I'm kinda in the same boat

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It was damned if you do, damned if you don't.  Nerves were on edge all the time. I really wish you the best. 

Here's what I did: I took our two kids and got OUT before he killed all of us. I have never looked back, never regretted having to work two and three jobs to support us.  It wasn't easy, we struggled, but we were SO much happier not having to tippy-toe around him anymore.

Kids are grown now. My son sees his dad, still tries to please him, very sad. Daughter has NOTHING to do with him and won't let her daughter see him.

Sorry didn't mean to turn this into a rant or a book, it just struck a chord with me.

Not saying that's what you should do at all, just that's what I did. I will say a prayer for you all. And for those of us who have survived it. God help us.

I am pretty much in the same situation and can relate to what you are going through.  My problems with debt started because I decided to quit a job making 45,000/yr to do medical transcription in which I am lucky if I make 20,000/yr.  I could not keep up with my own personal bills and instead of confiding in my husband, I put bills on my credit cards and every payperiod swore to myself that my paycheck would increase, but easier said than done since I do VR and the pay stinks.  My husband thinks MTing is ridiculous for the pay and hard work we do.  I was insisting upon staying with it and had too much pride to let him know I could not pay my own personal bills.  When I did finally tell him he was upset that I would put myself in debt, knowing that as a couple, our debts affect each other.  I am now seeking help from CCCS, a counseling service that has a very good reputation.  Just make sure you pick a reputable, nonprofit agency, and they will put you on the right track back to financial stability.  Needless to say, I am going back to the work I used to do and doing MTing on the side.

Best of luck to you!

He has more (material things) than you do and most men of 60s+.  He has a home that he has worked to own -- not given to him!  Material things do not mean much to me, however.  I make my own living.  He has an engineering and Masters degree.  How many degrees do you have?  He is very athletic!  He has had olympic training.  He is a wonderful man who MANY of you would desire and don't have.  He knows that pleases a woman and EXACTLY what he wants in life.

Most important to me is that he expresses that he is a "God-fearing" man.  There is NOTHING in life more important to me than that!

He has no kids -- not a priority in life for him.  He is too wonderful to describe!  I know more about him than you will ever know about your partner, because we COMMUNICATE. 

Sorry for your skepticism.  But I will take it with a grain of salt, as it deserves to be taken. 

This man is an open book -- but not only that, but he hides nothing. 

WOW is all I can say about him !  Have never met a man like this in my entire life!  He wants to please me, and he is certainly capable of doing that.

He has more (material things) than you do and most men of 60s+.  He has a home that he has worked to own -- not given to him!  Material things do not mean much to me, however.  I make my own living.  He has an engineering and Masters degree.  How many degrees do you have?  He is very athletic!  He has had olympic training.  He is a wonderful man who MANY of you would desire and don't have.  He knows that pleases a woman and EXACTLY what he wants in life.

Most important to me is that he expresses that he is a "God-fearing" man.  There is NOTHING in life more important to me than that!

He has no kids -- not a priority in life for him.  He is too wonderful to describe!  I know more about him than you will ever know about your partner, because we COMMUNICATE. 

Sorry for your skepticism.  But I will take it with a grain of salt, as it deserves to be taken. 

This man is an open book -- but not only that, but he hides nothing. 

WOW is all I can say about him !  Have never met a man like this in my entire life!  He wants to please me, and he is certainly capable of doing that.

bright side. But, like he said tonight, he's leery of the car even though everything looks great. We're the kind of people who buy something after thinking it over for a long time, and even when we do that, it turns out to be a dud.  This time, he bought it after crawling underneath, checking the engine, taking it for a ride, and even checking the trunk out, yet he's afraid, as I am, it will turn out to be a dud again.

We just have no luck. For instance, he plays a daily number every day. It's always off 1 digit, yet if he doesn't play, that very number he might have played would come up straight. See what I mean?

I've been with him since 1965 with a break of 2 years in between, so I know about being alone and single. You will find your Prince Charming (if there is such a thing anymore) someday. Just have to keep looking in the right places. I wish you luck and happiness.

I guess I'm just asking everyone to keep your fingers crossed for us that something will turn out right for a change.

Funny because I am close to getting a divorce and was just thinking about this type of thing all day myself.

My son is 9-1/2 and he got an Easter basket from me and from his grandma today. My daughter is 7 - she turned 7 yesterday - had a big party and still got an Easter basket from me and her grandma today.  They both had toys and candy in them - and muscial toothbrushes and new toothpaste ;-) from me.  It doesn't matter at all if her birthday is near Easter - has nothing to do with it.  And she is not too old!!!

Eating candy around holidays will not cause cavities - they come from poor dental hygiene and eating bad foods regularly.  So, can't blame that on the Easter basket. 

You are creating a feeling of competition that doesn't have to be there.  If you love her, be glad for her that so many people love her.  When I finally go through with my divorce, I want as many loving relationships as possible in my children's lives, whether I am comfortable with it or not, because I love them and I want them to be happy.  Shouldn't you feel the same for your granddaughter?

Dog the Bounty Hunter, with less cursing and more humor!  No joke, first few times I watched Dog I was going "oh my gosh, Stephanie Plum!!"  Books are getting so expensive these days I hesitate to buy anything new anymore, but by golly, I'll buy ANYTHING by Janet Evanovich, especially the Stephanie Plum series.  I recommend them to anyone I meet who likes to read. 

So...who is pulling for Ranger and who is pulling for Morelli?  Joe's cool and all but I tell ya - Ranger has it going on!  I really, really, really wanna see Stephanie hook up with him.  I just have the feeling that Morelli is gonna cheat on her...just a matter of time.  What do you all think?

I am seriously in need of some help and I know it.  I am so depressed that I cannot function anymore.  My income is down so much that I am getting ready to be evicted from my rental (after losing my home earlier in the year), I am by myself all the time because I have to stay chained to this computer to try to get work as it comes in.  I took an inhouse job, but figured out tonight that after gas money and buying clothes to wear to work that I am only making about $60 in 6 hours and I can do that in 2 if I am at home in front of this darn computer.  However, my expenses are based on $200 a day!

I am crying all the time about everything.  I can't help it.  I have cried my way through 2 hours of typing tonight..  I am short tempered, the littlest things set me off.

I don't want to kill myself, but I don't think it would be a big loss "waking up dead". 

I have no insurance so I cannot go to the doctor...

I have no relationship with my parents or my sisters anymore (have not spoken to any of them since Thanksgiving day).  My children are driving me crazy.  My son is irresponsible and out in the streets (he's 19) and I worry about what is going to happen to him and feel responsible for providing him a place to live even though he is not working.

My daughter works and has 2 kids and I feel bad because right now I cannot mentally, physically, or financially be a good "nana" to my grandbabies.  Then, my daughter just called me tonight and told me that she is having a LEAP emergently and that the doctor said he is going to have to take so much it would be dangerous for her to ever have children so he is going to do a tubal while he is there...  this just serves to remind me that I was supposed to be having paps every 3 months for precancer and so far it has been over 3 years because I lost my insurance and cannot afford to go to the doctor - or pay for the treatments required if I do go - and now if I got insurance, it would all be preexisting anyway...

My checking account is overdrawn by $600 because Dish network put a hold on $500 while waiting on their equipment to be returned and I did not know they were going to do that, so now the stuff that was already outstanding is bouncing and I will be probably be $1000 in the hole before it is all over...

I don't know if too much else can go wrong, but I can't handle too much more and I need some calgon or something -

sorry to unload, but ya'll are all I have right now...

Okay, we have had a problem with mice.  H set some traps and we caught some but everytime I cooked something in the oven it stunk.  So, I have not used the oven.  H finally had time to remove the top part of the stove and found the problem.  On top of the oven, underneath where the burners are, (that part) there were dead mice.  He said babies.  The insulation on top of the oven is gone.  He doesn't know really what to do.  He tried to get insulation from the hardware store, but was told that insulation that you use in houses won't do.  He went to a place where they fix stoves and sell used ones and they say that if it smells like mice, they chunk them.  I asked H if they were just saying that to sell us one of theirs.  He said he did not know and he did not want think he can eat another meal cooked on that stove.  We cannot really afford payments on a new one and  he said not one of theirs is below $200 used.  I told him well, maybe we should just rely on the crock pot and the microwave for a while.  I can also can fry eggs on my waffle iron.  Man, I have got cakes, bread, cookies that I so wanted to bake.  H wanted to make a pizza but when I reminded him we did not have an oven, his face fell.   It is missed terribly. 

He did find some holes in the wall behind the stove where they (Mice) gnawed through the wall and is getting some foam as we speak, write... 

What would you do?  Right now, I am trying to think of things I can sell. 

I happened to catch that piece last night....What an inspiration his mother has been and what a bright, joyful, optimistic young man....He'll do well out there in the world.  Cat