I'm glad there are people to defend us (sm)
Posted By: Just me on 2007-08-30
In Reply to: My 19-year-old daughter wants to join the Army. I'm very scared at the thought. Any advice out th - Scared mom
and, I am somewhat ashamed to admit it, but if it was my child I would not want them to be in the military right now.
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I agree! I could puke to hear people defend that name.
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Glad he had good people for the end. I know he appreciated it.
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Glad you work at home and not subjecting people to have to pretend they like working with you.
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Wow, you are always ready to defend
your lack of self-control. If you have to use a credit card you CAN'T afford it. If you have to finance it, other than a house, you CAN'T afford it. When you use a CC you are not using your money, you are using someone else's. Just accept that some have a different opinion than you and you will get a negative reaction from time to time.
I definitely would not defend him..... women are too
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I don't want to flame you, but I want to defend us northerners
I'm from the Philadelphia area, and I was taught to write thank-you notes. My parents were poor as dirt, too. I've been to weddings in the south and have had the same experience with lack of formal thank you notes. I'm a bit older than you, almost 50, and I truly believe this is a generational issue. I haven't seen a really decent thank you note from anyone under age 40 for years. The advent of emails, text messages, etc., could be part of it. And, I wouldn't mind at all a simple email from nieces and nephews for birthday gifts, etc. But I suppose I'm very old-fashioned. I think when the gift-giving occasion is formal, then the gift acknowledgment should be formal, i.e., a hand written note for a wedding gift.
Simple civility has fallen by the wayside in recent years and in many parts of the country. Young people need to learn that saying thank you is important. How do we do that, though, if their parents don't think it's important? Those of us who value politeness know that it's rude to ask someone, "Where is my thank you note!" So we don't. We can stop giving gifts, which I have done, as well. But most of the time, the person who didn't receive a gift doesn't make the connection that the gifts are no longer coming because there is no show of appreciation. Instead, they whine about Aunt So-and-So being a cheapskate. I'm thoroughly shocked when engaged couples send out wedding invitations making specific requests for honeymoon donations or "We have all the things we need, so money is preferred." (Yes, I've received those requests.) It's appalling. It's as if they are running their own personal Jerry Lewis Telethon to benefit their bank accounts.
We've just lost "it", and I don't think it will ever come back. But if you are currently raising young children, now is the time to teach them. I love the tactful way your MIL taught you, and I will do that, as well, if the occasion should arise with my soon-to-be DIL. Hopefully, the message will be taught to others as wonderfully as it has been to you.
you can give the people the facts, but the decision making process should be left to the people
This is what our country is founded on FREEDOM OF CHOICE! I'm laughing already; you are just as mortal as the rest of us, and don' even attempt to that you've never done anything in your lifetime that was unsafe or unhealthy. NOT gonna buy it.
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt.
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying "walk a mile in my shoes" is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
I get frustrated by the double standard they use when judging people. They let certain people go sa
What do you think about the voting process?
People who go around calling other people "low class"
have their own issues in life. Ignore them. Nothing like a misplaced superiority complex to make a person feel good about themselves. Like they've never done anything gauche or made a faux pas. It must be nice for them to be so perfect and live in a glass house.
For that matter, you probably saved your piggy's life by popping that mondo zit! It could have gotten infected or something.... (yes, I have a zit popping fixation myself, but you were really descriptive on that pig zit. gag LOL)
Man, you would have appreciated the time one of my relative's popped a HUGE cyst on her face. I was standing right next to her at the time and leaned back because I knew it was going to blow. It did! Big time! All over the wall, mirror and light fixture. I'm still disgusted by the thought of it 10 years later. LOL In a revering kind of way...
some people did, some people didn't. It's their choice.
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If this helps...I know people who know people (sm)
who can make people disappear. 
Not really--I'd be lyin' if I said I never thought such things though! ;-)
IME, people don't feel sorry for fat people either
They actually have less sympathy than they do for people who have substance abuse, IME.
At any rate, I do feel sorry for Britney but the safety of her children should be everyone's first priority, then her safety. It would seem to me that all these hangers-on she has are jeopardizing that safety. It's all just very sad.
Glad everything is okay! nm
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Wow...Glad your not my mom!
Life is way to short. I had a stepmother like you. Once I lost my mittens and it was freezing outside and I had to walk. This wench actually got in her car, found me on my way to school in a snow storm and took the mismtached pair that I had found in a box. She was an awful woman and I never saw her again after I was 16 and left the house. I hope she has as miserable a life now as she deserves. Don't be a petty witch with your children. They will resent you in the end, may be even slash your perfect tires....
Glad to help!
I never really watched Frasier. I know, my loss from what I hear. Sounds very funny! Will have to start watching the reruns :)
glad i'm not you
Well aren't you just a ray of sunshine and full of compassion. It's not always about the almighty dollar. You get what you give in life and that includes taking care of ALL of God's creatures. You have no heart.
Glad I did it
I never went to the ER (I have to be almost dead before I go), so I suffered about 4 episodes before I went to the doctor. I didn't know what it was. Each attack got worse. After the last one, which was horribly painful, I went to the doctor,and didn't hesitate to get surgery done. I had a "rock garden", the tech called it. It was PACKED with stones! I had to wait almost 2 months. I was so afraid to eat I lost 12 pounds in 2 weeks! No exercise either! THAT was easy! Having never been in a hospital before as a patient, nor even having had any kind of procedure, the anticipation of the surgery was MUCH worse than the procedure. But I was a healthy person with no previous surgeries. I had almost no pain after, and took it easy. I went back to work after 3 days. I don't know what the risk would be with your recent surgery. It's something to talk out FULLY with your doctor.
You'll make the right decision.
I am soo glad it's
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I'm glad you did. (nm)
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Glad to see you came out okay!
Was your dad in the picture, by the way? You said it depends a lot on the parent, which is true, but it seems you did well for yourself on your own without much help from your mom. I have always believed that kids are born with their own set personality and demeanor, and that the parents can help foster good kids and teach them right from wrong along the way. Seems you were born a good seed.
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this is the only thing I miss about an office setting - someone always knew answers when I didn't. Home Depot, here I come! I was going to build chicken wire cages around them, but it is chipmunks that won't help either.
I had them done and am glad I did...sm
In high school I had allergy testing done which showed I was allergic to dust and mold, and we were able to control my symptoms by making changes around the house to cut down on these (i.e. plastic mattress and pillow covers).
A few years ago I developed other allergic symptoms and had food testing done which revealed that I have 3 allergies to chemicals in foods, and once I eliminated those food sources the problems went immediately away.
Good luck to you. Not everyone who has allergies needs allergy shots, but if you do they should help you. Even my dog had allergy shots and they helped her significantly!
So glad for you - sm
It's so hard for the families to not hear anything for such long periods of time.
I completely understand.
Prayers for your nephew as well as all of our servicemen and women.
Glad I Could Help
I was channeling my 4 year old. LOL.
Glad I could help a bit.
It is definitely going to be longer than 2 weeks though. Not sure on the recovery time for a vaginal so I would ask your doctor. Hopefully, your situation can be resolved without it. Again, good luck.
I'm so glad you took her
and the vet did the right tests. I'm sure you'll both be feeling much better now.
Oh, me too, so glad to see others. (nm)
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Glad to help :)
I joined one of those DVD clubs to start my collection. I mostly buy the movies I know I will watch over and over again.
There are only certain movies you can do that with and these are some of them for me.
Enjoy!
Glad you are doing well too! (sm)
I also have to remind myself I have it because I am fine. Sometimes I wish I didn't even know about it! I only got tested because I knew I was at risk. So you have had it about 8 years or so longer than me, and still doing great so that's really good!
I'm so glad she seems to be doing well
If she were in serious pain, she would let you know. You love her enough to do the right thing for her. So let her tell you when she is ready. Until then, treasure each moment with her.
Glad she's a little better
She'll definitely know when she's ready. I had posted before that I had lost my cat back in March. I'm still not over. Like one of the other posters, before she died, I think she had a stroke. She died at home. Just be there for her. On her last night I told her it was okay to go, and she must have listened because she died a few hours later.
glad
I am glad you had a nice heart-to-heart discussion with her. HOpefully, this opened the door to many more conversations and it sounds like may be her friends feel they can be honest to. I just hope you can get rid of this loser and hopefully she can stay away because my concern is if she wants no more will he except that. HOnestly, i hope she is not just saying that to make you happy and I don't know her very well so who am I to say. It sounds like she is being honest with you. This was her first time correct? If so, it sounds like she realized what a huge mistake it was. People, who are you to critize her for having this guy looked into. If you had the resources you would to! I know i definitley would. Well hopefully she will listen to her brother and I would stay out of it and act like you know nothing and see if she will come to you and talk to you about it. Hope it all works out for ya!
I'm glad you were seen right away!
Now maybe you can get some relief...at least temporarily until the root canal. Ugh, makes my stomach roll to even think about it! Hang in there!
Glad you are okay now
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Glad you liked it...nm
but very glad to know this!!
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glad
I'm glad some of the commments helped you. . It sounds like you have a good grip on things. . I hope everything works out for the two of you.
Glad you liked it! - sm
I watched it a bunch of times late last night. The French guy & his friend were visiting SF & did the filming, but I know a bunch of the SF downhillers. Too bad Lombard St. is paved with bricks, isn't it? I felt they did a little too much footage of the slalom skating in Fort Mason Park, but he IS amazingly agile.
I'm glad you liked it!. . sm
I was sick of Manwich too! I have made it without the green peppers and onions and it was okay. Thanks for letting me know you liked it!
I'm so glad I'm not the only one!
I stopped taking the Benadryl 2 night ago, and I'm hoping to see a change in my hair! My hair is usually EXTREMELY thick. In fact, every person who ever cut my hair always commented on how thick it was! Since taking the Benadryl for the past few months, I have noticed my hair thinning and falling out (Not huge clumps, but usually one or two strands when I run my hand through it). I was also wondering about maybe hard water causing it, but I think it was the Benadryl!
glad
I'm so glad the Beagle won. . my dad had beagles and I always loved them.. his last one he had was named Bozo Billy and he gave dad a lot of comfort when he was suffering with lung cancer. .
Thanks!!! I'm so glad you like them (sm)
I always buy fabric at the fabric store so I don't know about the fabric you can order online. If you do order some online, will you let us know if it turns out to be good? (thanks!)My children just told me yesterday that they think I should make them a new one every Christmas :)
So Glad
to see that i am not the only "insane" person out there who will willingly throw $700.00 at the vet for an emergency appointment (and x-rays and blood tests) just to make sure my cat is ok! keep it up fellow animal lovers!
Really glad I am not the only one
I thought it was fun for a while, and wouldn't mind doing something like this from time to time but it seemed to be turning into the game board and not the gab board.
Wow am I glad my MIL is not like that.
She is awesome. I can't imagine having to deal with stuff like that, and I certainly can't imagine having a husband that lets his mother treat his wife like that.
Sounds like some of you need a new husband with a backbone.
LOL thanks, glad to know i'm not alone!!! sm
kids grow up so fast, i just want to enjoy every single minute of it! i'm close to both my boys. i have a very close relationship still with my parents, i'm 36. i hope my boys will still be close to me when they grow up and move out.
Wow - glad I'm not alone
While I don't wish this type of life on anyone, it's reasurring to know I'm not the only one who goes through what I go through. I'm probably luckier than you by not having kids (although we tried very hard to have kids when we were younger, just never worked out), but at least that's one extra thing I don't have to worry about. It's hard to describe what I go through on a daily basis. It's not anything specific to point my finger on (well maybe it's 100 things). He doesn't physically abuse me, he compliments me, and tells me I'm very organized and stable, and on a daily basis we laugh and joke around, horse around and to anyone who sees us together we're in love, but over the years he has done things that I have not been able to forgive him on. First, letting his mother tell me she never liked me and will kill me if I came between her and her son and he never spoke up for me. He once accused me of purposely breaking one of his plants and then trying to hide it (and that was a 3 hour fight with him doing most of the yelling). I felt like yelling back at him. You know I'm an adult, I don't need to hide anything. If I break something I will come out and say so, but I'm a person dang it. I have feelings and if you care more about your plant then my feelings at least now I know. Once I forgot to get potatos at the grocery store and we got half way home and I told him and he yelled at me for a good 2 hours all the way back to the store and home. When we got to the store I told him so I forgot to get the potato's, that was no reason for him to treat me like he did. As I walked into the store I prayed that an explosion would happen or robbery and all I wanted to do was die. I got the potatos, got into the car, and he continued on yelling at me all the way home. I told him I didn't deserve to be treated like that and he just ignored me like I hadn't said anything. The list goes on and on and on and on. It doesn't happen every day, we fight maybe once every month or two. Once I told him I wanted to see a counselor (this was maybe 8 or so years ago) and he told me why in the world would I do that, he's my husband and we're supposed to be best friends and I should trust him enough to tell him everything (then because I wouldn't he tried accusing me of "doing" something). I told him I could not sit down and talk to him in depth about my feeling because he would always give me the same line of "you're thinking about this wrong. You should look at things the way I do". Once I was so angry I told him "you need to look at things the way I see them" and he told me "no, because your wrong". I told him I wanted a baby. He told me "we don't need a baby, look at it the way I do, we should be greatful not to have kids". I've heard this story now for 20 years. I'm so tired of it. Over the years I think I have just become numb. I don't think I've grown out of love because I care if he's hurt and I want him to be happy, but as for myself I just find myself "numb" most of the time.
So I don't know what it is. Maybe I'm going through a midlife crisis. But at least I don't feel anymore that I'm weird or alone as I see other people are facing the same things.
Wow! I've never told anyone ever any of the things I just wrote. Felt good to get it out, hope I didn't drabble on and bore any of you.
Oh, I'm so glad
I was getting really sick of that storyline. I found her character less than appealing, anyway.
Well I'm glad for you.
I don't think you mentioned the store brand creamer before when you were trying to figure out your coffee problem. I learned a long time ago not to mess with the CoffeeMate. There is no substitute. 
glad you are okay
MT have scary imaginations! I love it when the answer is simple. Glad you are okay!
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