Hubby called - didn't get one but his friend did
Posted By: Silly girl on 2008-10-12
In Reply to: good luck to your hubby! - Emily Ayn
They are going out again next weekend. I know what you mean about the jerky - I love it!! In fact, we are hoping he gets a deer because we were going to make jerky for Christmas gifts!
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hubby just called our 5 year old a dumba__
He was in the living room making a fire and my son kept touching things he told him not to and i heard him say, "I said quit touching the wood, dumb__" I came out of the bedroom stomping down the hall and took my son back here with me. I am in tears, I can't believe he would call him that!!!! am i over reacting??
No, but a friend called me and informed me that someone with my name was a judge, LOL nm
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I have a friend who called me to say her 34 year old son dying
this past week. I was shocked but this is a kid who has never hardly worked, looked to his mother for most things- she is on retirement and sucks the life from her. He is in ICU with cirrhosis, liver and kidney failure, started on dialysis yesterday. He has sat at home, not working, something wrong with all the jobs, but now he did have a girlfriend who worked part-time. My friend tells me he sat on the couch just drinking until he could not get up but continued just drinking, not eating, everything tasted like cardboard, he said. Well you know who was taking him the beer, right? The mother of course. Last Thursday my size 4 girlfriend had to carry her son (who was 60 something lbs) out to her car and rushed him to hospital, he stopped breathing, been on vent since. This is a mother who does the above, gives all she can and runs herself out to help her boys (34 and 34) but she thinks she helps. She has almost helped him into his grave - oh he is still very, very ill and may not make it. BTW, the girlfriend is now at the hospital begging for gas money to go back and forth to see the boyfriend and yet the mother has no real income of her own. She feels like she is an excellent mother also. Really sad to see this and so irritating at the same time as she really does not get it, the damage she is doing (has done).
A friend called me today on my break SM
and says she and her husband visited her husband's uncle last night in a local hospital here in our town. The nurse came in and gowned and gloved and wore a mask when taking vital signs while they were there. My friend went out to the desk and asked why . . . The patient has MRSA. No sign on door, no special instructions or precautions given to the public about visiting this patient. She says they were there for about an hour or so and she touched him different times during the visit. What do you think? The souce of the MRSA is unknown at this point. I told her to call her primary care and discuss this issue with him. 
Hubby's friend is a jerk - period!
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That's about the time I would have gotten dressed, called up a girl friend - sm
And gone to a movie or something. I would also make dern sure that I got home at least an hour AFTER he gets home. Let him wonder.
I agree my hubby's friend is getting disability for his back
lifts equipment, helps transport it, etc. He also doesn't pay child support. what a waste of space.
I called my Dr. he is out today. I didn't really think this could be serious...
I guess I was just assuming it was a problem with the way I was seated or something of that nature. The nurse didn't sound overly concerned when I called, but wanted to be sure the pain wasn't severe enough to warrant an ER visit. I really don't think it is a clot, as I'd assume that would hurt terribly, more than this is. Anyway, the Dr. is calling me back in the morning to let me know if he wants to see me prior to my scheduled appointment on the 6th.
I know noone here can diagnose or anything, but wanted to know if someone had experienced a similar issue. Thanks for the reality check though. I tend to not call the Dr. because I don't want to be a pest. 
I used to have a friend that called them land torpedos. I always thought they were cute. nm
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My now deceased husband brought his friend home, now my hubby
Was it love at first sight? Not for me but years later after the death of the previous one, my now husband (he never married, no kids) told me he had loved me from the very first day he saw me. I did not even know he saw me. We are talking 30 more years and the weight, well I will just leave at the 30+ years.
She called twice at lunch and I just didn't answer.
I know she won't listen to me as to why I won't buy, it is not the products it is the issue of having to buy every freak'n month. That is the isssue. At least that is how I perceived this from my mom. I am just going to half to tell her no that if she has nothing else to say go home or hang up I am busy.
As far as the weight issue is, I am sure she wanted to know she she can tell everyone that "well at least I don't weigh as much as cousin because she weighs blah blah blah." I know that is how she is. As far s the doctor weighing me, I am not sure. I think maybe some birth control methods doesn't work for women over a certain weight is the only thing I can think of. I bet though when he dictated his note about me it started with "this obese 32 YO" LOL.
I just called my friend and sang happy birthday on her lunch hour...sm
Juliet is a kindergarten teacher in NYC...She said, "We just had our Valentine's day cupcakes and pudding, then they went to lunch"...All I could say was "They're not going to gym next, are they?" She said, "Well yeah, that's their next class". I said, "Get ready for a barforama!"....If I hadn't already lived through it I could'nt have said it...Poor Juliet  Cat
Really didn't mean to offend. DD's friend SM
moved to a small town in NC and there were a family of Hoggs that were prominent in the town. When DD laughed, her friend said it was common name.
There are strange names associated with various parts of the country.
I still use ex-husband's name, which is Irish, and common in New York, but down where I live, people never heard ot it! Not the greatest name, but better than maiden name.
Here's How I Let a Friend Know It Didn't Matter To Me
TRose asked about this. One of my dearest friends has been living in the closet forever, as she feels it's professionally the right thing to do. About 15 years ago it became apparent to me that something just didn't mesh. She constantly talked about being in love with "Jonathan," then somehow "Joan" would get thrown in the mix. For some reason I never got to meet Jonathan or even see a picture of him. There was always "some reason" why it didn't happen.
One day as we discussed our love lives, I told her that it sounded to me like she'd be better off with Joan than Jonathan. That was my way of telling her I knew and wouldn't think any less of her. I simply wanted her to know that she shouldn't have to hide it from me, as we'd been friends for so long already (and still are). She was relieved.
That's how it worked in my situation. Maybe something like this can work for you, too.
Vet called before and after surgery, and assistant called this
this afternoon. I cant wait to see her. She has only been gone for 1 day and as one lady stated, the house is empty. Working from home, I have become quite attached to her and her to me. Thanks for all the well wishes and Boo Boo Kitty thanks you too !!
a friend's b/friend died last year, drank, took vicodin...
Thank you! I didn't realize they made computer glasses. Will make an appt. Spit didn't wor
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I didn't say her decor didn't sound great.
It's not ridiculous.
I would seriously doubt the Christianity of anyone who feels it is okay to celebrate Halloween. It is anti-God in every aspect.
You can only service 1 God and the folly of man and carnality is in direct conflict with holiness.
Thanks - I didn't realize they didn't like the smell of citrus
I have the feeling he doesnt have a UTI and he's trying to tell me something else, but I'll be taking him to the vets to be safe.
I didn't phrase that well. I didn't mean to SM
offend. I think I said that to other lady below!
I wouldn't want to be told that myself. I guess you sounded down. Again, if I offended anyone, I'm sorry.
I'm a channel surfer. Last night watched PBS documentary on Kennedy assasination, then PBS show on Dick Cheney. Yuck. Then watched show on stem cell research to cure paralysis. There were two young woman, both with paralysis, who were so inspiring. Watched another segment on Current about blind people using their voices to "see". That had to be seen to be believed. Anyway, positives offset the negative.
Again, sorry if I said anything out of line.
then what would be 80-100 be called?
Well, I, for one, am not 60 yet tho getting *there*, look 45 (with no procedures/surgery), and my family history is such that they lived long long lives (paternal side)....and I plan on working another 15+ years......
back in the days, 50-75 years ago the elderly then didn't live to ripe very old ages, really.......
what you have is called a
dependency issue- you do not feel well, your hubby has hobbies not at home (could it be another woman or women?), you are not secure. You feel like you have to rely on someone seemingly not there for you.
Well, they just called
and said both were negative. Thank God. What a scare.
So, when your SIL CALLED, what did you tell her?
Your SIL is not a blood relative, but as your brother's WIFE, she is entitled to her inheritance.
When my husband dies, I surely am going one of HIS HEIRS, even if he does not write a testament.
But I will make sure that he writes one and gives ALL TO ME AND MY CHILDREN, nothing to sisters, LIKE YOU!
I am so interested in this, your case, because I hate it when legal heirs are cheated out of their inheritance.
So what did you tell your SIL when she called?
You got your and their inheritance, so give it back to them.
Was it really $ 750.000.-- ?
Give them half of it.
My sister took the whole amount of my mother's money, but AT LEAST she told me about it, later, after she bought her apartment. I forgave her for this, because she told me.
PLEASE STOP MAKING UP EXCUSES AND I REALLY HOPE THAT YOU GET INTO CONTACT WITH HER, YOU CAN IF YOU WANT AND GIVE THEM THEIR MONEY.
Why do they have to be called old
f.... Did you ever stop to think maybe not everyone in life desires to retire? I can retire but want to continue working. It is not always a money thing. Also, when you said appt mixup happened 10 years ago and then you said staff overworked due to rising job cuts, what does the one 10 years ago and relate to each other?
I'm the one who usually gets called, rather than
the main reason is that my brothers & sisters all have *real* jobs, and can afford the long-distance rates. On the other hand, as an MT, I usually can't afford it. But it makes sense, because I'm always here, and it's almost always an okay time to call me.
I also tend not to call people anymore because for some reason, my phone-kharma is truly the WORST! In the past, when I've called friends or relatives at home just to chat and say hi, it just never fails - at the moment I called:
* They were having a huge fight.
* They were having sex.
* A pet just died in the kitchen.
* A relative just died in the living room.
* The house is on fire.
Even worse, if I call their cell, turns out they're:
* In an ambulance racing to the hospital.
* They're on the toilet, or throwing up into it.
* They're in labor.
'Ooops! Did I get you at a bad time?'
Everyone on here has what is called
FREE WILL. No one makes you accept a low paying job, no one makes you sit around with no work, you would have to prove fired because of offshoring. Everyone can turn down a job if they want but apparently the majority here accept what is dished out to them. What you just said does not hold water.
Not everyone knows about why he was not called
MJ when the person made the 911 call, in fact out yesterday heard lady talking on the phone and thought it very disrespectful that the person referred to him not as his real name, she said it twice, why would they not say MJ instead of guy (or gentleman)forgot which one they said. I heard TMZ was first to report first of all. That was who got the first shots of the ambulance leaving the house so maybe they had others checking out, following on motorcycles the ambulance and got the shot that way. There were shots of Princess Diane as she dying in the car after her accident so guess paparizzi (spelling?) most everywhere.
My ex-hubby had it done.
He wasn't too keen on the idea either. He confided later that it was goofy stuff that bothered him--like what happens if there's an earthquake while he's on the table?
Anyway, he was tender for a day or two, but some Tylenol took care of it.
Actually I ended up having a tubal ligation done after we split up. That was pretty easy, too. They did it with a laparoscope, and used silicone squeeze clips on the tubes rather than cutting them. Easy peasy.
My hubby had one at about 46.
DH had anterior cervical laminectomy 2-3 years ago.
It was scary for me, and it was the only time they kept him overnight. They sent him home after rotator cuff and (of course) knee arthroscopy. The bad thing about Friday surgery is that the office isn't open if you have a question that doesn't seem like enough of an emergency to call about. They made DH a hard cervical collar ahead of time. Be sure they give you 2 sets of the cushion inserts for the collar, because you will want to be able to wash and air-dry one, but not have her without one. Do ask about whether she is to sleep with the collar on. Because DH had a plate put in, after the fact we were told that supposedly the collar was just to remind him to be careful, but he was sleeping with it on for about a week, I guess. Getting up and down out of bed was scary, especially because he wanted to sleep on his side. Very scary to get into that position, but once he was in it he could finally sleep. I was appalled how apneic he sounded at night. He always has a little problem, but with the collar on he was having pretty long pauses. He is a big guy and at risk for that anyway. The scariest thing for me when DH had this and the shoulder surgery is that he is 6 foot 2 inches and big. Me? 5 foot 6 inches and average weight. Thank goodness his mom was there for the shoulder surgery, but I think we did it alone for the neck surgery AFTER he stayed one night in the hospital. Oh, and because of the anterior approach, swallowing was hard for quite a while. Speech also was affected, maybe it was with hoarseness? Can't remember. Due to swelling, his throat was not totally normal again for 6 months after surgery.
You might rather be fat but my hubby
cooked some brown rice yesterday with garlic, red and green peppers, Kokoman sauce and other ingredients he just throws together. This was along with some turkey wings with a sauce that I spooned on the rice and cabbage with peppercorns. I cannot find a restaurant that can come close to his cooking. He never tastes and always hopes that I like it. I am 1 lucky girl. He is very mindful of eating healthy and we very seldom have red meat, once in a great while but his lemon chickens, marinated meats and other things make me really disappointed to eat out and then have inferior food. He says I can do the same. No thanks..... I will not shame myself. When he is gone from home (he drives and away) he fixes salads with his own dressings and OMG, I am just sitting here with a smile on my face. I am sure no one can compare with his foods!!
Hubby
I wonder if he is not looking. One of my daughter’s friends is having a birthday party Sunday. His mother drove by our house to drop off an invitation. We both talked for a while. She is a really an attractive lady. She looks like she could probably model swimsuits. Anyway, she had invited me to go jogging with her because I mentioned I was interested in getting into an exercise program. I am 60 pounds overweight. I also mentioned job burnout and told her I had been thinking about getting out of MT and the medical profession totally and going into something else. She told me that there maybe some job openings at the company she works at because they are expanding. She is also the supervisor of the collections/credit department there and told me of all the wonder benefits the company offers and told me that if I decided I wanted a change, she would put in a good word for me. Later I told H that she was nice. DH said, “I think she wants me (him)” I told him he was full of himself. Bad part is, 8 years ago I would have been jealous but now if he did run off with someone else, I think the sweetest revenge for me would be to let the woman keep him and give her full custody of MIL.
hubby
May be you 2 need to spice things up again. Like go out on dates, etc... It sounds like alot of your gyn issues could be effecting the way you look at sex. I would definitely talk to someone about it. May be there is a pill you can take!! :)
My hubby had 1 and did not like
He is a really neat guy and took so much time just cleaning after 1 use. I know some just use time and time again without cleaning but that is just not him, wants his spic and span each and every time.
I have used, my hubby believe it or not
was able to pull off an entire hair 1 time like that. It is really good for sparse hair and it does cover, comes in all colors and different sizes. He was going to a hatless place (because of his hair loss, he wears his hat all the time) but used that day and no one knew. Great stuff!
What would I do without hubby.
I feel guilty, but I didn't think I'd still be working at this age. My mom was a housewife, even though she had a college degree.
ex-hubby
That's funny - I did the same thing, although my son had NO contact with his father from the time he was 3. When he was getting married, (at 26), I asked him if he wanted me to contact his father. He said his "real" father would be there (my now husband who raised him) and that he didn't want some guy who with one squirt was labeled his "father" to be part of his life.
Afterwards, when he called and wanted to contact my son, I got his phone # and told him I'd have my son contact him if he wanted to. My son wouldn't even let me give him the phone #. Another bunch of time went by and he called again - how he keeps getting my phone number is behond me - first he found me in Connecticut, then Colorado and then Texas (he's in NY). This time he accused me of not giving his phone # to my son and I said I tried, but he didn't want it. He didn't believe me, of course, but I then got rid of my regular phone and got Vonage and I haven't heard from him since. But Ive never been sorry that it worked out this way. Serves him right for being a lousy father.
hubby
ONe thing i have learned is men ALWAYS think it is greener on the other side and come crying back because its not. So what if you have gained weight I am sure he has to. Do you believe he is being faithful to you? Maybe this is his way of feeling guilty for something he did while traveling. Try counseling. It worked for us. We all need to leave our hubbys for a week with the kids and ALL our jobs and let them see how tuff it really is. They feel since we work at home we have the freedom to do everything with time left over!! COME ON! I wish you lots of luck. I would tell him if you really loved me you would deal with me the way that I am. Yes I can try to change but is that really the root of the problem here. Sounds like an excuse! Sorry, but being organized and gaining weight should have nothing to do with if he still loves you or not. Tell him didn't he take the same vows as you did "Till death do us part"
My hubby is
incredibly wonderful. We will be married 20 years in October. We renewed our vows at 10 years (Just the 2 of us at a small chapel, well of corse a minister) and for 20 years the children want to be with us. There is a running joke in my family....My parents say that if we ever divorce, he can come "home".
hubby
ago and demanded my husband see his doctor. He went on Prozac and things were oh, so much better for a long, long time. Now he is off the Prozac, as he was tired of the side effects. We are back to the same crap as before, and I am so weary of it. I don't know what to do. I'm praying for wisdom. He just seems like he hates us all, that we are nothing but a pain in the a$$, and we all tread lightly because of his garbage. Unfair. Hugs to you.
That's where I'm from too, and hubby
was born in WV, but his dad moved them to Indiana when my hubby was very little. DH's dad was the first one in the family not to be a coal miner.
Hubby is a big packer fan, which sure makes my dad happy. The Packers are the only team I'll watch. Brett is adorable. I'm glad he has a super wife (since I can't have him :o>).
your hubby
I feel for you... and the signs seem pretty classic from here suggesting that he most likely has another lady. Cell phones may not work "out there" but somewhere along the way he eats, drinks, sleeps, etc and there are pay phones if nothing else. Your acceptance of his excuses give him the room to do as he pleases and his beating you down keeps you from thinking straight/catching him in his own game. Sounds like you need to dry those eyes and open them to take a good look at reality - then deal. It hurts and bites, but until you deal, nothing changes. If you really want to teach your kids about better relationships, show them the strength to stand for what is true and right.
How old is your hubby?
Mine's in his mid 50s. We had the same problem. Doc took a blood test and found very, very low testosterone, put him on replacement, and a month later he's got energy again! not just for sex, either, but work, yard work, repairs. Wonderful stuff, that, if it's used right!
My hubby and I...
still have long, passionate kisses...our kids complain all the time about it...*Geez Mom, Dad...that's sooo gross* We are always touching when we are together, whether it's holding hands, arms around each other, or just my/his hand on his/my leg...you have to keep the fire going or it will most certainly fade!
your hubby/his son
Just wondering what kind of "help" you were asking for from your FIL?
I know you were frustrated but just because he had not yet gotten hold of you doesn't mean he wasn't working something out to be able to help his son.
I remember once my aunt wrote a letter to my grandpa about how she thought he showed a preference for her brother and how upset she was about it. (She had seen her brother at my grandparents' house on a holiday and was so resentful that she had not also been invited.) My grandpa was so hurt by the letter. My aunt had assumed something happened that did not (the brother had just dropped by for an impromptu visit). She let her emotions carry her away, and really hurt her father.
It sounds like part of you might be blaming your FIL for your husband's behavior. That's not good. Your husband has to take full responsibility for his actions and you need to stop making excuses. I have a bipolar brother. He has been battling his problem for 15 years. Sometimes he tries to take his medications and make progress in his life and sometimes he sits and whines about how bad off things are and wants everybody to cater to him. Guess when he gets the best response from his family? Even though your husband has a mental illness, he is still responsible for getting treatment and not making the lives of everyone around him miserable.
If your FIL wants to help his other son, whether or not you think the guy should be hung from the highest tree or not, that is your FIL's decision.
Hubby and I do EVERYTHING sm
around here including remodeling. The only thing I hire out is twice a year I have someone come in and do the heavy spring cleaning because I have some medical problems that keep me from doing it. I can type three hours and pay for it. Matter of fact tomorrow is the day! YEAH.
I would love to be able to afford someone to do alot more of it but can't and hubby wouldn't let somebody else do it if we could afford it! Too picky!
She already told me she called and they said SM
she can't until March because they already had a claim. They would be cancelled if they claimed it. It does cover it, though.
The ones from that site are called - sm
New Lifestyle, the Chocolate and Chocolate Mint are great. Vanilla is okay, Strawberry not so great. I bit the bullet and ordered 2 months worth, in the past I have gotten 2 weeks worth and alternate with Total Soy shake powder which I get at BJs which is the only way to get a good price on these things in bulk. But the NL shakes are only available from that website unfortunately. Cost about the same as Omnifast, Medifast, etc. but from reports taste a whole lot better.
Cats definitely need something called
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Update. I called the CPS
It is so hard to do that to your own family but the way she treated those kids is disgraceful. The lady that took the call said that they probably won't remove the kids from the home but they will check out the situtation and give the parents an alternative route to childcare and not to use the grandmother.
That's what they called him on the news!. nm
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