I'd say she has been hurt badly and deeply
Posted By: sm on 2007-07-18
In Reply to: What do you think causes a person to be --sm - Debra
besides having a questionable upbringing. It has been shown you can even be raised weird and still have great qualities - something happened to push those natural feelings towards other human beings way down inside her. If it were me - I would just kind of detach myself from her as she will most likely not change and you will grow to become bitter and you cannot change her. You are not going to get what you need as a friend from her. Sorry also about your son. Hugs!!
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People that hurt dogs should be hurt themselves in the exact same way. I HATE sm
cruelty to animals.
I am deeply sorry for your loss - see inside
Try to remember all the good times you shared and he will always be in your heart. I like to share this piece with other animal lovers, but Rainbow Bridge is also comforting:
Do not stand on my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints in the snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am a gentle Autumns rain
When you awaken in the morning hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
I am the birds in circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
So do not stand on my grave and cry
I am not there.... I did not die
May peace fill your heart. Take care.
I am deeply sorry for your overwhelming loss
A Simple Message From Your Pet
by Ken D. Conover
To have loved and then said farewell is better than to have never loved at all.
For all of the times that you stooped and touched my head, fed me my favorite treat and
returned the love that I so unconditionally gave to you. For the care that you gave to me
so unselfishly. For all of these things I am grateful and thankful. I ask that you grieve
not for the loss but rejoice in the fact that we lived, loved and touched each other's lives.
My life was fuller because you were there, not as owner, but as my friend. Today, I am
as I was in my youth. The grass is always green, butterflies flit among fthe flowers and
the sun shines gently down upon all of God's creatures. I can run, jump and play
and do all of the things that I did in my youth. There is no sickness, no aching joints
and no regrets and no aging. We await the arrival of our lifelong companions and know
that togetherness is forever. You live in our hearts as we do in yours. Companions such
as you are very rare and unique. Don't hold the love that you have within yourself.
Give it to another like me and then I will live forever. For love never really dies,
and you are loved and missed as surely as we are.
Your pet in heaven.
Not only is he treating you badly,
what kind of a man tells his wife and children to leave the home? My parents divorced when I was 11 and as I got older I realized it really was for the best. You need to show your children that it is not okay to disrespect anyone. You should go ahead and at least consult a lawyer and see what your options are.
I feel so badly for you - sm
It is not supposed to be that way! Your hubby sounds pretty selfish. If I told my husband I needed him to stand on his head and turn cartwheels for me to orgasm he would at least attempt it, especially after a year of marriage. Is everything fantastic with him other than the sex issue??
But it may end badly for the dogs
They may not be taken care of when he's off doing other things. I would tell him though that he needs to buy or pay for the dog food and put a time limit on how long you'll take care of them. You're a good person to make sure they're taken care of.
Help for badly damaged hair
Got a perm a couple months ago (bad mistake -especially once DH said - is that the way you wanted it?) Anyway...since then have gotten it trimmed a couple times to get rid of the dead. But it is like a rats nest, looks dry and very frizzy. I have tried...curling creams, leave in conditioners, mousse, putty, creams, and a wide range of hair products. The other night I tried mayo & egg. My hair still feels dried out. Actually just feeling it now, the part that has grown out is not dry, but the part where the perm is is dry.
Anyone have any suggestions. How I miss my beautiful locks of my youth (I'm 51). I used to have beautiful curls and the hairdressers always commented they never seen such beautiful natural curls before. Now it's just old, frizzy, no curls and no body, and a thinning spot toward the top of my forehead. Talk about feeling old. I did just color it because sometimes coloring brings back shine and makes it manageable, but didn't do anything but get rid of the gray. I'm ready to just go Sinead. Any suggestions much appreicated.
Not everyone reacts badly to chemo - sm
My daughter was not throwing up every half hour. In the 18 treatments/doses she received in her five month regimen she puked 3 times I think. She was nauseous, yes, but Zofran took care of that. She lost about five pounds in all but most/all of that was tumor. She did not lose her hair until the 4th month, but as I said then if that is the worst thing to happen we will live with it. Hair does grow back. Her hair grew back red again, not as firey red, but still a beautiful color, thicker now too, and grows so much faster now too, already below her waist now in the 3.5 years it has been growing back. Her hair was very, very slow growing prior to her chemo (about mid-back maybe short when she got sick at 5, with absolutely no haircuts except for bangs). Physically now she is in fantastic shape. She never developed footdrop or any side effects other than nausea and exhaustion, she had little stamina for 6 months to a year after chemo ended. Now however she is great, looks great, is in great shape and is a very active 9-y/o. She has been thru a lot and is very mature for her age, more so than my soon to be 11-y/o. She has a lot on her mind and still worries sometimes she will get cancer again. I feel bad that she thinks that way but it is something she will have to live with for the rest of her life, but at least she will have a life. Without the chemo she would not have had one and she knows that, she is a smart cookie. She also knows I am her mom and I love her to pieces and will always make sure she is kept safe and hopefully healthy. If she never needs it I will give her one of my kidneys presuming I can. ---but chemo is proven to work more than it fails, nothing is 100%, but at 13 the boy is too young to understand the ramifications. He will die, period, no doubt in my mind, if he does not do chemo. Yes, he may still die with it but his chances are much less and if they go with a "natural" treatment his chances are definitely a lot less. Very short-sighted of both of them I think. Before anyone attacks me, I like you am entitled to my opinion but before you attack make sure you have walked in my shoes. A child sick with cancer is a very scary thing.
Does he treat you badly in front of your children or is it
usually "behind closed doors?"
Well I had a friend at work who wanted a baby badly
had hydrocephalus. She prayed and prayed. She finally decided through a lot of counseling that it would be better to abort this baby. So in what stage of abortion are we talking made to look at the ultrasound. Is this a whole different thing? Should she have been made to have that baby even knowing the baby would not survive? I think there are abortions for different reasons. JMO.
City of Angels. I couldn't leave the theatre I was bawling so badly. nm
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This might have hurt!
Do what I do...request a copy of the office notes and the results of all tests. One vet in my area does this routinely.
You mention that your cat is vomiting. I think my vet gave my 21-year-old cat cimetidine and this helped him. Also, I made chicken broth out of precooked chicken from the supermarket with salt added. My cat liked the Italian precooked chicken broth the best! Also, get a tube of Nutri-Stat or Nutri-Cal to supplement her diet when she isn't eat too well.
Is your cat hyperthyroid? She may need an adjustment in her meds. Do you have her blood sent out to an approved/independent lab such as Michigan State Univ or Cornell (there are more, just can't think of their names!!)
Please don't hurt yourself sm
The way you want to lose weight is very dangerous and could cost you your life and/or your health. If you feel truly "fat" and that's an awful way to feel. I went through a depression briefly and gained a lot of weight and felt this way. Once I changed my eating habits and made the effort to read labels, use self-control and exercise more, going to a smaller size made me feel so much better, that I continued to live healthier. The junk food, salty food and greasy food became intolerable to me after that, your whole taste bud thing changes once you get used to eating right. Force yourself to take a brisk walk, you need not join an expensive club, etc. Reward yourself with a nice arm bath, some nice lotion,a new haircut and perhaps a manicure (you can get this at Walmart for $12). As you begin to lose weight, you will feel much better and perhaps your husband will get a "wake up" call. I would just "get up early" and use this time for your personal exercise and "you"time, then he'll be left with the night-time option only, as you won't be there. I hope you can do this for yourself. Then if it doesn't work out, I would definitely seek professional help as newly weds usually do "do it" more often than most and something sounds fishy here. Try being a "new you" and make yourself so attractive you will keep him guessing as to what's going on with you, not vice-versa. Hang in and start dieting "yesterday," you can do it! Lose more than one kind of "baggage", mental as well as physical. You're worth it. Don't hurt yourself, these purging and vomiting things only cause you pain later on and it doesn't last. You need a whole new way of life. There's plenty of help on the Internet for you.Good luck, make yourself absolutely beautiful inside and out!
Would you be hurt?
Say you were out of town with four other friends. Each of the other ladies is TIED to their cell phone for calls and text messages. It is WELL known that you are NOT one who is tied to your cell phone and the group even jokes about the fact that if they were on the side of the road broken down the one person NOT to text would be you because you wouldn't get it for a week and they would end up dying.
Back to the question...so you're all out of town and it's decided that despite everyone being tired, you would all get together to watch a movie. You go to your room and hear nothing. So, you turn on the TV and settle in. A few hours later, you go to your phone and low and behold there it is...a text message to you saying "It's movie time...where are you?" You have received no phone call in your room and no one has come to your room to knock to see if you want to join them.
Are you angry? What do you do? What should you have done? Is this just a matter of both sides not communicating?
Curious to see what you say here...
it does hurt
My ex's mother has just never been the grandmotherly type. She calls sporadically - never remembers birthdays or Christmas. Fortunately, my daughter's other grandparents(my mom & dad) were great. But "granny" just doesn't get it - I think there is something missing in her brain. She even asked my daughter (then 20) how she could be a better grandparent -my daughter said just call, write, send a card on my birthday, etc. That has been 2 years ago and my daughter has heard nothing from her.
You have hurt his ego most likely, thinks that only he - sm
should be taking care of business, or else thinks the toy does too good a job and you will not want him. My DH and I have a few different toys, though we do not use them too much, use them more together than I do solo. As stated they can enhance the experience, try to show him that and use it together, or show him how to use it on you, but if that still freaks him out then I guess that is out and just keep it for yourself when he is not around. Mine would love it if I got more into them actually, just depends on the guy and how confident he is in himself I think.
Ouch! That must hurt. Sorry.
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Because I'm hurt. She never comes to my "parties" sm
even though I always go to hers (as stated previously before), and so, yes, it is personal. Like I said, I called her to see if she were coming to a BD party tomorrow in my son's honor and she was like, "what party?"
LOL-OMG ouch! That would hurt!! sm
Anyway, I understood what you meant. This denture thing is all new to me. I never realized I would have to learn to eat all over again. It was more of a necessity than an option to get them. I have a full upper and a lower partial so it's only the top I am having trouble with. Feels better right now since Dr. ground down the annoying edge. Have to go back Tuesday and I think he will knock down the other side just a hair. Now, just to get the partial tightened up enough to quit popping out when I move my tongue...... Also, thanks for the tip on the Camphopenique. I'll try that!
I had one 15 few years ago, and it hurt
like heck. I was cleaning my present doc's office weekly (also did his house twice weekly) and he peeked at it when he came in one day and said "Come in tomorrow and we'll drain it." I came in the next day with a lump nearly the size of a 2 walnuts and while I was in the room waiting for him to come in, all of a sudden it quit hurting and started going down. He walked in and said "did you hit that thing with a book" and I said "no, today was my day to clean your house, remember?" He said "Must have been pretty bad, huh? That thing ruptured on its own. I don't have to do anything." He still teases me about how how his house gypped him out of draining that ganglion. LOL-it never came back.
You think you hurt now but you have no idea how bad it can get
and will get if you do not end it right this minute. It will be hard - but you will survive. You know it is the right thing to do - which is why you posted here. You deserve more than being the 'other woman' and your feelings will never change for him as long as he is in your life. He lied to you - lie of omission - by not advising you of his wife. Change your email, change your phone number, get out and meet new people - go to church, get involved and try your hardest to stop thinking of him - trust me - this will only lead you to more pain if you dont' break if off now. Will it be easy? Of course not? Will you regret it? Sometimes - but someday you will be glad you did.
It is going to hurt less if you just say no at the start.
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I can understand why you are hurt at that on SM
a few levels. I hope it does not come to that until it is necessary. It sounds like you love and value this anmial, and for that I am glad. Cherish every moment your pet brings into your life. Let us know.
Wouldn't hurt to s/m
get the old movie "Grapes of Wrath" and watch that too. That'll show you what's ahead.
My big baby would never hurt someone..sm
that he knows and knows means no harm to him or his family. The only time he would hurt someone is if a stranger come in that was not supposed to be there and then I believe he could hurt them but the way I see it if someone wants to come up in my house when they shouldn't be there then they deserve what they get.
As far as our friends he loves them. As long as he knows you then he is fine. As long as he is introduced to people he doesn't know and you reassure him it is okay then he is fine.
I have no reason to be afraid of my dog. He honestly believes I am his mama I think. When I leave the house my husband said he sits at the window and whines until I come home. He is a big love. His best friend is a beagle who also lives in my house.
I am glad you do animal rescues, but how you claim to care for animals when you are prejudice to a certain breed you probably know very little about? Unless you have owned one it is impossible to know what they are really like. Until a dog has proved he is vicious and not to be trusted I don't think it is fair to stereotype them on what you have heard or believe to be true. I have had 2 Yorkies at different times, I have had a Chihuahua/Yorkie mix, and I have had 2 beagles. Out of all of them the Pit bull is the most affectionate dog I have owned. The Chihuahua/Yorkie mix comes in a close second. But you can believe it or not, he is the most affectionate dog I have ever owned. He just is protective of his family and to me there is nothing wrong with that.
What kids don't know won't hurt them.
My kids had no clue how slimy their dad was and what I had to do to protect us and I will never tell them. Their dad tried to drag them into the middle of it, but I was in his face faster than he could say "child support."
I know it's sad and unseemly, the things we have to resort to during a divorce, but it's ugly business and only a fool will put her honor before her children.
Maybe they just want to do something different w/o you this time and she doesn't want to hurt you
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Dyson! It hurt the pocketbook but I'm
Best vac I have ever had.
Had my feelings hurt, how to handle?
About a week ago my elderly aunt called and told me she was having problem with her scalp, asked what did I think she should do, dermatologist she asked. Told her I would be happy to check on an ole timey medicine to apply to scalp, used for daughter before and worked. Distributor no longer made but phamacist suggested something else. I took to her and did not want money for it and told her so. Today I get the cost of the medicine back and then she goes on to say what a terrible smell, stung when she first put it on (says so on the directions which I am sure she read), awful smell, could not go out anywhere, had to wash her hair, just terrible putrid smell. Now, except for a doctors visit every one in awhile, she does not go out and that is not every week. I did this out of kindness and now I feel hurt, not only about her returning the money but most of all how she went on and on and on about how she could not use. She is not senile, has plenty of sense, although elderly still drives and no kind of problems except I think she was kinda rude to me. Any ideas? Should I say something, let it go, not involve myself any more??
DH and I saw the crane and were wondering if any one had gotten hurt!!! nm
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Ouch! I'll say they hurt!
I've played paintball and it hurts through several layers of clothing. 
I don't know what the problem is either. My kids definitely have more stuff than I ever did. We got cable TV when I was in high school in 1983 and thought I had died and gone to heaven. Who knows what is going through their minds, but thank goodness for MY good kids, too.
Dang, I wondered why it hurt so much
sharper scissors, huh?
My shoulders and elbows hurt...anyone else have
Ok, a little background. I recently started a second job. I am working approximatley 12-14 hours a day (typing and other MT stuff). I have recently lost over 60 pounds. Over the weekend, I did raise my chair up some and that did seem to help, (I guess some of that 60 pounds was the big pillow I was sitting on!)but I still have some pain. Does anyone else experience this? If so, what did you do to help. I am 28, so I hope it isn't arthritis or anything yet! I am not a medicine taker and don't want to start taking anti-inflammatories or anything every day yet.
Thanks!
Honestly, it would hurt my feelings...
I've always had a key to my parents' house and if they asked for it back, it would hurt my feelings. It's kinda like saying you're not welcome here. Every time my parents move, they have extra keys made for me and my siblings, and it makes me feel like the door is always open. I live less than a mile away from them, but I make sure to always call before I come over. You might want to explain why you took the key from your son and make sure he didn't take it the wrong way and that he's still welcome to come back just to make sure he's okay with it.
I don't let people hurt my feelings any more sm
Was told years ago by a very good psychiatrist that we can control this ourselves - it is all about expectations. We let them hurt us - you had a higher expectation of her and when she did not deliver - she hurt you - so lower your expectation - realize she is weird (!!) that it was rather insulting - but don't let it hurt your feelings - and move on!! Kind of confusing I know - but it works
oh puhleeze - an employee gets hurt at Walmart
Oh...oh....LOL....my cheeks hurt....aerolas???LOLOL
LOLLOLL
You snip them off yourself, with scissors? Does it not HURT? Isn't there a lot of blood? sm
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It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
Oh please, a few drinks occasionally never hurt anyone, and may even cause some 'fun'
gosh forbid! I think those of you with these totally one-sided bad attitudes about alcohol have just had some very bad experiences with alcoholics. Most responsible adults can have a couple of drinks. Give me a break! We're all grownups here.
Our dog bit a girl "that was pulling his hurt ear"
Well the girl's foster parents sued my parents' homeowners and they got their money. So, you need to contact the police again and find out how you can go about filing a claim. My parents' homeowners insurance went up after that, even though the little girl "provoked" the dog. The provoked part didn't matter. So, I guess what I am trying to say here is that my parents were "your neighbors" and they got sued and their insurance premium went up. We're going back quite a few years, but I'd bet those people that own that dog will lose their homeowners once you sue.
I would have to bet though that the "foster parents" of the bitten dog probably got legal assistance for free too, since they had about 10 foster kids and were getting a fat check each month and obviously not supervising these kids for that girl to have pulled my dog's ear. My dog jumped our fence and cut his ear, that girl pulled on the dog's ear, yet the police said that my parents were still responsible for the bite. I highly doubt that child really need the surgery and probably never even got the surgery, but those foster parents I'm sure took that check right to the bank.
That may sound harsh and by all means I know that not all foster parents are irresponsible, but in my opinion, my parents got the raw end of the deal.
Good luck whatever you decide.
The sheer look of them makes my feet hurt..nm!..
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I heard him too. Just a small lie, doesn't hurt anybody.
Obama said when they got a dog, they would get a rescue dog..a "mutt" just like him.
He even lies about the little things.
She said she wasnt hurt, GEEZE, done you people read the
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My kids only act out like that if they are sick - get him a strep test! Has he said his stomach hurt
My kids act terrible when they are sick - many times they have gotten in trouble and then later I find out they are sick. Both of them have had strep several times with NO SORE THROAT, NO FEVER, just stomach pain.
Would you wear high heels even if they made your feet hurt?
A survey conducted by the American Podiatric Medical Association showed some 42 percent of women admitted they'd wear a shoe they liked even if it gave them discomfort; 73 percent admitted already having a shoe-related foot issue. http://www.oprah.com/beauty/webmd/200802/beauty_highheels_b1.jhtml?promocode=CNNheelsDL?cnn =yesYou can read tips on how to avoid hurting feet at that link.
Morally-wrong things hurt other people. Loving
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Suggestion for cleaning chrome faucets in bathtub that does not hurt the finish of them but
removes water spots.
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