I'm confused. Who is the father?
Posted By: nm on 2008-03-27
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I am sad and confused
I went to have my ultrasound yesterday and they told me my baby is normal BUT the bones (femur) is below the 5th percentile. I have to see a genetics doctor next week for another ultrasound and I do not know what else. Has anyone else been told their baby's bones are a little short? Two or three weeks behind what is normal? Could the technician be wrong? They only found one soft marker so is that not good? I am short and my husband has a big head when he was born. So measuring the 2 together you have a short baby with a big head. Please if anyone has been through this I need a friend.....
sad and confused
I have not been through that situation but can honestly say I know of moms who have had ultrasounds showing one thing or another and in the end, the baby came out fine. One of my friend's was even told her baby had Down Syndrome, but the child was born healthy! I would try not to worry too much and wait until you see the genetics doctor or have another ultrasound.
I'm a little confused.....
You may want to have more children but you don't want them to be your husband's child????? That doesn't make sense. You don't want something to be permanent in your life but it can be permanent in your husband's life. Don't be surprised if he doesn't go to the consultation you have scheduled!! I'm not trying to be mean, I just don't think you have thought about this very clearly. And there are other things you can do to NOT get pregnant. Good luck with this!
sorry, I confused the two
nm
I'm a little confused...sm
As to who the dog actually belongs to and who is responsible for the dog's care. I say that because you wrote: *I had sorta adopted the dog....no place to keep a dog around here.*
So, I guess my question is this - do they see it as your dog too and they just agreed to keep it at their house, or is it their dog as far as you're concerned, and you were just willing to help out initially? (Which is what it sounds like, but maybe your friend sees it the other way.)
At any rate, now you're starting to resent it and it's affecting your friendship. So I think it's time for a heart-to-heart talk with your friend about what you are and aren't willing to do for the dog (and who the dog belongs to, and does the dog need to find a new home). I'd try to leave the son and his drug problem entirely out of the discussion. I think that's a whole other can of worms.
Also, are you sure it wouldn't work for you to have the dog? Our Rottweilers have all been sweet, gentle creatures (despite what you see in the media all the time) who have been indoor dogs who were fine with small animals. OTOH, they are big, strong dogs and need a firm owner. They can certainly be too much for some people, so I don't want to sugarcoat it.
It depends on the dog of course, but a lot of Rotties and other big dogs are pretty low energy and do fine in a small home/yard (as long as they get enough attention and exercise). Just a thought.
Personally, I'd want to extricate myself from this 'drama' and just take the dog. (Though I'm a Siberian Husky person - the Rotties are my hubby's love.)
To confused
it is not that he is running anything.....if he wants to live somewhere else....I would rather that than to have a rebellious child on my hands......he is good.....very good A's and B's in school.....I starting to think that people are really not understanding....but so be it....I would rather for him to be happy...not at the corner store selling drugs or whatever.....it might not work out with living with his sister.....but no one can that I did not try...children will get rebellious if they don't have they own way.....I would rather for im to go and live with sister than have to deal with the Po-Po because he is hanging out on a corner somewhere.....
More confused
Well I have to admit I had to look up the word disinfranchised. I've heard it but never new what it meant. So what do you think I found as the meaning of Disinfranchised? It means To disinfranchise. HA HA HA. Needless to say I had to keep searching and I'm finding meanings all relating to the revocation of the right of suffrage (the right to vote). So unsure how this fits to me because I can vote if I want to. My main point is that you can't trust what comes through the tube each day. Just when I said I was going to "curb" my tube input I sat and watched the debates and screamed at the TV, then screamed at all the news people. Then I heard a little voice in my head say... "you've got to get your priorities straight". HA HA. So I learn to take everything with a grain of salt. I still probably will not vote (even though I can if I want to), but if there is a replay of the NH primaries why bother. Thanks for the new word though for me to learn. It went right along with my word I had to look up when I wrote my friend and told her I would give her my "pithy" comments. HA HA HA
I'm confused too, but have never seen so many
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Well, I got confused. Sorry.
nn
I think you have me confused with someone else...
Calling ME a religous nutcase? I'm not even religous! Hence why I think these sickos need to be prosecuted for what they are doing under the guise of religion.
And why on earth would I want Harry Potter banned? I love those movies! 
I'm confused --
Let me see if I got this straight - You're married, the guy you've been seeing is married and has a girlfriend in addition to you. Woe is your husband and his wife!
I'm confused on whether or not
you have the 8 o'clock bean available. I thought you said you did but maybe you were talking about in the past. If you do, be sure and buy whole bean and grind it, then you won't have to worry about fillers you were wondering about. If you don't have a grinder, it has been my experience (and my mother's - and we are coffee snobs) that Folgers 100% Columbian has the richest, truest coffee flavor. Unfortunately I can't drink it because it is high in acid and bothers my stomach but that's another story...
Maybe the filters are the answer. Another thing to consider is your coffee cup. I bought a nifty plastic Starbucks mug on clearance. It has a nonslip handle which I thought would be great for me in the morning. However, I have noticed that coffee tastes much better in a regular ceramic mug. I save the plastic mug for hot chocolate. Good luck on your quest. 
I'm confused. If they....
prayed in earnest for forgiveness, then how does that reconcile itself with the following verses, especially 1 John 1:9?
"Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (Hebrews 4:16)
"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:28)
"Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." (Psalm 55:22)
"My little children, these things I write to you, that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous." (1 John 2:1)
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)
"Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord." (Acts 3:19)
"I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted." (Isaiah 43:25-26)
"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus ..." (Romans 8:1)
"Come now and let us reason together," says the Lord,
"Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow." (Isaiah 1:18)
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away, behold, all things have become new." (2 Corinthians 5:17)
"In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace." (Ephesians 1:7)
Jan, why are you so confused?
You said SIL (mother of 2 children of my brother) should be entitled to receive my father's money. I only had 1 SIL- brother's wife. I really pity them also, one deceased, girl 37 and the son a druggie. Yes, they are to be pitied.
I was confused because SIL can also
mean 'son-in-law.'
And exactly, your SIL IS a legal heir from her father-in-law through her marriage to your brother.
You should try to find them and give half of it = $ 350.000.-- to your SIL and your nephew.
Maybe this will turn his life around. Put him into a rehabilitation clinic!
Then you will have peace of mind and will sleep better.
How did your niece die? So sad.
Confused?
QUOTE FROM ORIGINAL POST:
...when I hear someone talking and their use of a word is completely wrong AND THIS MORNING in a subtle way did a correction.
Okay, JMT...make up your mind. Did it happen this morning as you originally indicated, or did it happen two years ago as you later indicated in an attempt to defend not asking about the woman's aunt?
Enquiring minds want to know....
Oh, really confused, thought they were 1
in the same. Mother always said where there is smoke, there is fire. Howard from the Anna Nichole saga sure has a lot of smoke around him.
confused mom, please see message
ok, when do you start talking about sex with your kids?? my 9 y/o son has asked me a few times where do babies come from. right now i tell him God. i think my 10 y/o nephew told him some things about sex (but this was when they were younger). i think my SIL told her son about sex when he was 7. i think that is too young. what's your input? thanks.
To confused wife...
It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT. The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS. It probably will not matter what you change about you to him. If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.
Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't. Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.
And your child is being hurt by these outbursts. She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time. In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.
You all need help, even the child. Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help. Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right. Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate. Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...
confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
they must have been confused and thought
because stimulus checks didn't start going out until Monday:
http://www.irs.gov/irs/article/0,,id=180250,00.html
OMG - My apologies. I am sorry....I do have you confused....
I am so so sorry. I DO need to be more careful with my posts. I thought you were the one saying that the children should not be reuinited with their family. I guess I was just stunned that someone thought that way and all I could think of was what if the shoe was on the other foot. How would they like if their child was grabbed up from them without solid evidence and not be told why. From now on I will be more careful and make sure I don't post anything to the wrong person. Again I am sorry. I am not a religous person and I have been judged too many times by my "religious" family members (some of who believe the Harry Potter books be burned). I love the Harry Potter movies too and it takes me away from reality for a short time. Again - I am truly sorry. I
Sorry got a bit confused there, not a watcher -sm
of How I met your Mother.
I thought it was the aunt. I'm confused now.
What did the grandmother do?
I'm confused at your responses - are you the same person?
Are you the same person who keep saying "what are you thinking?" If so, in one post you are telling me everything else can wait and the other you're telling me I should be fired.
No ruffling here, just a confused person
So I think I am understanding, you are saying this belongs on another board instead of here. If that is why, don't mind. I just knew was something seen discussed all over the place, maybe just not on gab, got it now. Guess Hubba started here.
Apparently so many confused on this issue!!
His aunt, who died, knew him by this name. His brother does not respect his new name and has been asked to call him this PRIOR TO ANY FUNERAL. Friend apparently does not think silly after having asked before to be called that - numerous times, not just now. Most women when they marry have a name change- would most of them want to go by their old names? Most, underline that- so it is not taken out of text, would want to have their new name. Why is it different for a man?? His family comes around his new stepdaughter and son-in-law and calls him by his old name which they stepdauhter and SIL DO not know him by. Those are his wishes and here in America, I think most of us want our wishes to be observed. Oh about who cares- he does.
No doubt you're confused! I don't know what's
going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.
I know very little about diabetes, but my vision is definitely deteriorating. I had wondered why the nurse specifically asked me if I was a diabetic. I also know that I have a great chance of developing diabetes once my pancreas is completely destroyed. All I know is the last set of labs I had were very good. I see my doctor again on July 22, and I will definitely mention this to him.
I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking. It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type. So I stopped taking it. I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.) A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.
As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well. I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.
Thanks so much for your post and your input. I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get.
Hope you have a great weekend.
My downies vary a lot in size, which confused
me for a long time because I thought the larger ones might be hairies. The more I read the more I realized that hairies are significantly larger. The hairy we had yesterday was even bigger than a red-bellied with a very long, sturdy beak. There is really no confusing them up close. From a distance it is more difficult.
I have at least 3 red-breasted nuthatches this year. I just looked out and there were 2 on the tree eating suet and one on the wire watching the other two. They are so cute.
I think she said the father did not want her around
so really she should take that same stance. I think you just cannot sometimes may an enabler understand what they are doing wrong. My deceased husband, I talked to him about his enabling with his daughter and he told me he would do until his last breath and he did. She was a total invalid after that, did not have a clue (at 30 something) how to make her way. Oh well, glad I wasn’t the mother.
You ask about my son's father?
The father came around after the son grown and now lives with him. No money ever from him while my son growing up, not a penny, nothing. I have nothing against the father, just always thought he basically did good to take care of himself but not a father figure at all for the son. He was able to work, chose to live on the streets and finally got too old to be out there and my son and his family took him into their home. I was there but people have to understand what money does to people, especially if a lot of money, thousands and thousands. My son was upset about my inheritance and that is what happened. It is sad but not my fault he would choose the love of money over his mother. Wish him well.
your father
This is a touchy subject. Yes, it sounds a little like he may be trying to "take the easy way out" but really, what he is doing is self degradating and really desperate. I believe he needs help. Of course, he is not going to see it or admit it himself. That's WHY he needs help. He has threatened to take his life and spoken of wanting to die. I think you should call 911 or see if your town has a crisis team and tell them that he has said he is going to kill himself. Have him taken by ambulance or let the crisis intervention team figure out the transportation. Once he is at the hospital professionals will evaluate him and decide whether or not he needs to be committed against his will or long term treatment. They will give him counseling and even point him in the direction of how to start managing life again. The worse that could happen is that they say hes fine and send him home (which they will not do without at least providing him with information for outpatient treatment and other local agencies that can help him).
However, how will you feel if, God forbid, he does hurt or kill himself while you thought he wass just bluffing?
And even if it doesnt go that far...he will continue to harass you and your mom.
He needs help of some kind and as his daughter I think you should find a way to help him.
How do you know her father was
there for her? You are assuming that. As far as writing him off, it might be the best thing for her. Toxic people are very dangerous. Obviously you had a story book childhood and until you go through something like that, it is impossible to understand. Because it is a parent, it does not mean you have to put up with emotional and mental abuse.
Father in law
My father in law is an ok guy. One problem. He likes to come to our house and watch TV. On Saturdays and Sundays, I am off work, and I like to relax on the couch in Pjs and watch my TV. My husband drives an 18-wheeler, and a lot of times when he comes in if it is on weekends his dad will come over that morning and sit here ALL day long. My husband said last time you know I love dad to death and like for him to come visit but after a couple hours it is time to leave. Well now my husband isn't at home and he comes over to visit my son who is 11, and tells my son lets watch a movie or something. Well this is my weekend to relax and lay on the couch and watch TV. I feel like I can't relax in my own home. He doesn't have satellite at his house so he wants to sit here and watch. I am so fustrated. He needs to go home. I think he uses the excuse when my husband is gone to come see my son so he can sit here and watch movies. I would like to watch my own TV. URRRGHH! Any advice?
My father in law tried that with his indoor cat
and once they got outside the cat totally flipped out like a crazed wild animal. It was a very scary experience from what he described. So just be careful.
I do not live in 1 but my father had 1 and
when you pull the carpet up as I did when I got the trailer it only had cheap plywood underneath it. Having said this I was going to rent it out as eventually wanted to sell for the land it was on (6+ lake front acreage) so we put down linoleum (spelling?). A trailer is mostly made from the very cheapest you can get, thus the cheaper prices most of the time than homes. We took inexpensive commercial carpet for some of the bedroom floors and hubby put that down. These are about the cheapest you can do, don’t think your idea of a faux finish will work with the plywood but then you can always check on that. By the way, do you have to tar the roof of yours? Most trailers require this- did not know until after I had in possession- the only difference is a regular roof was put on this 1 - most are flat on the top and require tarring.
Actually he is a wonderful father...
who takes time out of his sleep schedule to be with them, eat dinner with us, go to kids' sporting events and the usual things people do without missing a beat because everything works out for their schedule. People who sleep during the night have no clue how hard it is to sleep during the day when it is light out, loud noises outside like lawnmowers, snowblowers, leafblowers, construction and more than you could realize. Nobody schedules meetings at 1:00 am so you have to get up after a few hours. Going to church on Sunday with your family and having family day requires less sleep because he works Sat. and Sun. night.
I feel sorry for you that you can't have an open mind enough to see that not everybody has the same life, same feelings, same jobs. If I can make him more comfortable including having a dark bedroom then I will and I asked for help in achieving this goal, not to have someone who doesn't know him or our family come on here and insult us. Not once did I say this was something he told me to do or makes me do..I am doing it because I love him. If he gets home in time in the mornings he gets the kids ready for school. Marriage is about give and take.
Your father was a 1 in a million.
A lot of men would have left being walked on and demoralized but your dad didn't want to leave you to suffer it alone. Usually, even when a mother isn't fit to raise a goldfish, mothers still get custody of the kids, and that's sad. There are a lot of great dads out there and they really need to be given the praise they deserve. What a great dad you had. I can see why you cherish him so much.
From what I can gather, he has only seen his father twice ....sm
in his entire 11 years. I think his great-grandmother raised him and also raised his mother (which would be her grandmother). Well, I think this lady just recently died and the child came to live with the mother and mother's boyfriend. The mother's 5-year-old lives with his father and I have noticed that the mother has him every other weekend. All of the kids except for 1 are from single-parent homes, including my own. I have been divorced for 5 years. I do not think that should be an excuse though. I am a very involved, hands-on, in tune, on top of things mother and I work my butt off to have what we have. My daughter sees her dad every other weekend sporadically. Yes, it does put a lot of responsibility, worry, etc., on the custodial parent but that is our job, not the neighborhood's job. There is another single mother who lives here and her husband is in jail. Her 2 sons are very well behaved. Then there is this mother and the single mother of the 2 girls who just suck at parenting. You rarely ever see them and they both take "nerve pills" and "sleeping pills." I've just never been that type of person and I have hard time understanding how you can bring children into the world and not take care of them. I don't expect the rest of the neighborhood to raise my daughter. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Father-Daughter
I don't know that one. Now I'm curious and have to look it up and hear it!
Can you talk to your son's father about this?
Can you discuss this amicably if you are on good terms, perhaps approaching it from the angle of what's best for your son.
father/daughter
My take on this whole situation is they are playing us. They probably both knew they were going to be in the house, so I would not take it too seriously.
Child should have father's last name SM
and should see father, unless he was abusive. No matter what a woman may think of the guy, it will be disservice to child to not let him/her see father.
A divorced woman can keep name or change back to maiden. Doesn't matter. I kept my married name, since I had it for 30 years.
My father was also child #5 and
12 years younger than the #4. He was always told he was not an accident but a suprise. I watched Jesus Camp and don't agree with that way of "religon" at all.
You did not mention if a father of your son
is around or involved in any way. I think your first attention should be towards your son, not the BIL because apparently your child is doing some acting out and it tends to escalate. When parents of young children oohing and aahing about them, I think about how it turns like your story now a lot of times. I had somewhat similar bad behavior (although never went against my telling no), some drugs involved. I just told my son would send to my daddys home- would have been worse than prison for him and I knew that- ole timer- early to bed and early to rise, take no junk type person. My son turned around because I always told both my children I did not have time for crap- I had to work and make a living for them and I would never put up with backtalking, walking away and doing what they thought they could so, swearing, hitting or the like.
My father-in-law after many years
was able to figure out his trigger and it is citric acid. He has to read every label because it is a common ingredient.
I was my father's TV "remote"
I was very young and never questioned what my parents said to me and one day I asked my dad why he couldn't get up and change the station on the TV, to which he replied, "Because I have a bone in my leg." Seemed like a logical reason to not have to get up and change the television; until one day it occurred to me that WE ALL HAVE BONES IN OUR LEGS!!!!! I have told my kids about this and they just cannot believe how incredibly DUMB I was. I agree. They still tease me about it and, as unhelpful as that phrase is, we still toss it around in our home. LOL.
We do believe, thanks to Grandma, that every time you get the hiccups, it means you are growing. My kids have asked me on the few occasions when I have had the hiccups, what that means for me and I just tell them when you get older, you don't grow UP, you grow OUT. LOL.
She has a step-father who can be
somewhat of a tyrant. I hope he is not the cause. 
So, so sad. Especially Father's Day weekend.
He will be so terribly missed, especially during the election coverage. I will remember him with the white board and writing all over it. I always enjoyed watching him. He sure knew his stuff. Way too young.
It was the father-in-law and mother-in-law..
of the men's volleyball coach and the father-in-law died...
"No one comes to the Father but by Me"
is what Christ said. Most Christians (again, the ones who believe the words of Jesus) believe that religions besides Christianity are false religions.
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