Husband did a bizarre thing - may be offensive so
Posted By: Read at your own risk on 2007-11-08
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Everyone was getting ready for school and work this morning, hustle and bustle about the house....I open the door to our room and my husband is right there, door unlocked, using my underwear as a catcher's mitt! He had gotten my clean underwear out of the drawer. We have been having some marital problems and have talked of divorce. I am kind of freaked out. Does this mean he misses me? Does it mean he likes getting away with something right under my nose? Why would he do it at that time of the morning with everyone walking around and the door unlocked? Am I just being naive?
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My husband did the same thing one year, except it
was blue with big white clouds on it. I was very angry, exchanged it, and still wasn't happy because I thought he just didn't care. My kids have always been great about gifts, even when not having a lot of money to spend. Anyway, I had my big pout session that year and didn't feel one bit better. I have since come to realize how wonderful it is to have a husband and family just to spend time with. I love him dearly whether he gets me anything or not. This year I got a very nice jewelry box for which I had absolutely no need, but he tried. He loves me and that's enough. I am so blessed. I could have been spending Christmas all alone, but instead, I got to spend the day with my family. DH had to work, so we had to celebrate later, but I still knew he was coming home that afternoon and I had that to look forward to.
My husband had the EXACT same thing (sm)
and yes, it was a fungal infection. I tried treating it with OTC cream but it just didn't work. Finally our NP gave us a prescription for cream called clotrimazole and betamethasone diproprionate 1%/0.05% (Lotrisone) and within 4-5 days it was completely cleared up. She did recommend Gold Bond as a preventative but he never used it. He's a diabetic to boot, so is always going to be prone to various skin issues I guess...bummer.
It is offensive...
When you call the MTs here "lemmings" and "part of the masses," and on and on. Nobody appreciates being talked to in that manner.
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That is offensive! ....sm
A dating website for married people? Who come up with this? This is wrong, very wrong.
Ex-husband had it. Same thing..out of nowhere, even at rest, his heart would just take off, up
over 200 beats a minutes. It was very scary. I think his was caused by congenitally having an extra vein or artery on his heart on the underside to which electrical currents travels and no way to slow it down. Evidently, he went to a cardiac electrophysiologist who did an ablation. Basically, put an electric wire up through the femoral artery to the problem and zapping it with an electrical current which shorted it out, much like if you would stick a wire or key into an electrical outlet. It cured him, but up until that point, he was having to stay on medication to control his heart beat so they wouldnt go out of control.
First thing my husband asked when I told him was...sm
Did she get married before it happened?
That is either the sweetest or saddest thing I have ever heard.
I have to agree with getting offensive
I changed my phone number, email addresses, changed my locks, bought a new computer and furniture, moved 7 times to 4 different states, wasted tons of money on private dectectives and attorneys, kept 2 cell phones (1 he knew about, 1 he didn't), used phones at apartment complex business centers on occasion for complete privacy... Finally filed bankruptcy because of it. Know what worked? I told him to leave me alone and began documenting every contact he made. I went to the police station once a week with list in hand. You don't have to ask for a warrant when you file a complaint...you have up to 1 year from the date of the complaint. If there are enough complaints, the police can refer it to the district attorney's office for prosecution. I had to coordinate my complaints between multiple states. Not even the PI discovered the GPS unit hidden on my car, or the microphones hidden in my couch - I did. Once there are enough complaints, you can request a warrant for arrest. He now knows not to enter the state where I currently live and get noticed by the police because of outstanding warrants. I never did file for an order of protection. I didn't have to go that far. The final straw for him, though, was to become someone he did not WANT. If he happened to get me on the phone, I pretended to be drunk and talked about getting drunk all the time. That was disguisting to him...only guys were "allowed" to drink that much. Between the warrants and his idea that I was no longer desirable, he left me alone.
The drama ended 2-1/2 years ago and I am still overly cautious about what information I give out to people I don't know well, watch my rear-view mirror when I drive, etc., but I feel safer than I have in a long time.
My vent - tremendously offensive - ashleymadison.com
As a happily married woman who has watched couples around her disintigrate because of one or another spouse's infidelity, this is just disgusting. This company was going to advertise during the SuperBowl but the NFL stepped in and said no. Kudos for them.
I hate to break it to folks, but cheating on your spouse is NOT okay. It is adultery, and in a lot of places it is still a crime. It may not be enforced, but that law is there on the books in most states in this very country. It is the one sin the Bible says cannot be forgiven completely. There is a reason for that.
Before you all hit me with 'what about abuse', let me say that this is an area where I have gone 'round and 'round with pastors - if a man (or woman, for that matter) abuses their spouse, then that is most definitely a reason for divorce. However, all these folks just 'tired' of one mate and looking for another? You should have chosen better to begin with. Everyone says 'is this the person I want to wake up next to for the rest of my life', but the real question needs to be 'is this the person i am willing to change diapers for when and if they cannot do it for themselves'. If you can look at the person next to you and say that you will stick with them no matter what, not counting abuse and adultery, but if this person gets a TBI in a car accident the day after your wedding, and you are not willing or able to take care of them for the rest of their lives, DO NOT MARRY THEM, because if you don't care for them that much, you will not stay married to them.
There, I am off my soap box. I am sure I will get pounded for this, but let her rip. I'm a big girl and I can handle it...or just not read those posts.
HC
I find it very offensive that is how you taught your daughter to vote
if my other post is deleted, just thought id add some more.
Not only is it ridiculous that you told your daughter to vote that way, it is ignorant and racist and REALLY SAD
but you just admitted what this election came down to RACE
NOT POLICIES, NOT WHO IS THE BEST FOR THE JOB.
RACE. Exactly what President Elect didn't want it to be about.
how sad are you telling your mixed baby to vote more black than white, when Obama himself is black and white.
sickening and you should be ashamed, how can you live with yourself knowing that you didn't back your vote on intelligence but skin color instead? you just took us back 40 years and admitted it.
there are PLENTY of black republicans, Condeelza Rice, JC Watts, Michael Steele ETC ETC
and this guy my favorite
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV1mRvxAyHM
AND
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxhYampIl7A&feature=related
Sure it's bizarre
But I would think people in a stable relationship would not cheat in the situation of dancing together just as they would not cheat in the situation of placing catheters. (LOL--I'm weird!) It's all done for the paycheck at the end. If someone leaves their spouse or boy/girlfriend because they are dancing together and cannot look past the job function, then it is the problem with the person, not a problem with the dancing itself.
My weird comparison is merely that it's the people with the problem, not the dancing situation (or other intimate situations).
I'm sure they WILL - it happens to less-bizarre
Every time that woman opens her mouth, she just digs herself in deeper, in terms of the possibility that the state will find her an unfit mother. Those babies are going to need a LOT of care, something Octo doesn't even seem to be able to do for herself, let alone anyone else.
his head IS very very bizarre
I also noticed this. I have never seen anything like it in my life! It almost looks like part of his skull is gone. I kept staring yet didn't want to look, if you know what I mean!
bizarre what mine got up to
I left him because he told me he was "gay" (among other reasons). He proceeded to throw himself into a gay lifestyle for a few years, then changed his mind and married a Korean lady who spoke little English and didn't drive. They had a child. Then he changed his mind again and decided he needed a sex change. She divorced him and he lost his visitation rights. Today he's living with a man who doesn't know he wasn't born a woman. Its disgusting he felt it was OK to mess up so many lives with deceptions on his path of self-discovery.
Mothman is bizarre! Kept me awake a while! (sm)
Had never heard of it until the post and then after the responses yesterday I looked it up and read about it. Also read about the cornstalk curse that is supposed to have been placed over the area by an Indian chief who was wrongly killed - Kept me awake a little while once I was in my dark room!! LOL!
It's bizarre regardless of her reasoning. Wonder what else he's hiding?
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Whaaat? That's pretty bizarre. And why would
It's a perfectly civil conversation about different beliefs. Unless you think that a thread that doesn't follow strict Christian philosophy would automatically be deleted from MT Stars?
Me too! SNL and Bizarre on HBO. Now THAT was naughty! Good times.. nm
Bizarre that you call your own son "her brother." Why are YOU estranged from your son?
If you have TOLD your own children that they "will never know you" then how can you expect them to know you?
You're actually considering disconnecting the phone because your own daughter made an incorrect assumption about you? You're going to estrange yourself from her, too?
You have so much more to deal with than you realize.
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
My husband is the same way
Something about guys and their cars. I have no kids though and recently married so we still do some of our banking and bills separately by my choice. I thought he was being selfish too. So I got myself a 2nd part time job and I recently went out and bought a newer, bigger, fully loaded SUV and I don't let him use it! lol
My husband and I are doing it right now
and it is working, slowly but surely. After the first couple of things are paid off, its gets better and faster. We have a poster board with all our debt and we redo it every three months, and I must say that you see the debt going away. My hubbie cut all my credit cards up, and I was upset but in the scheme of things, it was the best. We only have one income and its working. Give it a try, I think you'll be surprised that it actually does work. My friend is also doing it, and their debt is disappearing also.
My husband and I did think of it. NM
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What is your husband's take on that? nm
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Go for it! I met my husband .....sm
2 months after his wife died from a 3 year bout with cancer and we're very happily married.
Good luck!!!
My husband always tries, although he just
doesn't necessarily have the same taste as me. It is a hit and miss with him, but he always tries. This year we did not exchange gifts (agreed upon ahead of time) because I got a new house and he got a new truck. We concentrated on the kids. The only gripe I really have is that he doesn't do much in the way of getting me gifts from the kids on Mother's Day, and he's not much of a card person, although I am.
He helped me clean all week though, did anything I asked pretty much, cleaned up all day today, etc.
Honestly though, I do not agree with the posts below about making a list. I think that a gift should come from the heart and that some thought should be put into it. Things that I just want, I go get them myself.
My husband and I have 2
roundtrip airfare tickets for anywhere in the US. I'm looking for an all-inclusive resort (room, meals, activities), but am having a hard time finding one. Can you help me out with this? Thanks!
My husband
used this for his leg pain due to fibromyalgia but had a very bad reaction to it so was not able to continue to use it. He found a natural supplement online that has helped. Best of luck!!
So, you would be okay with your husband
nm
This is what my husband (sm)
told me last night. I really hope that isn't what is going on. I am going to talk to her again about it again today. She has a cell phone (very near and dear to her heart!) I like for her to have it, so that I know she is okay when she isn't home, but since I now know that she is still smoking, I think I have very good reason to ground her. Hence, she won't be needing the cell phone.
Thanks for the input everyone.
My husband only uses
regular lotion, but he does like to take baths sometimes. He was glad when we moved and got a garden tub so he could soak. He doesn't go out of his way to use bubbles, but he will take one with me with bubbles.
Met my first husband when I was 5, LOL - sm
First crush was Greg. I met him when I was 5. We played together at church. We started "going together" when I was 13. We got married when I was 18. We got divorced when I was 32. Tried again several times. Finally called it quits when I was 37...sigh.
Then there was Stacy....we were together for two years.
Then there is Tommy, we have been together for three years - married for two years.
My husband was the one who
donated the sperm and had it washed, the doctor performed the IUI, and nature created twins. It was a WE effort in my case.
This is your husband
If there's one person in the world you should be honest with, it's your husband. Don't lie about this, this is BIG...just explain to him your feelings and if he loves you and you love him, you can work it out and make both of you happy. But lying WILL come back to bite you in the a$$...trust me, I know...good luck!
My husband was gay
We've been divorced for a while now, but it still hurts like crazy. I don't know anyone who has been through this. Is there anyone out there who's spouse came out to them?
My husband did!
He had to have surgery because otherwise the muscles would have atrophied. Because lifting was required for his job, he was out on disability for 4 months. However, soon afterward a radiologist I knew had it done, and he only took 1 day off and then was back at work, not complaining, and not taking strong pain killers. My hubby is a big guy, and it was hard on him, but he's able to work fine now. He has also had cervical spinal fusion, and the rotator cuff was worse for him, oddly enough.
Husband and I have dog and cat instead!
Kids...no thank you! Decided at around 12-13 or so that I didn't want any. I'm 30 now and haven't changed my mind and don't plan to.
I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND
I am so mad with this man. Last night he made a comment that all I have to do on my job is sit on my A_ _ and stare at a computer screen. He thinks this job is cushy. I transcribe every foreign doctor known to man for 8-10 hours 5-6 days a week, achieve OVER my line counts and bring home more money than he does and I work from home. What in the world does he think gives him the right to talk down to me? Even though I love it, this is one of the most taxing jobs I have ever had in my life. The mental drain is incomprehensible at times. I was so mad when he came up with that, I would have thrown him out if he would have had anywhere else to go!
mad at husband
Do what I do..i put him in my chair with my own keyboard, a set of headphones and told him i would be back in 30 minutes. And I gave him one of my best enunciating docs to boot. Needless to say....no more sit on my a** comments any more. I put the son in the chair too. Good luck.
Which one, the husband or dog?
He, he!
What do you do when your husband says
He does not love you anymore after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids? He left once about 3 years ago, but came back saying he missed us and loved me and that he was just going through a tough time and he knew he was making a bad choice. I thought we were okay, not smart of me, then he started getting distant and grumpy all the time again, and he told me last night that he tried really hard these last 3 years, mostly for our kids sake and because he cares about me and does not want to leave me high and dry, but he does not love me and is not happy with me. He says we have nothing in common anymore, which we really didn't in the first place, but it was okay until recently.
I don't know what to do. All 3 kids are extremely close to their dad, and he loves them so much, but I feel I should move to where my parents are (next town 20 miles away) but it will be harder for him to see them and also rent is so much higher for housing there. I just feel like I want to be closer to my family because here, I have NO ONE. I moved here because it was his hometown and he was happy. I also have the kids in preschool here, again cheaper than in the town I want to go to. My son will be in first grade and needs speech therapy for developmental delay and I like the people who have been working with him as they know his history. Am I being selfish wanting to take them away from here? I am lost and don't know what to do. Thanks for listening. 
What do you do when husband...
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.
husband
he sounds like a pig... i say move on
My husband will be right over! LOL!
xx
Is my husband
Because I think we are married to the same guy. Here's my rule: I don't tell him everything, but when asked, I tell the truth. Except when I buy my son an $80 pair of shoes, I shave a few bucks off. Other than that I tell the truth. I know how you feel though. When he comes home if I hear squealing tires on the driveway or the door slams just right, I think, "Uh-oh. What did I do now?"
Is there anyone who has a husband...
like mine...he is an adult and acts like one, he respects what I do for a living, thanks me for working as hard as I do, would never expect me to do everything around the house without him helping out, and is generally a fabulous guy. Sounds like a lot of women are married to self-centered whiners who think THEIR job is the important one. I truly am blessed!
My husband...
I was going to post something similar to this...reading these threads about jerk husbands makes me sooo very grateful for mine. He's handsome, sexy, funny...works doggone hard for us so I can work PT, and still helps around the house in the evenings after work. Guess that's why I've kept him for 20 years---today!!! 
Oh, did I mention he's the bestest dad ever (as our DS puts it)...I could go on and on, but I won't...I am sorry for those who are not blessed with a wonderful man, it truly is a gift!
why the MIL and not your husband?
You are going after the wrong person. Your husband should be beside you all the way 100%. It is his job to talk/deal with his family. If he doesn't or won't, you've got a bigger problem with him than with the outlaws.
Your husband should say something
You are to cleave to husband and wife. If the MIL is not going to handle the situation your husband should definately stand up for you and say if you dont show some respect to my wife stay away. I have a SIL that does not like me either because she married into the family first and thinks I stole some of her thunder, but thank goodness my husband stands up for me. The MIL probably wants to keep peace that is how mine is, so I would talk to your husband about getting the situation resolved. Some people can be so dumb to act that way. Good luck, hope things get better.
What did your husband say about it?
xx
ex-husband
Well, Pammy,
I think you would fit right in with me and my friends' "board." We meet once a week and "discuss things." We all share the blessing of an ex-husband except one. Maybe ex is just so blissfully happy he forgot to tell you, or maybe he is just TOO CHICKEN - you think. In any case, the "board" meets tomorrow night. I'll be thinking of you.
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