I'm not letting my kids get a real
Posted By: mtroadie on 2008-03-30
In Reply to: I think parents give up too easily - Z
tattoo. If they decide they want a tattoo, it will have to wait until they're 18 and pay for it themselves. I said they are saving for the airbrush tattoos at the beach. They wear off after about 6 weeks and there's no permanent damage, no needles, just airbrush.
I think sometimes parents don't choose their battles wisely and that causes more problems than the issue itself.
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Well...I am always nervous about letting my kids do things like that (sm)
But I usually let them do it. However, it would depend on the parents. I mean if the guy reeks of alcohol - how bad? Do you mean he drinks a beer or two on the weekends or is he a drunk? Will he be driving your son in a car or boat? If so, I would not be comfortable with that. I have said no at times if I am uncomfortable for a reason, but I always have to think it through and see if there is real danger or if I am just being me - a worry wart. I would find out if that dad is going, if he will be driving the car, if he will be driving a boat, etc. and make my decision from that.
Get real. Cave kids said this, I bet.
asdf
kids like your daughter are real and decent; I know many just like her.
nm
If you tell your kids that Santa Claus is real
I don't have children but I have a friend who has children and she told my sister never to lie to her children (my niece & nephew are 5 mos. old) "it's the worse thing you can do" "if they find out you lied there will be consequences" and other remarks like that.
We were talking the other day and without even thinking we were talking about how Uncle Joey usually dresses as Santa but this year we might want to ask his son to take over and our friends child heard our discussion.
Well, she got so mad because we were insensitive to her daughter and "we don't discuss such things in front of the children"
Come to find out that her kids all think Santa is real. The oldest is 17, well, I'm sure he probably figured it out by now BUT she does not know that
So I wondered if she is lying to her children by telling them santa claus is real?
Sounds like YOU picked a real loser to sleep around with and have kids with.
You have no one to blame but yourself.
he's not a real person, but that feeling is real - the magic. nm
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Thank you for letting us
know the child survived. I didn't want to look up the story.
The initial post should have not only put the post in the message but also don't just drop a bomb like that and then walk away.
letting go
I am so excited for your son. What an awesome opportunity.
My daughter is a bit younger and she had an opportunity to go to Central America (which is closer and safer I know) for the summer on a mission trip. I received a LOT of negative feedback from family and friends for letting her go, especially since she is under 16, but she had an opportunity to be part of something bigger than her "what do I wear today" kind of life. She loves God and feels called to the mission field and I am sure this summer was her first of many trips.
I know it will be a real stretch for you as a parent, as it was me, but I had to trust that she belongs to God before me and God could keep her safer than I could. She loved it and grew as a person and as a Christian.
Hope that helps. I will be praying for your family.
Thank you for letting me know - NM
NM
Calling when going somewhere and letting you know
she arrived safely is one thing. Teaching a child that forgetting something once in a while is some horrible thing is another story all together. We ALL, and I do mean ALL, forget things from time to time. I don't care how many lists you make, how organized you are or anything else, we all forget things. It may be a coat, something on our list that we made or somebody's birthday, but we ALL forget things. My children did learn from their mistakes but, once again, not from cruelty, but simply because it was a life lesson. They are both wonderful you adults who work full time jobs and are responsible people. While they had guidelines and rules to follow and knew and reaped the consequences of not following the rules set before them, we did not rule with an iron thumb. We knew they were human and would make mistakes along the way and learn from them. Sorry this was so long, but this type of treatment of children really makes me sad. I wanted my children to know that I loved them more than I wanted to rule them. They still respect me and I talk to both of them several times a week and have a wonderful relationship. 
This is all about forgiveness and letting go
Obviously your husband has some deep hurts and a lot of anger. Forgiveness is the key. I know it's a lot easier said than done but it benefits the person doing the forgiving, not the "forgivee". It doesn't mean he is condoning what was done to him. Maybe the stepfather is doing the best he knows how, who knows. We all have our issues. Your husband does need to work on his anger and not bring the kids into it though. Prayers for your hubby and your family. 
Also if you stay away you are letting him win(sm)
As that seems to be his goal -I would not let him keep me from seeing the rest of my family. However, I also would not want my children exposed to his mouth, so if you cannot stay in a hotel,I would go and visit without your children, which I do sometimes as well. I see my family about twice a year, usually once by myself and once with the kids, at which time we stay in a hotel.
Appreciate your letting us know - mine is scheduled
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I'm sure he says those things while you're letting
It's not a mistake if you plan on letting him
do that every night. Believe me I know. We've had several dogs over the years and every single time we've given in and let them on the furniture or bed just one time - they take it as a sign that they are welcome there all the time. Now we have 3 LARGE dogs who think they need to sleep in our bed every night. :)
In my opinion - your first mistake is letting your son live with her sm
and you having "no say about it". Huh! You are his mother aren't you?
Not trying to be rude, I most certainly would not have any of my kids living with an "ex- anything" and only living with me. 15 and the teens for that matter are very tender ages and need their parents guidance in all aspects of their lives.
I have a 15 year old and 17 year old, both very athletic, and neither would live with a family member or ex-family member just for a sport.
Believe it or not - sports are not everything, but academic achieves are. We are in the hunt for colleges as my 17 y/o is a senior in high school. Guess what, they don't care if they play sports - they want their GPA, rigor of their courses and their grades, as well as SAT scores. Even if a scholarship is offered, in my case, football, they still need to meet requirements.
So, I would re-think the teen's living arrangements if I were his mother.
Letting person finish sentence
My hubs has called it to my attention several times that I do this to him. I really love, admire and cherish him and I am glad he has not given up on me like some of the above state. It is not done intentionally but I think sometime he sorta stammers and huh, huh it 1 time too much and then here I rush in. Oh, well I am an Aries and I want things done yesterday!
hold on....letting adults paddle my kid?
nm
I am not letting my young teen marry an old man.
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I agree with letting him go...if there are no children involved (sm)
and you are still young, get out now while you can. Don't wait like I did. I was married to someone very similar for 15 years and finally separated, but now I am older and I have two children who rely on me. I would much rather have left him early on, found someone new, and have children with a stable home.
Letting a child about Santa isn't lying, sheesh
Telling about Santa isn't lying, it's a rite of childhood for millions of kids, as is the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. I see no harm in giving my children hope in something so good as Santa. I don't remember being crushed as a child when I found out about Santa, I only remember the joy of waking up on Christmas morning to a full stocking and the anticipation of waiting for the big guy. We were so poor that I don't know how we ever had a Christmas but somehow there were always gifts from Santa, to me that's what he's about, not lying but believing.
People take really strange things far too literally, takes the fun out of the simple things in my opinion.
Someone putting that many demands on a gift is taking advantage of you, and you are letting them. nm
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of course it's real!!! It's all real, hence the title
gross
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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If all this is for real...
I can't imagine that you haven't ripped her superior little head off! What a nerve this woman has. Stand up for you and your child. She is NO better than you are just because you chose to raise your children differently than she did! I am more like you, in raising my children that is, they do not have a lot of structured activities...my 7 YO just wants to be a kid and play! I don't force him to play with anyone he doesn't want to...and you shouldn't feel like you have to force your child to play with anyone he doesn't want to.
Take a stand against this woman...tell her what you think and let it go...what's she gonna do, ground you?
Definitely real.
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Up and real
We've had ours up since the day after Thanksgiving along with all the inside and outside of the house decorated at the same time.
let's see, what is more REAL,
googling something
or experiencing with knowledge 1st hand???
Real Dad
My husband met his real Dad after 20 years of searching. We live on the East coast. His Dad lives on the West coast. My MIL did not want him him meeting his Dad for the same reason.
I can tell you this, his Dad was very receptive of him. He answered some questions that neither my MIL nor anyone else could answer. It was a nice reunion.
Please disregard your mother's opinion at this point because she is probably scorn and feels you should feel the same way. It just doesn't work that way with the child that wants to know their Dad. My husband didn't care what his Dad was like, but he wanted to see him and talk to him.
He now only talks to him occasionally, but I can say that my hubby sleeps much better at night and has learned acceptable, which has really helped emotionally with this struggle he has had all of these years wanting to know his Dad.
Even if you just write a letter explaining that you just wanted to know who he was and to make sure he is safe! Holding grudges and putting a lot of emotional junk out there at first is sort of a turn-off in my opinion, but in time, you'll find your answers.
Good luck to you, and so glad you at least know he's safe and has a family that loves him, albeit he left out on you. Hold those kinds of feelings in your heart instead of holding grief or demeaning feelings because the "good stuff" lasts longer and doesn't cause as much heartache!
Take care and God Bless!
Is this for real?
This could be anybody...and probably is NOT a young expecting couple, I'd bet...wow, how unbelievable.. BTW, how did you find this? Just curious. Guess I'm just not very Internet savvy, cause I can't find anything worth looking at out there...
Get real
It is unrealistic to expect parents to pick up a high schooler - chances are both parents work.
You are missing the point here - the schools are not doing job!!!! Kids don't feel safe at school because they are not safe - and that's the fault of we adults. We have to demand better accountability from the school officials, including the school board. Even if it means some of the Dads - or Moms if they feel qualified - patrol the school themselves as a voluntary security force. It's pathetic that our kids have to even think about protecting themselves from other kids, but that is the world we have handed over to them.
HomeMT, I applaud you for protesting your child's suspenson. I think she should be allowed to carry the pepper spray. I would get her into a self-defense class, too, just so she can learn some other methods of protecting herself. This doesn't have to martial arts, but there are 1 and 2 hour classes where they can teach you methods to protect yourself from an attacke from behind, etc. All female children should have this trainng.
I am about as real as it gets
I am putting the truth out there and if some don’t like, nothing I can do about it. No one, including this girl, is allowed to have any sort of pepper spray, knives, guns, paper cutters and if you think children are not being suspended for just having drawings, then you are not listening to the world around you. A 15 year old knows right from wrong about school issues. I do not see this parent getting anything reversed. Her child was wrong in having it and if the parent bought for her to take to school, they are wrong as well. You should read my post because I said either she or someone else pick up the child if safety is such an issue. I think in high school most children hate riding the yellow bus and would rather walk,drive or be driven to school and usually is the case now. I hold the parents resonsible for the sad state of affairs with the schools- too much pampering with Johnny and Janie. The kids have no respect for their teachers nor for their own selves.
I am not real sure about this, but---sm
I have seen advertisements for the newer digital type hearing aides that run around $1500 for each ear. good luck.
Get real
This guy doesn't need a kidney - he has taken a new job and has to learn a new route. The mom should leave him alone - if he isn't smart or resourceful enough to contact the vast number of resources that NYC has to offer tourists and new city dwellers on how to get around in Manhattan, then he isn't smart enough to have that job.
For crying out loud, some of you women just won't let go of your little boys.
I think you are for real. .
I believe what you see is for real. . I don't see these things to this extent. just a little. I think it must be a gift. though we can't undernstand it fully. . .
Are they for real?
 I can't imaging a service posting a pay of 5 to 7 cents per line - I wonder how many people can (or would) work for that??
Yep - this would be for real and actually
I did take today off to drink it up with jose and lay in the pool all day not giving a flip anymore!
get real
rent here in Miami for a studio is 2K a month - I drive my car to the store twice a month stock up and live on about $300 a month for groceries -- BTW furnished room too for $575 (small kitchenette, full bath and living/bedroom area) so quit griping and realize how lucky SOME of you do have it -- BTW - Im single, and even s/o who does not live with me has had problems with money lately -- we are both "stressing" but surviving
so you babies need to grow up and quit griping and working a weekend, 2 or 3 wouldn't hurt either.
Yes they did! And I have a real one and I
If you go on e bay, please don't get the felt ones which are fake. You need to get a real one. Though the vintage collectors (which I am) will pay top-dollar. I took a lot of time to find one and it is real wool and I love to wear it. The crinoline underneath can be found on e bay and you can put in the search as square dancing crinoline, or crinoline. Make sure it does not go below the skirt much like the wedding dress crinolines, 2 different things.
I do suggest e bay, but do not look under costumes. Look under vintage poodle skirt and make sure that your mom or someone who knows the real thing from the fake. If you are going to spend money, don't waste it. Also you can get saddle shoes, (white and black tie shoes). Believe it or not, I wear it around (I live in Florida) and may elderly women stop me and so do their husbands to thank them for the memories. BTW: Friskyfrocks vintage is one vendor on e bay who knows all about crinolines. You can e mail her and ask her anything you want to know. She is very honest. Her name is Nellie. Tell her Diane from Florida sent you. Good luck!
Are you for real?
That "all woman" robot will never experience menopause either, so why would anyone suggest she take a pill? Bashing hormones and birth control pills and feminism? I'm not sure where that all came from out of a simple question about menopause or how you even can put all of that together. Just like every woman's PMS, giving birth, work, family, marriage, etc experiences are different, so are the experiences of menopause. For those who can get through them all gracefully and without problems, I say you go girl! But for those who can't, I say if a man came up with a pill that will make all the discomfort go away, he's my new best friend. And phooey on you if you just don't get that not everyone can be (or wants to be) an "all natural girl." That doesn't make us any less "all woman" or our husbands "all man." Bravo to the women who have reached out and asked for help - too many of us don't until it's too late or we've agonized for too long. Deenibeeni, take a bow - you've earned the applause!!!
There's no real need to tell them . . .
imo, that may open the door for them to rationalize that behavior. My son's 13-year-old friend was over the other night telling us the stories that his dad and grandpa had done as a kid (fairly wild). He thought it was hilarious. This boy was thinking it was pretty cool and my husband and I both shared the thought "What's he going to do to outdo dad and grandpa?" It's okay to admit you're not perfect and you made mistakes, but to tell them might just justify it to them. We told our children drinking is an adult decision and when they are adults they can make that decision but for now it is illegal and big trouble. We also told them what consequences they would face if they were even around kids drinking. My kids love sports too much to take that chance. sex is a tougher issue, but we've explained it is also an adult situation that should not be brought into their child lives until they are adults. That is an ongoing conversation right now . . .
oh get real, because
you can find it in print does not make it true...
For real? or something VR came up with?
For real...
I grew up in the ྌs, graduated in ྒྷ...and I didn't know 1 person who did drugs. Never saw them being dealt at school, no guns, knives, etc., brought to school. the only pregnant girl in our school had to stay in 1 classroom all day. Now it's like a status symbol to be pregnant...go figure right!
Real Tree
We just put our tree up today. A 10 footer that we paid $35 for which I thought was a great deal. We used to have an artificial tree until our cat started eating the needles (she won't touch the real needles). She got really sick (the needles stayed in her stomach) and she had to have an emergency operation. No more artificial tree from then on.
Real tree
I'll never do fake.
real tree
not bought, but hunted for; we love the smell of cedar throughout the house!
PDR not real MT-friendly....IMO
the best drug books are the quick reference styles specifically made for MT - and now some come on CD making it even quicker/easier. The Quick Look Drug Book CD is my favorite.
You got it!!! I am so real, it's scary *LOL*
And I never tried to push my upbringing/religion onto anybody ever in life and now I'm not into organized religion but very into G_D! And I would never push my ways down anyone else's gullet.
Never had a cat before? You are in for a real treat (sm)
Cats are just so cool. I have 3 dogs and my 20 year old cat just died in Feb. They work their way into your heart just like dogs do, but in many ways are so much easier to deal with. And they have this way of looking at you when you give them the "wrong" food that day, like you have just totally lost your mind. If you're gone for a few days, your dogs will be so excited to see you when you get back. Cats will act like they don't care, and are just so uninterested that you came back (till an hour or so later when they decide to "forgive" you. As you can probably see, I miss my baby. Best of luck with yours.
Well, hello, this is the real world
and a company is in business to make money. They care less about a sick child at home, that is your responsibility, not theirs and they are completely right in telling you to get someone to watch her or else your job is on the line. That is called business but at the same time you are complaining about bleeding so much, you are wanting to go on a field trip? I do not think you have your priorities in line - that is if you want to work or maybe just quit then you could go to see about your almost passing out, feeling weak, dizzy, go on the field trip with your child - oh I almost forgot, without the income you might not be able to do the things you want. Up to you really..
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