I'm a deer widow this weekend SO
Posted By: Silly Girl on 2008-10-10
In Reply to: "One project done thread" - Spinoff
I'm cleaning out the closets and going through my husband's drawers. I swear he has underwear that I don't know what in the world they could cover since they are so tattered!
I'd like to clean my desk and under my bed as well but that may have to wait until he's gone again next weekend.
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You collect widow's benefit's at age 50, not 60, unless you have a child
under 16. I had to stop my benefits for one year and then got them back when I turned 50.
She's 64, so close to his age. She is a widow whose late husband... SM
left her well taken care of, but she pinches pennies like she's poor. My dad is footing the entire bill for this thing. I guess she add, that she strung my dad along for like four years. She couldn't decide if she wanted to marry him because he was divorced and she didn't think God would want her to marry a divorced man seeing how "God hates divorce." Yet, there was nothing wrong with dating a divorced man, letting him pay for cruises, dinners, doing maintenance on her house and car, mowing her lawn, etc.
Then after four years when he was getting ready to retire and move south, she up and decides she will marry him and now this obnoxious wedding! I'll be honest, I kind of hoped she would keep saying no and dad would just retire and that would be the end of it. Now, I'm faced with the reality that she is going to be, *gulp*, part of my family and it's killing me.
Ah well, thanks for listening to me. I just needed to tell somebody how I felt cause I keep all to myself most of the time.
A spouse can collect widow benefits at age 60, but the benefit is reduced 21% because you took it ea
So, if his benefit is $1000, you would get $790. If you take you retirement at 62, you can keep the widow benefit, or your benefit, whichever is larger. It's worth taking it early because $790 x 24 months (the difference between age 60 and 62) is almost $19,000. My tax lawyer says always take it early.
We have deer here also but
I hope never to see a bear out in the open here. I know no matter how cute, they are still wild. Just on the news yesterday morning a guy who had permit to raise deer killed by 1 of them while feeding as male in rut and he and his family knew aggressive. He had all kind of wildlife on property including beer. Like your own animals, they can and will turn sometimes.
Is it an albino deer?
If so they don't usually live long. Eyesight in all albinos bad. Also, easier for predators to spot.
albino deer
Native Americans think they're sacred. I can't remember the legend but I think it's amazingly good luck to you.
Deer for pets
I am having a similar problem with my neighbor. Her yard adjoins our yard and she puts out food for the deer right on the property line. I don't mind the deer as they are pretty to watch, but it has gone from 2-3 deer from 5 years ago to nearly 10 deer constantly including bucks. They walk from the woods through our yard to go to her yard to eat. It has gotten to the point where the deer are roaming about all hours of the day, not just at dusk. I, too, see them roaming the neighborhood. One has come up on my front porch before. I have small children as do my other neighbors and I am concerned that they are going to startle the deer and someone might get bitten. I tell my kids to not to ever approach the deer and give them their distance. I am also concerned about deer ticks too.
I asked her if she would not feed the deer on the property line as it is causing a potentially unsafe situation and she got very huffy about it and said she was an animal lover and it was her right to feed the deer if she so desired. I tried to explain to her about the kids, not only mine but other kids, and the dangers of wild animals being in the yard and roaming around and she basically told me to "mind my own business."
I don't know in Pennsylvania what the laws are about having deer for pets or feeding them, etc, but I have heard in other states it is illegal.
Is it legal to keep a wild deer as a pet? sm
Someone has had a wild pet deer for a pet in our subdivision for a few years now. I am a serious animal lover myself, but it has gotten rather old having this deer roaming through the roads and, most of all, eating landscape plants down to nothing. We have sprayed deer repellent on nearly everything, but the one little area we miss will be chewed right away. Besides, we have to keep doing it over and over and this stuff is not cheap. Really getting tiresome. Do not want to be mean, but what rights do the homeowners in here have??
I do believe it's illegal to feed the deer in PA
because of the harm it causes (see other postings). Your neighbor might get in some serious trouble for doing this. My father and uncles were deer hunters and every year would put salt licks out for them, but about 30 years ago, they stopped. I really don't know the reason, but I would seriously do some checking on this.
You could tell your neighbor that she's making it easier on the hunters as they will start trusting humans and think that they (hunters) are coming to feed them. If that doesn't get her to stop, then show some printed material on the laws. DH isn't hunting this year or I would look it up in the manual he used to get.
Yes, indeed, it is illegal to feed deer in PA.
It's never a good idea to feed them, anywhere. I was just reading an article about this. When deer are fed, they tend to concentrate where the food is being left for them. The local population of deer increases, the food left out for them is not enough to support all of the deer, and so many of them starve. It's actually counter-productive. Deer adapt to the winter weather. They spread out in their environment. Their metabolism slows. They move less and eat less. Some die over the winter, of course. It is nature, after all. But feeding them is not good for them. Your animal loving neighbor is actually hurting the deer.
Think you need a permit to actually keep deer as pets...sm
but I couldn't find anything on the Game Commission website about it being illegal to feed them. They do strongly discourage it, though, for a lot of what you posted.
If you have not yet seen the deer and cat video treat yourself to
something wonderful. Copy and paste and enjoy. This is truly beautiful.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rooyt3ptNco
no kids, no deer - will that stuff keep other animals off?
Home Depot is just around the corner - I have a 6 foot stockade fence and live in the city - I am sure there are no deer - possibly possoms, no deer.
chittlins and mauls....deer jerky...sm
Anyone else out there cooking specialty items for the holiday?  Cat
There were a lot of albino deer in Shenandoah Natl Park.
I don't know if they are still a "problem". A while back, hunters were asked to specifically look for and thin them from the herds -- something to do with weakening the gene pool. I don't know anything about wildlife management, but I know that I've seen a good number of albino deer in SNP. It is exciting to see them!
Deer and rabbits especially think my garden is an outdoor diner. (sm)
Have tried multiple things, can keep rabbits out of green beans, peas and lettuce until they get larger and not so palatable by using chicken wire bent over the rows and pegged down. The deer seem to prefer to just rip smaller branches off the fruit trees and really seem to hit the melons hard.
One of the things that I have tried and works pretty well for me is Irish Spring tied in the branches of fruit trees. I suppose it is the smell they don't like.
Anything else you come up with, please share.
The produce in the store isn't going to do anything but get higher with strikes, etc.
Oh, my dog is Michael Jordan. I swear she's part deer!
We just moved to the country, but when we lived in town, she jumped the fence I don't know how many times. When she wants in the house, it's not enough to simply scratch on the door, she has to jump six feet in the air and basically throw herself into the door.
I just get so frustrated. I was at friends house who has a golden retriever and they have a little bell hanging from their back doorknob and when their dog wants out, he simple rings the bell and same thing on the outside of the door too. I was incredulous. How did they get their dog to do that?!?!?!
I forgot: ecargots, rabbit-, deer- shark-meat.s are no,no for me, too..nm
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groundhogs,squirrels, wild turkeys, rabbits, raccoon, goat and deer meat..sm
Some folks just take for granted that they can walk into a market and shop for meat...We've done the same for similar reasons as you and nothing was wasted. At least you're self sufficient!!! And, I bet you've put up/canned/frozen all the vegetables from the summer/fall harvest.
Didn't mean to be flippant in my earlier post...whack it, hack it, pack it and stack it... Cat
It is next weekend...nm
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weekend
Decorate graves Saturday, daughter's wedding reception Sunday, take it easy day Monday.
Weekend
Luckily I'm off weekends. We went to an early dinner with friends yesterday, and I spent the rest of the day reading for once in I don't know how many years. Also went to the mall. Today we went to church came home and one of the teenage boys in the neighorhood had an Easter egg hunt for the little kids in the neighborhood. Tonight a friend came over the we watched the latest James Bond movie. Now it's off to bed for a busy 4 days of work next week. I'm off Good Friday. I hope everyone has a good week.
What I did this weekend
I worked Sat a.m., then had hair cut - mine was looking like something could have been living in it. Then it was grocery shopping and came home, cleaned and discussed about whether or not we'd move and where to and watched a movie. Sunday got up piddled around, DH got up and we again talked about where and if we were going to move (the talks usually last about 2 - 3 hours), then we boxed up some stuff, made dinner, talked more about moving, watched a movie, talked more about moving and I went to bed exhausted as it was another weekend (this has been going on for about a year now) of not coming to decisions. It isn't really that great when the town you live in more and more people are leaving (where they went I don't know but it's local cos every once inwhile they drive by), but more and more houses are being foreclosed, we hear of families moving in with other family members, schools laying off, all libraries have shut down, crime is rising, no employment here and none anywhere else. We've done so many long distance moves and they never worked out (at least for the first couple of months). Then we listened to the bully kid next door blasting his music. DH is going through mid-life crisis I think. It was just an exhausting weekend.
Misha's weekend
I don't have much new to report about Misha, except that we did get out and go to PetsMart and she enjoyed more attention than usual from two-footed admirers of all sizes. My new prednisone dosing technique seemed to work - no crashing. She wouldn't eat out of a dog bowl, but she would suck canned food- Blue Buffalo lamb recipe - off my fingers, which was quite endearing. Sasha watched me hand-feed Misha and wouldn't touch her bowl until I had hand-fed HER 3 bites too. So I'm creating two monsters, but it felt pretty good at the time. I also got her to eat some Jumbone-type treats also, so at least she's not going to starve. :o}
Plans for the weekend?
Anyone have any fun plans for the weekend? We have no big plans...may do some clothes shopping for the kids if I feel like it.
Weekend Plans
It's my husband's birthday Saturday so we're going out to dinner with friends. It's supposed to be a hot weekend so we'll spend much of the time in the pool with our daughters. We also usually have bonfires on the weekends with the neighbors/friends and/or a cookout since the weather is so beautiful.
My weekend plan:
It's pretty self-explanatory. Buy a nice seedless watermelon, insert funnel and pour in oodles of liquor of choice...vodka, schnapps, rum, etc. (You'd be amazed at how much booze these things can drink!) Let sit overnight in your fridge if you can stand to wait that long, cut up and serve or drill holes into melon and give your best bud a straw and watch the magic happen. See you in rehab.
Attending our first this weekend sm
since I was a little girl. We live in VA but are just across the state line from WV which is where I grew up. My DD is in her first horse show there this weekend. It is about 1 1/2 away. I am a nervous wreck for her already.
Around here Labor Day weekend
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Weekend coming. What is everyone doing?
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Weekend Plans
Saturday we're going to the Zoo. One of the elephants is having a 40th birthday party celebration there. And Sunday the family's driving about an hour away to go visit my parents.
Just got in from Las Vegas so the weekend
should be a little less active.
Weekend plans
We're going to finish school shopping and then on Sunday we're going back to the NYS Fair to see the American Idol concert and Monday probably a cookout with our friends.
The weekend after Thanksgiving
We go out and get the tree and decorate the inside of the house.
Saw some like those at the Bass Pro this weekend nm
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So, what's everybody got planned for the weekend?
I'll be working Saturday and Sunday, but I might have a few extra minutes to go to the fabric store. I'm going to try to finish a few UFOs (unfinished objects - sewing). And, I'll be stopping in here, of course. So, what's everybody else doing? 
Memorial Day weekend
So what fun things do you guys have planned for the long weekend?  
I have to work.  
So, so sad. Especially Father's Day weekend.
He will be so terribly missed, especially during the election coverage. I will remember him with the white board and writing all over it. I always enjoyed watching him. He sure knew his stuff. Way too young.
Girls weekend? I'm in....
Those are the best. A new place each time. What fun that would be!
Yep, my weekend to work...
Put in 10 hours yesterday and 8 today. Not as tired as I thought I'd be, but getting there.
What about a weekend in the mountains?
You can usually rent cabins pretty cheap and you could give them a gift card for a nearby restaurant. Usually if you let the cabin rental place know it's their anniversary they'll throw in some extras. That way they could go hiking and what not since you said they were active.
Thank you - we will be out shopping this weekend - nm
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I give up. weekend yet? NM
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techno weekend
Totally techno day today. Got MP3 for Vday - not fancy or anything and never really something I knew I wanted, but spent the morning downloading and LOVE IT Will mostly use when walking the dogs. Anyone have any ideas on best way to buy music? I got a Rhapsody CD with a free month. Do I need it? I actually like offbeat stuff, movie soundtracks or old stuff like Jackson Browne. Running on Empty was my first download and Christian Automobile by the Dixie Hummingbirds my second, so very eclectic taste.
Secondly, anyone attempt to use the new TV converter boxes? I apparently bought the exact opposite of what I needed (dig to analog instead of other way round) and used the $40 coupons, so that will be a fun return/refund. We have never not had cable/DISH, but my husband had a fight with a phone cust rep in another country shall we say and got mad and discontinued service. This was a month ago and after a short withdrawal period we find we love not having so many choices. Who knew?
I will not work on Thanksgiving day, but over that weekend -sm
when I choose to work. I will have 90 minutes of work to get done by Monday; so will probably just do 30 minutes each morning and still the day free for the most part. As for Christmas, I am probably have to work on Christmas day but only because I will not have had time to do my work before then. I will only take 60 minutes for that weekend but won't have much time to do it until Christmas night, so that will be interesting. I am going to try to do it Friday night/early Saturday morning of the weekend so I will not have to work Christmas night. It will make me more tired but I'd rather be tired than have to work the night I get back after driving 200 miles. But I don't have to work on the holiday. We are off when the hospital is off, which follows state mandates, so we get all the major holidays.
There is a funeral in our area this weekend for ...
a soldier killed in Iraq and just found out those wonderful people from Kansas are planning to attend. 
Maybe a day at a spa just for her and her friend, or maybe a weekend getaway for
s
My dream would be a weekend of him helping (sm)
When he and I and the kids all work on getting everything back in order. But he would be angry the whole time, as if he shouldn't have to be doing it. I may end up hiring someone. I have thought about it all day. It would be worth it!
First time in 9 years that I have a 4-day weekend...
And I plan on doing NOTHING! Happy Labor Day!
My kids homecoming is this weekend
just depends on the football schedule. They play 10 games each season and this is the next to last home game. Next one isn't until the end of October. Our first game was in August.
This past weekend my neice was
leaving school (this is her freshman year) to come home for the weekend. Her car wouldn't start. She certainly could have called her RA for suggestions or even called campus securtiy but due to no experience with something like this she caught a ride with a friend that lives in our area. Her mother and a friend took her back to school yesterday with jumper cables (turns out the battery was dead cause she had left a light on) and a few lessons about her car. They showed her how to use the cables, check air pressure in tires, check oil, washer fluid, etc. Both my kids are still home so these are things I had never thought of and obviously my SIL hadn't either. A lot of these things I still don't know. I lived with my parents until the day I married so I have always had someone to take care of these things for me. I just wanted to pass along this tip for anyone else like me that just never thought about it before. I guess we all live and learn.
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