosexuality is sinful &
support homosexuality by selling items of that nature is not where I will be shopping. You can try to twist this around every way possible, but I am not judging anyone. God will do that. No, I do not associate with gay people, but that does not mean that I would not be pleasant to someone who is. I don't agree with the gay lifestyle, I don't shop at stores that sell homosexual items, and you can make me out to be the bad guy all you want. I believe in what I believe.
Great post, I am going to follow your advice
It says everything that should be said. I in no way feel just because family should accept, in that were the case every family member could just stop in and that would be feeding an army. I dislike the bad manners to start with; never should you say you are coming to a dinner not having been invited in the first place. To be truthful, feel like uninviting the others he volunteered to drive here- if not for them he would have never known about the dinner in the first place. They told him at a Thanksgiving dinner they had (we were invited, working though, did not attend) and I really resent their saying anything about in in front of other family members who I did not invite this year. We usually have a group of 10 only here at my home, the same each and every year. Others are out of town. Thanks for the wonderful suggestions! I shall follow through.
less is best....fewer words. If you need to say Hi, do not follow it with how are you, if she asks
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Ok, here's the link - unbelievable that people would follow this man!!!
http://cosmos.bcst.yahoo.com/up/player/popup/index.php?cl=7455894
you will have to cut and paste - sorry - I don't know how to link it
If enough boys show up, the girls will follow...sm
but if he is still worried about her screwing it up for him, maybe there is a game or some other event he and some friends can be taken to? This was discussed here a long time ago, but when I was a kid, my dad took some of my friends and me to a Phillies game for my B-day. It still makes me smile after all these years.
New School Rules
 Not every child does this for attention. If you had read the post -- you do know how to read right? The original poster stated that her child has a medical condition! I think it is wrong to punish a child for doing something that a body does naturally especially if it is due to a medical condition! There are a lot of good teachers out there and a lot of not so good teachers. There are a lot that need to get back to teaching instead of worrying about this sort of thing. If you ignore it -- children will not do it because it did not bring about the attention they sought to get. And if it is due to a medical condition the teacher will have to deal with it! I have GERD and my stomach makes noises all day long. Are you going to come after me too?
New Class Rules
I have 2 children and neither have to the best of my knowledge done this in a classroom. However, if there is a medical issue behind this I do not believe the child should be punished. I do agree it is rude if done on purpose but I do not believe that was the situation wiht the original poster. When I have parent teacher meetings I am praised up and down because my children are the best behaved in the class so I do not believe my personal parenting skills are an issue here. I think everyone is making way too much out of this. Boys will be boys. Sooner or later they will out grow the behavior. Maybe the problem with the world today is that kids cannot just be kids anymore? Things are different now then they were years ago. I cannot remember school shootings or threats at my school. Twice my daughter was sent home because of a bomb scar. This never happened when I was in school. The world is different now and if the worst a kid does in class is burp or pass gas I think the teachers should be grateful.
New school rules.
My children do not do any of these things to the best of my knowledge. They do not do it at home because they were taught that it is rude, but if it happens to say excuse me which I believe is the polite thing to do. I have never heard of them doing this in school either. However, I do believe that if a child has a medical problem he/she can politely say excuse me and should not be punished. I'm not saying it is proper behavior -- just that if it happens the child can say excuse me. At my daughter's school not all of the teachers allow children to leave the classroom during class to use the bathroom. I don't agree with that either. I guess that makes me a monster.
Your house your rules. I would not even
open that door to letting them sleep together at your place because then it will only get worse - trust me - with kids 30, 28, 24 and 17 - I've seen and heard a lot. Stick by your guns - you will be happier and the kids know where you stand.... you are not a prude and don't think for a second you are!! Best of luck!!
EPSON RULES
I have the Epson CX6600 it has four different ink cartridges but I spend less on ink that I ever have. the photos I print look like I got them from the store and it is much faster than my husbands and daughters (cannon/Hub and HP for daughter) Everybody uses moms printer for anything special and they buy ink more often than I do lol
hope my opinion helps!
No but he is abiding by the rules now....sm
so that is a BIG plus. Plus now his girlfriend's parents have forbid her to call him or text him so at least they will have a break from that. Maybe when she gets her phone back they will understand.
Thank you!
My home, my rules
Simple at my house. When the kids have their own homes, then they have their rules. Under my roof, under my rules.
I did not set the rules for this. Where I live
we cannot have individual sales, only twice a year is when our community allowed. We have to get a $10.00 permit from our city and I am much too old for this. I was finishing setting up when folks started coming by, before the sun came up. I can say never again because I really mean that. I don't have to put up with attitudes, either and that woman that came as early bird had one. Some people have lots of nerve.
They need those no touch rules!
I went to a place that is very well known in Florida before they enacted the 'no touch rule'. My older brother pounded into my head when I was little 'if someone grabs you - hit, kick, and scream'. So, of course, when some zombie-thing grabbed me, he got elbowed VERY hard in the stomach. He was not happy about that! I had gone thinking that they weren't allowed to touch you, so it really freaked me out!!
After that incident, I told my friend we had to leave before I got arrested! I don't go to those things any more - my nerves can't take it!
Cookie rules
Here, we eat the dough too, and of the ones who make it to the baking stage are carefully inspected when they are removed from the oven because our rule is that we get to eat all the "cripples", you know the ones that are crooked or missing a leg or part of Santa's hat, or the tip of a star. If we don't have enough one of us always gets the spatula and cripples a few more so we can eat! Frosting day is another story altogether. By the time we are finished we usually have just a modest amount of cream cheese cutouts left and the same amount of gingerbread. We all need a diet by that time. Then, there is always "bread baking day" - so many baking days, so little self-control.
LOL--that'll never do...there are RULES to that too!:-)
your house, your rules - sm
You are the adult here. Who cares if DD is mad or not? Hormones rage at this age and it is up to you to preclude anything happening under YOUR roof. The fact that you have caught them alone under a blanket means things have gone on too long already. Act NOW, before it is too late.
I know the timeout rules all too
well, but truthfully, I needed the timeout. It took me a good 20 minutes to compose myself to the point where I was ready to address what he did. I figured he was safer sitting on that chair. By the time it was done, he sat for about 30 minutes. According to the timeout rules, it should have been 8 minutes, but sometimes we adjust the punishment to fit the crime. Then he sat for another 10 minutes while I lectured him calmly about the what-ifs.
eBay rules....sm
state that sellers have up to 30 days to ship items once they're paid for.... just as buyers have up to 30 days to pay UNLESS it's posted otherwise in the original listing. My guess is that with the holidays the seller has gone away for a few days. Furthermore eBay/PayPal won't open an investigation until it's been 30 days past the day of the sale.
never heard of the new rules before - thanks
:)
They're just following BOS rules.
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