I'd have a lot more energy and inclination to consider that if I got 7 days of fair help with hou
Posted By: Zara NM on 2008-11-24
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If you have the time or inclination - sm
1) Get out with him, have a weekly date night, or twice a month, or even once a month if getting a babysitter is a pain.
2) Get yourself some outside hobby and leave the house one night a week and do something for you, maybe it will spur him to do something to.
3) Join a gym, go work out at 3 nights a week or again have him join you if so inclined.
My DH doesn't have a lot of friends or go out, but then again I don't go out either. We do however talk on the phone with various friends on a regular basis. Too far away to get together basically. But he does go fishing with a neighbor generally once a week or more when the weather is nice. I gab with my one neighbor almost every day so I get some socialization and I am always on the run with taking the kids here and there and have lot of social contacts/acquaintances that way. Maybe you could rope him into helping (though mine digs in both heels and has not helped me with my driving duties for 2 years now). We also try to go out at least 2 x a month and do some family outing on the weekend whether it is a free tour or a trip to the park or local zoo or skating. We have fun and the kids have fun too. Good luck.
No energy
Yes, I am exactly the same way! This year has started earlier than usual but that might be due to the fact that I haven't found a job yet. But I hate the medications they suggest because it makes me feel detached, what do you do or take for it?
I get the low energy part too... sm
I use several things ...ginsana helps and I also use Emergen-C packets that you mix with water are helpful. Those things help with that part, but not 100% cure. I feel like half the month I am taking something to help me stay awake during the day, something to help me sleep at night, and something to calm me down during PMS. I never imagined perimenopause would include all of these symptoms! I am going to do some research and see if I can find any answers!
Ideas for Low Energy
hi, just wanted to offer some encouragement, if possible, to say hang in there and we all feel like that sometimes. I think it's a matter of frequency and duration, though, as to determining for yourself what's tolerable and what's not. also, you don't mention specifics such as your age, level of fitness, etc. i know that when i started having perimenopausal symptoms, i wasn't feeling very energetic at all. i looked into some herbal supplements like maca root, which has helped somewhat. there's a supplement called nadh as well, or NAD, and that's supposed to help with low energy while not having the same side effects as, say, a ton of caffeine (although I MUST have my morning coffee!). another option is an herbal infusion made of stinging nettle: http://www.susunweed.com/Article_Energy_Stamina.htm
having energy is a very multifaceted issue, imho, which takes into account one's whole being on a physical/emotional/spiritual level, and so i tackle it with a multifaceted approach. as a single mom of a young boy, in my mid-40s, i need all the energy i can get! i work out at least 3 times a week or more doing cardio SO THAT I SWEAT. sometimes it's a struggle to do it but i put on the tunes and go for it for 45 min. i keep hydrated. i use herbals. but i also nurture my soul...When i'm working, classical or jazz or other soft music is on in the background. i give myself comfort foods, and yes, coffee. i do an email here and there in between notes or in the middle of one for a very quick break (case in point). if i'm low energy for too long, i ask myself why that might be, which it sounds like you're doing. sounds like you're overworked and worried too, which doesn't help. trying to find ways to reduce stress is key. sometimes for me it's a glass of wine, or watching my favorite show once a week for a treat. whatever is FUN for you is key.
again, just my humble opinion, but it's something i've dealt with often, and these are ideas that have worked for me, including a "gratitude list" on occasion, or a gripe list, whatever feels right at the time!
Good luck!
okay...so it is supposed to conserve energy--sm
now could you possibly explain to me HOW it is supposed to conserve energy?? All they are doing is taking an hour off the morning and putting it onto the evening. So, it is still dark in the am when you get up and you turn on a light to see, but you don't have to turn one on until later in the evening because it is still light out. So, in my baffled mind...how does this make any difference????
to the other poster who's smart alarm clock DID change, do you know what brand it is??? Mine did not change this time, but it HAS changed with daylight savings time in the past. just curious.
thanks.
energy star light bulbs
Just remember if you drop and break one of the new energy efficent light bulbs they have mercury in them. you can't just suck up the mess with your Dirt Devil(: On the back package there is a list of how to clean up mercury spills or you can call the EPA in your area. Leave it to our govt to create a light bulb where you need a govt run agency to help you clean it up!
Start with safety, then energy efficiency, then the pretty stuff.
We live in a house built in 1915, and we bought it in 1985. It was in a very, very sad state. We're still working on it, and are even re-doing things we fixed years ago. Firstly, make sure that everything is safe. Could the wiring cause a fire? Fix that for sure! How about the plumbing, roofing, gutters, all the things that can cause water damage when in disrepair. Water damage is a really awful thing. If all of that is ok, try to save some money with some energy efficient things. We have more than 50 windows in our house, and bit by bit we've replaced most of them. I love the tilt-in, easy-to-clean new windows that are also energy efficient. We also replaced our boiler. (We have hot water heat in the winter and elaborate, cast iron radiators from the 1920s.) That saved us lots of money over the long run. Same with the hot water heater. (We don't have a/c.)
For the fun stuff, I used to love going to Lowe's, Home Depot, etc, and just walk around to get some ideas. They also sell really nice design books. And then, there's t.v. Check out home and garden network, style, and DIY networks. They all have websites. Google the style of design that you like and see what nice ideas you can find. The computer makes research so easy!
Enjoy!
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award. 
Fair enough...
I was just wondering. Have a great day.
Seems fair to me.
I'll perform it if no MD will.
maybe not fair
I think the problem comes from Christians being so sure we are right, we want to try to save the non believers. . . maybe we should just let everyone worry about themselves. . . it is a difficult subject. . I'm sure non believers are just as sure they are right. .
And I thank you for being fair.
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Fair is fair, I mean.
Be fair sm
I learned in journalism class that a reporter must be fair. So would you say the same for Pepsi?
Just kidding - will have to look further into this. Water is very good for you. Don't get enough of it myself, although I do like a lot of tea, so I guess that makes up for the water consumption per day. Now if I could only drink the tea without sugar - that would be healthy. Try honey but kind of messy, usually give up on it, always in a hurry.
Fair enough...
There are reduced rates for low income families and other programs to feed the needy kids. If parents want their kids to eat, they should pay for it.
Is this fair or right?
On another board I frequent there is a discussion going on and I'd love to hear your take on it. It's about a possible law to have welfare recipients take urine tests (for drugs use) in order to receive payments.
You like? You hate? Why?
I am so sorry. It's just not fair! nm
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Love the NYS Fair
I live about 15 minutes away and we go every year. This year we're going to the AI concert. It's an annual tradition for us since a few days after the fair ends school starts.
Going to the fair and also going fishing.
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It's not really a fair comparison - that may be what she said to you (sm)
but although it may not be true about you it doesn't mean it isn't true about her. I am sorry she said that to you and I would never say any of that to my MIL or about her other than on here on an anonymous board. But thanks for your opinion.
OK, to be fair. I know if you adopt one SM
you must keep it in the house. That's one of the rules for adoption.
When thinking about it (I'm talking about racing dogs now), they are trained to run after a rabbit(?), so, yes, they probably MIGHT run after creatures, should get out.
It's just the thought of those poor dogs put to death because they are of no use to their owners, is horrifying to me.
No, I'm not a member of PETA. LOL!
That is not a fair resonse. I do all the ....sm
things a responsible owner should do. I keep my dog either in my house or in a fenced in yard. I have him vaccinated as I should. He is fed, bathed, and treated as he should be. I do everything I am supposed to. How can I not be a responsible owner? Just because of his breed. I don't think so. My dog has never been used to fight and will never be used to fight. If you don't own one and raise them properly you will never know the potential they have to be a loving dog. Personally a lot of people don't even know mine is a pit bull. He is either mistaken for a boxer lots of times or an american bulldog. Sometimes I am tempted to not correct them.
fair warning!!!! :)
The Wii is a blast! We bought one last year. Last week I bought Dance Dance Revolution 2 for it. It is extremely hard even on beginner! It will literally wear you out and if you are as out of shape as I am, plan on being very sore! LOL I really do like the Wii and plan on getting the fit later this summer. For us, it's something the entire family loves, except the b/f refuses to do the Dance Dance Revolution. LOL
Congrats on your quitting smoking! We are starting that as well. My b/f just started the Nicoderm patch. If he doesn't have too many side effects from it and it seems to work okay, I'm going to start it in a few weeks. I'm currently just cutting back right now. Cigarettes are getting so darn expensive. Marlboro are over $5 a pack and the fed tax increase of $0.62 starts April 1st. Illinois is trying to pass $1 tax on top of that. Pretty soon it's gonna be $7 for a pack of cigarettes. We've had enough.
Sorry to ramble! :)
Good luck to everyone quitting!
Doesn't seem fair.
I have 2 with balances on them. However, I have not used them in a while and have been paying at least minimum and more when I can on time. I don't know what we are going to do. Our mortgage or car payments are all paid up so we dont' have to worry about that but if this happens we may have to put a lein on our house and vehicles. Which brings me to another OMG. I don't know if our vehicles are going to be worth anything since now they are really pushing Hybrids. I don't know if they are going to make it a law or not, but if they do, it is another scary thing. How are we going to afford car payments. How is my mom, my MIL and my dad going to afford car payments like that when they only bring in $800 to$900 a month on their SS if even that.
I do have a bicycle, which i do plan on ridding more often but dang it hurts my legs and my tail to ride it.
ITs not fair, but it does negatively sm
affect your credit rating. Idon't get it. But if you listen to Suze Orman that is one of her big things she is always saying, don't close your accounts!
about 30 days, < 30 days pregnant (nm)
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Fair enough! You mind your own uterus...
but if you don't mind it well and find yourself pregnant, you should have to pay for yoru abortion yourself. The government (and my tax dollars) should NOT fund abortion. I disagree with the procedure on moral grounds, so why should I fund it if you (or someone else) can't, as you put it, take care of their uterus?? Tell you what! You stay OUT of MY pocket and I will stay OUT of YOUR uterus!! Howzat??
That is an extremely fair pay and I would expect
them to do a great job for that. I have had the same problem with them starting out good and then having to go behind them like you said. I would first start out clearly stating what you want done and that you expect a good job consistently, even 6 months down the line. That is what I've been telling everyone I've talked to is that I need a consistent job each time.
Thanks for the info! Sounds fair to me. (nm)
New York State Fair
My husband and I went once twenty one years ago, before we were married, and then just last year finally took our nearly-grown kids after getting tickets to see James Taylor there. We had a ball and plan to do it again this year - every year at Labor Day. It's about a 2-1/2 hour drive for us, and well worth the effort, though I think we're going to get a hotel room instead of making it all in one day this time.
Let me guess, the 15 yo says, "It's not fair!"
I can hear it now, because I have three teenagers and I've been working with teens for years. I wish I had a nickel for every time I've heard a drawn out exclamation, "It's not faaaiiiirrr."
My opinion: The 15 yo doesn't need more clothes, the 8 yo does need the long sleeved shirts. Therefore, it IS fair to spend money on one and not the other. It wouldn't be fair if the older child received something he/she does not need simply because needed items are being bought for the younger child.
Kids are very poor judges of fairness when it comes to getting "stuff" that they want. They have a hard time discerning between what they want and what they need, and a good many of them have no real appreciation for how much effort parents put into earning money and providing for their children. The kids just want, want, and want.
You are the parent, you are the judge and jury when it comes to decided what they need and what your budget can handle. Here's an opportunity to really teach fairness.
And if the kid continues to whine about it, turn your back and walk away. It takes two to argue. Give your reasons for your decision ONCE and walk away. Don't be manipulated, or your child will learn to be a manipulator.
Now, if the 15 year old wants to go and earn money OUTSIDE of the house, or do some out-of-the-ordinary chore that you are willing to pay for, say clean the garage. That's another good lesson. Work, earn, achieve. But I don't pay out cash for regular everyday stuff that has to be done simply because we all live together. When you do that, then it's hard to get them to do regular chores if a child doesn't need money.
Hey, invite me to give an opinion, and that's just what I do!
Is it fair to attack her parenting?
I thought Christians weren't supposed to judge. Is it because she *let* her daughter make her own decision to become atheist? I can't stand hypocrisy. It's what starts wars.
Okay, this probably wasn't really fair - hint
Most people have never even heard of this movie so I will give you a hint.
Richard Lewis plays a less than confident surgeon.
"I was a field surgeon during the war. We'd work long hours. We'd eat while we operated. One time, there's this young soldier I was trying to save, he took a cannonball in the stomach. After 18 hours of surgery, I did it. Never felt better in my life. Until, just like that, the patient dies. Turns out I left half a bologna sandwich in his lung."
I certainly do my fair share of lying
but i can't say that i've ever really made up anything huge but nobody has ever really called me on it either. Maybe those I lie to are either just gullible or too nice to say anything about it or maybe not good at spotting a lie. I don't know, but I do know I lie a lot. Maybe it's because of my low self-esteem, and maybe that's why people don't really call me on it, because they pity me too much.
Absolutely fair, otherwise the money might
be spent for their habir.
fair living wages
What do you feel is a FAIR and REASONABLE rate to pay an employee medical transcriptionist?
For point of reference, yesterday I did some basic calculations.
In 1987, I was hired as a TOTALLY GREEN NEWBIE at 4 cpl. In 1988-1989 sometime, I got a raise to 4.4 cpl. My "guarantee rate" for 90 days after hiring was $7/hour. The minimum wage at the time was $3.35 I think. ($4-something maybe?) So my "guarantee rate" was approximately double the minimum wage. At 4 cpl, I needed to be typing 175 lph as a brand new fresh newbie! And amazingly enough, I only used my "guarantee rate" during my first pay period - every pay period after that, I was paid at my lph rate, not my guarantee rate! This was on an Selectric TYPEWRITER, not a computer!
Nowadays, MQ has a standard "guarantee rate" for 30 days instead of 90, and it's $10/hour. Their minimum line production is 100 lph, or 150 lph for full-benefit full-time employees.
I would like to discuss the following questions on a new forum: http://mtfallenstars.proboards.com/index.cgi Please join me there!
What has changed in our industry? Why has the line-per-hour rate gone down instead of up? Why is the guarantee rate now less than double minimum wage? Why do seasoned experts in the field consider it a good day to make $15/hour while newbies struggle to stay off food stamps?
1 vote per phone number would be fair...sm
that way they'd really know what people think and not who has the fanciest speed dial modems that casts hundreds of votes per phone line.
*time wasting* ?? Not fair statement
my company offered me 10 yearly, is that low/fair?
Thanks in advance...it is probably low but I will still take it. Was just hoping someone else would share their info
Voting is more fair on the dancing show. You have a
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Fair question. I have made choices in my life that sm
afford me to stay at home and work. When I say refuse, yes, I refuse to put my children in childcare because I can do so. I can choose to take them to a daycare provider, but i want to be their sole providers and protector always. I can do that. It is a luxury.
Now, do I look down upon moms and dads who use childcare? Absolutely not. My heart breaks for those moms who want to be at home with their children but for unforeseen circumstances they just can't. I understand that if I was in another situation where I couldn't work from home then they would be somewhere else, but then if that was the way it was I would not have had kids. My kids are 5 and 2. I've been doing MT for 9 years from home. So, you can do the math there.
Do you attend a local state fair in the summer? How far
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The fair thing would be to share it and split the prize - sm
good karma and all that. I try to do that though, I have had more bad than good lately. I am expecting a refund of an overcharge today in my account, bank informed me yesterday that the store (7-11) appeared to be refunding in full all four purchases I made on a particular day ( I am disputing 3 charges and only 1 of them partially as I did owe some of the money). If they do refund all I will end up with an extra $120. So if that ends up being the case I will do something with half of that to benefit someone else whether it be a school fundraiser, the local Goodwill, a charity I like to donate to, etc. I try to balance it all out, plus it is nice to be able to help others when you can.
Days gone by
I'm right there with you. It is really scary out there today.
As far as the original post, while I know arrests of innocent people are made, I do find this story EXTREMELY hard to believe. True or not, though, you are right -- protection of your child is your first priority as a mother. Pornography is no longer just looking at naked ladies, it's just downright disgusting. I have two sons, 12 and 10, and I live in fear of what is out there that could hook them.
I have many days like that too :(
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in a few days?.............no no no.....sm
The faster the better on these fraud things - your daughter is going to wait a few days? This is VERY_BAD.
She should have already gotten a police report (takes 4 days to physically get it in her little hands) - and then she should have ALREADY called the bank to freeze her account, open another account.
BTW, my daughter had her purse stolen from my car - she called me immediately - I was on the phone with the bank, every credit card company, etc. (this was on a Sunday), and on Monday - I showed up at the bank and the perps got NOTHING. Time is of the essence on these matters.
When my daughter first moved out of the house back in 1999, someone stole checks from her house/desk. They got all her $$ which was $1400. She went to the bank - and the bank, at first, didn't want to give her the $$ back - but in the end, they did !!! All the $$.
Again, time is OF THE ESSENCE! Hopefully, while I'm typing this, I'm thinking you are SURE to tell me that the bank was notified via phone when it happened.
*fingers crossed*
Yes, it went away after three or four days.
As far as results, I am 45 with very fair skin. I did notice that my skin FELT nicer. It definitely felt smoother, and I thought I looked "brighter", if that makes any sense. It didn't actually erase any wrinkles, but then, I have to say that I don't have tons of wrinkles - great genetics. I have crinkle lines when I smile, but not wrinkles on my relaxed face. I still use Roc, but only about four times a week, and I'm always very careful about sunblock twice daily. (I like Neutrogena daily defense.)
Days
Do you think Sammy and EJ will get together? I hope so. Lucas is such a tool.
One of those days
I think I am to the point where is someone were to offer me $100 I would take it and take my dog and two cats, leave and not look back. Become homeless, no responsibilities or cares. I know just a bad day and tomorrow will be better. But at least I have somewhere to write this to make me feel better.
I don't think so - these days (sm)
People work into their 70s and beyond, that mentality may have been more reasonable when people retired at 60. Especially if what you want to go to school for is 4 years or less. I actually know someone that finished medical school at 40 and then started into residency - not finishing until 6 years later (extra fellowship).
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