I'm not overweight or a smoker,
Posted By: Z on 2008-04-05
In Reply to: Sure it's easy to get addicted - puffing away
and since I'm not an addict, I can see clearly. Smoking makes no sense, which is why people are trying to educate children, who then assume you don't understand the risks and try to educate you. Logic states that if you understood the problems tobacco causes, you would not smoke. That is why kids are kind to you and try to educate you on the subject.
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If you are not a smoker you will be able to smell - sm
it on him a mile away. Obviously if you smoke you won't be able to smell it, and also the odds are he will smoke too (that is if you do). If you don't smoke it is possible he is telling the truth, as for punishment for having them the obvious answer is to withhold something he loves for a couple of weeks, whether it is TV, or afterschool activities, or video games, or driving if he has a learner's permit. Good luck.
When I (a non-smoker) would volunteer
in one of my children's classrooms I could always tell which children lived in homes where there were smokers. Not only from their clothes, but from their backpacks as well. My parents smoked when I was a child but quit many years ago. Even now I am embarassed by the fact of what I must have smelled like when I went to school. Sorry you had to endure the party, but now you will be able to stand your ground better and make wiser choices for yourself even it someone might be offended.
He is both a smoker and a loser...
She's on the pill, has been for around a year or so...I'm also concerned about the psychological impact this will have on her later on down the road. I hate to know she will have to live with this regret, which I know will happen, because I've been there myself.
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I am a smoker (until my Chantix kicks in) already sm
lost 14.5 pounds and 14 inches, going for a goal of 25 pounds, that way when I quit, and if I can the average 12.5 pounds, it won't matter. I will still be down in weight and a NONSMOKER. However, I do not smoke in my house, other people's houses or cars. That is just RUDE. I at least have some decency with my smoking
Along with other husband, used to be very heavy smoker
and as a smoker you don’t really know just how stinky the place, your clothes, everything is until you stop. I do not think you will be able to get smoke out of the furniture, walls etc until it is no longer around. I probably would try cat litter, vinegar and water in bowls around the house, airing the home out if you can and I have boiled water and added spices such as cinnamon sticks - sure beats the smoke smell.
Is there a way to get smoker's smell out of a house?
I found this amazing place to live across from the beach (the only reason I moved to where I moved) that is affordable and totally decent. Two male roommates that are totally awesome, i have already been welcomed into their family (they are cousins). The problem is they have smoked inside the condo... I asked them about it and they said they had no problem smoking outside. Two questions: Is it wrong to ask them to? and second, is there even a point if I cannot get that smell to ever go away? I REALLY am trying to look into any possibility because ive been looking for months for something EXACTLY like this, i dont think it comes available often...
Thank you for any suggestions
So does my cat. She is overweight. Actually,
xx
Thanks - other than being overweight
He's healthy. He could stand to lose about 50 pounds (but I could stand to lose about 75 pounds) I understand the question of Alzheimers/dementia. I didn't make that real clear in my last post. It's not stories that he repeats over and over, its just what he wants to do. Like he'll come out and say he thinks we should move to another location (larger town where there is more work), then he'll come in 5 minutes later with all this stuff he found on where he thinks we should move to, then about a half hour later he'll come in talking about the same area, and 1/2 hour later comes in telling me more stuff about the area. To me it's a repeat over and over and over. This is all while in the middle of me trying to work, then he gets mad and says I'm not interested cos he's the only one finding the info and I have to be involved blah, blah, blah. So, it's not really a repeat of stories like that, just more of a discussion of the same topic over and over and over. But I understand exactly what you were thinking. If it could only be that easy. I've had close family members (an aunt had dementia, and a grandfather had Alzheimer's) and I helped family take care of them and I'll tell you...that was a lot easier than this is. It's probably harder because he doesn't have them and he thinks he's sane and this is normal. I did tell him once, fine, lets pack up everything up the following week and move and then he got all p!ssy at me and told me forget it if I was going to have that attitude. I said to him all I keep saying is lets take a drive there, lets do more research, then make the move wisely and not just jump. As for the other issues of doom and gloom and end of the world scenarios...well I told him life has to go on and that's what I told him. I always hear people say prepare for the worst and hope for the best (think that was in a movie), but I just can't live like everything is going to end in the next couple days. There has got to be some hope.
Being overweight. I'm not
happy with the way I look or feel & am very self-conscious about it.
Being overweight sure is a choice, just like sm
smoking cigarettes or doing drugs is a choice. If you are making the right food choices, exercising, drinking water, or even following a Weight Watcher's plan, you will lose weight, unless you have a problem with one of your organs where you retain "water weight". I, quite frankly, am tired of people sitting around asking "how do I lose weight" when they are not making good food choices and not staying active? If you have trouble with arthritis, then you can do aqua therapy (get in a pool even if it is heated). Anything that gets your heart rate up is exercise. The "government" is not at the grocery store holding your hand or at that fast food restaurant making you buy those burgers. I'm sorry, but that is JMO. 
Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight.
Pay more attention to who he is checking out/drooling over on TV - bet it isn't Roseann Barr or Camryn Manheim! lol
I have a very overweight beagle....sm
She just went to the vet the other day and he didn't seem too concerned. She weighed 40 pounds. She weighed 30 before being spayed. I told him she barely eats much. There is no way the weight can come from overeating. He said she is fixed right? I said yes. He said well that happens sometimes. They gain a lot of weight due to the hormone changes. I knew it had to be that cause she didn't get like that until we had her spayed. So I figured that was it and it is. So he said not really much you can do. She is very lazy though. My husband said put her out in the backyard and make her get some exercise. Well the backyard is fenced in so I put her back there and she lays out in the grass and looks at me after going potty. I said come on get up and play. She just looks at me like I can be lazy inside or lazy outside but I am going to be lazy. LOL
I was "only" 65 lbs overweight with 2nd pregnancy...
but I was so horribly ill with 24-hour morning sickness that I walked out of the hospital 12 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I certainly wouldn't recommend that method of weight loss! I was in and out of the hospital the entire time of my pregnancy for dehydration and IVs. Every moment of that pregnancy was a struggle with food; thinking about it, trying to keep it down, worrying about the baby.
In the end, it worked out. He was born 2 weeks early and was 8 lbs, 2 ozs. Within 24 hours I was eating like a horse again, and I was great while nursing for 6 months. But eventually, the glory days of eating and not gaining weight were gone. Now, 17 years after that pregnancy, I'm 80 pounds overweight. Sigh.
Why do very overweight/obese women
wear tops that show all the bulges and fat rolls that they have. It does not look good and I just do not get it. It looks like the tops are about 2-3 times too small. Any answers on this?
Both my mom and aunt have had very good success with it. My mom, smoker for over 40 years, quit cold
turkey and says Chantix is the best drug out there - she tried everything!
I see that there are mixed feelings about this drug as with all drugs. Works for some and doesn't work that well with others. Sorry to hear about their experience!
I am confident but also overweight and I have the common sense
to not wear clothing that I look like a sausage in. I have upper arms that do not look good in short sleeves so I do not wear. I do not think it has anything to do with confidence, I definitely am not short on that and admire myself in good looking clothes but I know what and what does not fit properly. Any woman who likes her fat rolls showing, her midrift bulging and several different bellies hanging down all at once does not ooze confidence to me, rather seems like they are insecure and dressing so maybe someone might notice.
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
I agree, depends on face shape....I'm not overweight
but I have a fat face! lol
I agree! Many kids are overweight, lazy and don't want to work hard for anything!
Good luck to them in the working world...how many do you think will actually do well? It's a scary thought.
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