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Calling ME a religous nutcase?  I'm not even religous!  Hence why I think these sickos need to be prosecuted for what they are doing under the guise of religion.

And why on earth would I want Harry Potter banned?  I love those movies! 

Let me see if I got this straight - You're married, the guy you've been seeing is married and has a girlfriend in addition to you.  Woe is your husband and his wife!

you have the 8 o'clock bean available.  I thought you said you did but maybe you were talking about in the past.  If you do, be sure and buy whole bean and grind it, then you won't have to worry about fillers you were wondering about.  If you don't have a grinder, it has been my experience (and my mother's - and we are coffee snobs) that Folgers 100% Columbian has the richest, truest coffee flavor.  Unfortunately I can't drink it because it is high in acid and bothers my stomach but that's another story...

Maybe the filters are the answer.  Another thing to consider is your coffee cup.  I bought a nifty plastic Starbucks mug on clearance.  It has a nonslip handle which I thought would be great for me in the morning.  However, I have noticed that coffee tastes much better in a regular ceramic mug.  I save the plastic mug for hot chocolate.  Good luck on your quest. 

ok, when do you start talking about sex with your kids??  my 9 y/o son has asked me a few times where do babies come from.  right now i tell him God.  i think my 10 y/o nephew told him some things about sex (but this was when they were younger).  i think my SIL told her son about sex when he was 7.  i think that is too young.  what's your input?  thanks.

It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT.  The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS.  It probably will not matter what you change about you to him.  If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.

Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't.  Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.

And your child is being hurt by these outbursts.  She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time.  In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.

You all need help, even the child.  Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help.  Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right.  Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate.  Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...

going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.

I know very little about diabetes, but my vision is definitely deteriorating.  I had wondered why the nurse specifically asked me if I was a diabetic.  I also know that I have a great chance of developing diabetes once my pancreas is completely destroyed.  All I know is the last set of labs I had were very good.  I see my doctor again on July 22, and I will definitely mention this to him.

I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking.  It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type.  So I stopped taking it.  I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.)  A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.

As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well.  I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.

Thanks so much for your post and your input.  I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get. 

Hope you have a great weekend. 

me for a long time because I thought the larger ones might be hairies.  The more I read the more I realized that hairies are significantly larger.  The hairy we had yesterday was even bigger than a red-bellied with a very long, sturdy beak.  There is really no confusing them up close.  From a distance it is more difficult. 

I have at least 3 red-breasted nuthatches this year.  I just looked out and there were 2 on the tree eating suet and one on the wire watching the other two.  They are so cute. 

Thank you all for your responses.  I have to say that I'm a little shocked by some of the comments, but I I didn't post everything. 

I didn't actually prevent my child from talking to her.  My daughter answered and handed it to my son, and then he proceeded to answer all of her questions about where we were going and what we were doing and what I got him for his birthday. 

I didn't put them in the middle or tell them how I felt about it.  I felt like she overstepped her boundaries, but I decided to post my feelings about it on a public message board rather than say anything in front on them.  I decided I would get some unbiased opinions here before I said anything to anyone.  The last thing I want is to put them in the middle or hurt them. 

I've decided that I'm going to e-mail my ex and ask him not to give my phone number to other people without my permission and leave it at that. 

I do feel that I haven't been a vindictive or jealous ex spouse.  #1 entered the picture right as we were separating, and my kids were really, really angry about it.  My kids saw us as still married and just fighting, so they did not want anything to do with #1.  In fact, they planned this Parent Trap type sabatoge.  I caught them packing worms and slugs in a jar, Ex-Lax, and bubble bath that they were planning to put in her shampoo bottle.  I sat them down and told them that they were under no circumstances to sabatoge #1.  I told them that they were to treat her with respect even if they didn't like her, just as they would treat a teacher that they didn't like.  I also told them that she was not the cause of our divorce, and that they didn't have to hate her.  She was around for a while, and the last few times the kids came back saying, "She says all the same stuff to dad that you do, but she screams it at him."  Then she disappeared.  Despite the fact that they didn't like her, they still had a hard time with her disappearing without a formal goodbye. 

#2 and #3 were just one-weekend things.  My daughter was actually devastated because #2 had a daughter that was her age.  She was excited to go back and play with the daughter and was already telling people that she was going to have this really cool step-sister, but by the next visit he was already on to #3. 

There were 2 more that he dated that I was aware of, but neither wanted to meet the kids, so the kids don't know about them. 

Now we are on to #4.  I'm upset that his family has stopped calling and sending cards and gifts, and #4 seems to be the replacement.  The second time they met her, he flew the kids to her house for Christmas, and there was no contact whatsoever with his family, although they sent gift cards to my home for the kids.  Now my son's birthday came, and his family ignored it, but girlfriend is calling. 

My kids always describe going to dad's house like getting on a roller coaster, and coming home as getting off the ride.  So, when she called, I guess I felt like she was encroaching upon my kids' drama-free zone. 

They are not financially strapped, just too lazy to cook a big meal.  I love the idea of telling them I am having another dinner the next night and cannot spare any leftovers, but they are welcome to take home the remnants of the 2 pies they brought over.    Love it!  This will be a new holiday tradition at my house! 

With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him.  I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces.  The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?

Second child, same experience.  She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs.  I had already put my regular clothes back on as well.  My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.

I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases.  With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.