How is feeding a baby rude?
Posted By: ExMQMT on 2006-11-17
In Reply to: Well you're just plain rude, ma'am, sorry. - sm
I just don't get it. How is feeding a baby rude? Usually this is the reaction breastfeeding moms get from those who couldn't or wouldn't breast feed. I never got any negative response from feeding my baby.
I didn't take my shirt off and expose my breasts to the world. I was feeding a baby - grow up!
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How rude. I always get thank you notes for baby and
Maybe its where you live or something. Old customs are dying and I think it is sad. Like when someone passes away, we always take food to the family. The last time we did this, my daughter noticed there was no other food there. It was sad, because food is the laset thing you want to have to worry about or plan when you have a house full of people and a funeral to plan and attend. Sorry, got of the subject there!
Well that is kind of rude to let a baby continue to cry
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you may not be bitter, angry, or uptight, but you are RUDE rude rude!
You talk about being attacked when you are the one calling names... yes someone called you Doctor to start with, which was pretty childish, but they were saying so because you acted so matter-of-factly about diagnosing someone saying they were just having vivid dreams, and then going off on a tangent about their Xanax use...
Xanax affects EVERYONE differently so just because your husband is a certain way does not mean that is the same for this person. I take Xanax to fly... guess what it is a LIFE SAVER! I never take it to sleep nor do I ever take it for anything else...
maybe you are being rude because you are reacting, but my guess is you will have a response to me pointing this out... and it might be rude. just a guess.
Rude people deserve a rude response-but an idea (sm)
I am very kind-hearted, and even a sucker at times but when someone is very rude and disgusting, I have no problem telling them to go away. If she doesn't want to completely cut this woman out of her life, she needs to say something like, "I have decided that I am only going to be able to have you come over on Wednesdays." She can make up an excuse like, "I am not getting enough time to myself" "I haven't had time for my other friends" or just act like she feels like she desperately needs a regular schedule, so "Wednesday is your day." See ya next week! If she shows up on a day that is not her day she can say, "Suzie Q, your day is Wednsday - I'm sorry, but I am really determined to stick to my schedule"
What are you feeding him/her?
It can make a difference, but I suspect age may be playing a role here.
Also are you drying the dog after the bath? If not a wet dog is goign to stink since it will pick up more dirt/etc. while drying
feeding
I am doing the same thing, I put my chubby girl in the bedroom, which she does not like and feed her special diet, and then I put down the other 4 cats their dry food in the morning for one hour, then I pick it up and let chubby girl out, then in the evenings, I give everyone their wet and a few dry pebbles in their bowel and let them eat that for an hour and then I pick it all up, I find they eat way better (good thing since they only eat holistic pricey food w/human grade ingredients that I can't afford to waste) Been doing this three weeks now and I hope it is working for my two chubbies, will see in a month when I weigh them. Oh, they also get 6 treats apeice in the morning too.
Breast feeding.....
I had a child via a surrogate and I breast fed her. Sometimes just suckling the baby will stimulate milk supply but it is a very long and time consuming process. Also, I used a system called Lact-Aid that uses a small bag that holds formula and has a thin tube that is near the nipple so the baby suckles both the tube for the formula and you for the stimulation to trick your body into producing milk. And yes, I did produce some although not enough for nourishment. I used the system for several weeks just for the bonding.
Feeding two dogs
I got another dog a few months ago. I had been feeding canned and dry food, but it was getting too expensive with two dogs so I just went to the dry food only. I keep some in both bowls all the time. One dog has lost weight, one has gained! The new dog has no problem eating the dry food. Buddy eats it too, but not as much. I hand fed him for two nights and he took the food (he's not sick or anything), but I'm wondering if there is a trick to feeding two dogs. Now, tonight I put one bowl further away from the other one and he ate all the food in the bowl. Maybe the two bowls need to be further apart?
Anyone have any words of wisdom on feeding two dogs?
Feeding two dogs
My daughter went through the same thing. One dog getting fat, the other loosing weight and finally got listless. She discovered that one dog was gulping his food down and then eating the other dog's food. She started feeding them in separate rooms and not letting the more aggressive dog (Ebony) out until the more meek dog (D.O.G.) was finished. After a few weeks she fed them together to see what would happen. Ebony gulped his food down and tried to eat D.O.G.'s food. D.O.G. attacked Ebony, and Ebony never tried to steal again. D.O.G. gained her weight back and started running and playing again. Ebony lost the weight she needed to lose.
Being a wet nurse and breast-feeding a 6 yo
Competely different. I have been a wet nurse. I have several children. I've been a gestational surrogate. I have NOT, however, breast feed a 6-year-old. That is disgusting.
hey - please quit feeding the troll....Thanks!
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Does he do this at his regular feeding times?
Have you cut back not only on the amount of food but the amount of times you feed him? If so, that may be why he is reacting this way.
My dog is overweight, too, and since he has problems with his legs, the vet wants us to try to help him lose weight. She said to feed him small meals more often so that he will feel satisfied but to make sure we cut down on the total amount of food given per day.
So maybe that would work with your cat - smaller meals, more often. Worth a try, right? 
As far as the breast-feeding thing sm
There are a few herbal supplements and other medications that women can take to stimulate lactation. I was on an infertility board several years ago, and there were adoptive mothers doing this. It is difficult and often does not work. There are also ways to simulate breast-feeding (special tubing connected to bottles that are situated in a way to get the infant to suckle) that can also help lactation.
Maybe you're feeding him too much bull!
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No, what comes next? Force feeding meds?
Example:
If I am depressed it is MY choice to take antidepressants or not. If I do not feel comfortable with them, no matter what the doctor says, I can stop it.
Antidepressants have a LOT of bad side effect and there are alternatives!
Same problem - but breast feeding so I cant take those sooooo
I try to take a little break in the morning for a shower and keep HEALTHY snacks on hand to crunch. Peanuts, rice cakes and sip pop and sometimes I give in a take a power nap of no longer than 15 minutes and I feel much better.
I may have caused my former cat's demise by feeding Meow Mix dry (sm)
It is higher in certain minerals that can make it easier for cats (esp. males) to develop urinary crystals. I had a perfectly healthy 4-year-old male Persian who had only recently gotten Meow Mix just as a hand-fed treat, and he developed crystals, complete urinary tract blockage, and eventually complete renal failure, resulting in euthanasia. His total bill came to over $5,000 - which I am STILL paying off 6 months later. I learned 2 important lessons:
1) NEVER feed Meow Mix, and
2) Buy pet health insurance!
Breast feeding past a "normal" age
You are right some things just should not happen - such as other people judging how long a mother breastfeeds her child. It is none of your or their business. My son is now 21 - has memories of breastfeeding and is the most polite, intelligent and psychologically stable young man you could ever wish for. He would be a blessing to any family and I believe will make an excellent husband when he decides to marry. We have a close relationship, as I do with my daughter who only BF for 6 months - at her choice. What exactly is the "normal" age? And who set that "rule" up? I would rather have breastfed my children than to have abused them physically or mentally - believe me, he was not abused in any way - if you knew him, you would only wish that your children were like him - my husband and I are the envy of all of our friends because we never had one bit of problem with either of our children because they were raised properly - and I do believe that BF played a role in their developing into responsible adults. If you want to borrow him when you are having a headache because your kids are out of control - just let me know - he would definitely brighten your day.
I have an HP - have barely used it - trouble with paper feeding
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I have an HP also and have trouble with paper feeding. I get sick of it. I have to keep a big
stack of paper in so it feeds okay. If not it thinks it is out of paper.
Do you and your daughter swap out breast feeding for your hubby
and baby also? You can nurse for awhile her kid and she can let your hubby have a sip since you seem to be so free with all this milk and family sharing, etc. I hate to tell you but I don't have out of control kids, mine are grown and no problem there. You really sound like a crackpot actually.
please stop feeding the troll; she evidently is full of
white collar workers only *ROFL* - what a small minded troll she is too....oh well, seems like personal problem to me but then y'all have to stop feeding the troll (her).  she is also enthralled with herself *HAHAHAHA*......
Well, seems to some of us (me-me-me) that she probably, in that neighborhood of only white collar workers) is low gal on the pole - she IS her own trash.....
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Truly don't mean to be rude, but... sm
You called him a sociopath, then asked "doesn't he have any remorse or guilt?" Well, no, not if he's a sociopath. (Which I also think he is, BTW.)
That's a big part of what makes someone a sociopath/physiopath (aka antisocial personality disorder) - not having a conscience or the ability to empathize about the feelings of others, among other things. There are, (unfortunately) a lot of people in our society who are sociopaths, to some degree or other. It's pretty scary.
He's a sickening man. I've always wondered what it must be like for his two kids, being raised by the father who murdered your mother. It always seemed insane to me that he was given custody of them.
Because they are rude.
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How rude!
So what if you misread . . . I thought the recipe you shared sounded really good, and easy to boot! I personally would probably "cook a chicken breast" rather than using canned, but then I always change recipes to suit my taste (doesn't mean I wouldn't eat the canned chicken). Anyway, I thank you for sharing.
rude
If it was me I would have stopped and said what did you say. I am sure they probably would have shut up. Then i would have asked where do you live, so I can talk to your parents. LOL! You people are telling her to consider the source but come on if it was you walking you would have been ticked off!
please don't be rude
I'm a physical therapy graduate (party working as an MT) and my wife's a nurse. These are just our initial income since we're just starting. I'm working on my state board as Physical Therapist. I would not think that you're just rude to me.
No. I think it is rude.
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I think it's rude...if they ask okay, if not no way!!!
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You are so rude....That's all I can say to you. nm
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Once again you are rude
I don't understand why you don't think your replies are rude. She was replying to Ms. Done with what she has been through. I don't find that her case is all that different. I was reading all the posts below and actually got lost so I'll post here. I'll tell you what I have learned. When you are growing up and your parents are miserable together that is what children think a relationship is supposed to be like because they don't know any better. They think its okay to insult and belittle their spouse, they think its okay to fight all the time. It's not. I wrote in my post and I'll write it again. Children are a lot stronger than we believe. The children always come first before anything, but when you are in an abusive relationship you cannot honestly say to a person "hey, so what if your being abused the bruises are not visible, stay in, keep letting him treat you like this, because there is not a visible injury the kids don't care". You know what. The kids DO care. Kids want their parents to be happy. When the parents are happy they have so much more to give to the kids instead of having to hide the misery they are going through. Sure sometimes its hard in the beginning but kids are genuinely more happy when their parents are happy. And they will in turn learn to treat their spouses with respect. Of course someone should try counseling before just up and leaving, but if you have a spouse that writes you letters pointing out your errors and flaws and then feels they have done nothing wrong that is not healthy. If that spouse will not agree to counseling then there are another alternative and that is to leave. Do not stay in an abusive relationship and keep being abused by a spouse because you have to stay there for your kids. That was what people did in the 60s and 70s and probably before then. This is the year 2008. There are better ways to live.
would it be rude?
to just tell your family members you are making a christmas dinner and invite everyone over, no presents allowed? We just bought a house and are not in the best financial situation at the moment. I have tried hinting around at doing things like dirty santa or drawing names but no one likes that idea. So I want to scrap presents all together. I am working on Christmas day so that would be a good excuse not to visit anyone that day. We are also in a central location and that would make it easier to have everyone over to our house. What do you think?
How Rude!!!!
Good for you! The fact that she told you to "hold on" while she finished texting would have sent me right over the edge! Congrats to you for teaching her a lesson her parents obviously don't care to teach. I have 2 teenage girls and we have made that rule quite clear that they will lose ALL privileges if they even think of texting while driving or talking while driving. The phone must be turned off when they drive and we have "tested" them on it many times just to make sure they are following the rules.
How rude !
Why bother posting something so rude? Why not just ignore this thread and be on your way?
I am in no way trying to be rude,,,,,,but
what does your post have to do with this thread? I personally wanted to adopt children until I met my now husband and realzed that if I could give birth that is what I wanted to do. Feeling selfish, my brother would love to have a child but his wife does not. It is a very personal choice, and I honestly think when the time is ready you will know. If you don't feel it, don't do it. It is so okay to not want to have children. You are not doing anything wrong. I wish there were more people out there that don't want children and accidentally have them would have used protection. Do it only when you know in your heart that you are ready. Trust me, you will know when you are ready.
who is rude
Negative thoughts you are giving right back, you are no good obviously.
I didn't start it but I can always finish it, so get over yourself like you are the only one to have an opinion. people like you make me SICK
you just hate for no reason hate hate hate
you should be so proud!
They are not being rude!
You said " I think it's pretty rude of smokers to smoke inside when youre sharing with a nonsmoker anyway."
I think its really, really rude to move into a house where there are smokers and just expect them to stop smoking in the house. Because YOU don't like it. Well, maybe they don't want to leave their comfort zone, drop what they're doing and go out into whatever weather and deal with the bugs, etc. just so YOU can be all comfortable instead. Ever consider that?
And what's next - you inform them they can't eat meat in the house because YOU are a vegan, or some other fool thing?
There are few enough places left that smokers can do their thing in comfort. But you can bet every time they find one, sooner or later a nonsmoker will barge into that place and think they are entitled to punish and banish them for smoking. Save everyone some grief and wait until you find a nonsmoking house to live in!
YOU are rude
and actually they ARE desperate
did you even READ MY POST?
i NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
get it again?
I NEVER ASKED THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE.
They offered. I ASKED YOU PEOPLE IF IT WAS RUDE IF I ASKED THEM TO! EVEN AFTER THEY OFFERED.
what dont you get about that! and i said if they invite a nonsmoker to live with them, then i think it is rude. and by the way, they like me very much.
you talk about me getting over myself? you have no idea of the situation! MY QUESTION WAS HOW DO I GET THE SMOKE SMELL OUT OF MY ROOM, MY CLOTHES!
and i got jumped on for expecting them to smoke outside.
TELL ME WHERE I STATED "I EXPECT THEM TO SMOKE OUTSIDE NOW THAT I LIVE HERE".
YOU need to get over YOUrself you are obviously trying to be better than everyone and cut me down for something i never even did.
Not exactly sure why you think this is rude, though...
8 is a big litter for a dog and an average litter for a pig. How is this not a "litter" of babies?
They are not being rude, they just
want to tell you that you should not be lenient and give in every time to the despicable behaviour of your father.
It may be rude.
I think it is worse to be invited to a wedding for a person you have not seen in 20 years. What possible reason would they invite her except for a gift? Has she heard from the bride or groom during the whole engagement process, or did she get a call that said "hey I met a great person and they may be the one". I bet not. But when it comes time to get gifts, they send to everyone they have come in contact with since they were born.
I think the bride and groom(any bride and groom) need to think about how much cost is involved to their guests, bridal party, family, etc, when they plan a wedding and not be offended if people can't participate.
I said it was very sad, do you consider that rude?
It is a sad thing when you possibly have to leave a note, the possibility you will not be there for a child to let them know. What is not sad about that? What is rude about that? Are you sure you read the post correctly? I find it tremendously sad and stand by my first posting. As far as the person in high school you said became pregnant a second time, not trying. After having a first pregnancy she should have known the cause. Birth control usually works in cases like that, condoms, etc.
I think you are very rude. At least if you
cannot give good advice or encouragement in this case you shouldn't even comment. She is down and you trample on her. It is not true that people who cannot get a job in these times are lazy. My neighbor is a registered nurse and she is already loking 4 months for a job and did not get hired yet. She is 32 yrs old.
Regarding the eviction:
If she does not pay rent, the LL has the legal right to evict her. If he is 'nasty', a lot of them are, and he really wants her out, he can speed things up to get her out.
I would not be so harsh, maybe tomorrow it hits you.
New poster or not, you are rude. nm
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I don't think its rude per se - I'm in the same boat
I constantly have people ask me why I'm not married and why I don't have children. What I find odd is the men - they will ask me "can you not have children?" I will ask them "what kind of question is that??" And the response I get is "well, women tend to have babies at the drop of a hat," or "women just get pregnant without thinking twice about it." All kinds of responses. I've even been asked if I'm a lesbian (which I'm sure I'll get pounced on, but I find that extremely insulting).
I guess the bottom line is that in this day and age, if a woman does not have a child, is not shacking up with some guy after the second date, or has never been married, then there must be something wrong with her in the eyes of society. However, try asking the woman that has 4 kids by 4 different guys why she never married the daddies or why she doesn't use contraception, and boy oh boy, stand back or run for the hills.
My answer has always been - I never met the right one. Which usually gets a response of "maybe you're just too picky."
I could go on and on about this. But think about this - the women that ask you these questions are usually the same women that say one of the following: "Men are dogs, or men are pigs" and "oh god, I couldn't imagine being single and dating. I'll take what I've got at home over your life anytime."
Makes you laugh doesn't it!
Rude or not, we threw ourselves our
own housewarming party too.
We weren't expecting gifts. It was just a fun way to have everyone over, have fun and break the house in.
I didn't register, but a lot of people brought gifts that I happened to like a lot. If you register, I would only tell the people who ask if you are. I wouldn't pass out cards in invites. We also received a lot of gift cards as well. I just put those to use for buying school clothes though since we spent so much on the actual party.
It is rude but common.
I guess you can assume the non-responders will not be coming but it is not uncommon for people that do not respond to show up anyway. If that happens, embarrass them loudly when they arrive! :) I found that including an email address on the invite helps, some people are just weird about calling, especially if it is to tell you that they can't make it.
Agree, it's rude
I try to always RSVP, especially if I can't make it. I figure if someone is going to the trouble of inviting me, the least I can do is respond.
ya know if all Americans were rude like you, they
dense because you don't know how to get over your rude-sounding self
here, let me help............. 
and NOT all who came were legal - Ellis Island or no Ellis Island......sheesh - talk about dense......
Rude Husband
Your husband was rude. You need to discuss it with him in private. Is he under a lot of stress right now? What is going on to make him behave this way? Is this new? Ongoing? YOU are your child's advocate and role model. Children want and need friends. Their friends will often offend depending upon how they are raised, the manners they have been taught, etc. because they are children. Your husband should not have responded on a child's level if he felt the remark was offensive. Confront your husband and demand that he treat everyone with respect in your home. Do not settle for less.
Best wishes!
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