How many times a week? month?
Posted By: sm on 2009-02-08
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I know that after the lust and infatuation wears off in a marriage, you get into a kind routine for sex.
My husband and I were married for 8 years and were having sex once every two weeks to once a week. I know this is not much, but we were both working full time and going to school full time....we were just both so *** busy....
Was that considered normal for a married couple of that length? He always complained about the lack of sex, and I should have been more aware of that.
As a friend of mine says: sex is like air and money... the less you have, the more it matters.
As soon as one party feels there's not enough (or perhaps too much), there's a problem. Talk about it, work on it, seek professional help, whatever. Ignoring it is ignoring your marriage, which brings no good.
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I love it too. We go a couple of times a month..
spend about 500 bucks each time. Sometimes we come home with money, sometimes not, that's why they call it gambling. DH has won 2 jackpots this year on a penny machine, first time he put in 40 bucks, was betting 50 cents at a time and hit for 1200 bucks; the second time same thing, hit for 1500 bucks. I usually do pretty well, only play penny machines and have won as much as 800 bucks on one spin. We never spend more than 500 each. It's our vice and we enjoy it. We visit my family every year in Philly and for the 2 weeks we are there we usually gamble at least half the time. We save our money, take a couple of thousand with us for that purpose only and if we win great, if not, that's okay too.
We eat out an average of 4 times a week...
linch and/or dinner. We usually spend about 20-30 for lunch and 30-50 for dinner. We vary our restaurants, don't do fast food or buffets. and stay away from chains like Applebees or Red Lobster and the like. I don't like places where every dish tastes the same just drenched in a different gravy or sauce. We used to like Olive Garden several years ago, but that is so non-Italian now it's not worth it, just your average pasta drenched in some too cheesy, fattening sauce. We have a great Japenese sushi/steak house near us, a great prime rib place, a vegetarian restaurant that I love.
she is on a multiple-times-per-week drug testing
Too bad - but If you always do what you've always done....you'll always get what you've always gotten.....if her kids are less important to her than her partying, druggin' ways...well, how one makes their bed is how they get to sleep in it.....no sympathy here....
K-Fed, in particular, stays clean FOR his kids....and I don't like or even know the guy, but I do know he IS the better parent from all that is shoved at us about these 2 and not just these 2 but all these rehab'd at-risk younger people....
oh and please don't think I don't have a heart - no flames - got my own family history of substance abuse that goes decades back...some even died....
But having kids is like G_d giving ya a second chance to GET IT RIGHT!! Some people just don't get it....
JMHO (just my HUMBLE opinion)
My sister-in-law and I walk together several times a week. We don't walk on a flat surface
we walk around a park that is constantly up and down so we get a better work-out and it is much more enjoyable to have someone to walk with. I have also joined Curves and really enjoy that.
Yes, they do. 10-month teachers make more than 9-month
teachers. I know that for a fact. One of my sisters was a 9-month, one is a 10-month. They are compensated for working more scheduled hours.
I wish we could all go the week of the graduation but their graduations are always a week earlier th
ours. So actually all three of my kids are still in school this week while all of hers will already be out. My youngest is actually missing school to go but my two older kids have finals so they can't go at all that week.
Thank you. I guess I'm just trying to find a nice way to say it without causing friction and keeping the peace.
My DH is your typical male, just deal with it when the time comes whereas I want to take care of things right away without hurting anyone's feelings.
Yes, especially if you are on a month-to-month basis
My mother had rental properties and has evicted tenants twice because her daughter (sis) decided she wanted to live there. Those tenants were pretty upset at the time too, because they didn't want to move. A landlord isn't required to have a reason for taking back their property or raising the rent. They will likely give you a good reference since you're been a good tenant.
A year after Katrina, all the landlords on the Gulf Coast decided to double or triple their rent, just because they could. Due to the housing crisis rents are going to continue to rise, because more people are losing their homes and looking for apartments. Its all about supply and demand.
The bright side is that working at home allows you to live "anywhere", so you could see this as an opportunity to move somewhere completely different. That's what I did, and I haven't regretted it.
If it is a month-to-month lease -
If there is no signed lease stating a specific time (1 yr, 2 yr, etc.) then it is implied as a month-to-month least and either the tenant or LL can terminate at any time.
I would look for a place pronto if I was the OP.
And she should get another job pronto too if the one she got ain't paying the bills. No reason to let it go on month after month, paycheck after paycheck, until you are in the street, that is just plain stupid.
If she is getting evicted --- there is more to this story I believe.
Oh, please! End times! People have been saying that since the beginning times!
It's just sensationalism. It seems that journalism has gone to a warm place in a handbasket. I briefly majored in journalism back in 1980, and what passes for journalism now would have flunked any of us right our of an entry-level course! It's all sensational reporting, because networks think that brings in the viewers, and thus drives up the advertising price that they can charge during broadcasts.
Another of my pet peeves in "journalism" is the phrase "Unconfirmed sources say . . . " Yeah. Right. Unconfirmed sources is just another way of saying, "Rumor has it . . . "
Next time there is breaking news, listen for it. It's said over and over again, because the networks and stations want to get the news out first. I don't know what happened to fact-checking and pursuit of the truth in journalism, but it's all about getting info out fast, and keeping the public tuned in with the most sensational reports that they can put out there.
Back in the days of the Roman Empire, people were treating each other pretty badly and in unbelievable ways, too. Crucifixion comes to mind. So, I don't really think modern news reports are pointing to end times any more than at any other time in recorded history.
buy every month
Melaleuca products you have to buy 35 products points each month to keep your account. Which is anywhere from $40 a month to whatever you want to buy. You don't necessarily have to work the business part you can earn a check each month without actually signing up any customers. Customers will be put under you by other people and you will be making money off of the products that they buy. That is waht my mother does. She isn't in it for the business she just loves the products and still gets a check each month
$347 per month
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Don't go out to eat except maybe once a month.
It's amazing how much money you will save by doing all the cooking yourselves at home and brown-bagging lunch. This includes those $2 cups of coffee here and there every day--really adds up fast!
Keep your goal somewhere in site...literally slapping a picture of your dreamhouse on the fridge or some place you'll be reminded every day of why you are making the sacrifices you are making. Good luck! 
Since you have a month, why don't you
get together and do a pic of the team or even a few and frame it! I'm sure he'd like that. You can even go to one of those machines, have it blown up and have it say something special down below.
Also, they like gift cards to the local convenience store. Everyone could use a gift of "gas" especially when they are volunteers...
Happy sporting! Glad you had a great coach!
Ours is usually between $200-$250 per month.
Our electric company has some of the highest rates in the country...lucky us! Our bills usually go up a bit in the summer from using the air conditioning and running the pump for our pool. Electricity is definitely our highest utility bill!
Don't have your mammo at the end of the month, then.
Or it will hurt. Schedule it when they aren't painful. I've had it before, but I took evening primrose oil capsules for maybe six months. No more trouble.
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
TOM = Time of the month (sm )
Was trying to be a little modest - sorry!
Just in Vegas about a month ago
Go there a lot, the Flamingo is catty-corner to the Bellagio where we have stayed the last 2 times there. Know where it is because I went to a show there. Older place, smoky, they have real flamingos out in the back with ducks, etc, been there but not to stay. Toni Braxton headlining there and George Wallce comedian there now. Know what I talk about.
I know, she hasn't been on here in about a month or so
Hope she's okay.
I've had it about a month, it's almost gone (sm)
Dr. gave me an inhaler for the anti-inflammatory properties and a decongestant. I keep debating whether to go back but it is so low grade...I will probably wait another week or so and see if it goes away. Hope you feel better soon.
2- month window
and then there won't even be a way to give a bad rating of the dealer.
Will you come and live with me for a month or so? nm
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wow you pay 350 a month for a HOUSE?
lucky duck, I pay 465 a month for a rented townhouse
Last month I spent $321 for 3 of us.
It's just DH, 18 year-old son, and I. We live in the Philadelphia area. We generally eat far less meat than most American families, but we aren't vegetarian. My son commutes to a nearby university and works there, as well. He provides his own lunches, and probably only eats breakfast at home half of the time.
Now, if you want to factor in what we pay for the meal plan for our son who lives away at college, well then... that's a whole other story! KA-CHING!
My 10 month old, Starr, does that, too.
I actually have pictures of her sitting in front of the TV in the office watching Animal Planet, Kung Fu Panda, and Transformers. I can see her tracking the action with her head and every once in a while she'll bat at the tv screen with her paw.
It's the cutest thing.
$250 a month is average for us.
We live in a TINY 1-bd condo and pay an average of $250 a month. We don't use heat or air and have quit using our dishwasher and have decreased our hot water usage. We unplug everything we are not using. We have been able to knock about $75 off our bill by doing these few things. Right now the only electricity we use is for our appliances (fridge, stove, etc.), lights only at night and when we absolutely need them, and for the TV and computer. We are seriously looking into solar as soon as we buy our new home as the electric rates here are crazy and can't imagine what it would be if we lived in a larger home.
I did about a month ago. There are other options.
Workin at the Q. Money is real tight.
But there are internet sites like Hulu where you can watch TV shows for free. Also at least I know on NBC who can watch some TV shows on there for free, too. Just about any news channel you can watch recorded news stories and sometimes even live if something major is going on.
Also, I found on YouTube that you can watch shows and movies. They have started putting commercials on them, though (same with Hulu). But who cares, you would have to see them on cable TV, anyway.
There are actually a ton of internet sites. I actually got into watching old *Kojak* reruns on Hulu (I know, but I liked that show back when.) They have a ton of old shows.
There is also Netflix or Redbox - you can get the cheaper options for movies.
I can watch my local news on the internet, too.
So, just seek out what options are out there for you. I figure even if it is only temporary (I have some job interviews this week) I can still watch things on TV but on the internet until things are better.
Honestly though, I will have to think about that because I haven't missed my cable TV not one bit.
Tell him you want $100 a month of that $180 he gets for rent. nm
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no tx just 9-month visits to eye specialist...sm
Told me to keep tight control of the sugar and to be seen q.9 months at this special eye institute....seems to have gotten better too over 2 years....hope your goes away soon....
changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy?
I was just wondering if anyone here had any experience with changing your OB in the last month of pregnancy? Or if anyone knows anyone who changed their OB late in pregnancy?
Without going into too many details, my OB was away on a personal emergency this week and her partner was not in the office due to the holiday. I was having some problems this week and I needed an OB on Friday. I called but my OB's office only had a recorded message. There was no answering service. So I stuck it out until Satruday and went to the emergency room at the hospital where I was supposed to be delivering this baby. The Triage Nurse at the hospital was so awful and mean to me that I burst into tears and stormed out of there. She didn't flat out refuse me medical attention, but she gave me such a hard time about being there that she made me feel very uncomfortable, and in so many words she forced me out. She was the nastiest most unprofessional person I have ever dealt with in the healthcare industry. DH agrees.
So now DH and I are totally turned off to that hospital and I don't feel comfortable at all delivering there. Fortunately for us, we have 2 other excellent hopsitals close to our house. The problem is, my OB only delivers out of the hospital where I had this incident. So I was thinking of changing back to my old OB for the end of the pregnancy. He delivered my nephew and my sister said she liked him and had no problems with him. But he has not dealt with me pregnant. I just went to him for 2 annual checkups several years ago, then decided to change over to my current OB because my sisters and friends raved about her.
And it's really been a textbook pregnancy -- no problems with me or the baby. He would just need my records sent to him, and he'd need to know that I will be a scheduled c-section. Really at this point all I need is for someone to go in there and get the baby out for me.
Any advice? Do you think he would refuse my case since I'm 35 weeks already? The whole incident is unfortunate, and I love my OB, but I am so turned off to the hospital that I'd be willing to go with another OB just to be able to deliver out of another hospital where we'll feel comfortable and taken care of.
a month is tooo long.....sm
My Paps are supposed to be back to my doc around a week. The last time I had not heard, so I called and left a message that I wanted the results of my Pap ASAP. I got a call within a couple of hours and the nurse was very apologetic that I had not heard from them. You have been patient long enough! This is your health and being a MT has nothing to do with it....if anything, being an MT makes us more aware of how some docs drag their feet on tests results and how others are very prompt with reporting these. You make that call again and let it be known you want a call today with results.
Is this for 1 month? Just January 2007?
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$167/month...breakdown inside....
$60 for cell phone (husband & I are on the plan)
$60 for unlimited long distance phone plan with voice mail and other features in the bundle.
$47 for cable TV.
So true. Everyone should sit in on a class for one month and
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No, but I do trim her nails once a month.
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That $6K a month I presume is before taxes - sm
if so, I highly doubt you can afford such an expensive house. My DH makes $70K, I make about $15K; even with the 2 incomes it gets tight, and our mortgage is only $1K a month. However we put about $800 a month into a 401K plan, another $210 a month into a college fund/plan with the state, another $150 a month for our life insurance; what is left to pay bills/buy food after the mortgage is about $1500. Believe me it goes fast. Taxes take a huge chunk, and no we do not get a big refund, maybe $1200 if we are lucky; owed this year for the first time in years. If you can I'd max out at $300K on a house. I am looking forward to when ours is paid off, which will be in about 6 years at the most (10 year mortgage); we also try to make extra principal payments when we can. This is w/o car payments too, can't imagine how we would do it if we had that too; guess I'd work more, the kids would have less stuff which would be a good thing and we'd eat more frugally. Babies are expensive, diapers, formula (not all women can breastfeed or want to), daycare presuming your wife goes back to work if not, then there is no way you can make your mortgage on $2K a month, daycare would be $500 a month probably. What if one of you loses their job, any plan for that? I would want a little less stress myself if I were buying a home with a baby on the way. Find something more affordable, sure it won't have all the bells and whistles but do you really need all that? Remember to ask yourself if you need it or want it. Big difference.
My 23 month old is a live wire lol
I really did not have much of a problem with my 5 yo at this age but man my little one loves to run. I think she thinks it is a game. She will run from me in stores. If I look at anything and I don't have her strapped in a stroller or on that harness she is gone. In church she wants to run all over the sanctuary. I had to take her to a parent/teacher meeting last night in the school cafeteria and she wanted to run all over the place. I did have a harness on her and she is already wise to that and she tried to jerk that thing out of my hand. I told her no so she laid in the floor and yelled.
Anyone have any suggestions.
Another kid question. As stated earlier, we met my 5 yo teacher. She seemed real nice. We got to see dd class room, not as big as the pre-K class room but still pretty nice, looked kid friendly. Some of dd pre-K friends and daycare friends are going to be in her class so it isn't like she doesn't know anyone, but dd bawled and clinged to me. She said she was afraid I was going to leave her there. I said no, but I will Monday. She stayed upset. This is not like her. She went to pre-K last year at the same school and she found her chair, sat down and was ready to get started. This year is a total about face.
The only thing I can think of is...I never took her out of pre-K for any reason unless she was sick of something but last summer when I had some time off I took her out and we went swimming, bowling, shopping. I am thinking that in her mind she thinks if she gets to stay at home she gets to do that stuff. I tell her no that is not what we are going to do. Mom and dad are working and cannot play with you right then but her little 5 yo friends will be there like sue, and Kate and Zach. She is still not satisfied. I tell her if she doesn't go to school the police will get us and she will have to go to a meaner mom and dad. Not satisfied. Is there anything to make this easier?
My 14-month-old has a stuffed up nose....
anyone know of any safe medications I can use or some other remedies to treat her congestion...she woke up last night from it and I just want to make sure she gets a good night's sleep...She isn't cranky just a stuffy nose...I have been using the bulb syringe also...thanks in advance...
I just bought a Rug Doctor last month
The thing cost almost $1000 (I financed it) with a year supply of cleaning fluids, and one of my friends wanted to borrow it. I don't think so!
Same here - closing on house end of next month
and these ideas are great. I did craft projects for Christmas last year and was a bit overwhelmed because I started to late, so this year I'll need to get started earlier. I love the family tree idea, as well. I may have to borrow that one. Thanks!
I turned my furnace on a month ago!
I can't imagine letting it get that cold in the house!
This is our 5-month-old boxer, Bettis
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I give my cat milk about once a month but
it's "cereal" milk and he'll only have a few swallows and then be done. He drinks with his paws which I think is a hoot!!
I wonder how much out of that $2300 a month she uses to get her nails done?
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I started packing last month,
but have slacked off. We're leaving in 3 weeks for another state too. All I can suggest is try to do 1 room at a time, throw out anything you haven't used in a year or so, and try to clean as you go. We're having DH friends help us move stuff into the truck, then my friend and I are going to be cleaning as they pack and do the heavy stuff. I try to do a little bit every day but have been slacking the last couple days.
Also, if you have cats or dogs, lock them in a room the day you are moving and post a do not enter sign on the door so they don't try to escape as they can tell what's going on. Mine are going on the patio until we're all done.
Good luck with your move
I have fibro and my last flare lasted a month
this past time, just settled down about 5 days ago. I never knew I had, but on touching my shoulders wondered why so tender to the touch. Went to a rheumatologist who doing a touch test said I had fibro. This last time was horrific. My work and home life are not stressful but I do have a piece of property out of state I am selling and that is what got the flare going the last time. My grown daughter now says she will take that over for me so can relieve any and all stress I have. My body all over was 1 big ache! My legs, especially my ribs, the rib cage, arms, elbows, everything ached except for my head! Even the heavy narcotics did not relieve. I do not suffer the extreme fatigue the others are talking about but once it flares so hurtful. I hear low impact exercise helps some. Good luck!
Went through the same thing a month ago. It's so hard when they leave us.
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My 6-month old kitty cat had surgery today.
One vet she said had a broken leg in the joint on the left. We do not know how she got it. Then he recommended another vet to do the surgery, pinning. The second vet finds both hips are fractured. We love her so much and cant stand the thought of her being in pain and crippled, so surgery it is. We are not rich by any means, but she is so worth it. I know you guys here love kitties and puppy dogs. Please keep you in your thoughts and prayers. My heart goes out to those who lost their pets this month for the food and other things. Seems like a lot of us here going through it.
Going to Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge next month..sm
Has anyone had a great experience of some nice cabin rentals in the Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg, TN area? We have stayed in a few but looking for something more. I have seen a few cabins with indoor pools INSIDE the cabin. Would love to stay at one of those but they are a bit pricey. Does anyone know of any cabins like this but not so pricey? I realize they may cost more because of the major added bonus...if not, could you tell me of a cabin that you stayed in and had a great experience?
Thanks! Desperately in need of a good vacation.
Ramadan is the holiest month of the year
So Happy Ramadan to all our Muslim/Islamic communities throughout the USA and everywhere!! 
We got a kitten about a month ago. She was litter box trained and... SM
used her litter box just fine, but out of the blue she has pooped on one of my blankets, peed in my laundry basket, and this evening peed on my bath towel right in front of me! I had just gotten out of the shower, taken the towel off and dropped it in the floor and when I turned around, she was peeing on it!
What is up with that? I don't know much about cats being that I'm more of a dog person, but she doesn't act sick and she's playful. I just don't get it!
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