How can you be so infatuated with someone you have never even met?????

Posted By: ER MT on 2007-10-25
In Reply to: Need advice/please don't judge me - sadgirl

I'm really trying not to judge, but how can you have such strong feelings for a person who you have never even met in person???? it just don't understand it. You say that he treats you so swell, but this guy is married, he won't let you call him or e-mail him at home, and he won't even talk to you about his wife. How is that treating you so wonderfully? This is all very screwed up. I think you are building him up in your head to be something that he is not. He is a married man whom you have never met, and he is not going to leave his wife for you. I would seriously just end this thing now. It's not good for your mental well-being. I don't mean to sound judgmental, but just trying to help.

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Need advice/please don't judge me - sadgirl
- Sad - Lilly
- LIVE YOUR LIFE - girlheart
- Here's a compassionate but honest answer - Scribbles
- Been there too - Lee
- My 2 cents (sm) - Been on both sides
- I think you need to get out of the house and meet people in real life. - MslaMT
- How can you be so infatuated with someone you have never even met????? - ER MT
  - Sm - ER MT
- If he were to leave his wife for you, then at some time in the - future he'd probably leave you for yet another.
- You think you hurt now but you have no idea how bad it can get - sm
- I'm not going to judge you. I've been there in the sense that sm - Dear Abby
- Oprah just had a special on the other woman.... - ILMT
- You state below that you done know if you can make it - sm -
- Before I even read the other posts - DW
- You are fooling yourself - He will not leave his wife
- I don't think it's possible to 'love' someone - sm - San Francisco
- Not one reply as of 5 pm has made(sm) - AnnieM!AnnieM!
- I don't usually reply to things like this, but I have to - say that don't you think if he's cheating on
  - You won't like my blunt advice... - kitkat
- Fantasy World - AnnieM!AnnieM!
- It's not healthy to base your happiness on another person - Why do women do this??
- IMO, he has served his purpose according to your own statement . - No judging you at all.
- No, it sounds more like infatuation with - the thought of this guy.........sm
- I think you need to realize - tatteredheart
- Please get over this guy and move on. You need to end - it.
  - thank you all for your advice - sadgirl
    - He never was yours to let go in the first place. Make the - mentally healthy decision to cut it off and do it.
    - I feel so much for you right now. In some ways SM - Upsets me just to hear it
- I made a terrible mistake with a man I thought I loved SM - Upsets me just to hear it
  - That wife you wrote about sounds like me! LOL! SM - GH
    - Thanks so much for that. I was sitting here feeling SM - Upsets me just to hear it
- I admire your honesty about the situation. - annabanana
- my thoughts... - sm
- stop it while you are not completely devastated; if later things change for him... - then you may have a chance - n/m
- from what I have read this is an - not trying to judge

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