How scary! Big hugs to you. sm
Posted By: Hoku on 2007-10-20
In Reply to: I am not an overprotective mom but - trose
Take a deep breath, say the Serenity Prayer, Let Go and Let God, make sure you are taking care of yourself by eating and getting the rest you need. That's what Al-Anon has taught me and it has served me well. 
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Hugs with my daughter and son!! Can't go without daily hugs!!! nm
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HUGS! Kim. nm
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So sorry. ((HUGS)) nm
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Hugs to you...
I hope you get through and hopefully he will change his mind. I feel your pain and no one can really truly knows unless they know your particular circumstances and have been in your shoes! Won't go into gory details, but suffice it to say my divorce was from a divorce attorney, one of the best in the area and pretty influential in most aspects of the community. No other attorney in a wide part of that area would even talk to me on the phone because of possible conflicts of interest in having to deal with him on court cases, even at the other end of the state! Finally did take the papers to an attorney, who said he wasn't afraid of him, looked them over to the tune of about $480 for an hour and said he could have been more "generous" but nothing really illegal in them and would wipe me out to pursue and would cost ex nothing. (Hey, at least I got my divorce free!!) I've always just tried to keep in my mind what is best for the kids, i.e, just let them live as peacefully as possible and know that I'm doing the right thing. I had many chances to bad-mouth my ex, especially with my oldest, who cried to me that "now we're just like everyone else, divorced," but I never have and never will, even though I suspected and know in my heart what was going on, and now they all get along great. Have I been down on my knees crying why is this happening to us and how I am going to live?! Yes. Would I do it again, yes, because my children were the best thing that ever happened in my life, even though it didn't turn out as I had expected. I have had more lies told about me then I can count from my so-called "friends" and when I moved to the "divorcee-haven" apartments as someone so kindly put it. People can be so cruel, and it really hurts sometimes when they don't really know what's going on. Hang in there! When your son is old enough, HE will be able to tell the court where he wants to go if you desire to pursue it.
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You are not alone. My sympathies to you and your family. I hope you find a way to create a memorial that will honor your mother and help you feel some peace.
Big hugs to Cat!!
You made me smile - thank you!! :)
(((hugs))) to you too - so sorry for both of you (nm)
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My hugs to both of you too....
I can only imagine how enormous the void must be, especially with the holidays. It's good you feel free to share your pain. Never apologize for that! It's real!! If anyone doesn't understand, that's all about their need to grow, not yours. I've heard other people say as you have that it never goes away. I pray you will find special comfort this year, special memories, ways to know your children live on, and ways to bless others because of what you've gone through. ((hugs))
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(((hugs))) 2007 was like this for me; you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
--Reinhold Niebuhr
((((((HUGS))))))
I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved cat. We lost our 9-year-old cat last year, and I know how heartbreaking it is. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
And some more hugs...sm
So sorry. I lost my 17-year-old cat in November. Your last sentence sums it up pretty well. (((hugs)))
Hugs to you and your family....
This saying is on the grave of one of Mark Twain's daughters, written by Robert Richardson.
Warm summer sun
shine kindly here,
Warm southern wind
blow softly here,
Green sod above Lie light, Lie light,
Good night, Dear heart,
Good night, Good night.
Hugs to you and your hubby!!
My best friend had a miscarriage in 1994 and she still gets a little emotional when she talks about, even though she went on to have 2 healthy daughters.
Cyber hugs! nm
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Oh, I had those hugs and loves and all
in earlier years, the works but you would be totally surprised what a chunk of money can do to a person. I never would have thought in a million years and I did instill good values in the kids and never for 1 minute have thought I have failed. I would bite my tongue off before I spoke to a parent of mine like this 1 did about my getting the money. You hear about families fighting in the courts about property left to 1 and not the other and money and things like that- it is not unusual and even though he got over $50,000.00 from this family member, he thought he should have the rest of what was in the bank which I got. It can happen. Oh, by the way, raised with stepfather that both seemed to be pretty close to. I know this sounds harsh but I will not take abuse from him, from my husband or any other person. His father did not give 1 red cent for his upbringing- I did that all. Oh, this son is married so he has his wifes family and that is all he thinks he needs anyway. I do not lose any sleep over this. Never a pushover here and do not intend to start now.
I will pray for you also. Hugs to you. nm
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Sending you hugs - sm
I am so sorry for your loss. They are like our babies and it is so hard when we lose them. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to greive. Think about maybe a shadow box with your kittie's things in it as a memory.
So sorry - been there - thoughts and hugs
to you. I had to replace my last one who had seen me through a divorce and was essentially my significant other with two. I feel your pain.
I know how hard this must be for you. Hugs to you! nm
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I'm so sorry. That must be really hard...I'm just sorry ((hugs)) (nm)
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Thank you also for your HUGS at this time.
Yes, my husband will be with me. My one son is at highschool today. Told him to say goodbye to his "Sister" today. That just did me in for sure. He was upset but I have been preparing him for this for the past couple of days. He understands about her not wanting to suffer. My other son, who is 20, just left for work and said goodbye to her. They both will be home this afternoon, so we can all say a final good-bye. At least she will still be close to us in the back garden. We will plant some flowers in the spring.
More hugs and condolances here too.
Oh how sad. They do leave quite the hole in our hearts don't they. What was his name? Lots of cat lovers here who know exactly what you're going through, myself included.
You know though, being an outdoor cat but dying inside is a sign that whatever it was, it was quick, as I have found that they usually try and hide, which is really awful to go looking for your missing cat and then finding them long after the fact. That probably doesn't help console you right now though. Seems that nothing helps the hurt to stop except time.
Take care of yourself.
(((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to you trose...sm
I'm so glad you took him in. That's a very scary situation, and I think you did the right thing having him talk to someone right away. I'm very proud of you...it must have been hard, even knowing that you had to.
About the eating disorder, keep an eye out for signs. I did want to say though that my hubby and all his buddies as well as my son and all his buddies say they're fat all the time. They rip on each other constantly too. They just walk up and say, *hey fat***, been going a little heavy on the cupcakes?* They all do it--no matter how skinny they are. My 12-year-old is 5 feet tall and weighs 90 pounds. Skinny as a rail, but he says all the time, *gotta feed the fat* or *fat guy in a little car*.
Now, I don't mean that you shouldn't take it seriously and watch for it (especially if his friends are concerned), but I thought you might like to hear that sometimes boys are just dumb. We (the wives) always say how mean they are and can you imagine if we did that? Oh, hey mt, (doing my best macho tone) still carrying the baby weight, huh? Can you imageine saying that to a friend?!? We'd all be in tears!
Please keep us updated, we'll be thinking about you.
One more thing--you might be able to take him into the dentist just for his check up. When they are making themselves throw up, one of the signs is the enamal on the inside of their teeth being damaged or gone.
Thanks, so scary
I put my cats in the powder room with their blanket in the inner part of the house. I watched TV and was ready to join them as soon as I was told to take cover as was being told to people just down I-75 from me. Like I said, rotation 2 miles away and that is too close for me. Live on a high hill and last year tornado touched down in exactly the same place where rotation was today. Hope I have missed the bullet for this time. There has been damage though in my state from a tornado today. Thanks, I was praying also.
A scary day for NY
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/19/nyregion/19scene.html?hp
Yes, it's very scary (sm)
I remember when the study came out in a health magazine back in the ྖs. I found this link, which tells more of the story than I remember from the health magazine article.
http://www.all-natural.com/microwa1.html
I've been told I'm an alarmist (even a whacko!)....so I don't really talk about these things very much. My own family doesn't believe in much of this either, and I won't go into it here in great detail. But let me just say this:
The best thing to do is to be informed, and then each of us can make the decisions for ourselves, of what we put into our bodies, or on it, etc.
For myself, I do not to use a microwave.
I do not buy genetically modified food, if I know what it is, and can help it, that is. Corn is the scariest thing out there right now, that's in so many different foods/drinks:
http://www.truefoodnow.org/shoppersguide/guide_printable.html#baking
I buy organic food and non-hormone and non-antibiotic meats, non-irradiated as well.
I use only biodegradable household cleaners, nothing toxic.
I do not use flouride toothpaste or antibiotics that are fluoroquinolones.
I do not to use a deodorant that has aluminum in it.
I will not have any vaccinations that have mercury in them.
I now get only porcelain fillings, no more amalgam (silver, mercury). It's on my wish list to get all the old mercury out of my mouth, and I've been doing it slowly.
I also stay out of the sun, because I have fair skin, and skin cancer runs in my family.
I try to make as many healthy choices as I can.
Like I said, though, all we can do is inform ourselves. Find out everything you can on things that may be poisoning us, without our even knowing it. Then choose how you go about living your life.
yep very very scary
I was born in the 50s...so I'm old enough to BE your mother *snickers* *winks@U*
In my opinion, this country slowly but surely is becoming a dictatorship....I'm just glad my kid is an adult now and I don't have to face these Gardisil issue(s), until she has children of her own. And if she has a girl - I'm against that mandatory thing......
if we raise our girls right, we can cut down on these problems. I raised mine right and she waited...and listened....I think I just lucked out....but I didn't stop talking and still don't...*laughs*
and on her myspace page she has put me as Her Hero....*flattered* and *humbled* by this kid!!! We have a great relationship, something I didn't have with my own mother...(though had it with my father and is probably why I didn't have it with my mother, and they remained married for 48 hours until her death....)
My Dad was THE BEST! They don't make 'em like they made 'em in the beginning of the prior century....I always told him. He died a couple of years ago, I miss him badly...I never did miss my mother...oh that's not entirely true - I missed her growing up while she was alive...(her social life was more important than her kids, the post WWII moms, some of them were like this....)
Keep The Faith is what I think.....
me too - it is scary, isn't it? (sm)
We have had our money split up for severaal years. In fact my husband recently bought a $7,000 boat without even discussing it with me :(
that is scary
I'm glad you had the dogs there with you - I too never lock my doors - also living in a rural area. I have dogs also. . but I may start locking my doors when I am alone. .
Scary isn't it?
I don't have any advice for you, but I have an 11 year old son. Found out that lots of kids in his MIDDLE SCHOOL are having sex, drinking, smoking, and using drugs. This is in a 'supposedly good' school in a suburb of Atlanta. There is also some gang activity. I will be homeschooling him starting this fall.
I am so sorry to hear of your problems with your daughter. I hope that someone here is able to offer you some sound advice. I know that it is not a good feeling to have someone living in your house whom you feel you cannot trust.
Not scary now, on TV, but REALLY scary in the
Best line:
"I think we're gonna need a bigger boat."
He is scary sometimes...sm
I have told my mom on more than one occasion he is not right in the head. I think he has mental issues. He does not demonstrate normal behavior at all.
I agree his girlfriend can sew it back on. You know what is funny is his girlfriend doesn't know how he REALLY is. He hides that side of himself. My mom said one day it will come out and she will see him for who he really is.
He thinks nothing of calling one time right after another if you don't answer the phone and will ride by and spy on you to see if you are home or just not answering the phone. My mom did have to threaten to call 911 one night though cause he was on her front porch banging on the windows and the walls and crying and yelling to let him in please. She had to threaten to call 911 before he would leave.
Can you say insane?!
So sorry for your pain. I know how bad it hurts - {{hugs}}
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Hugs and prayers to you. I know your pain right now and wish
there was something I could say or do to make it better for you. Just know that all of us here are keeping you in our hearts and prayers.
What a lovely post. Hugs to you too! nm
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Hugs to you all, I would cry everytime I would read one nm
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*hugs* I'm so sorry. I know the pain as it is still very fresh for me. SM
He had such loving parents these last months of his life and you did everything you could for him.
At the cremation place they gave me this card.
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called the Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to the Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water, and sunshine and our friends are warm and comfortable. All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in or dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing, they each miss someone very special to them who had to be left behind. They all run and play together but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. Their bright eyes are intent. Their eager body quivers. Suddenly they begin to run from the group, flying over the green grass, their legs carrying them faster and faster. You have been spotted and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together...
Hugs & Kisses From Fred
Hugs and Kisses to all of Fred's new friends and well wishers. You have made both of us feel so much better about the predicament we are in. We thank you for your prayers and thoughtfulness, and we will let you know as soon as the deed has been done. Fred didn't seem to mind when my hair turned gray and my skin started to wrinkle, and I will love Fred unconditionally, tail or no tail!
xxxoooxxxoooxxxooo
awwwww give her hugs for me!
I just took my kitty to get her claws clipped again at the vet. She is only 4 yrs old and not declawed....anyone have any ideas/opinions on declawing? Pros or cons? She is an indoor cat but I would be afraid that if she got outside she wouldn't be able to defend herself. She is not wrecking any furniture, just does her bisquits (sp?) on the carpet with her front paws when they get longer. She won't let me touch them so I take her to the vet to do it. She lets them do it without a problem because she is scared of them. Any ideas?
Lopez. Kisses or Hugs?
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Beach. Hugs or kisses? nm
Hugs and good thoughts are being sent your way! nm
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they would take your hugs and kisses every time!!!
and give them right back. :) Thanks for the kind words
This is great news! (((hugs)))
My PCP also thinks I "type too much." LOL - I go in with the craziest notions sometimes, and he'll say "you have simply a sinus infection." LOL
We are just so involved in these medical reports that it seeps into our brains!
So glad things are working out for you! 
You got it!!! I am so real, it's scary *LOL*
And I never tried to push my upbringing/religion onto anybody ever in life and now I'm not into organized religion but very into G_D! And I would never push my ways down anyone else's gullet.
very scary indeed - (I used to live in AZ)....no msg
I think the scary thing about #2 is - sm
not so much that the ad is out there, but that it will probably get a ton of responses. The Internet is a wonderful and very frightening tool.
Vegas scary?
My husband and I visit all the time- he has nights when he goes where he wants and I go where I want- I love the shows, he does not- we split up and OMG, I am a woman all by myself out on the streets of Vegas… I am scaring myself! People are all over the streets day and night- I feel completely safe, probably safer than in my home town. Why scare someone??
scary games
They are so much fun though. I really really like them. I am on a community now online called There.. Kind of like a visit chat community.. almost a game for me.. Meet a lot of nice people.
This is scary. How could they be so careless? nm
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Wow . . . that is shocking and very scary.
Our school district has an exception to the medication policy for children carrying asthma inhalers, where paperwork is completed in advance and kept on file.
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